How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out in 9 Sneaky Ways


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how to get a guy to ask you out

You may like a guy a lot, but how do you get him to ask you out? Find out how to get a guy to ask you out using these really sneaky and smart ways.

There are many ways to ask a guy out.

But to ensure that it works on a guy, you have to remember to never make it obvious that you have a huge crush on him.

Let a guy know that you’re interested in him.

But don’t let him know you need him. Not at least until he starts reciprocating your move.

A guy may want to ask you out, but when he realizes that you like him a lot more than he likes you, he’d start to take it easy just to see what you’d do about it.

And that’s something you should never forget.

How to get a guy to ask you out

There are two things a girl has to do to wow a guy and get him to ask her out.

You have to drop a few signs.

And you have to become desirable in his eyes. [Read: How to make a man fall in love with you]

The little signs that matter

Drop a few signs so he starts to look at you as a dating potential.

Sometimes, a guy may assume you’d never be interested in being anything more than friends with him.

To help him see the dating side in you, here are a few tips you could use.

#1 Get your friend to call you both a couple

When you’re having a fun chat with the guy you like, ask a trusted girl friend to join both of you in the conversation. It would be preferable if there are other friends around too. And out of the blue, let your trusted friend comment to no one in particular in the group and say something like, “these two make a cute couple, don’t they?”

It’s an awkward statement, and one that’ll definitely lead to a few laughs around the group. But all said and done, no matter how embarrassed you pretend to be or how he behaves, the thought will still linger in his head.

#2 Using a friend to tease him

Now don’t use all these strategies all the time. Just use a few that you’re comfortable with.

The next time you’re having a conversation with this guy, tell your friend beforehand to butt into the conversation. Ask your friend to tell the guy that it’s so obvious he likes you, and ask him when he’s ever going work up his courage to ask you out?! Of course, she has to make it seem like a joke, and yet, pose it as a serious question.

It’s straightforward and easy, and yet, you didn’t really ask him out yourself. If he does like you, he’ll use this opportunity to ask you out himself. [Read: Can a girl ask a guy out?]

#3 Invite him to join you

If you’ve made any plans with your friends for the weekend, casually bring the subject up when you’re hanging out with him and invite him to come out with all of you. Tell him it’ll be fun to hang out together and check out a new place. It’s nowhere close to a proposal, but it’s still a step closer to making him like you.

#4 Weekend plans

Ask him what he does over the weekend. And when he does tell you what he does on the weekend, fake a happy surprise and tell him you like doing that too! If you’re not sure of his weekend activity, you could just tell him that you’ve always wanted to try that.

This only works if both of you share a few common interests. You obviously can’t stretch a lie here, so be careful when it comes to sharing activities over the weekend.

If he is interested in you, he may invite you to join him on his weekend activity. And who knows, it may just lead to something more romantic. [Read: Sure signs a guy is into you]

#5 Let him know your routine

If a guy has to ask you out, he has to miss you now and then. Do you live nearby? Then this would be the perfect way to get to spend more together time with him. During one of your conversations, let him know what you do every evening after work or college, especially if you have a neighborhood café where you like relaxing after the regular 9 to 5, or hit a particular gym every day.

If he lives nearby, there’s a good chance he may have some time on his hands and he may even look forward to spending time with you. If you drop a hint and let him know about your routine, he may even end up bumping into you on a regular basis. And almost all the time, love emerges with more together time, doesn’t it?

#6 Get him to drive you nearby

Stepping out of office to run an errand after work? Try bumping into him on your way out and ask him to come along with you or drive you nearby to help you out. And after finishing up your errand, ask him out for coffee. Insist and tell him it’s the least you can do for helping you out. And once you’re out there on a *date* with him, make him see your good side and be awed by you. [Read: How to flirt with a guy without being obvious]

#7 Play the damsel in distress

Ask him for help. This is a trick that always works. Guys just can’t help themselves when a pretty girl asks for a bit of help. Ask him if he can fix your wooden window panels or some other thing you can think of. If he does like you back, he’ll use any excuse to be with you. And after he’s done helping you, thank him with your sweetest smile and reward him with coffee or a homemade lunch. [Read: How to play the damsel in distress the right way]

#8 Fake sickness and look sexy!

