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A Guy with a Girlfriend Likes You… Now What?!

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Does a guy with a girlfriend flirt with you or look at you all the time? Here are 10 things to keep in mind when this guy tries to get your attention.

It’s flattering, isn’t it?

This guy is in a relationship with a pretty girl, but he’s also insanely attracted to you!

You may just be hanging out with your friends when you notice this guy staring at you for the first time.

You look away, and don’t think too much about it.

And then again, the next day and the day after that too, you find this cute guy with a girlfriend looking your way and trying to catch your attention.

Curiosity gets to you, and you wonder what’s on his mind.

Really, isn’t he dating another girl already?

So why on earth is he trying to catch your fancy?!

You start glancing back now and then involuntarily to read his mind.

And before you know it, a couple of weeks later, both of you start blushing and stealing glances all the time, or even start flirting with each other.

[Read: Does he like you? – 18 sure signs to decode his body language]

The guy with a girlfriend and the flirty games he plays

You know he’s dating someone all along, so even when he tries to look towards you or flirt with you, you don’t believe anything romantic could come off of it.

You convince yourself that it’s just harmless fun, and you go with the flirty flow. During your conversations with him, you open up to him faster because, firstly, he’s dating someone else so he can’t be serious about getting close to you, and secondly, because you just want to know what’s on his damn mind!

But somewhere along the way, you start falling for him and his sweet honey-laced words. [Read: 21 signs you’re falling for a guy even if you don’t realize it!]

The thrill of getting the attention of a guy with a girlfriend

This guy has a girlfriend already. And yet, he’s still trying to woo you and flirt with you! Gee, so that must mean you’re really good and way better than his girlfriend, right? Why else would a great guy want your attention when he already has a girlfriend who loves him?

The thought that a guy with a girlfriend is falling hard for you can be complimenting, and also somewhat daring and reckless. And that makes the whole sordid flirting so much more intense and addictive. [Read: Is flirting really cheating when you’re in a relationship?]

And if you do find yourself falling for him or craving his attention all the time, don’t hate yourself for it. We always want what we can’t have, especially a lover who’s already taken by someone else!

10 things a guy with a girlfriend could do to woo you

When a guy who already has a girlfriend tries to win your affection, there are a few things he may try. And almost always, it all starts with the same pattern.

The ten things a guy with a girlfriend could do to win you over almost always starts with a few stares to begin with, and may go all the way to number 10 on this list to win your heart and woo you. [Read: 15 very obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

#1 He looks at you constantly. If he doesn’t know you yet, this is something you’re bound to see very often. He’ll try to get your attention by looking at you when his girlfriend isn’t around. And sometimes, he may recklessly stare at you even if his girlfriend is around which can make you feel really flattered! [Read: 10 subtle eye contact moves that always work!]

#2 You sense something in the air. You can feel the chemistry between the both of you when you guys have a conversation with each other. If both of you have been introduced to each other, you may see him stare at you intensely while talking to you. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation you have with a guy]

#3 He flirts with you. This is something you’d notice, especially when it’s just the both of you and no one’s around.

#4 He texts you constantly. A guy with a girlfriend can’t always stand around and talk to you in front of his girlfriend, so he picks a more convenient way to flirt with you. And nothing beats flirty texting late at night!

#5 He tells you he likes you, but he has a girlfriend. There’s no use hiding a secret that’s obvious. So a guy with a girlfriend may come clean and tell you that he already has a girlfriend, but he likes you a lot too.

He may groan and moan about how frustrating it is for him because he’s in a relationship with someone and still falling in love with you at the same time. This would win him your sympathy. And at the same time, your love too!

#6 He asks you out on a secret date. Can a guy have the cake and eat it too? Of course, he can *as long as you’re gullible or so in love with him already*. He could tell you that he really likes spending time with you and would want to meet you sometime. And even though you know he has a girlfriend, the thought of having him all for yourself could cloud your judgment. [Read: Signs he wants to have a secret relationship with you]

#7 He touches you a lot. If a guy is infatuated by you, he’s definitely going to have a hard time keeping his hands off your body and specific parts. And since he’s come clean that he’s in a relationship but in love with you, both of you don’t think twice about all the lusty touchy feeling flirting. In fact, the flirty touches may even bring both of you closer. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to watch out for!]

