Crushes may seem like a teenage thing. But even grownups experience it all the time. Find out how to get over a crush and have fun at the same time. By Layla Quinn
Crushes are a rollercoaster.
For a few moments, it can make you float on cloud nine.
But for the rest of the time, it can haunt you and torment you.
Almost always, a crush can make your life miserable and bring it to a standstill.
While it’s enjoyable and exciting for a few weeks, a long term crush can bring more nervousness and pain than happiness.
And the worst part, a serious crush can also strip you off your confidence and self respect.
How to get over a crush
Most people assume that they’re in love with their crush.
But it’s not love. Really, it’s not.
It won’t be love even if your crush starts to date you.
Crushes, just like love, always starts with infatuation. And when you have a crush on someone, big chances are, you’re just madly attracted to them and nothing more.
No matter what your age, you’re definitely going to get a crush on many people in your life. If you interact with new members of the opposite sex, you may even have a new crush every week.
And guess what, people in love get crushes too!
A crush is nothing but an appreciation of beauty or certain traits that you admire in someone else, especially the opposite sex.
Getting a crush on someone is easy. But getting over a crush, well, that’s a whole new story. [Read: What is unrequited love really?]
Tips to get over a crush and have fun doing it!
For some people, getting over a crush is easy. You like someone, and then you forget all about it.
But for many people, a crush is more serious. You may like someone and see them now and then. And each time you see them, you start to like them a little more.
Having an uncontrollable crush on someone is never good, especially if you can’t handle it or if it interferes with your daily life.
If you have a crush on someone and feel like you need to put an end to it or deal with it in a better way, here are 10 tips to do that and have fun along the way!
#1 Start liking someone else. Get a crush on someone else. You have to remember that crushes are nothing but temporary moments of mad infatuation. Just start finding someone else attractive and desirable and you’ll completely overcome your earlier crush. [Read: How a rebound relationship can be good for you]
Anyone with a bit of experience with getting over crushes will tell you that the easiest way to get over a crush is to get a new crush on someone else. Pretty soon, you’ll just get over any crush you have whenever you want to.
#2 Talk about your crush with your friends. Sometimes, an addiction can be overcome when you fill yourself up to the brim and feel sick about it. It’s like getting drunk and suffering a hangover the next morning. Don’t bottle your feelings up and assume they’ll go away. Sometimes, they’ll just secretly grow inside of you. Instead, talk about it like it’s a funny and trivial affair so you start to treat it like it’s nothing more than a little crush.
#3 Don’t think about your crush. Talk about your crush with your friends, but don’t think of this person when you’re alone. Spending hours fantasizing about your hopeless romance will take you nowhere. If you find yourself getting distracted by thoughts of your crush, occupy yourself with a good game or a show on the telly. [Read: Tips to stop thinking about someone you really like]
#4 Speak to your crush. The most painful of crushes are the ones that are never spoken about. If you want the crush to wane away, brave yourself up and strike a conversation with your crush. When you start talking to your crush after getting introduced by someone else, you may start to realize that your crush isn’t such a fine catch anyway!
#5 Ask your crush out on a date. If your crush accepts your proposal, it’s even better. If they decline you, you can force yourself to move on. Crushes are little fantasies that we create in our head to make ourselves happy. When you do ask a crush out, you’ll be forced to face reality and ask yourself if you really do want to date them after all.
#6 Flirt with someone else. Start flirting with someone else, be it a friend or another crush. You’ll almost always forget about your crush as soon as you start having a good time with someone else.
#7 Don’t revolve your world around your crush. Would your crush like the new dress you’re picking up? Would your crush like your new hairstyle or bag the next time you bump into them? Seriously, stop obsessing about your crush and revolving your world around them. I’m telling you again, just get a crush on someone else or meet someone who likes you too. [Read: 20 reasons why someone may never like you back]
Avoid stalking your crush online on facebook or in real life. It may seem like fun for a few moments, but it’ll always make you feel like a lost cause once the distraction is gone.
#8 Don’t place your crush on a pedestal. Watch your crush and see their flaws. Could you really date someone like this? When you genuinely test both your compatibilities and are convinced that you can’t really date this person in reality, you’ll realize that this person you like is just a little crush who is of no importance in your real life.
#9 Make someone else get a crush on you. Make eye contact with someone else. Create little moments that excite you and make butterflies flit in your stomach. This new person doesn’t have to look as attractive as your crush. They only need to give you the attention you need and crave. When you find this new person exchanging glances with you, you’ll think better about yourself, feel more confident and get over your crush too. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact moves that always work]
#10 Deal with it. Always avoid the mystery of the scary “what might have been”. Do something about your crush, get an answer and move on. Unless you deal with your big crush in some manner, you’ll always have a crush and a big regret. End it by confessing or getting over it. You’ll feel so much better for the rest of your life. Or years later, you’ll still find yourself spending several minutes now and then wondering about “what if…” and “why didn’t I take a chance…”
If you have a crush on someone and you’re having a hard time getting over it, let the word get out that you like this person. If you don’t have the confidence to ask them out directly, ask a good friend to drop the word to a common friend, and see how your crush reacts. As with everything in life, sometimes hearing the truth from the horse’s mouth is always the best solution. [Read: Why does love hurt when it goes bad?]
Just use these 10 tips on how to get over a crush and you’ll definitely feel a lot better about yourself, and get your life back in order too. And the next time you get a crush on someone else, you’ll learn to enjoy it instead of regretting it!
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