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How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out in 9 Sneaky Ways

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You may like a guy a lot, but how do you get him to ask you out? Find out how to get a guy to ask you out using these really sneaky and smart ways.

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There are many ways to ask a guy out.

But to ensure that it works on a guy, you have to remember to never make it obvious that you have a huge crush on him.

Let a guy know that you’re interested in him.

But don’t let him know you need him. Not at least until he starts reciprocating your move.

A guy may want to ask you out, but when he realizes that you like him a lot more than he likes you, he’d start to take it easy just to see what you’d do about it.

And that’s something you should never forget.

How to get a guy to ask you out

There are two things a girl has to do to wow a guy and get him to ask her out.

You have to drop a few signs.

And you have to become desirable in his eyes. [Read: How to make a man fall in love with you]

The little signs that matter

Drop a few signs so he starts to look at you as a dating potential.

Sometimes, a guy may assume you’d never be interested in being anything more than friends with him.

To help him see the dating side in you, here are a few tips you could use.

#1 Get your friend to call you both a couple

When you’re having a fun chat with the guy you like, ask a trusted girl friend to join both of you in the conversation. It would be preferable if there are other friends around too. And out of the blue, let your trusted friend comment to no one in particular in the group and say something like, “these two make a cute couple, don’t they?”

It’s an awkward statement, and one that’ll definitely lead to a few laughs around the group. But all said and done, no matter how embarrassed you pretend to be or how he behaves, the thought will still linger in his head.

#2 Using a friend to tease him

Now don’t use all these strategies all the time. Just use a few that you’re comfortable with.

The next time you’re having a conversation with this guy, tell your friend beforehand to butt into the conversation. Ask your friend to tell the guy that it’s so obvious he likes you, and ask him when he’s ever going work up his courage to ask you out?! Of course, she has to make it seem like a joke, and yet, pose it as a serious question.

It’s straightforward and easy, and yet, you didn’t really ask him out yourself. If he does like you, he’ll use this opportunity to ask you out himself. [Read: Can a girl ask a guy out?]

#3 Invite him to join you

If you’ve made any plans with your friends for the weekend, casually bring the subject up when you’re hanging out with him and invite him to come out with all of you. Tell him it’ll be fun to hang out together and check out a new place. It’s nowhere close to a proposal, but it’s still a step closer to making him like you.

#4 Weekend plans

Ask him what he does over the weekend. And when he does tell you what he does on the weekend, fake a happy surprise and tell him you like doing that too! If you’re not sure of his weekend activity, you could just tell him that you’ve always wanted to try that.

This only works if both of you share a few common interests. You obviously can’t stretch a lie here, so be careful when it comes to sharing activities over the weekend.

If he is interested in you, he may invite you to join him on his weekend activity. And who knows, it may just lead to something more romantic. [Read: Sure signs a guy is into you]

#5 Let him know your routine

If a guy has to ask you out, he has to miss you now and then. Do you live nearby? Then this would be the perfect way to get to spend more together time with him. During one of your conversations, let him know what you do every evening after work or college, especially if you have a neighborhood café where you like relaxing after the regular 9 to 5, or hit a particular gym every day.

If he lives nearby, there’s a good chance he may have some time on his hands and he may even look forward to spending time with you. If you drop a hint and let him know about your routine, he may even end up bumping into you on a regular basis. And almost all the time, love emerges with more together time, doesn’t it?

#6 Get him to drive you nearby

Stepping out of office to run an errand after work? Try bumping into him on your way out and ask him to come along with you or drive you nearby to help you out. And after finishing up your errand, ask him out for coffee. Insist and tell him it’s the least you can do for helping you out. And once you’re out there on a *date* with him, make him see your good side and be awed by you. [Read: How to flirt with a guy without being obvious]

#7 Play the damsel in distress

Ask him for help. This is a trick that always works. Guys just can’t help themselves when a pretty girl asks for a bit of help. Ask him if he can fix your wooden window panels or some other thing you can think of. If he does like you back, he’ll use any excuse to be with you. And after he’s done helping you, thank him with your sweetest smile and reward him with coffee or a homemade lunch. [Read: How to play the damsel in distress the right way]

#8 Fake sickness and look sexy!

This is a dirty move, but hey, if it’s a great way to get him into your place, what’s wrong with it, right? When you’re in a conversation with him at the end of the day or when you’re out with him, pretend like you have a terrible headache or use the evergreen stomach cramp excuse.