#8 He’s tried to kiss you, or he’s kissed you already. Passions can rise and sparks can fly when two people are involved in a morally wrong relationship. And it’s only a matter of time before he seduces you into kissing him or even making out with him. It’ll be really hard for you to hold back, especially when he says he loves you so much more than he loves his girlfriend!

#9 He tells you he loves you. Well, you know he loves you already. But this time, he makes it official. He tells you he loves you and wants to date you. But. He needs some time to dump his girlfriend and let her down easy because she’s going to be devastated. A few days or weeks, he says. [Read: Love triangles and the messy complications it can bring you]

#10 He tells you he’ll break up with his girlfriend for you. If you’re firm and tell him that you aren’t interested in dating him unless he breaks up with his girlfriend, he may even break up with his girlfriend for you. *He may just tell his girlfriend that they need space in the relationship for a while!*

Why do these guys with girlfriends do that?!!

Do you want the simple answer? Well, because you’re reciprocating and falling for it!

A guy would stare at several girls he finds interesting *even if he’s in a relationship already*. But he falls only for the girl who reciprocates his stares and shows interest in him. [Read: How men fall in love – The seven stages of love for men]

If you catch a guy staring at you a few times, but you ignore him, he’ll stop staring at you after a few more tries or a few more days. But if you stare back at him or try to catch his eye now and then, it’s a sure sign that you’re interested in the flirty eye contact too. And that’ll give him the motivation to chase you and pursue you.

So if you want to avoid these guys with girlfriends, as hard as it sounds, don’t give them any attention no matter how hard they try or how flattering the idea may seem!

The two kinds of guys who want another girl’s attention

Now here’s something you need to remember. Not all guys with girlfriends constantly look out for other girls to date or flirt with. But there are a few of them that you will come across now and then.

Here are the two kinds of guys who are generally interested in attracting other women outside the relationship. [Read: Why do men cheat? – 3 really big reasons and 27 more!]

#1 A guy who’s doing it because it is fun. This is the kind of guy who knows he’s hitched with a girl but he also knows that he’s got what it takes to impress other girls and win their affection. He uses his flirting skills for fun, and doesn’t try to seduce girls into falling in love with him. He’s like the Casanova who’s happy in a perfect relationship with his girlfriend, but likes the occasional attention from other girls.

#2 A guy who’s uninterested in his relationship. This is the kind of guy who’s in a relationship, but not in love. He may have his own reasons for disliking his girlfriend or the relationship. And without realizing it himself, chances are, he may be falling in love with you too. [Read: The 12 dating stereotypes of girls in a guy’s mind]

What do you want to do now?

So you know he’s taken, and yet you like him. So what do you do now? Here are three scenarios that you could choose from.

#1 Do you want to win him over?

Now he’s dating someone else already, and it’s morally wrong to interfere with their relationship. But does he really like you? Would he be willing to leave his girlfriend for you? If you think so, you could steal him from his girlfriend. [Read:  The sneaky and effective guide to stealing a guy from his girlfriend]

#2 Do you want to avoid complications and confusions?

If you don’t like complications and drama in your life, walk away. If you find out that a guy who’s trying to flirt with you already has a girlfriend, stop giving him attention. He’ll get bored of trying to catch your eye and give up soon. [Read: How to be just friends with a guy who wants more]

#3 Do you just want to have some fun?

Well, this is the middle path, and it’s reckless and fun. So the guy with a girlfriend is giving you attention and you’re flattered by it. You can continue to just have fun and flirt with him now and then, when you feel like it.

If you’re a bad girl who likes living flirty and dangerous, use him when you’re bored instead of letting him use you! But remember to avoid letting things go beyond harmless flirting or you may fall for him before you even realize it. [Read: 10 sexy ways to seduce a guy who’s not yours!]

