15 Signs You’re a High Maintenance Woman

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What makes a woman high maintenance and difficult? Read these 15 signs of a high maintenance woman to know if you’re too rich for your man to afford.

A high maintenance woman is a compliment that’s never voiced until you’re with a wrong man.

Guys may whine about dating a high maintenance woman, but every guy wants to be with one.

But can your high maintenance tag ruin a perfectly good relationship for you?

[Read: 8 things men want in a woman more than anything else]

What makes a high maintenance woman so different?

And is it bad to be one?

Find out everything about the traits of a high maintenance woman and the good and bad side of being one right here.

15 signs of a high maintenance woman

What makes a woman high maintenance?

Here are 15 signs that make a girl that woman. Do you think you’re one?

#1 All eyes on you. All eyes always turn towards you no matter where you are.

You literally suck the air out of any room you walk into, but no one even notices your man unless you’re clinging to his arm.

[Read: How to look cute and melt a guy’s heart in 25 ways]

#2 Your man thinks your favorite restaurants are fine dining experiences. You like being pampered in the finest of places, and there’s really nothing wrong about it. Well, unless your man can’t afford it!

#3 You need money to be happy. This may sound harsh, but is it so bad to want to be wealthy and have the money to indulge in the good things life has to offer? [Read: Money can buy you happiness in love]

#4 You like splurging on bling often. You like buying new jewelry or extravagant things several times in a month. It makes you happy.

#5 You think you’re better than any other girl. And you do everything possible to hold that stand. You have very high self esteem and confidence, and don’t like being put down by any other woman.

#6 You look like you stepped out of a salon all the time. You’re beautiful and extremely well dressed all the time. Any guy you walks past can’t help but notice you in awe. [Read: 20 things that turn a guy on when he sees a girl]

#7 You pay a lot of attention to expensive details. You just can’t help it. You know that expensive things look better than average mass produced stuff. You like it when everything around you reflects your class and makes a style statement.

#8 If you like something, you want that thing. You don’t like being refused. You believe you deserve what you want and you won’t rest until you get it.

#9 Your man gets nervous when you tell him you need to shop. It’s not like you throw money away. You only use it to look good and make things around you look good. But your man thinks you’re just wasting money.

#10 You can’t step out of the house without your makeup. You hate revealing any flaws, be it on your complexion or in any other aspect of your life. You like looking like a glam goddess no matter where you are.

#11 You think you’re a perfectionist. But your man thinks you’re a spoilt brat. You hate mediocrity in anything you do. You want to be the best and you want the best of everything.

#12 You think you deserve a better man. You think you’re way better than your guy. This thought may have passed your mind quite a few times even though you push that thought away.

#13 You have more guys friends *admirers*. You think you’re a fun girl. But most girls usually hate you or think you’re a snob. Guys love your company, but girls usually excuse themselves from you in the middle of a conversation. Not that you care! [Read: Why guys friends are nothing but trouble]

#14 You want everything to be perfect. And if it’s not, you want your man to fix it for you. You don’t depend on your man for everything, but you do expect him to treat you like his queen. [Read: Why men like damsels in distress]

#15 You get embarrassed easily. You feel terribly embarrassed when your man doesn’t behave or look presentable. You even try to ignore his presence or avoid him. After all, his bad manners are an insult to your gorgeous presence!

High maintenance women and the men they date

Many men fear the idea of dating a high maintenance woman. They desperately want to date her, but shrivel up at the mere thought of it. But then again, a high maintenance woman isn’t for every man, is she?

In general, a high maintenance woman may sound scary to most men. But it’s never bad for a woman to know what she wants in life. In many ways, high maintenance is subjective. What may seem like high maintenance to one man may seem like nothing to another man who can cater to her needs. After all, if a man can afford your whims, he obviously won’t call you a high maintenance woman even if you’re a big spender with a rich taste in everything. [Read: How to make your boyfriend want you more than ever]

The perfect high maintenance woman

A perfect high maintenance woman isn’t a gold digger. She doesn’t date a man only for his wealth or what he can offer her. She just wants her man to provide for the lifestyle she’s always had.