He’ll ask you if you need help getting home, and of course, you should indulge his request. And once he takes you home, invite him in and change into your cute-n-revealing pj’s and let him see how beautiful you look. Don’t wear anything sexy or he’ll just call your bluff! He can hang out a while and leave after a conversation to give you company. [Read: How to seduce a man who’s not yours]

#9 Let him know you’re looking out

Let him know that you’re looking out and ready for a relationship. Once you’ve warmed him up with lots of together time and happy conversations, if there’s ever a chance of being together, he should know that you’re available for him if he musters the courage to ask you out.

Most of the time, a guy may like you too, but may be scared to pop the question. By dropping a few hints about waiting to meet the one and flaunting your single status at the same time, he may eventually work his courage up to ask you out.

Getting a guy to ask you out

These are all great ways to build more intimacy and create a stronger relationship between both of you. But you have to remember that you also need to constantly create the right sexual tension between the both of you so either of you don’t fall into the dreaded friend zone.

Give these moves a try if you’re trying to figure how to get a guy to ask you out. Almost all the time, this should bring both of you close enough to do the trick. But read how to ask a guy out the classy way for a few more sexy and classy ideas.

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  • Crystal
    November 15, 2011 | Permalink |

    Awww… the first tip is so adorable!!

    I like a guy too, but I’m not sure if he likes me back. I hope I can use a girlfriend and get her to call us a couple sometime. It would be so embarrassing, and I’m sure I’d go pink. But I’m sure he would too. It’s so cute!

  • megan
    January 7, 2012 | Permalink |

    I like this guy and i don’t if he likes me back. He is a definate bad boy but i’m attracted to him in so many ways. we talk occasionaly but never anything serious. i don’t know to approach him or what to say to him…what should i do?

  • J
    April 12, 2012 | Permalink |

    Hi- thanks for the tips. I like this guy, and I’m positive he likes me because he is always on my side, wants to go with me places, always relates to what I’m saying, and always complimenting how I look. I really would like to get him to ask me out, but I think he’s a little nervous, and I don’t want to seem headstrong and ask him out. What should I do?

  • Jade
    May 8, 2012 | Permalink |

    Hi umm theirs this guy I like and I don’t know if he likes me bak and I tryed all of that stuff
    Except for the sick thing but anyway someone told him I liked him and now he won’t talk
    To me what do I do?????

  • Mariah
    May 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    tell him how you really feel about him (in person while alone with him if possible) @Jade

  • Ness
    July 13, 2012 | Permalink |

    I like this guy but I’m afraid we might have fallen into the ‘just friends zone’ :/ what should I do?

  • August 17, 2012 | Permalink |

    Well I do find these intresting but a lot of guys don’t get the hints, so ladies stop with the playing around, be friend until the right moment and wait for him to make te right move. And cut the friendzone crap!!! Best of luck to you ladies

  • Luna
    September 1, 2012 | Permalink |

    Ive known his guy for 3 years now. 2 years ago on the 15th I told him I liked him but he said we were “close friends”. For the last year we’ve gotten really close. I’ve tried telling him in person(chickened out) and in letters I’ve slipped into various places he could find it. I’m tired of waiting and I’ve tried everything the articles say. I don’t know anything about dating guys being single my whole life and being a teenage girl doesnt help. I’m lost and confused and I’m madly in love with him. I’ve tried these tips. Nothing works and I know he likes me.

  • julia
    September 2, 2012 | Permalink |

    i REALLY like this one guy and he always flirts with me but he wont ask me out!!!!!!!!!!!!! like im falling HARD!!

  • Ben Johnson
    September 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    First off all of these are crap with the exceptions of #5, #6 and #7. Step 1 & 2 are things that happened to me in elementary school, It didn’t work then and it most definitely doesn’t work now.
    The problem with #1 is all it does is embarrass a guy, if he already likes you someone coming out and saying it in front of both of you (when it is not YOU) makes him feel pressured to play off of it, and unless he is insanely charismatic then it will just blow-up. #2 Most guys like a girl who is a little forward with her emotions (at least the emotion of love). When you are together simply say that you like him, the response will not always be fairy-tale sometimes a guy needs to think, also remember that this is not 100%. If the connection is not there, drop it.
    I am going to add a step of my own. If you are feeling particularly flirtatious send him this link:
    It is another article by Lovepanky that I found to be a actually helpful. That is all. I wish you the best of luck.