This is a dirty move, but hey, if it’s a great way to get him into your place, what’s wrong with it, right? When you’re in a conversation with him at the end of the day or when you’re out with him, pretend like you have a terrible headache or use the evergreen stomach cramp excuse.

He’ll ask you if you need help getting home, and of course, you should indulge his request. And once he takes you home, invite him in and change into your cute-n-revealing pj’s and let him see how beautiful you look. Don’t wear anything sexy or he’ll just call your bluff! He can hang out a while and leave after a conversation to give you company. [Read: How to seduce a man who’s not yours]

#9 Let him know you’re looking out

Let him know that you’re looking out and ready for a relationship. Once you’ve warmed him up with lots of together time and happy conversations, if there’s ever a chance of being together, he should know that you’re available for him if he musters the courage to ask you out.

Most of the time, a guy may like you too, but may be scared to pop the question. By dropping a few hints about waiting to meet the one and flaunting your single status at the same time, he may eventually work his courage up to ask you out.

Getting a guy to ask you out

These are all great ways to build more intimacy and create a stronger relationship between both of you. But you have to remember that you also need to constantly create the right sexual tension between the both of you so either of you don’t fall into the dreaded friend zone.

Give these moves a try if you’re trying to figure how to get a guy to ask you out. Almost all the time, this should bring both of you close enough to do the trick. But read how to ask a guy out the classy way for a few more sexy and classy ideas.

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  • Crystal

    Awww… the first tip is so adorable!!

    I like a guy too, but I’m not sure if he likes me back. I hope I can use a girlfriend and get her to call us a couple sometime. It would be so embarrassing, and I’m sure I’d go pink. But I’m sure he would too. It’s so cute!

  • megan

    I like this guy and i don’t if he likes me back. He is a definate bad boy but i’m attracted to him in so many ways. we talk occasionaly but never anything serious. i don’t know to approach him or what to say to him…what should i do?

  • J

    Hi- thanks for the tips. I like this guy, and I’m positive he likes me because he is always on my side, wants to go with me places, always relates to what I’m saying, and always complimenting how I look. I really would like to get him to ask me out, but I think he’s a little nervous, and I don’t want to seem headstrong and ask him out. What should I do?

  • Jade

    Hi umm theirs this guy I like and I don’t know if he likes me bak and I tryed all of that stuff
    Except for the sick thing but anyway someone told him I liked him and now he won’t talk
    To me what do I do?????

  • Mariah

    tell him how you really feel about him (in person while alone with him if possible) @Jade

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  • Ness

    I like this guy but I’m afraid we might have fallen into the ‘just friends zone’ :/ what should I do?

  • Jake

    Well I do find these intresting but a lot of guys don’t get the hints, so ladies stop with the playing around, be friend until the right moment and wait for him to make te right move. And cut the friendzone crap!!! Best of luck to you ladies

  • Luna

    Ive known his guy for 3 years now. 2 years ago on the 15th I told him I liked him but he said we were “close friends”. For the last year we’ve gotten really close. I’ve tried telling him in person(chickened out) and in letters I’ve slipped into various places he could find it. I’m tired of waiting and I’ve tried everything the articles say. I don’t know anything about dating guys being single my whole life and being a teenage girl doesnt help. I’m lost and confused and I’m madly in love with him. I’ve tried these tips. Nothing works and I know he likes me.

  • julia

    i REALLY like this one guy and he always flirts with me but he wont ask me out!!!!!!!!!!!!! like im falling HARD!!

