You think he’s interested in you, yet, you’re still waiting for him to do something. What’s up with that? Here’s how to make the first move on a guy.
Men can be weird. They’re showing you some clear signs that they’re interested in you, but when it’s time to ask you out or get your number, nothing happens. Listen, it’s not you, it’s them. But, really, it’s them.
How to make the first move on a guy – 15 strategies that work!
Just like women, men can suffer from nerves as well. I mean, everything is dumped on the guy to do. He has to approach the woman, ask her out, fear rejection, come up with a creative date idea, start conversation, and on top of it, possibly make a move at the end of the night. Now, that’s some major pressure if you ask me.
Not all guys are going to pounce on you for your number, so you’ll need to be the one to take charge. Here’s how to make the first move on a guy.
#1 Look at the signs. Does he laugh at your jokes, make eye contact with you, or touch you subtly? You know the signs when a guy is interested in you. What you need to do is pay attention when you’re with your guy and see if he’s displaying those signs. [Read: Does he like me? 18 signs to decode his body language]
#2 Read his body language. If he’s leaning into you and mirroring your body movements, well, it’s looking like he’s interested. Now, it’s not 100% certain, but usually when people mirror those that they’re into, that means they like them. Also, you don’t lean into people that you don’t want near you because that wouldn’t be giving off the right sign. See what I mean?
#3 Be casual. He may really like you, but he’s nervous… like the guy is freaking out right now. So, to remove the extra pressure he’s putting on himself, you need to play it cool and make him feel comfortable. Keep it nice and casual. The less pressure he feels, the better. Something to remember when you are learning how to make the first move on a guy. [Read: 13 charming ways to be more approachable to guys]
#4 Is he single? I’ve spoken to a couple guys, and then later found out they had a girlfriend. What a great waste of time. I mean, I wouldn’t ignore them because they’re in a relationship. But if I knew, I would have definitely cut the conversation shorter. What am I going to do with a guy who’s taken? Nothing! So, make sure he’s not being friendly because he’s going home to someone else.
#5 Don’t show jealousy. If another girl approaches him and starts chatting him up, don’t show your jealousy. I know you’re jealous, who wouldn’t be? But you’re going to swallow it and look like you’re not at all jealous. It could be a co-worker or a friend, and the last thing you need is to be giving crazy eyes to her in front of him. He’ll run away if he sees that.
#6 If you get rejected, keep moving. If you want to know how to make the first move on a guy, then you have to be prepared for possible rejection. Rejection is normal.
Not every guy is going to be interested in you, and honestly, that’s for the best. Imagine if every guy liked you? You’d never get anywhere. So, if the guy you’ve been eyeing finds someone else or is in a relationship, move on. [Read: Can a girl ask a guy out before he asks her out?]
#7 Show you’re interested. Show that you like him. If he’s showing the body language and signs that he’s interested, do it back. Touch his arm, flirt, and make eye contact. Show that you’re interested. But, there’s a line between interest and desperation, so be careful.
#8 Don’t point out that you’re making a move. He may be nervous or shy, and that’s why he’s hesitant about making the first move. So, you’re making it instead, which is great. However, don’t go rubbing it in his face that you’re the one making the first move. It’s not exactly a confidence booster. Plus, who cares if you make the first move? You don’t get an award for it.
#9 Don’t use a wing-woman. You can approach a guy on your own. If he’s with another friend, don’t worry, his friend will get the hint and make use of his time. He doesn’t need a babysitter. Plus, it makes it look like you’re hunting. Which isn’t a bad thing, depending on what you’re looking for. [Read: How to be the most approachable girl at the bar]
#10 Stay away from groups. Men would never approach a group of women and start hitting on one. They know the golden rule. Groups are just generally a bad idea. Plus, if his friends don’t like you, they’ll tell him. So, wait until he’s alone so he can make the choice himself.
#11 Have a movie night. If you’re already friends or have gone out and nothing has happened, invite him over for a movie night. You know what that means, he knows what that means, we all know what it means. It’s the two of you on a couch, under a blanket, watching a movie you’ve both seen. There’s no escape, and he’ll know it’s coming. [Read: 20 foolproof ways to ask a guy out on a date – that he’ll love]
#12 Sip on that champagne. You two can always go out for a drink. Having a glass of wine will help calm the nerves of both of you. At the end of the day, it’s just the nerves playing around with you, preventing you from moving forward. Alcohol is a good way to lighten the mood. Just don’t end up the white girl wasted.
#13 Take them somewhere romantic. Whether he’s picking you up or you’re the one driving, suggest a romantic spot. Possibly somewhere with a sunset? Someplace where you two will be alone and can enjoy yourselves without any distractions. I mean, what else can you do besides watching the sun go down? [Read: How to attract a guy – 17 no-fail ways to make him stay forever]
#14 Kiss him anywhere but the lips. Your first move doesn’t have to be a kiss on the lips. You can kiss him on the cheek, or on the shoulder – it doesn’t have to be something sexual. It can be sweet. Once you open that realm, he’ll be able to take charge and give you that kiss you’ve been waiting for. [Read: How to get a guy to kiss you when you want him to]
#15 Get on the dance floor. There’s something about a heavy beat that makes your hips sway back and forth. It’s even better if there’s a guy dancing with you. Get him on the dance floor. It’ll be harmless at first, but once you two start syncing, well, how can he not touch you.