How to Flirt with a Guy without Really Flirting

How To Flirt With A Guy Without Really Flirting

Flirting is an art that some girls have, and some girls don’t. Ever met a girl who can get any guy she likes? Want to be that girl? Read this guide on how to flirt with a guy without making it obvious.

Some girls have it. And some girls don’t.

Knowing how to flirt with a guy is simple, if you really understand a guy’s mind.

Understanding how men flirt

Men, no matter what their age, love the idea of charming women.

They may be smooth talkers or nervous wrecks when it comes to communicating with women, but they all love the idea of charming women.

If you really want to know how to flirt with a guy, you need to understand this fact that guys are always excited to flirt with a girl.

But then again, guys aren’t going to flirt outrageously with every girl they meet.

Flirting is scary business for a guy. They can’t risk making a flirty move at a girl, unless she gives them a sign.

After all, a wrong move by the guy and he could be called a pervert or a sleazy git who throws himself at women.

How to flirt with a guy

One of the most important things to know before flirting with a guy is to let him know you’re warm and approachable, and a girl who wouldn’t mind a bit of flirting.

Guys may think twice before trying to flirt with girls, but if you follow these ten tips on how to flirt with a guy, you’ll have guys warming up and flirting with you all the time, even if they’re with their own girlfriend!

And you know this little secret, don’t you? Guys are drawn and attracted to a girl they can flirt with. So use these ten tips on flirting with a guy and work your magic, girl!

Remember, you don’t ever have to make the first move if you know these tips on how to flirt with a guy. Just follow these steps, and you can make any guy you like flirt with you without ever making the first move. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]

#1 Smile, blush and be coy

Guys love a girl who’s happy and full of positivity. And guys especially love a girl who smiles and laughs when she’s having a conversation with them. Don’t be arrogant, rude or pass cocky comments when you’re with the guy you want to flirt with. Guys stay away from girls who behave this way, even if they’re attractive looking.

Be warm and approachable, and have a nice time when you’re talking to a guy. Smile a lot and blush when he compliments you, and we assure you his heart will skip a beat!

#2 Compliment him and thank him

Guys love compliments, and compliments are one of the stepping stones of a happy flirty conversation. If you like something about a guy, make sure you compliment him for that. He would love the fact that you noticed something nice about him, and furthermore, he’d go out of his way to have a flirty conversation with you.

And likewise, if he’s being rather courteous or chivalrous, thank him with a warm smile.

When you acknowledge a guy’s chivalry or gestures positively, he’ll try harder to please you. And along the way, he’ll be warmer and will flirt more, just to win your attention. [Read: How to get a guy to like you]

#3 Stare into his eyes

One of the secrets of knowing how to flirt with a guy is to indulge in everything that someone in love does. You don’t really need to be in love with him to win his heart, you just need to be happy and excited to be with him. [Read: Is he the one for you?]

The next time you’re having a conversation with a guy you like, look into his eyes deeply and smile as he’s talking to you. It may confuse him or make him feel awkward, but a deep eye contact and a happy smile will definitely leave him weak in his knees.

#4 Be expressive

Have you ever seen Nigella Lawson on her show? She may be over fifty, but that woman can have any guy on his knees with just her feminine, flirty expressions. Spend a few minutes in front of the mirror every day and work on your expressions. Learn to use your eyes and your facial expressions to your advantage, and you won’t really need words to impress a guy and make him flirt with you.

Learn to flutter your eyelids, work your smile and your little happy expressions, and va-va-voom! You’ll be a flirty goddess no guy can ignore or deny.

And if you’re wondering if expressions can really make a difference, do you really think women like Angeline Jolie, Elisha Cuthbert and Brande Roderick were born with those awe inspiring flirty expressions? It may take a few weeks or months, but learning to use your expressions to your advantage can change your life forever.

#5 Do that thing with your hair

Now don’t ask us why, but guys are suckers for great hair. Perhaps, it’s because they can’t play flirty with their hair like women can. But guys love it when women run their hands through their hair.

The next time you’re in the middle of a conversation, you can run your hands through your hair to show off your confidence or tuck your hair behind your ears with your fingers to show off your sexy cuteness. But whatever you do, it’ll only make a guy’s jaw drop in awe.

#6 Tease him

If you really want to know how to flirt with a guy, you should also learn to put him down in jest, or make him work harder to impress you. You can’t always put him on a pedestal using happy words.

If his joke isn’t really funny, say it. If he’s trying too hard, say it. Pull a guy down a few notches once in a while, and he’ll only overdo himself to prove himself to you. Always remember this, if you want to successfully flirt with a guy and make him like you, you have to make him feel special. But the flirty game still has to be in your control. [Read: How to make him want you]

You should make him feel nice, but teasing him in jest or putting him down once in a rare while gives him something to fight for. You know how competitive men are, use it against him and he’ll only try harder.