  • Ben Johnson

    First off all of these are crap with the exceptions of #5, #6 and #7. Step 1 & 2 are things that happened to me in elementary school, It didn’t work then and it most definitely doesn’t work now.
    The problem with #1 is all it does is embarrass a guy, if he already likes you someone coming out and saying it in front of both of you (when it is not YOU) makes him feel pressured to play off of it, and unless he is insanely charismatic then it will just blow-up. #2 Most guys like a girl who is a little forward with her emotions (at least the emotion of love). When you are together simply say that you like him, the response will not always be fairy-tale sometimes a guy needs to think, also remember that this is not 100%. If the connection is not there, drop it.
    I am going to add a step of my own. If you are feeling particularly flirtatious send him this link:
    It is another article by Lovepanky that I found to be a actually helpful. That is all. I wish you the best of luck.

  • ana

    i like this guy and he likes me but he is to shy to ask me out

  • vivienne

    well i like this guy but ik he likes me too but i think hes too shy to ask me out ive been dropping hints my friends been telling him stuff too he just would ask me what do you lot think i should do?

  • http://youtbe amber

    I like this guy we both love eachother he lready told me but he dident actually ask me out

  • dakota

    I really like this guy, he was the first one I told as well. ive even asked him out but he said no. gave him brownies, a flower.. and my heart . im not the prettiest girl and I know that, but I do have feelings and they were hurt <3

  • B.A.B.

    Im gonna try a few of these even though I’m in middle school because a few actually seem like they might work. There’s this really sweet and funny guy I have a crush on and I think he kinda likes me too. He accepts any opportunity to talk to me and always smiles or focuses his attention on me and we make eye contact a lot because well, he’s got these beautiful, sparkly blue eyes. He’s amazing <3 :D

  • Maddie

    How do you get a guy to ask you out in middle school? And do some guys think your oretty and want to ask you out with glasses?

  • Shakia

    I like this guy and every one knows i like him and he told people he likes me but when i asked him out he said no. But i was with my friend and she teases him about him liking, me should i ask him when my friends not around or what do i do. I really like him and i know he likes me what o i do?

  • Jennifer

    there is a guy and he knows i like him…i told my friend to ask him if he only likes me as a friend or as like a gf…..he said only as a friend. :( how do i get him to ask me out?

  • Ally

    So at first first my friend got it out of this guy that he liked me so ya he was trying to ask me out through friends but Ialesys said that I’ll only say yes if he does it in person . Is that too rough? Cause now I think it wore off and I’m crazy about him now and will take any form of question . So what the heck do I do?

  • http://9waysofgettingaguytolikeyou megan

    i have no idea what to do cuz i think this guy likes me but iv no way of finding out becuz hes shy around me . especially since i went out with his best friend. what should i do ?

  • N/a

    Okay i like a guy and he knows that i do thx 2 1 of his friends who is dating my bff so how do i get him 2 ask me out??????

    BTW he likes sports if that helps @all

  • BeenThereDoneThat

    Are you kidding me ?? Here’s a tip … ASK HIM OUT !!!! Why play games, hoping to get asked out…. is this middle school in 1975???

  • Scarlett

    @Jade If you’ve done almost or all of these. It became obvious to someone you liked him. Don’t let the fact that you like him lead him off. Next time you see him, laugh it off. If he thinks he’s being pressured, he won’t ask you out. Laugh off the “ridiculous” comment (you don’t have to use the word ridiculous!!!!!) and continue getting to know him. Let him see you for who you are and the great person you probably are. Make him ask you out because you’re a great person to be with. Not because someone said you liked him.
    Also consider this: Who told him and how reliable is this person? Make him question how truthful the fact was and have him push it away like someone was playing a joke on him.

  • Christina

    There is this guy that I really like and I have been told that he likes me and I have also heard that when a guy like you they can act in two different ways: 1) he is the nicest guy ever or 2) he is the biggest jerk on the planet. He is nice to everyone but when I talk to him he is a total jerk and I think he is just trying to get my attention. Does that mean he likes me or am I being tricked? And I want to ask him out but I am afraid he will not say yes…what do I do?

