Wondering why you aren’t getting hit on as much as you’d like? Use these tips and tricks to appear approachable to men without coming off as too easy!
Contrary to what you may think, getting hit on or appearing approachable to men isn’t really a game of chance where you just have to wait it out.
And contrary to what most women think, you don’t have to do something outrageous or provocative to get a guy to walk up to you and say hello!
The truth is, if you understand a guy’s mind and what goes on in it before he approaches a girl, you could make any guy want to strike up a conversation with you within five minutes of stepping into a place!
#1 Look good! As shallow as this may sound, this is as simple as it can get. To a guy, approaching a girl is all about first appearances. When a guy walks into a room, it takes him less than a few glances to make up his mind on whether he wants to approach a girl or not.
#2 Don’t appear occupied. Don’t be too engrossed with your phone or a book, or something else. You may be bored and trying to keep yourself busy, but chances are, doing that will make the guy who wants to approach you back away because you appear too busy to be interested in a conversation with him.
Are you out of his league?
Now this goes against the first tip on looking good, but there’s also a drawback of looking too good for the guy! If you’re a stunner who looks gorgeous, all the guys around you may drool at you or try to sneak glances at you all the time, but most guys would feel too intimidated to approach you.
If there’s one thing guys fear more than anything else while approaching women, it’s the fear of rejection or worse, humiliation! Most guys may just assume you’re way above their league and they’re not worthy of your attention. Simply put, if you look very attractive, you’ll scare most guys away! [A good looking girl’s confession: Are we really so mean?]
But then again, on the other hand, the only guys who feel confident enough to approach you would be the guys who think they’re worthy of you *the alpha males, the achievers, and of course, the players!*.
So you want to catch a guy’s eye and make him walk up to you? Just use these 13 easy tips, and you’ll see that getting a guy to approach you and start a conversation with you can be one of the easiest things to do.
#1 The way you dress. Don’t dress up like you have nothing to hide. You’ll get everyone’s attention alright, but the only guys who would approach you are the ones who are looking for a quick one night stand. Of course, dressing provocatively would definitely help catch a nice guy’s eye, but only if your look is sensual and not blatantly sexual.
#2 Eye contact. Glance at him now and then, and make eye contact occasionally. But at the same time, don’t get too carried away and try to catch his eye all the time. He may just think you’re too easy and not care.
#3 The quick and slow look away. There are two ways to look at a guy and let him know you’re interested. And you can use them both depending on what feels comfortable for you.
The slow glance. When you’re glancing across the room, look towards him casually and make eye contact with him for a few seconds with a small smile. And then, slowly turn your head away and look towards something else. This is a more confident and bolder way of letting the guy know you’re interested.
The quick glance. And for the quick and coy approach, you could look towards him suddenly when he’s staring towards you, catch his eye, and immediately look at a friend or look down in an obvious manner. Smiling to yourself at that moment will only make you appear more cuter and sweeter in his eyes! [Read: 12 subtle eye contact flirting tips to get his heart racing!]
#4 Make it easy for him. It’s intimidating for a guy to approach a girl when she’s with a big group of friends. If your idea is to meet guys or get approached by them, try to spend time alone or probably with another girl friend.
#5 The right kind of places. Not all places create the perfect scenario for casual conversations. If you want a guy to approach you, pick a place that’s perfect for casual conversations where everyone in the room won’t turn their heads around to see what’s happening. Coffee shops, clubs, or book stores are perfect places with limitless opportunities for a guy to start a conversation with you.
#5 Give him opportunities to talk to you. Even if you’re in a group and you see a guy you like, make eye contact with him a few times. And when you feel like he’s ready to talk to you, walk away for a few minutes to look around or to order a drink at the bar by yourself.
#6 Smile. Appear warm and friendly, and your chances of getting approached by guys would rise multifold. Being likeable at first sight can be a huge advantage to any girl who wants to catch a guy’s eye! [Read: How to get anyone to like you at first sight]
#7 Don’t be bored. Have fun and be positive no matter where you are. Positivity draws positivity. And a happy girl draws happy guys who love their life. If you’re grumpy or appear stiff or bored, even a guy who really likes you may think twice about approaching you because you may seem boring and dull. [Read: 12 things guys love in a girl besides her appearance]
#8 Don’t be rude. If you’re rude to anyone, be it a waiter or one of your friends, odds are, the guy who wants to approach you would back away immediately. No one likes rude people, and no guy would want to strike a conversation with a girl who may snap at him or insult him for approaching her!
#9 Don’t hang out with guys! This is a big one that’s something you always need to remember. Don’t ever hang out with guy friends if you want to get approached by a guy. It’s just not going to happen! [Read: Why guy best friends are nothing but trouble]
#10 Show him you’re interested. Let him know that you’re interested in getting to know him better. Even if you’re talking to your friend and he’s sitting at the next table, look towards him when he looks at you even as you answer your friend.
#11 Show off your coy and girly side. Look at him now and then, and when you catch his eye, tuck your hair behind your ear, look down and smile to yourself. It may seem like a small gesture to you, but to a guy, it’s jackpot! [Read: Moves to attract men in a way they just can’t resist!]
#12 Tease him. Walk past him and make eye contact just as you walk past him. Tease him, and he’ll love the subtle attention!
#13 Don’t push it. You’re just embarrassing yourself if you push it too far. Guys aren’t dumb, and if you glance at him a few times or smile in his direction, he knows already that you’re ready to be approached.
So don’t throw yourself on the floor or flail your arms wildly to let him know you’re interested. Give him a few glances, a few smiles and use these tips to give him the opportunity to approach you. But if he doesn’t approach you in a while, chances are, he’s not going to approach you anytime soon whatever his reason may be.