#7 Don’t be loud or brash

Almost all manly guys with raging testosterones like a girly girl. You don’t need to act like a dainty princess out of a fairy tale all the time, but when you’re having a conversation with a guy, try to be subtle and feminine, be it in your voice or the way you dress.

This may seem rude, but a brash or loud girl is actually more of a turn off for guys than anything else.

#8 Touch him now and then

This is one of the best ways to make a guy desire you and want to flirt with you. Men just can’t help but go weak in the knees when a girl they’re flirting with, touches them. It’s involuntary, but every time a girl touches a guy, either on his arm or his shoulder, the guy opens up more and feels more comfortable to talk to the girl or flirt with her.

Learn to touch a guy now and then while talking to him and you’ll see how easy it will be to make him flirt with you in minutes! [Read: How to flirt by touching]

#9 Be girly

You don’t have to act like a school girl to win a guy’s heart, but if you want a guy to start flirting with you, you need to make him feel like he can protect you. Men have always been the hunters and the protectors through evolution. So if you want him to be drawn to you, you need to let him take the lead at least for a few minutes.

Men like to take the lead, be it asking a girl out or flirting with her, so just play it easy and wait for him to start flirting with you. After all, you don’t want to start flirting before he does and risk a chance of getting blown off, do you?

And ahem, something to think about… if you were in the sitcom, Community, do you think it would be easier to flirt with Britta or Annie? As annoying as it may seem, you do know what works with guys now, don’t you? [Read: How to turn on a guy while talking]

#10 Make him feel special

If you’ve understood how to flirt with a guy, you’d know how important it is to make a guy you’re flirting with feel special. Now, you don’t need to do anything new here, but you need to remember that when you make a guy feel special, he’d get attracted to you and would want to be with you.

Make him feel special with your smile and your expressions, and your compliments and your flirty touches, and any guy you like would want to flirt with you and would find you desirable in no time. [Read: How to ask a guy out the classy way]

These ten tips on how to flirt with a guy are all the tips you’d need to flirt with a guy without really flirting at all! Use them, and you’ll see the difference in the very next conversation.

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38 thoughts on “How to Flirt with a Guy without Really Flirting”

  1. yvonne says:

    hey i need help!!!
    i really like this guy and we are going to the movies with a group of friends, what are some ways i can get his attention without looking desperate?

  2. Ice says:

    The best website with tips, ever!!!!

  3. megz says:

    So, I thought this was all pretty great stuff, except for one tiny part: “Blush when he compliments you.” I’m sorry, is it just me or does any one else not have conscious control over the surface capillaries of their face? I’d love to be able to blush on command, and in a pretty way, too, not the “my face feels like it’s going to burn off and probably looks like a tomato” way, but it must just not be part of my genetic make up. If you have any tips on how to blush on command in just the apples of your cheeks, I would be SO happy. But until then…

  4. Morgan says:

    These are great tips on how to flirt. The best part is that anyone can use them and with practice any girl can be a master at flirting with guys! Thank you so much for this.

  5. Heather says:

    Seriously best flirting article I’ve ever read. It’s so accurate!

  6. Annie says:

    Omg this totally worked for me!

  7. annabelle says:

    omg I am going to try it! hope it works! wish me luck!

  8. breakherlegs says:

    @megz Oh God. Your comment made me lose my shit. XD

  9. lola says:

    I have been seeing this guy for 2 years, he never wanted a relationship but it was a good company with benefits as he would call it. He knew that I wanted to commit so I brought it up numerous times as he shows me these mixed messages. We have a great chemistry but he doesn’t speak much well he never used to he’s opening up more now but not about his emotions. Recently we decided to give “commiting” to one another a go but he’s still the same doesn’t talk much I don’t know whether he really wants this and I dont feel like bombarding him with 21q again about how he feels or what he wants

  10. Lucy says:

    I really like this guy but idk if he likes me? Any tips on knowing if a guy likes you or not?

  11. Ashley says:

    I like this guy but I can’t talk to him and every time he says anything to me the only thing I can do is smile and laugh and I can’t say anything

  12. olivia says:

    Well being asked out is weird if a boy asked you out during school at a awkward time is weird . It would be better for a boy to ask me out during lunch .

  13. Isa says:

    Um I know this rather loud and brash girl and she is super cute and popular with guys. I wouldn’t make the assumption that guys are turned off by girls that are too loud or outgoing

  14. Haley says:

    So there is this guy at my high school. I am a Freshman and he is a Sophmore. I really REALLY like him and he does too…but he also likes two other girls. One is older than him and one lives out of state. I totally understand this and can relate to, but I really want him to like me specifically. He’s nice, chivalrous, funny, nerdy, handsome, and everything I look for in a guy. Any suggestions?

