Is He Playing Hard to Get? 13 Signs He’s Just Not That Into You

Is he playing hard to get? Women aren’t the only ones who play that dating game. Sometimes men like to see you chase them.

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Now the thing with wondering is he playing hard to get is that sometimes it can be difficult to tell the difference between that and him genuinely not being interested in you.

The relationship between men and women is exhausting. He likes you, he doesn’t like you, you want him, now you don’t want him. Whatever happened to good old fashion romance? You point to someone, tell them you love them and that’s it, you seal the deal.

Is he playing hard to get?

I know what you’re thinking, why wouldn’t he want to be with you? Well, you can’t get everyone to love you. Sorry, but I’m not here to stroke your ego. I once had a guy play hard to get with me, I was in shock.

He told me I had to wait if I wanted to hook up with him. Now, he outright said he played hard to get. If he doesn’t tell you, how are you supposed to know? There are signs, oh, there are signs. I can’t believe we’re still at this point—come on people!

#1 He tells you. I know, the nerve of that guy! Some of these guys are actually cocky enough to tell you straight to your face that they play hard to get. Now, in the moment, you may laugh it off, but seriously, ditch that guy. What are you going to do? Crawl to him for his love and affection? Come on, you’re better than that. [Read: Don’t fall for it, the rom com cliches never work in real life]

#2 He teases you. Think about how women play hard to get with men. We tease them, oh, we tease them all the time. We send them cute messages, sexy photos, lead them on, but do we ever follow up with what we said we would do? Very unlikely. We’re all talk.

It’s the same with men. He may tease you with photos and messages, get you all excited, but then nothing happens. [Read: Is he playing hard to get or just wants to sleep with you?]

#3 He flirts with other girls in front of you. Back in the day, this was my go-to move. I hit on other guys in front of the guy I wanted. That way, he’d become jealous and chase me for attention. It works and it’s working on you as well.

Maybe he glances over every so often while talking to another girl just to see if you watch him. It’s a classic move and always does the job of pissing off the other person.

#4 He cancels your plans. So, you guys had a deal to watch a movie tonight. He was even the one to suggest it! But alas, where is he? Not beside you on the couch. Instead, he texted you saying that he can’t make it and throws you a lame excuse. If someone makes a date to see you, they like you. But if they cancel, they try to show you that they don’t care and they’re in charge.

#5 He criticizes you. He’s trying to show you who’s boss. You’d think we’re in an episode of Mad Men or something. This guy constantly criticizes everything you say or do. Why? He’s trying to show you he’s dominant and that if you want him, you have to work for it. Don’t work for it, find someone who likes you as you are.

#6 He texts and calls you when he wants. Sure, you called and texted him yesterday, but he didn’t care to reply. Instead, he calls you when he wants. It’s all on his terms. If this is what he’s doing, be careful. I know this makes you even more curious and obsessed with him but that’s his plan. This is a great way to make someone want you even more. [Read: 14 ways to deal with controlling people]

#7 He’s hot and cold. It’s my least favorite Katy Perry song, but alas, here I am talking about it. He’s playing you like a fiddle. Of course, in the beginning, he’s attentive and super nice, but suddenly, he switched. Now, this could be that he wants to manipulate you or it could be that he’s no longer into you. Either way, it’s not in your favor to be with this guy.

#8 You feel it. It’s called female intuition for a reason. Deep down in the gut, you know the truth. Sure he may like you, but you know at the end of the day what’s going on. I know you want to conquer him, have him fall for you, but it’s not going to happen.

He’s playing you and you know it. Put your ego on the side because chasing him only brings a broken heart and possible years of therapy. [Read: 13 clear signs to split a player from a gentleman]

#9 He’s not the first one to do this. You know this feeling, you remember this feeling before. Aha! This is because he’s not the first guy you’ve wondered is he playing hard to get about. In fact, you even remember some of your male friends doing this shit. If you look at the situation with flashbacks of your past, well, this situation isn’t any different. [Read: The signs he uses to tell you he is interested in more than friendship]

#10 He embarrasses you. You don’t want to introduce him to your friends and family because you’re actually embarrassed by him. He doesn’t treat you respectfully, he doesn’t show you the kindness you deserve so naturally, the thought of him meeting your parents makes you nauseated. And this feeling you have is good? If this guy was the right one for you, you wouldn’t be embarrassed by him.

#11 He doesn’t want to make it exclusive. You two may be seeing each other for a while but he’s not rushing to make it exclusive nor does he want to. That’s why he’s playing all these games with you. He doesn’t want to be with you. You’re fine… for now. If he really cared about you, this wouldn’t be happening.

#12 You’re angry around him. Usually, most of the time you’re in a constant state of annoyance around him. Why? Because you know he plays around with you! You know! He isn’t giving you what you want, yet you still hang around because you think one day the light bulb in his head will go off. It won’t. [Read: 14 signs he’s playing mind games with you]

#13 You ignore the signs. You know the signs, they all lay out nicely right in front of you, but you ignore them. Why? Because you want him. But you don’t really want him, you just play the game in hope of winning it. But you’re not going to win, you need to know that and accept it. Look at the signs, absorb them into your brain and then pull out.

[Read: 17 things that aren’t going to change about a guy]

Now that you know the signs, it’s time you put the pieces of the puzzle together with your guy. Is he playing hard to get or is he just not as interested as you thought he was?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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