If you’ve always had the money and splurged a lot on yourself, there’s nothing wrong in expecting your man to pay for all your needs once he starts dating you. You’re not being high maintenance by doing that. You’re maintaining the standards you’ve always had.

Do high maintenance women get better men?

It may be unfair to other women, but high maintenance women do get better men, almost all the time. They’re extremely confident and almost always have a better life unless they’re with the wrong man.

Men love a chase. If you’re high maintenance and believe you’re the best girl, every man would be awed by your confidence and would try to woo you and win your fancy. Being high maintenance is actually the best way to get yourself a worthy man. [Read: The reason behind why men like a chase]

Average men may call it a burden, everyone else call it evolution. If a perfect guy could get any girl in the world, wouldn’t he go for the sexiest and the nicest girl in the world? If you believe you’re that perfect girl, is it wrong to want the perfect guy too?

Betty Cooper is low maintenance. She’s the one who has to run behind guys. Veronica Lodge, on the other hand, is high maintenance. And Scarlett O’Hara from Gone with the Wind is definitely high maintenance too. And these women have always had the pick of the finest men. [Read: How men really fall in love]

A high maintenance woman is respected and awed. But not all women can be her. And not all men can be with her.

[If you want to know how to be high maintenance without overdoing it, read how to keep a guy interested in you in 30 super sexy ways.]

So who are you? Are you a high maintenance woman who makes her man put up with her or an accommodating woman who puts up with her man? In this case, there’s no clear winner here. There’s just a thin red line.

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32 thoughts on “15 Signs You’re a High Maintenance Woman”

  1. Prettie V says:

    Hmmm, insightful…

  2. Alex says:

    Interesting I like all the stuff that a high m. Chic likes but I’m poor and ugly. ๐Ÿ™

  3. Victoria says:

    Love this article! It’s so nice to see someone point out that some of us “high maintenance” women are not gold-digging snobs, we simply have standards for ourselves and the men we date. What’s wrong with that? Sorry, but too many nice girls out there settle for losers. They should be a little more HM.

  4. Nicholas says:

    This article paints high-maintenance women in a positive light. Definitely some truth in that. However, this is slippery terrain. Money will not buy you happiness. I think even high maintenance women still need to look at the whole package. Too easy and too often, the selection boils down just to one question: does the man have money? Keep in mind that a man that can afford to pamper you is not always the best choice for you in the long run.. Even if you are into money, you should still (genuinely!) evaluate the whole “package”, for your own sake!

  5. Greg says:

    I don’t define a girl as high maintenance cause she is used to having the better things in life then expects her man to provide them, or better yet, be able to share the load. I define high maintenance as her attitude and how she treats her man. She’s high maintenance if he always has to be there for her every whim, not just sharing his wealth. If she expects him to have to put his desires on hold or discard them completely cause she always has to have her way, that’s high maintenance.

    A girl I dated made a substantial amount more money than I did and we didn’t work out cause of that. She wasn’t a gold digger. She just knew that it wasn’t fair nor possible to live the lifestyle she was used to providing herself with someone who couldn’t contribute equally. I understand that idea and agree completely. I would never call a girl high maintenance for that.

  6. mk says:

    excuse me while i vomit. this article is so far off the mark its in pure fantasy land. even the references are movie stars (ie. not real life in any way). the only guy who ‘thinks” he like HM women (he doesnt realise that he doesnt) is a MUMMY’s BOY , looking for his dominant mum replacement. and what girl wantsa guy like that? stop believein SATC its drivel and the reason why so many attractive 40’s women are ultimately unfulfilled and unhappy.

  7. Bradley says:

    I like high maintenance women. Period. They’re sexy, classy and not every guy can have them because a high maintenance woman isn’t available for all men.

    It’s like what Anna Kournikova one said that’s so sexy. “I’m like an expensive menu… you can look but you can’t afford me!” Now that’s a high maintenance woman!