  • ana
    September 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    i like this guy and he likes me but he is to shy to ask me out

  • vivienne
    September 27, 2012 | Permalink |

    well i like this guy but ik he likes me too but i think hes too shy to ask me out ive been dropping hints my friends been telling him stuff too he just would ask me what do you lot think i should do?

  • October 1, 2012 | Permalink |

    I like this guy we both love eachother he lready told me but he dident actually ask me out

  • dakota
    October 2, 2012 | Permalink |

    I really like this guy, he was the first one I told as well. ive even asked him out but he said no. gave him brownies, a flower.. and my heart . im not the prettiest girl and I know that, but I do have feelings and they were hurt <3

  • B.A.B.
    October 24, 2012 | Permalink |

    Im gonna try a few of these even though I’m in middle school because a few actually seem like they might work. There’s this really sweet and funny guy I have a crush on and I think he kinda likes me too. He accepts any opportunity to talk to me and always smiles or focuses his attention on me and we make eye contact a lot because well, he’s got these beautiful, sparkly blue eyes. He’s amazing <3 :D

  • November 13, 2012 | Permalink |

    How do you get a guy to ask you out in middle school? And do some guys think your oretty and want to ask you out with glasses?

  • Shakia
    December 26, 2012 | Permalink |

    I like this guy and every one knows i like him and he told people he likes me but when i asked him out he said no. But i was with my friend and she teases him about him liking, me should i ask him when my friends not around or what do i do. I really like him and i know he likes me what o i do?

  • Jennifer
    December 27, 2012 | Permalink |

    there is a guy and he knows i like him…i told my friend to ask him if he only likes me as a friend or as like a gf…..he said only as a friend. :( how do i get him to ask me out?

  • Ally
    January 26, 2013 | Permalink |

    So at first first my friend got it out of this guy that he liked me so ya he was trying to ask me out through friends but Ialesys said that I’ll only say yes if he does it in person . Is that too rough? Cause now I think it wore off and I’m crazy about him now and will take any form of question . So what the heck do I do?

  • February 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    i have no idea what to do cuz i think this guy likes me but iv no way of finding out becuz hes shy around me . especially since i went out with his best friend. what should i do ?

  • N/a
    February 21, 2013 | Permalink |

    Okay i like a guy and he knows that i do thx 2 1 of his friends who is dating my bff so how do i get him 2 ask me out??????

    BTW he likes sports if that helps @all

  • BeenThereDoneThat
    February 21, 2013 | Permalink |

    Are you kidding me ?? Here’s a tip … ASK HIM OUT !!!! Why play games, hoping to get asked out…. is this middle school in 1975???

  • Scarlett
    February 24, 2013 | Permalink |

    @Jade If you’ve done almost or all of these. It became obvious to someone you liked him. Don’t let the fact that you like him lead him off. Next time you see him, laugh it off. If he thinks he’s being pressured, he won’t ask you out. Laugh off the “ridiculous” comment (you don’t have to use the word ridiculous!!!!!) and continue getting to know him. Let him see you for who you are and the great person you probably are. Make him ask you out because you’re a great person to be with. Not because someone said you liked him.
    Also consider this: Who told him and how reliable is this person? Make him question how truthful the fact was and have him push it away like someone was playing a joke on him.

  • Christina
    March 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    There is this guy that I really like and I have been told that he likes me and I have also heard that when a guy like you they can act in two different ways: 1) he is the nicest guy ever or 2) he is the biggest jerk on the planet. He is nice to everyone but when I talk to him he is a total jerk and I think he is just trying to get my attention. Does that mean he likes me or am I being tricked? And I want to ask him out but I am afraid he will not say yes…what do I do?

  • bilbo
    April 12, 2013 | Permalink |

    I decided to read these just to see if any of them were used on me in the past. Number 7 is a big one. Us men love the feeling of helping out a cute girl. For example, there’s this cute girl I work with. (she has a boy friend and what not, but besides the point) She’ll come over to my desk and ask me to help her with even the simplest of tasks, and I absolutely love it. Granted, I already am crushing on her. Who knows ladies, the guy you want to ask you out might also be crushing on you, if he’s nice, and sweet to you, compliments you (even on the little things) chances are, he has a thing for you. : )

  • dave
    April 16, 2013 | Permalink |

    Mr. Bilbo – Nice try! You are sounding like you are trying to be respectful.This whole exercise is about how men need to be tricked and manipulated.Isn’t that just wonderful?

  • April 29, 2013 | Permalink |

    Yeah Bilbo, same here in both counts, but what I helped her with she couldn’t possibly do herself. I dont really remember any girl trying out any of those things to me.

