Not sure if he’s hanging around to play you or to actually start a relationship with you? Here are the 14 signs to check if he wants to be with you.
When a guy is genuinely interested in you, he will give it away in a variety of ways. Men can’t fake their feelings too successfully, so you’ll most likely know if he’s interested by watching his moves closely. Where women are subtle, men tend to wear their intentions on their sleeve.
There are some cases where men can be manipulative in that they try to lie their way into your good graces for the sole purpose of getting into your pants. But for the most part, men can be pretty straightforward with their intentions, and you can find it a bit easier to check whether or not he wants something serious between the two of you. This is a good thing for you, especially if you want to know if he’s after more than just a passing fling.
Is he really into you?
Below are 14 signs the guy you’re going out with is genuinely interested in being with you.
#1 He remembers things. When a guy is into you, he will hold onto things you said, things you did, and things you like. He will want to know everything about you. You can tell this when he brings up things you’ve told him in the past, like taking you somewhere you always said you wanted to go, or buying your favorite candy, for example. These signs mean he’s paying attention, and you can be quite sure you have him right where you want him.
#2 You have his full attention. When a guy is head over heels, he can’t seem to shake his fixation. His eyes will be glued to you, and he’ll be holding on to every word you say. He might have tunnel vision where it’s like he hardly notices anything else going on in the room. These are all good signs that he’s made you the center of attention, and he’s definitely interested.
#3 He puts you in future tense. A guy who’s interested in you will begin to include you in future plans and scenarios. For example, if he brings up wanting to take you somewhere or show you something at some time in the future, he’s showing that he wants you around for the long term.
Guys who aren’t that into you will say vague statements like “you should go there sometime” or “ask a friend to take you there.” When you become an established person in his future-tense plans, he’s establishing his interest. [Read: 14 signs he wants to spend his life with you]
#4 “You” will turn into “we.” If the guy you’re talking to starts saying things like “we should check that out,” or “we need to try that one day soon,” it shows that he acknowledges that there’s something between you two, for both of you to be considered as one entity. As mentioned in the last point, if he says things like “you should check that out,” he’s categorizing you as an individual entity, whereas “we” signifies a couple.
#5 He tries to impress your friends. If you’ve introduced him to your friends and he’s on his best behavior, he’s trying to gain their approval. A guy knows that getting in with your friends will earn him brownie points, since your friends will most likely tell you what a great guy he is. If he treats you extra special in front of them, that’s a definite sign that he’s into you.
#6 He introduces you to his friends and family. When a guy introduces you to his friends and family, you can be sure he considers you as someone special. He’ll bring you home, because he wants his loved ones to meet someone he is really into and considers a potential long-term girlfriend. He also wants their opinion, so that he knows what his loved ones think before taking the next step. [Read: 11 signs you’re dating a real keeper]
#7 He responds to your texts quickly. Guys are not usually the best at texting etiquette, but if he is really interested in you, he’ll usually respond to your texts very quickly. If he’s the type of guy who is glued to his phone, but when the two of you are apart, he responds hours later, he isn’t that interested.
#8 He wants to get close to you. When a guy really likes you, he will do anything to get close to you. He might lean in when you show him something on your phone, brush up against you subtly, help you with your jacket, or something similar, in order to get closer to you physically.
The difference between a guy who’s into you and a guy who just wants to sleep with you is that the one who’s genuinely interested will wait for your signal that it’s okay for him to get a little closer. [Read: 7 signs you’re dating a player]
#9 Deep eye contact. If a guy stares deeply into your eyes, he is definitely interested, to the point where you wonder if he blinked at all while you were talking. This is a fairly obvious sign that he can’t keep his eyes off you.
#10 He’s playful. A lot of guys get really playful when they truly like someone. If he teases you, jokes with you, “accidentally” bumps into you in cute or flirty ways, he does it because he is really into you. He also probably likes your reactions, and it probably helps with any of the pent up sexual tension.
#11 He compliments you in front of other people. If a guy compliments you frequently in front of friends and family, and even strangers, then he is definitely showing the world that he’s proud to be around you. He wants you to hear it too, so that you know just how much he really likes you. If you notice him paying you compliments in front of others, you can consider him yours.
#12 He wants to hang out with you a lot. A guy will rarely spend so much free time with someone, unless he is really interested in them. If he calls you a few times a week to hang out or go places together, he values you so much that he can’t get enough of your presence. This is a great sign that he sees the two of you as an item.
#13 He doesn’t pressure you to have sex. A man who truly respects and values you will feel that you are worth the wait. If he pressures you, he may just be showing interest to get in your pants. Guys who really like someone will like spending time with them and will genuinely enjoy their company, whether it includes sex or not. If he’s willing to wait, then you’ve got a good guy on your hands, and he thinks highly of you as well. [Read: 10 sneaky techniques guys use to get into your pants]
#14 He calls “just to say hi.” A guy who calls for no reason really wants to make sure you don’t forget about him. He is also showing you that he can’t forget about you, and doesn’t even need an excuse to call you. Calling you just to say hi means that he thinks about you and wants to make sure you know it.
The signs above are definitely good indicators of whether or not the guy you’re interested in shares the same sentiments as you. Keeping an eye out for these clues in his behavior will show just how much he values you, and where he sees you in his life.
Some guys might fake interest just to get to sex, however, it is generally easy to tell what he wants from you based on his behavior and the signs above. So now that you know if he’s interested in you, make sure he’s what you really want. [Read: 11 signs you’re dating a true gentleman]
Figuring out if a guy is interested in you might seem confusing at times, but it isn’t that hard to crack his code. Check out these signs and stop wondering if he sees you as just as someone to hook up with, or someone to fall in love with.