    Of course, I earn a lot more than most other guys and I can dream of wanting a girl like that. And most guys who can afford a girl who’s a lot of maintenance want that kind of girl because they like splurging on them. A guy feels good about himself when he can cater to a high maintenance glam doll’s every whim!

    @MK, you wanna vomit? lol ๐Ÿ˜€ you say only mommy’s boys like high maintenance women? Boy, when you earn more than a few million every year, come back to this page and you’ll realize what you want. Every guy who can afford to spend a lot of money wants a high maintenance girl!

  8. TheVeryTruth says:

    high maintenance women will always be such LOSERS, because they really think who they are. and they are certainly the reason why many of us men can’t meet a good woman anymore, and they are to very nasty too.

  9. Alyssa says:

    Omg. This is perfect & what I was looking for! Really good explanation.

  10. Twanya says:

    There’s nothing wrong with being high maintenance. Every girl wants the best , cloths , hair , nails .looks! Just some cant afford it.and the men who don’t like girls who know what thy want and won’t settle for second best, it is because that guy is second best and can’t have her!! Only the best men get the best girl!!

  11. Rebekah says:

    If she’s high maintenance, and happy with it, and has always spent that money on herself, then there’s no reason for the guy to suddenly start paying for everything. That actually increases the level of ‘maintenance’ rather than MAINTAIN it… see the slip up there? Unless all the money she’s saving by having him fill all her high maintenance needs are spent on him.

  12. Grace says:

    Oh. My. How freakin funny! The author conveniently neglects to mention that women that proudly claim to be high maintenance are, rather unequivocally, shallow, vapid, entitled little bitches that are desperately trying to avoid exposure of their blue-collar roots: their fake nails, teeth, hair & boobs are indicative of a much deeper problem- a complete lack of substantive personality and social graces. They can be sold anything if it has the right brand on it & they lack the ability to make sound decisions due to compromised integrity. Those that do find a man to maintain her either find that happiness is incredibly short-lived, or they’re two of a kind: bankruptcy and social isolation soon follow. They use the word “classy”, which, to individuals with actual breeding, demonstrates their insecurities & lack of upbringing.
    Oops, I almost forgot! Men that prefer high maintenance women ALWAYS have small penises. Flashing their money & women is how they make up for it!

  13. Seriously says:

    high maintenance women are so VERY PATHETIC to begin with, and are certainly not worth the time of day.

  14. nan says:

    Being sure of yourself and ‘knowing what you want” is called confidence.

    Being a douche and expecting a man to pay for your ‘expensive tastes’ while you’re too insecure to leave the house without makeup makes you high maintenance.

    There is an enormous difference. And ‘better men’ are not going for the latter.

  15. Melanie says:

    “If you

  16. Maria says:

    This is nonsense .. HM for me means delicacy and graciousness while dealing with others .. caring for appearance and how do you look doesnt necessary mean worshiping the latest fashion trends and every expensive jewelery .. sometimes while shopping I pick something very simple and costs a little but when I wear it everyone says its luxurious and must be expensive ! ie, I do get what I see will fit me well either its expensive or not .
    “You get embarrassed easily. You feel terribly embarrassed when your man doesn

  17. andy says:

    There is nothing wrong with wanting a certain standard in life but the sooner women realize its down to them to fund it and not their man, then the happier they will be.

    Why? Because most rich successful men who want trophy girlfriends are also unfaithful and a decent guy will not allow himself to be abused and fund someone else’s lifestyle.

  18. Steve says:

    I stumbled onto this “feature” by accident and wasn’t sure if it was some kind of satire or at least meant as “tongue in cheek”.
    Any woman who thinks she is special because shes’ pretty and owns a three thousand dollar bag is a shallow, selfish idiot and any guy who buys it for her deserves what he gets.
    Nothing is more attractive than a smart, kind heated women with good values and good taste..

