How To Play Hard To Get with a Guy

I just wanted to say that I recently reconciled with a man I was dating and he was playing hard to get and I decided to break it off immediately. I consider myself ahead beyond those games and have no interest in people who feel they must appear different than they really are. Its immature on both sexes’ part.

I understand that women want to be pursued, but there is a line that is often crossed when playing hard to get. All to often I have been turned off or completely confused by women who played these games. If you have been spending time with a guy and he surprises you with flowers or a gift be appreciative and don’t act as if it’s no big deal by trying too sound “adult”. Believe it or not girls, guys like to know that someone is interested in them as well! I use to enjoy the challenge in my younger days (high school) but now I prefer a woman who is straightforward and avoids playing mind games.

The dating advice for men is exactly the same. It’s all garbage. Attractive bodies get more attention, thus they have the luxury of rejecting those who don’t meet they’re criteria. Thus, the whole “hard to get” routine is merely an illusion. It’s just hot people filtering out the ugly.

This is not a good article. The hard to get thing is a part of high school or early college, but it has no place once you are in your mid twenties. It inevitably backfires. A girl I really liked at work played hard to get for several months, to the point I became turned off and lost interest. I realized she wasnt genuine, and I found someone else quickly. Several months later she told other girs at work she wanted me back, but I had met someone better. To this day she is weird about the whole thing. Playing hard to get is a sign of immaturity and lack of self-esteem. A guy will actually respect you less, and in time will go for a more reliable girl who’s honest.

More games? I guess I got rejected , as usual, for not playing the “game” that they wish men to play, but I did kind of laugh when the next guy ( Mr. Alpha Male?) knocked out two of her teeth. I guess they get what they deserve.

a girl/woman who is playing hard to get , they feel that they really like that guy but they just don’t want to admit it. and they are scared because they dont want to look stupid. they want to act like they dont care and see if the guy they like really bothers to care . I’m a girl myself and sometimes if i try to be easy on a guy that i like, i get the most negative feedback ever. not at the point where i am so desparate, but a matter of showing respect. and if i try to play hard to get, they suddenly want to know more about me. i think its unfair but in order to get what we want, we have to be smart and be spontaneous . boys if you like a girl, just be honest and be a man, instead of giving us reasons why we have to play hard to get.

as a straight man, i am very tired of these women that play games today. this sends a message out that they are losers now. there are not that many good women left out there anymore. they are very trashy, especially the way they dress now. how are us good straight men out there suppose to meet a good woman now? years ago, women were much smarter than the ones out there today. then again, they were raised very well by their parents. half of them now, are lesbians to begin with. then you have the ones that do like men, but they are filthy whores. they want as many men as they can at one time, instead of just being with one man. either way, we men lose. so where in the world are the good women today? it looks like the good ones have been taken. it is very obvious, why men like us cannot meet good women today. we really cannot blame ourselves, for the garbage that they now have become.

Ummmmm if anything, guys are the pigs these days. All they want is sex and no relationship. THAT’S why women play games we have to! Men genetically all think the same, some worse then others; but their all discousting the way they think. I will never let a man use me I use them i play their game on them!

“When most men were asked, they admitted that they love it when girls play hard to get.” REALLY? Author asked MOST OF THE WORLDS MEN? This article is crap. Play hard to get & you’re on your own. Be down to earth, you get a shot at something working. This is for silly little girls in their 20′s. Nonsense.

good women are very hard to find these days. they do play very hard too get, and i just do not know why. there are many serious straight men like us that are still looking too meet a good woman that does not play games. but where are the good women today? many of the women out there now, need to grow up first. not to mention, many women now are very uneducated and are just a tease.

(Natasha,, March 3 2012) said “Otherwise, go find a goat or a dog. Ugh”

Either of those are better than the pig that you quite clearly are Natasha. I really hope you fall for the wrong man and he beats seven bells of crap out of you. That should adjust that entitled attitude of yours and so many other women these days. And, let’s face it, we do see it on the news. And guys like me, well, we laugh. You wanted to play a game… You damn well got it. Enjoy.

there seems to be a lot of very nasty women like Natasha. having problems with men? do you like women better than men? it would figure, women like you that seem to have a rotten attitude with men are usually lesbians anyway.

the way i look at it, women are just a big tease today. there are many of us serious men that do not like the bar scene, and we always seem to meet very nasty women with an attitude problem. i am in my late fifties, and i am not into these games that the women are playing today. for me, life is short. i would really like to meet a good woman for me this time around, since i was married at one time. she cheated on me after being with her for fifteen years, and i was very faithful to her. i loved her very much, and i would have thought that i was going to spend the rest of my life with her and have a family as well. now that i go out a lot again, it is like trying to win a game that cannot be won. like i have said, for me time is short and i would love very much to meet that special woman for me again. i hate being alone, as it is. i would just like to meet a woman that can love me for myself, and i would love her and treat her very well too.

