Elton John once said that sorry seems to be the hardest word. In a way, he’s right. Not everyone is instantly willing to swallow their pride and admit that they’re wrong. But there needs to come a time when you assess which you value more: your relationship or your pride.
When you’ve made a relationship boo-boo, you’ll definitely need to make it up to your partner. Instead of laying the blame on him/her or pretending nothing’s wrong, start working on fixing the problem with the following ways of saying sorry:
5 ways to apologize with words
You can’t just whip out a peace offering without specifying why you’re sorry and what you want to do about it. Sometimes, the simplest way to apologize is by honestly expressing how you feel. Here are some phrases you can say *and you must mean!* to help you craft the perfect apology:
#1 “I was wrong. I’m sorry.”
#2 “I’m sorry for being so insensitive.”
#3 “I wish I could take back what I did/said. How can I make it up to you?”
#4 “I’m not perfect, but I try my best. Please accept my apology.”
#5 “You may not forgive me for what I’ve done, but I just want you to know that I’m sorry and I want to make everything all right again.”
Words may occasionally be enough to get you back into your partner’s good graces. But just imagine the effect of your apology if you combine it with something sweet, creative and memorable… [Read: 7 easy steps to be blissfully happy in a relationship]
Let your actions speak volumes when you want to say sorry
#6 A handwritten note on some fancy paper that you can get from your local craft store. This one just never gets old. Using your own words *and not a Hallmark card*, tell your honey how sorry you are for what you did. If you’ve got enough space, you can highlight some of the ways you can make it up to him/her. You get plus points if you make your handwriting extra legible!
#7 Leave the note somewhere your significant other will see. If your schedules don’t match, don’t worry, you can leave them a little surprise for when they wake up. Leave your note on his/her nightstand, bathroom mirror or even on the kitchen counter to make their day start off with a slightly lighter heart.
#8 Make a list. Instead of writing long, verbose paragraphs of text, try using lists. For example, you can make three separate lists like “The Things I Did to Piss You Off,” “The Things I Will Do to Make It Up to You,” and “The Reasons I Love You too Much to Let This Pass.”
#9 A message in a bottle. If you know that your partner will be coming home tired, get out the bath salts and get a bath running! Add in a bottle with your handwritten note to float around in the tub. Who can resist an apology when it comes with a warm bubble bath? [Read: How to make up after a fight with steamy make up sex!]
#10 Apologize using a children’s book. So maybe a handwritten note isn’t for those who don’t have an inner Shakespeare. If that’s the case, you can use somebody else’s words as long as the sentiment is the same. Children’s books are simple, sweet and oftentimes funny, the perfect mix for tugging at your partner’s heartstrings.
#11 Play an apology tune. Bring out your inner bard and craft a tune for your honey to hear. But in lieu of musical skills, you can refer back to classics like “After All that We’ve Been Through” by Chicago or even Elvis’ “Always on My Mind” to more modern tunes like “Butterfly” by Weezer or “Forgive Me” by Evanescence. Like with using a children’s book, you’re using others’ more poetic take on apologies, but that doesn’t make your meaning any less poignant and sincere.
#12 Use food. If your honey’s a foodie, then the best way to their heart is through their taste buds. Order some takeout from his/her favorite restaurant and add in your apology within the package. If your honey’s not a foodie, pizza with the toppings shaped into “I’m sorry” can work too! If you got your honey to go out on a date with you, then ask the restaurant if you can accommodate a request to add an “I’m Sorry”-shaped squiggle to their cheesecake. [Read: 16 silly bad habits that can hurt your relationship]
#13 Make food. If you’ve got some culinary skills, then now is the best time to use them! Whip up your sweetheart’s favorite meal and make him/her breakfast in bed, a surprise lunch or a romantic homemade dinner. Let’s face it: it’s hard to reject an apology with the smell of your favorite dish wafting in your home.
#14 Clean up. Chores can oftentimes be the cause of friction between a couple. But they can lead to serious fights if you forget too often or if you’ve promised to do it but got too carried away with something else. If your boo-boo is forgetting to clean up, then the first step to apologizing is by cleaning up more than what was expected. Add in a note that says something along the lines of “I’m sorry. Let me clean up my mess.” [Read: 12 signs you’re being selfish in the relationship]
#15 Attach a note to your pet and send it to him/her. The best way to get puppy-dog eyes is to use an actual puppy! Attach an apology note to his collar and send him over to your partner. But if your dog isn’t particularly obedient, sometimes a photo can work too. This can also work with well-trained cats, parakeets or even iguanas! Just make sure you use something sturdy and non-distracting, lest your pet think you’ve just attached a toy for him to play with.
#16 Tinker around social media. This may sometimes be criticized by others as attention-whoring, but if you think only social media will get your lover to forgive you, then by all means, go for it! You can use your Facebook profile by posting images of yourself in an apologetic stance or holding up an “I’m Sorry” sign. You can even escalate this to Twitter or Reddit and watch as it goes viral!
#17 Get his/her friends in on it. No, we’re not saying you should apologize through one of your partner’s friends. We’re saying you can ask for their help or advice in coming up with the best way to apologize. For example, if you’re the showy type, you can ask his/her friends to lead your partner to the park after work where you’ll be ready with a bouquet and petals shaped into a heart. Who says big gestures should only be reserved for proposals? [Read: 25 really romantic ideas to make your lover melt!]
After the apology
Of course, getting your partner to accept your apology is just the first step. You also have to follow it up with genuine remorse and restitution. There are some apologies that are merely accepted, but not necessarily forgiven. That usually happens when they acknowledge your apology and start to be more open, but their hearts aren’t completely ready to really forgive you. [Read: The easiest way to get over trust issues in a relationship]
This is the case when what you did really hurt your partner so they need time to heal and learn to trust you again. These situations call for more than just flashy acts or sweet little gestures. They call for real commitment and consistent action to remedy your wrongdoing.
On the brighter side, smaller transgressions like forgetting to do some chores, getting a virus in your partner’s computer or forgetting to take the dog out can be remedied by just undoing the wrong you did or doing what you forgot to do. The sweet gestures, the notes and little surprises are just an added touch to show that you really care about making things okay again. [Read: The 3 different degrees of apologies and ways to do it]
Use these 17 ways to say you’re sorry to your partner the next time you see the need to apologize. We hope these tips help you get your partner to forgive you for what you’ve done. Good luck!
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