  • bilbo

    I decided to read these just to see if any of them were used on me in the past. Number 7 is a big one. Us men love the feeling of helping out a cute girl. For example, there’s this cute girl I work with. (she has a boy friend and what not, but besides the point) She’ll come over to my desk and ask me to help her with even the simplest of tasks, and I absolutely love it. Granted, I already am crushing on her. Who knows ladies, the guy you want to ask you out might also be crushing on you, if he’s nice, and sweet to you, compliments you (even on the little things) chances are, he has a thing for you. : )

  • dave

    Mr. Bilbo – Nice try! You are sounding like you are trying to be respectful.This whole exercise is about how men need to be tricked and manipulated.Isn’t that just wonderful?

  • http://na sean

    Yeah Bilbo, same here in both counts, but what I helped her with she couldn’t possibly do herself. I dont really remember any girl trying out any of those things to me.

  • mk

    what? girls being manipulative. I never would have thought. no wonder being a player works, it puts men on an even keel again.

  • Rachel

    HI, there is this guy at my school his names Patrick…I like him and I know he knows that. I also know he likes me back, he keeps telling my friends and his friends that hes gonna ask me out but he hasn’t yet! I think he is trying to find the right time…how do I make it the right time?

  • http://yahoo Trina

    ive been talking to this guy just as friends for over a month now just to get to know each other before deciding to make it a relationship we just met for the 1st time last week and I think we went in a little too fast because we went from talking and texting everyday to barely a text good morning, and I don’t wanna start asking questions and there is nothing wrong. I have not dated in years I don’t know how to keep things going right about now cause I think he needs space and I really want to date this guy but I don’t want him to think that he is my only choice.. however I want to warm up and open up to him but I don’t know how to go about it. please help me keep a man/friend

  • clowey

    im in a relashenship with a gye i love so much weve ben daiting 10moths but he seems not to be so crazy about me no more what shold i do please healp me

  • Mindy

    I like this guy so mucg but I haven’t told him and we are good friend’s but this was so helpfull i’m excited to try this with him :)

  • princess

    so hey guys. I’m totally and utterly in love with this boy but i fail to admit it. we started speaking march 7 .. over a conversation on twitter. he somehow got my mobile number and texted me. 7th of june we saw eachother and went for a walk and spoke. However i just feel that we’re drifting .. and i thought maybe because me and his friend hooked up in march … however we werent on speaking terms but maybe my ex hook up ruined it for me and now he wants nothing to do with me? im confused.

  • Rob

    Speaking as a guy whose wife of 25 years passed away 8 years ago, and has been single ever since, my strongest advice to a gal wanting a guy to ask her out would be to make sure he knows that not only are you interested and available, but you would very likely say yes if he did ask you out.

    If you’ve made sure that he knows that you’d say yes, and he still doesn’t ask, than either he is not interested in you at the moment, or he is not ready for dating. There’s no point in pushing it any further.

    A lot of us guys are sort of dense in this area, so you might need to be direct, but in a round-about way. Interject subtile hints in the conversation once in a while, then the ball will be in his court.

    I can think of about a dozen gals whom I know, that if I thought they might accept my invitation, I’d ask any one of them out in an instant.

  • Laura

    Ok so I know this guy likes me he has for a while but won’t ask me out he kinda tries but he turns it into a joke like HIM:U want to go out ME: ^=^ HIM: outside haha ME: ha….ha…..(poop) etc. And he’s always making contact with me he even tried cuddling and I let him but then he jumped up and left (wtf I was happy cuddling with u dude) and every time I hang out with him even at my house movies etc he brings his cuz and she even told me he likes me and he wanted to fake date me so this one guy that liked me would go away (wtf) and he knows I don’t like asking guys out cuz I’m old fashion like that (only when it cones to guys asking me out) can anybody help me on what to do?