All the people commenting that “women these days”… “men back then”… essentially, “the good old days” give me a chuckle. Y’all have no actual idea of what things were like in your little ‘golden era’. Games have been played by both sides for eras, and very much of the time folks are not aware they are playing games. It’s all part of the mating dance.

Of course there are exceptions. Of course there are a$$holes out there looking to throw you for a loop. It’s up to the rest of us to see through that bs.

All this article does is state some basic concepts about a basic game that shouldn’t be taken too seriously.

reading some of these comments here is very true that women are very DYSFUNCTIONAL today. when a lot of us straight men get to be a certain age, we are REALLY NOT into the BAR SCENE. i see how women act today, and they really need to GROW UP. i have been REJECTED by many women, and i am a good looking man that is VERY SERIOUS, THAT IS VERY MUCH HOPING TO MEET A good straight woman for me again to make me happy. i do like to dance a lot, so i will go to the CLUBS on the weekend. since i live down the shore, i will walk on the BOARDWALK a lot. i am not shy at all, so i will say HELLO to many women up there. most of them think that THEIR SHIT DON’T STINK, and will not say hello at all. many of them are so DAMN NASTY to talk too, and CERTAINLY have such an ATTITUDE PROBLEM, ESPECIALLY when i see other men like me that are trying to START a conversation with them. so as you can see, it is NOT AT ALL EASY meeting good women for us men NOWADAYS. i can’t blame myself, since i did not DO ANYTHING WRONG by trying to meet a good woman today for me. the problem we have today for us men, is that there are just TOO MANY LOW LIFE LOSER WOMEN OUT THERE TODAY.

I found that Natasha’s post resonated most with me. I also couldn’t help but notice that all the, shall we say, more hateful men were the ones writing with broken grammar and punctuation. They say women like smart men; perhaps this is the source of some of your frustration. A few points:

1. Judging by its layout and models, this website is INTENDED for women in their late teens to late twenties. Of fucking course older women aren’t going to play hard to get, or will play it less.

2. Notice all the sweeping generalizations.

3. Faux pas, anyone? Again, in broken grammar and punctuation.

4. Why in the hell are 90% of the comments here being posted by men? Isn’t this an article for women?

It’s already been mentioned, but all animals have their mating rituals. I’ve been pursuing this girl in one of my college classes for a few months, now, and am closing in. Yeah, it sucks in a way, but I’m doing it because I know she is worth it. I could have had almost any other girl in the class months ago, because they all think I’m great, but I would have been settling for less. What comes easy isn’t necessarily what is best, in fact, it rarely is. Ever hear that anything in life worth having, has to be worked for? I really like this girl, she is the one I want, and I know how much competition I have. It will be worth it if I get her, and I know she’d appreciate that I was willing to work for it.
If I don’t get her, well… it was fun. I, for one, enjoyed the chase.

I’m a 15 year old girl and In my opinion, Playing “Hard to Get” is stupid and childish. Basically in my eyes i see it as a woman/man that sees a guy/girl that they like and are either lonely, desperate to find their “one true love”, or fell in love with that person’s looks. Therefore they are either so shy or so lonely and don’t want to look stupid if that person rejects them, so they end up wanting to play Hard To Get. The reason why I don’t play Hard To Get is because why are you going to try and push that person back and forth to play with that person’s mind? I think that people should be not only true to themselves, but true to everyone else. If that person is supposed to be your true love then they will most likely fall in love for the way you are naturally and not because of your body or how you act, but on how you think and how well your personality matches with their’s.

Oh and by the way @Natasha, I can tell you won’t be getting any man soon by the way you talk and think because I doubt any man wants to hear or be around an obnoxious, pushy, very controlling woman like you criticizing them and basically being told for them to kiss your f**king feet. Sorry but you’re not a f**king queen, and if you do have someone, then they’re pretty damn stupid.

It’s funny to see how so many guys are ganging on the commenter, Natasha, just because she told the truth.

Seriously, guys, look at how you’re behaving.

Guys like pretty girls. Girls like guys who have a good personality.

A guy doesn’t pursue every girl he sees, he only goes after girls he finds beautiful. And just like that, a girl plays hard to get with guys so she can find out who is actually interested in her and at the same time, also learn more about his personality before committing to him.

Why is that so wrong really? And about all the guys speaking so rudely, it does seem like you have some issues. Do you feel threatened that you’re not good enough to get a great girl? Or are you just angry with great girls because they broke your heart?