The last word of advice

It’s flattering when a guy who’s committed to a nice girl seems mesmerized by you. But don’t take these stares too seriously. A committed guy may try to flirt with a girl for many reasons. He may think you’re attractive. He may want to convince himself that he’s still hot stuff who can get any girl he wants if he chooses to. He may just want some excitement in his life. Or he may just be trying to have some fun when his girlfriend isn’t around, or using you to make his girl jealous.

If a guy with a girlfriend starts flirting with you and you really like him, back away from him to see what he does. If he truly likes you and wants to end his existing relationship to be with you, he may continue to pursue you even after you cold-shoulder him. And if he asks you out or tells you he loves you, ask him to break up with his girlfriend and then make a commitment to you. [Read: How to reject a guy and turn him down without hurting him]

Flirting with a guy who has a girlfriend is all fun and dandy, until you fall for him or get into an illicit affair with him. And then what do you get? You risk your neck out for him, and he may walk out of your life and go back into his girlfriend’s arms once your novelty’s worn off.

And you’d be back on square one. And to the rest of the world, you’d always be the bitchy girl who tried stealing a good girl’s boyfriend. You’d be the other woman. And that’s never a good place to be. [Confession: I had an affair with a committed guy and suffered for it]

[Read: The dating girl code all girls definitely need to know!]

If a guy with a girlfriend’s giving you attention, feel flattered and enjoy it. Have fun and even flirt back if you must. But don’t fall in love with him, at least not until he can commit to you wholeheartedly.

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13 thoughts on “A Guy with a Girlfriend Likes You… Now What?!”

  1. Tricia says:

    I am in the same situation right now.. We’re just friends and all of a sudden, one of my friends told me that he already likes me… At first I thought, “Nah! It’s just a simple crush” but as time goes by… It seems like he’s more attached to me not just because of friendship but because he likes me. According to my friends, the only reason why he’s hanging out with us is because of me. And last week, we had our misunderstanding. The misunderstanding we had is not a big deal really… But he seemed to be very bothered about it. I tried to confront him but it seems like he’s not yet ready and he’s really afraid to admit his feelings to me. What should I do? Should I tell him that I already know his feelings already? Or should I let him tell it to me directly?

  2. Ona says:

    happend to me.. he tried all of those things, all of them.. but now i know i did the right thing i gave him a “cold shoulder” and i told him only if he brakes up with his gilfriend then we could talk again about us. since then, he is trying to talk to me (i ignore him), looks at me all the time. even the last time he came at my bar he touched my hand while he was paying me. i dont like this situation because i like him a lot and its difficult for me to ignore him.. the question is why is he not letting go? he notices i like him and does this to satisfy his ego or he really likes me?!
    PS: i love this site, great work!

  3. vivian says:

    am in a similar situation right now and the worse part of it is that am already deeply in love with this guy. he tells me he loves me too and he wants to be with me but I get hurt anytime I hear him talk to his girlfriend over the phone.

  4. Confused says:

    There is this guy that liked me during my first year of college. But I wasn’t interested and I just felt like I had to focus on school. He continued to ask me out through out the four years but I kept on saying no. He is this quiet type and whenever he manages to convince me to spend some time with him, we end up sayin nothing to each other. So, I just didn’t feel anything for him but pity. Thing is I haven’t ever been in a relationship and I don’t know how to be in one. Anyway, after when I graduated from college , we started chatting on phone and we became friends. On phone, when texting, he isn’t the shy quiet type, I got to know him better and got to like him. But then, all of a sudden, he had a girlfriend. I’ll admit I was jealous, but I knew I had no right to be cos I had rejected him for four years. But as he had a girlfriend, we still chat all the time and I find myself thinking about him almost all the time. Then all of a sudden, he tells me he still loves me and why can’t I fall for him even after all these years. But he has a girlfriend and I feel he is being unfair to her. I just decided to distance myself from him. I don’t want to be the reason, a relationship ends.