  • mk
    May 1, 2013 | Permalink |

    what? girls being manipulative. I never would have thought. no wonder being a player works, it puts men on an even keel again.

  • Rachel
    May 4, 2013 | Permalink |

    HI, there is this guy at my school his names Patrick…I like him and I know he knows that. I also know he likes me back, he keeps telling my friends and his friends that hes gonna ask me out but he hasn’t yet! I think he is trying to find the right time…how do I make it the right time?

  • May 10, 2013 | Permalink |

    ive been talking to this guy just as friends for over a month now just to get to know each other before deciding to make it a relationship we just met for the 1st time last week and I think we went in a little too fast because we went from talking and texting everyday to barely a text good morning, and I don’t wanna start asking questions and there is nothing wrong. I have not dated in years I don’t know how to keep things going right about now cause I think he needs space and I really want to date this guy but I don’t want him to think that he is my only choice.. however I want to warm up and open up to him but I don’t know how to go about it. please help me keep a man/friend

  • clowey
    May 14, 2013 | Permalink |

    im in a relashenship with a gye i love so much weve ben daiting 10moths but he seems not to be so crazy about me no more what shold i do please healp me

  • Mindy
    May 16, 2013 | Permalink |

    I like this guy so mucg but I haven’t told him and we are good friend’s but this was so helpfull i’m excited to try this with him :)

  • princess
    June 18, 2013 | Permalink |

    so hey guys. I’m totally and utterly in love with this boy but i fail to admit it. we started speaking march 7 .. over a conversation on twitter. he somehow got my mobile number and texted me. 7th of june we saw eachother and went for a walk and spoke. However i just feel that we’re drifting .. and i thought maybe because me and his friend hooked up in march … however we werent on speaking terms but maybe my ex hook up ruined it for me and now he wants nothing to do with me? im confused.

  • Rob
    July 14, 2013 | Permalink |

    Speaking as a guy whose wife of 25 years passed away 8 years ago, and has been single ever since, my strongest advice to a gal wanting a guy to ask her out would be to make sure he knows that not only are you interested and available, but you would very likely say yes if he did ask you out.

    If you’ve made sure that he knows that you’d say yes, and he still doesn’t ask, than either he is not interested in you at the moment, or he is not ready for dating. There’s no point in pushing it any further.

    A lot of us guys are sort of dense in this area, so you might need to be direct, but in a round-about way. Interject subtile hints in the conversation once in a while, then the ball will be in his court.

    I can think of about a dozen gals whom I know, that if I thought they might accept my invitation, I’d ask any one of them out in an instant.

  • Laura
    July 26, 2013 | Permalink |

    Ok so I know this guy likes me he has for a while but won’t ask me out he kinda tries but he turns it into a joke like HIM:U want to go out ME: ^=^ HIM: outside haha ME: ha….ha…..(poop) etc. And he’s always making contact with me he even tried cuddling and I let him but then he jumped up and left (wtf I was happy cuddling with u dude) and every time I hang out with him even at my house movies etc he brings his cuz and she even told me he likes me and he wanted to fake date me so this one guy that liked me would go away (wtf) and he knows I don’t like asking guys out cuz I’m old fashion like that (only when it cones to guys asking me out) can anybody help me on what to do?

  • sarah turner
    August 14, 2013 | Permalink |

    Hi people I’m trying to ask a boy out named lionel but I have a question age matter I’m 14 he’s like 11 and he’s cute

  • Bri Bear
    September 18, 2013 | Permalink |

    Im only 12 and I know very little about boys and dateing but I have this crush. But my friend has a crush on him too. She got to him first but I know more about him. The problem is that if I try to talk about him then she wants nothing to do with me. He’s also in eighth grade. Where I’m in seventh. We also already shared a fun moment. His name is Alex. I have no clue of what I’m supposed to do. My friend and I have drifted away over the summer. Honestly I have tried so hard to like the new her. But I’m really thinking of dumping her. As a friend. When I told her that I Alex she threatened me. It was supposed to be a joke but it was very hurtful. I’ve been looking on how to find out how to date Alex. The only problem is that I just met him. But. I don’t know. He just has nice hair a cute accent and makes me laugh and smile. He makes me laugh a lot. Now I have been looking forward to school just so I can see him at the end of the day. I’m not good at hiding my feelings but I can tell I’m hiding this one good. I just wish I knew how to tell him my feelings with out being rejected. This is only my second crush. I want to know how to see if a boy likes me just by looking at me. I really with I wasn’t so clueless. I only have one friend that can help me. I love her and all. But I need more advice. Please help!!!