  • sarah turner

    Hi people I’m trying to ask a boy out named lionel but I have a question age matter I’m 14 he’s like 11 and he’s cute

  • Bri Bear

    Im only 12 and I know very little about boys and dateing but I have this crush. But my friend has a crush on him too. She got to him first but I know more about him. The problem is that if I try to talk about him then she wants nothing to do with me. He’s also in eighth grade. Where I’m in seventh. We also already shared a fun moment. His name is Alex. I have no clue of what I’m supposed to do. My friend and I have drifted away over the summer. Honestly I have tried so hard to like the new her. But I’m really thinking of dumping her. As a friend. When I told her that I Alex she threatened me. It was supposed to be a joke but it was very hurtful. I’ve been looking on how to find out how to date Alex. The only problem is that I just met him. But. I don’t know. He just has nice hair a cute accent and makes me laugh and smile. He makes me laugh a lot. Now I have been looking forward to school just so I can see him at the end of the day. I’m not good at hiding my feelings but I can tell I’m hiding this one good. I just wish I knew how to tell him my feelings with out being rejected. This is only my second crush. I want to know how to see if a boy likes me just by looking at me. I really with I wasn’t so clueless. I only have one friend that can help me. I love her and all. But I need more advice. Please help!!!

  • Emmaline

    There’s this one guy I really fancy that I’m not too sure likes me back. The last time we spoke, he revealed to me that he had a homecoming date, but not a girlfriend. We’ve flirted somewhat before, and now I’m ready to make a move. I’m worried that I might be too bold and make a decision I regret.

  • uknown

    Okay, I like this guy and hes in most of my classes. I found out my bestfriend likes him to and he kmow that she likes him. His bestfriend said he likes hee to but I, not sure. I dont know what to. Ive liked him for about a year now, and I never had the courage to tell him. Whatdo I do?

  • spella Connor

    I like this boy I’m 12 and he is 13 I want to tell him I like him but I don’t know if he likes me too his friends tease him about us and we text and call every day. He gets really jealous when I speak to other guys but the problem is he has been my best friend for 9 years please help .me !!! Xx

  • Brittany

    Me and this guy have been talking for a while, and I have known him since elementary school, I like him a lot. I actually love him, and I want him to ask me out, but the things is, he moved away, he lives hours away, but I still want him to ask me out :/ I don’t know what to do.

  • Kk

    I love my ex and I have no idea how I got him to ask me out the first time but it happened and id do anything just to go out with him again. I am so far away like states away but I’m willing to do anything for this guy. He told me he still loved me but he also told one of our friends that the best way to go is being single because you can flirt with girls. I really want this guy to ask me out so much I am willing to ask him out. Please help. This is the one guy I can’t get over he is perfect.

  • Jena

    A guy came to my school last year and we ended up being best friends….. His older brother is always telling me he likes me…. He always blushes when he sees me and will hold the door open for me, if I’m being bullied he tells me to let him know so he can help out. My friends always say that the way I look at him and the way he looks at me is priceless. His friends always tells me he likes me…. And the guy always has to sit right next to me, if anyone takes that spot he makes them move…. We both like the same foods and the same subjects (gym)! I’m really scared that if I ask him out his friends and siblings won’t leave us alone about it. He’ll purposely touch my hand or kick my feet when he has the chance then grins widly after…. I’m so scared to ask him out, what if he asks me out?

  • daisy

    I like this boy a lot and he likes me a lot too but he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is my friend

  • daisy

    And that boy I like is moving to ridge crest California. :,{

  • daisy

    His name is Jonah and on the last day of school he sat next to me (at recess not in class) and our shoulders and knees were touching and we were just staring at each other and his 2 friends were there and one of his friends likes me too

  • Amisha

    I have a massive crush on my close guy friend who recently broke up with his girlfriend. We have a rather sexual sort of connection and he often flirts with me (but I don’t realise when I do and don’t flirt). I used to like him before but he stopped talking to me when he found out. But now that he flirts with me I think it’s a bit different. How do I drop subtle hints of my infatuation and also convince him to ask me on a date and give our relationship a try? I really need advice on this. Please!!