  19. Up Yours says:

    Who in the hell wrote this vile garbage? And you “high maintenance” women why men go overseas in search of foreign women. This article is such a joke; men don’t want snobby, pathetic, shallow bitches with fake tits and nails. They want REAL women who are simple, classy and intelligent and don’t sit on a pedestal expecting to be catered.

  20. Leksa says:

    I have all the high maintenance traits except for the expensive taste one. I’m more of a penny pincher, and prefer to pay for stuff myself. Maybe because I don’t like to ask for favors.

  21. AW says:

    Well with their Fake fingernails and False Eyelashes certainly tells the story.

  22. Krystal says:

    I found this article to be insulting because I am not a HM woman, yet most of these describe myself and other practical, hardworking women.

    1. I spend MY OWN time (not someone else’s, like a true HM) to look my best and I’m self-sufficient and confident. That his what REALLY makes heads turn.
    2. I take care of my body and seek out foods to nourish me daily. If I’m dining out, dont take me to McD’s. I’m not HM because I take care of myself and appreciate good food.
    3. I need money because it equals security and I like having electricy and running water!
    4. Splurging occasionally on myself and others? I don’t buy cheap stuff because it will just fall apart and end up being more expensive in the long run. As someone once said “If you buy expensive, you only cry once”.
    5. I work hard on myself as a person because I have only myself to depend on. I know I have it together because my success, career, and relationships have taken years to shape. Most people dont work on themselves; they expect others to change or accept defeat. I am better by hard work, not default.
    6. Spending 25 minutes curling your hair can do wonders for your confidence and, therefore, productivity.
    7. I would rather have one $200 sweater that lasts me a decade, feels great, and is a flattering cut than ten $20 poorly knit ones.
    8. If I want something, it will be the best quality and I will save until I can afford it.
    9. My boyfriend hasn’t bought me anything for my birthday in 6 years, Christmas for 3 years, or Valentine’s day ever. I buy myself what I want, $0 from him. He has no say and I like it that way.
    10. I doing go out without makeup because I value how I look. I wear SPF foundation, mascara, lip gloss and maybe eyeliner. It helps with confidence and as Tom Ford said, looking your best is just good manners!
    11. Perfectionist? Doing things right ensures so hiccups later.
    12. I do deserve to be treated better. We all do, don’t we?
    13. I have more guy friends because I have more in common with them, most of my colleagues and former classmates are male, and I dislike dramatics intensely.
    14. I expect people do to their best for themselves and for their team.
    15. I don’t want the spotlight on me because of my actions, let alone someone else’s antics.

    A HM woman is a b**** hellbent on looking like a Vogue magazine ad. At any cost and usually someone else expense. Period. Dont glorify them as being thoughtful and sensible, they want to impress people with looks they bought because they have noithing else to offer. This article has to be a joke.

  23. Youngsil Won says:

    That’s me… all 20 of them. all of them. bam. minus girls hating on me. I have good female friends as I cherish them.

  24. Amber says:

    This article is not only terrible, it is dead wrong

  25. James James says:

    Surely HM is being defined as a prostitute. I have slept with many HM women, and enjoyed it. But once I have done the deed, I am on my way. I will leave it for some foolish businessman to pick up and marry my leftovers. For marriage material, it needs to be an attractive, educated, but modest young lady. Not some over premed woman who is selling herself. So many men are lured into thinking that they have married well when all they have married is a woman who has slept with many men for money, a tart. HM women are in effect an embarrassment. You go to a function, and half the men in the room have slept with her, the other half will when you are done. Better theman who has an attractive but committed woman on his arm.

  26. Remy says:

    Dear author, you are seriously retarded and vile with exactly one brain cell. Please do us all a favor and do not procreate. Worthy guys would date humble, sexy girls not self-absorbed narcissists. Goodbye.

  27. TheVerySadTruthOfAll says:

    Career women are the Worst of all Unfortunately.

  28. Reality says:

    You’re Wrong there sorry to say.

  29. TrueStatement says:

    He is Right you know.

  30. TheRealTruthHasBeenTold says:

    The kind of a woman that many of us men will Never go with.

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