  15. Raquel says:

    @Hayley Just tell him how you feel. If he likes you, as you say he does, than he will choose you over the others. Remember: the early bird gets the worm. If you keep waiting one of those other girls might confess their feelings first, and snatch him away from you. For all you know he might want you more than both of them, but is afraid you might not feel the same about him anymore; or even to begin with. Be brave and show him you care.

  16. Nora says:

    So… Basically pretend to be stupider, faker, fluffier and girlier than you are?

  17. Kat says:

    How do you attract a boy who has every girl crawling on him???

  18. Nahhh says:

    This article pissed me off. I’m the confidant type who enjoys making the first step and taking the lead, but I guess I just have to kill my entire personality in order to get a man to like me. Jesus fucking Christ.

  19. Zoey says:

    So I’ve tried some of these tips and others I think r just over the top depending on ur age . But thank u so much the actually work . I’ve liked this guy for a while now but neither of us would make the first move but after a few flirty tips we defiantly have something blooming . But girls always remember if this is not who u r be careful because u can stop the flirting once u got the guy u have to keep it up to keep him interested so don’t change urself .. Just upgrade ๐Ÿ™‚

  20. Myours says:

    Awesome…..exteamly helpful..!:)

  21. Ash says:

    Great information can’t wait til he is bent over his knees for me

  22. Adam says:

    One of my friends asked me for advice on how to flirt with guys and I found this article.Honestly, I’m the type of guy who prefers a girl like that over all the stuff in this article. This is more of one girl’s success story than it is understanding male psychology. Not all men like this stuff, some do, but you likely don’t want a man who does for the same reason I don’t want a girl who acts like this. It is more important to have someone who wants you than it is to simply have someone if you have to act like someone else to get them.

  23. X says:

    ok so I like one of my guy friends a lot. and I finally got the guts to tell him and he said he liked me and now he and I are really close and talk a lot, but not in person. idk I get so nervous now when I go up to him and I don’t even know why. because before, we talked all the time and now it just seems awkward. it’s not the same and what should I do?

  24. xx says:

    I’m sorry but this article made me so upset. This is the exact opposite of feminism. It’s telling girls to be more quiet and the men are the “hunters and protectors”. That men like girls who aren’t brash and loud. It’s telling us not to get in his way and to catch his attention by being shy and flustered easily. Telling us to be more feminine than we are. Flirting shouldn’t require changing your personality. If you really want to make a relationship work, don’t fake it, or you might be stuck faking it for the rest of your relationship. This post is unhealthy and sets an unrealistic model for women. It makes them second think their personality. Please think about this in the next article you post.

  25. The Truth Hurts says:

    Never feel bad for going for what you want. Some guys don’t like fake flirtation, we like when you tell us exactly what you want in life and if you’re going after us we’ll gladly accept your advances (unless we’re a loyal to another person). I personally like a woman to skip over childish games and just tell me she loves my body and face and personality and wants to “hang out” with me after work. I personally like minor flirtation with a huge dose of telling me exactly what you want so I can decide if I’m down with that.

  26. The Truth Hurts says:

    You’re doomed. Chances are he enjoys leading women around like puppets because he has the ability to. It’s built into his ego. You’re going to have to step it up 10 notches to be better than those silly bitches.

  27. The Truth Hurts says:

    You need to take it to a higher level, might have to compliment something about him and say something that lets him know you’re not just keeping him in friend zone. You need to show him that you don’t want him to only be in friend zone but don’t go too fast or it might give him the slut vibe causing him to flee. I don’t know your age so I can’t tell you what he might want at that age.

  28. The Truth Hurts says:

    You could smile and hold your breath until your face turns red then carefully breathe again without exhaling or inhaling too hard to give it away that you were holding your breath. Either that or just stare into his eyes and smile, he will know you enjoyed the compliment.

  29. The Truth Hurts says:

    So, 4 years has passed since your question. Did you get that guy’s attention or are you already married with kids?

  30. Namra says:

    I like my best friends brother and he is 13 I don’t even know what to do he is just so HOT I can’t say my best friend does know and she promises not to tell her brother that I have a HUGE crush on him . She said that he has already got a girlfriend and I was so mad about that but the she said that when he takes her to dance class he stays as well because there are fit girls there she says , but I don’t get it why would you be looking at fit girls if you supposedly already have a girlfriend ? One day I will get over my fear and make a move . ????

  31. Milky says:

    That’s why you’re single you feminist. The article was on flirting not on maintaining a relationship. Go ahead with your aggressive man hating independent woman crap and be miserable.

  32. Malina says:

    The fuck? Where’s anything about man hating? What’s agressive here? Who says being single equals being miserable? She’s just upset that we’re expected to be fake to be attractive.

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