  • Briana

    I like this guy and he likes me back!
    I always had my friend call us a couple it was embarrassing also.
    these tips work to ask a guy out. Thanks so much!????

  • Brittney

    Omg we ended up making out and he stayed the night so bad boy!!!

  • sammers

    so i said hi to this guys a few times an now all of his friends think i like him… they r trying so hard to get us together and now so are my friends, what do i do? he is a really sweet guy but he is really shy and i dont know if i should give him a chance… should i?

  • Bree

    So this really cute guy named, Matt, has liked me for 5 years and I like him, but his twin sister is my best friend!!!
    I don’t know what I should do bc when I told his sister she freaked out. I really like him but I think this will ruin our friendship!!! WHAT DO I DO??

  • Swaggygalz

    Thanx but I’m not sure he likes all use a few of those tips but he is to hot for me I think sooooooo hot. :)

  • Umm….No.

    Hi. I’m in middle school right now, and I really like this guy that I’ve known for about three or four years. I’m like, seriously in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t know if he likes me back, but we’ve been friends for a while. He makes jokes around me a lot, and he likes to tease me too. But all guys do that in middle school, don’t they? I catch him staring at me every once in a while, and when I do, he smiles and looks away quickly. One of my friends said that he though that he had a girlfriend, but he’s never told me otherwise. Also, my friends know about this, and tease me about it when I’m around my crush. He might aleeady know I like him. What do I do? I’m so confused.

  • Layla

    This boy i liked move to Hawaiiii xD

  • lacel

    I like this guy he’s a few years older than me but we get along really well, him and i used to talk on messenger a lot but we just kinda stopped, I don’t wanna start the conversation but I do want to talk to him . what do I do?

  • jessica smith

    That’s so sad u need to make him like u get his attention as fast as u can, TRY OUT FOR CHEER WHERE MAKEUP BE AWSOME he’s probably avoiding u cause he got freaked out when he found out u like him so, U NEED TO MAKE HIM MISS U and GET HIS ATTENTOIN just don’t let him know u like him till he likes u then tell him, k

  • katelynn medeiros

    I’m Jessica smith actually, I just liked that name, anyway GET OUT THERE

  • katelynn medeiros

    I liked a guy name Gage and he likes me he’s just so shy, which is just ironic cause he’s on wrestling team HE WAS SO SHY he BLEW ME OFF AT SCHOOL and LIED TO ME ABOUT HAVING A TWIN and he lied about HAVING A BOYFRIEND and GOSSIPED ABOUT ME IN SCHOOL jus so he won’t make a fool of himself so I GOT MAD and I DITCHED HIM IN A TEXT, now I miss him so much I want him back! so IM TAKING THE ADVICE FROM JESSICA SMITH AND IM DOING EVERYTHING SHE SAYS I DIDENT MAKE CHEER BUT IM IN DANCE!!!! so I HOPE IT WORKS ill tell u if it worked or not, I go to Cimmoron high school in tenth grade

  • TaylerRae

    This article is really awful. Good, solid relationships come from a place of trust. If you go into it playing games (“…you have to remember to never make it obvious that you have a huge crush on him” is called PLAYING hard to get for a reason) and trying to be sneaky, it may build intimacy and lead to a relationship, but the intimacy is based on deception.

    If a guy genuinely likes you, games will not make him like you any more. If he doesn’t already like you, and you try these tips, he’s going to be after you because he likes the chase, not you.
    It’s the 21st century. If you like a guy, ask him out. If he likes you, he’ll say yes. Yes, it’s scary. But guys have been doing it forever and we are so much more fierce!

  • Dude

    I’m a guy this was awful. Sorry but this isn’t good advice