  5. Jon Omni says:

    Fun, exciting? When does heartbreak equal fun? All you ladies out there, don’t cheat!! Don’t get played by this so called guy thats in love with you! if hes doing this to another girl with you what makes you think it wont happen to you!? Stay smart ladies!

  6. Confused says:

    I have met a guy started talking to me as friends. I am 18 he is 19. We chatted and laughed and got on really well and he started flirting. He touches my arm, smiles and stares at me and on two occasions tried to ask me out and nearly kissed each other. He has talked about me to a mutual friend who doesn’t know him very well. He has told me he really likes me and has complimented me on a number of occasions – he also knows how I feel about him too. I have been speaking to him for the last 7 months and have met some of his friends. I recently found out that he has a girlfriend and he never told me or brought the subject in conversation. I feel awful because I wouldn’t have returned the attention if I had known.

  7. Complicated says:

    So this guy is my classmate. But he has a gf already. I know this still we are on with each other. He likes me a lot but doesn’t accept it publicly when someone asks him about me. He’s very scared to go into a committed relationship with me but gives me assurances that he will be with me my entire life. He doesn’t leave her nor does he wants to leave me. We both like each other a lot. I can’t distance myself from him even he can’t. What should I do now??

  8. random girl says:

    I need help. I fell for a boys tricks and I ended up admitting I loved him. He did the same. I continued to see him online until he admitted he had a girlfriend. He truly loves me and I do too but…what about her?

  9. bitchy says:

    ..I’m in the same situation. But, we are both in a relationship. We met in the time that we are both devastating to our partners. We are so compatible in so many things. One day, we decided to end up our relationship with our bf/gf but I was the one who’s afraid to break up with my bf. He understands me and we stillcontinue the set up. Last holiday we never communicated because he is in his girlfriend. Then the holiday ends but, never did I received any text from him but he did message me in facebook with a simple how are you? I replied but the wayhe respond to my message is not like before..it seems he is bored answering my messages. Days passed but he is still not messaging me. One day, I asked him to meet up..he said he is busy then he gives me the date of his availability then we meet. I still feel that he wants me when he kisses me and hugs me… but as we seperate ways I feel confused again because again no text from him. I knew his family because he brings me in his place. Hmmmm what do you think?

  10. mc17087 says:

    This is happening to me right now and it sucks. This guy would flirt with me and look at me all the time at work and at the gym. He’d smile a lot at me, and would try to get my attention. I finally got up the courage to tell him that I liked him, and he told me he has a girlfriend. He admitted to not knowing anything that was going on with me, and I find that to be total bull crap. I am kind of disappointed in him. I even sent him a Valentine’s Day card to his work, and he said he was very flattered by it. A couple days ago, I confessed up to him and told him that was me who sent the card. Was wondering if I should just give up or wait for him to dump his girlfriend. It kind of sucks too because I can’t get him out of my head. In the mean time I’ve just been trying online dating.

  11. Cycy says:

    Ok so me and my friends went to this kinda club thing for teens and I saw this guy and me and my friend both think he’s cute so my other friend who also went talked to her cousin which is friends with the boy so the boy told her cousin he asked about us.She got the guys Kik and she told the guy what me and my friend thought of him but my friend told me that he kept asking her about me he got my Instagram and my friend gave him my kik he kiked me we started talking a little so I asked him if he liked my friend and he said no then he told me he liked me and I think I kinda like him but he told my friend that he doesn’t want to date because he had just gotten into a relationship but he still likes me what do I do

  12. Lauren says:

    Well I don’t have that problem if a guy even tries to be my friend I might be friends with his girl but he’ll get the cold shoulder every time I’m not looking for guy friends I don’t have time for that

  13. Rocky says:

    You’re not missing anything. You’re safe and it’s okay to get a cold shoulder. Like the writer said, it is hard to leave when one fell in love. Men don’t understand it. We get criticized or blamed by people not knowing the truth. I know it takes time to get oneself up and believe in people again. Helping each other and giving females complement create stronger role models. I like the article and I’m glad I read it.

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