  • Emmaline
    October 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    There’s this one guy I really fancy that I’m not too sure likes me back. The last time we spoke, he revealed to me that he had a homecoming date, but not a girlfriend. We’ve flirted somewhat before, and now I’m ready to make a move. I’m worried that I might be too bold and make a decision I regret.

  • uknown
    November 19, 2013 | Permalink |

    Okay, I like this guy and hes in most of my classes. I found out my bestfriend likes him to and he kmow that she likes him. His bestfriend said he likes hee to but I, not sure. I dont know what to. Ive liked him for about a year now, and I never had the courage to tell him. Whatdo I do?

  • spella Connor
    February 10, 2014 | Permalink |

    I like this boy I’m 12 and he is 13 I want to tell him I like him but I don’t know if he likes me too his friends tease him about us and we text and call every day. He gets really jealous when I speak to other guys but the problem is he has been my best friend for 9 years please help .me !!! Xx

  • Brittany
    March 3, 2014 | Permalink |

    Me and this guy have been talking for a while, and I have known him since elementary school, I like him a lot. I actually love him, and I want him to ask me out, but the things is, he moved away, he lives hours away, but I still want him to ask me out :/ I don’t know what to do.

  • Kk
    April 3, 2014 | Permalink |

    I love my ex and I have no idea how I got him to ask me out the first time but it happened and id do anything just to go out with him again. I am so far away like states away but I’m willing to do anything for this guy. He told me he still loved me but he also told one of our friends that the best way to go is being single because you can flirt with girls. I really want this guy to ask me out so much I am willing to ask him out. Please help. This is the one guy I can’t get over he is perfect.

  • Jena
    April 29, 2014 | Permalink |

    A guy came to my school last year and we ended up being best friends….. His older brother is always telling me he likes me…. He always blushes when he sees me and will hold the door open for me, if I’m being bullied he tells me to let him know so he can help out. My friends always say that the way I look at him and the way he looks at me is priceless. His friends always tells me he likes me…. And the guy always has to sit right next to me, if anyone takes that spot he makes them move…. We both like the same foods and the same subjects (gym)! I’m really scared that if I ask him out his friends and siblings won’t leave us alone about it. He’ll purposely touch my hand or kick my feet when he has the chance then grins widly after…. I’m so scared to ask him out, what if he asks me out?

  • daisy
    June 18, 2014 | Permalink |

    I like this boy a lot and he likes me a lot too but he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is my friend

  • daisy
    June 18, 2014 | Permalink |

    And that boy I like is moving to ridge crest California. :,{

  • daisy
    June 18, 2014 | Permalink |

    His name is Jonah and on the last day of school he sat next to me (at recess not in class) and our shoulders and knees were touching and we were just staring at each other and his 2 friends were there and one of his friends likes me too

  • Amisha
    June 20, 2014 | Permalink |

    I have a massive crush on my close guy friend who recently broke up with his girlfriend. We have a rather sexual sort of connection and he often flirts with me (but I don’t realise when I do and don’t flirt). I used to like him before but he stopped talking to me when he found out. But now that he flirts with me I think it’s a bit different. How do I drop subtle hints of my infatuation and also convince him to ask me on a date and give our relationship a try? I really need advice on this. Please!!

  • Briana
    July 21, 2014 | Permalink |

    I like this guy and he likes me back!
    I always had my friend call us a couple it was embarrassing also.
    these tips work to ask a guy out. Thanks so much!????

  • Brittney
    August 29, 2014 | Permalink |

    Omg we ended up making out and he stayed the night so bad boy!!!

  • sammers
    September 21, 2014 | Permalink |

    so i said hi to this guys a few times an now all of his friends think i like him… they r trying so hard to get us together and now so are my friends, what do i do? he is a really sweet guy but he is really shy and i dont know if i should give him a chance… should i?

  • Bree
    December 9, 2014 | Permalink |

    So this really cute guy named, Matt, has liked me for 5 years and I like him, but his twin sister is my best friend!!!
    I don’t know what I should do bc when I told his sister she freaked out. I really like him but I think this will ruin our friendship!!! WHAT DO I DO??

  • Swaggygalz
    March 23, 2015 | Permalink |

    Thanx but I’m not sure he likes all use a few of those tips but he is to hot for me I think sooooooo hot. :)

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