If you’re having a conversation with her for the first time, you need to play it safe and easy.
Many guys turn on their charm and flirt outrageously within a few seconds, but unless the girl’s easy to get and is only looking for a fling thing, you can’t really make a serious impression by trying that move.
The first thing you have to do is get friendly with her.
Try to get to know her better and make her feel comfortable around you.
Don’t make it obvious that you’re trying to flirt with her by asking her out immediately or by trying to hit on her.
If you’ve been introduced to her already or if you’re already in a conversation with her, then read on.
The guide to having a perfect conversation with the girl you like
If you’re wondering what to say to a girl you like while talking to her, just use these simple cues and the girl will warm up to you in no time.
#1 Ask her about herself. Casually ask her what she does, where she works or where she’s studying. It’s a regular question that she’s used to hearing. Keep the questions simple but appear to be fascinated by what she says. Responding with something like “wow, that’s sounds really interesting… tell me more…” can help her open up. And she’d definitely be comfortable talking about something she knows like the back of her hand.
#2 Make a connection. Find a way to create a connection with her. When you ask her about herself, did you find something similar about both of you? If she says she likes to paint, pretend like you’re impressed and tell her that you’ve always wanted to paint but the last time you tried meddling with colors, all you did was tip a palette of paints on your neighbor’s clothes!
Or if she says she works at a particular organization, say something like, “Aah, I’ve heard so much about that place. I hear the cafeteria has the best cappuccino!” Make anything up as long it sounds funny or makes her feel proud. Even if it’s wrong, it’ll lead to another fun conversation. [Read: How to get a girl to like you by making her laugh]
#3 Tell her about yourself. Always make a connection first and talk about yourself later. In the first few minutes of the conversation, she may not be very interested in getting to know you better. But by building a connection and making her like you by being funny or genuinely interested in her, and then telling her something about yourself, she’ll pay attention to what you have to say. And she’d be very interested to know more about you too.
#4 Appreciate her company. Tell her something friendly and yet, flattering. “I’m glad I met you here, I was getting so bored of just standing here with all the wrong people until you came along.” You’re not hitting on her, and yet, somehow you’re complimenting her for the great company she is.
#5 Talk about the place. Look around in the middle of the conversation and say something about the place or someone around you. If you’re meeting at a friend’s party, ask her how she knows the host. If you’re meeting at a coffee shop, ask her for a suggestion on the type of coffee she likes around there. Make her feel special and important and she’ll love you for it! [Read: Tips to make small talk with a girl]
#6 Compliment her. So far, you would be able to make an impression on her and make her like your company. Now this is where many guys fail. They continue to make the girl laugh and have a nice time with them, and eventually the girl starts to behave like a friend around them.
If you want a girl to like you, you need to get out of her friend zone. As soon as she starts warming up to you, let her know that you don’t consider her a friend. Let her know that you’re interested in dating her. If you want to know what to say to a girl to let her know that you’re interested in dating her, you need to understand the right way to compliment a girl sexually. Compliment a girl, but lace it with a sexual remark to get the right message across. [Read: How to compliment a girl you like]
Use these six tips on what to say to a girl you like while talking to her and you’ll definitely be able to create the right impression. And if you want a few more conversation pointers, read what to talk about with a girl you like to know more.
Things to remember while talking to her
# Be a cheerful guy. Girls feel comfortable around a guy with a cheerful attitude and a pleasant smile. While the surly bad boy who sits in the corner may attract a few girls, a great girl won’t wait forever for anyone.
# Don’t overdo it. Blend your compliments with serious talk. Don’t push your flirty talk too far all the time. Instead, play it cool and always make her wonder if you’ve got something on your mind.
# Lose yourself in her eyes. Stare deeply into her eyes and stretch your lips into a small smile while listening to her. You’ll seem like you’re in awe of her, and that’s a good thing if you’re trying to woo her. Let her know you’re mesmerized by her. It’s a secret compliment! [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that work!]
# Remind yourself how much you like her. Think ‘I want you’ when she’s talking to you. Just tell yourself in your mind how much you like her, and by some magical vibrations, she’ll get your vibes and know what’s on your mind. And the best part, she’ll wonder if you’re truly interested in her because you haven’t told her anything about your affections just yet.