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How to Get Over A Crush and Have Fun Doing It

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Crushes may seem like a teenage thing. But even grownups experience it all the time. Find out how to get over a crush and have fun at the same time.

Crushes are a rollercoaster.

For a few moments, it can make you float on cloud nine.

But for the rest of the time, it can haunt you and torment you.

Almost always, a crush can make your life miserable and bring it to a standstill.

While it’s enjoyable and exciting for a few weeks, a long term crush can bring more nervousness and pain than happiness.

And the worst part, a serious crush can also strip you off your confidence and self respect.

[Read: Do you have a crush or is it limerence?]

How to get over a crush

Most people assume that they’re in love with their crush.

But it’s not love. Really, it’s not.

It won’t be love even if your crush starts to date you.

Crushes, just like love, always starts with infatuation. And when you have a crush on someone, big chances are, you’re just madly attracted to them and nothing more.

[Read: The real truth about love at first sight]

No matter what your age, you’re definitely going to get a crush on many people in your life. If you interact with new members of the opposite sex, you may even have a new crush every week.

And guess what, people in love get crushes too!

A crush is nothing but an appreciation of beauty or certain traits that you admire in someone else, especially the opposite sex.

Getting a crush on someone is easy. But getting over a crush, well, that’s a whole new story. [Read: What is unrequited love really?]

Tips to get over a crush and have fun doing it!

For some people, getting over a crush is easy. You like someone, and then you forget all about it.

But for many people, a crush is more serious. You may like someone and see them now and then. And each time you see them, you start to like them a little more.

Having an uncontrollable crush on someone is never good, especially if you can’t handle it or if it interferes with your daily life.

If you have a crush on someone and feel like you need to put an end to it or deal with it in a better way, here are 10 tips to do that and have fun along the way!

#1 Start liking someone else. Get a crush on someone else. You have to remember that crushes are nothing but temporary moments of mad infatuation. Just start finding someone else attractive and desirable and you’ll completely overcome your earlier crush. [Read: How a rebound relationship can be good for you]

Anyone with a bit of experience with getting over crushes will tell you that the easiest way to get over a crush is to get a new crush on someone else. Pretty soon, you’ll just get over any crush you have whenever you want to.

#2 Talk about your crush with your friends. Sometimes, an addiction can be overcome when you fill yourself up to the brim and feel sick about it. It’s like getting drunk and suffering a hangover the next morning. Don’t bottle your feelings up and assume they’ll go away. Sometimes, they’ll just secretly grow inside of you. Instead, talk about it like it’s a funny and trivial affair so you start to treat it like it’s nothing more than a little crush.

#3 Don’t think about your crush. Talk about your crush with your friends, but don’t think of this person when you’re alone. Spending hours fantasizing about your hopeless romance will take you nowhere. If you find yourself getting distracted by thoughts of your crush, occupy yourself with a good game or a show on the telly. [Read: Tips to stop thinking about someone you really like]

#4 Speak to your crush. The most painful of crushes are the ones that are never spoken about. If you want the crush to wane away, brave yourself up and strike a conversation with your crush. When you start talking to your crush after getting introduced by someone else, you may start to realize that your crush isn’t such a fine catch anyway!

#5 Ask your crush out on a date. If your crush accepts your proposal, it’s even better. If they decline you, you can force yourself to move on. Crushes are little fantasies that we create in our head to make ourselves happy. When you do ask a crush out, you’ll be forced to face reality and ask yourself if you really do want to date them after all.

#6 Flirt with someone else. Start flirting with someone else, be it a friend or another crush. You’ll almost always forget about your crush as soon as you start having a good time with someone else.

#7 Don’t revolve your world around your crush. Would your crush like the new dress you’re picking up? Would your crush like your new hairstyle or bag the next time you bump into them? Seriously, stop obsessing about your crush and revolving your world around them. I’m telling you again, just get a crush on someone else or meet someone who likes you too. [Read: 20 reasons why someone may never like you back]

Avoid stalking your crush online on facebook or in real life. It may seem like fun for a few moments, but it’ll always make you feel like a lost cause once the distraction is gone.

#8 Don’t place your crush on a pedestal. Watch your crush and see their flaws. Could you really date someone like this? When you genuinely test both your compatibilities and are convinced that you can’t really date this person in reality, you’ll realize that this person you like is just a little crush who is of no importance in your real life.

#9 Make someone else get a crush on you. Make eye contact with someone else. Create little moments that excite you and make butterflies flit in your stomach. This new person doesn’t have to look as attractive as your crush. They only need to give you the attention you need and crave. When you find this new person exchanging glances with you, you’ll think better about yourself, feel more confident and get over your crush too. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact moves that always work]

#10 Deal with it. Always avoid the mystery of the scary “what might have been”. Do something about your crush, get an answer and move on. Unless you deal with your big crush in some manner, you’ll always have a crush and a big regret. End it by confessing or getting over it. You’ll feel so much better for the rest of your life. Or years later, you’ll still find yourself spending several minutes now and then wondering about “what if…” and “why didn’t I take a chance…”

If you have a crush on someone and you’re having a hard time getting over it, let the word get out that you like this person. If you don’t have the confidence to ask them out directly, ask a good friend to drop the word to a common friend, and see how your crush reacts. As with everything in life, sometimes hearing the truth from the horse’s mouth is always the best solution. [Read: Why does love hurt when it goes bad?]

Just use these 10 tips on how to get over a crush and you’ll definitely feel a lot better about yourself, and get your life back in order too. And the next time you get a crush on someone else, you’ll learn to enjoy it instead of regretting it!

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36 thoughts on “How to Get Over A Crush and Have Fun Doing It”

  1. Justin Mazza says:

    Crushes will eventually pass. Just remember to not get “crazed” about your emotions towards another. Also, try talking to the person you have a crush on, who knows, maybe they like you too.

  2. Lali says:

    I really felt good. This is informative. I appreciate the idea of “Flirt with someone else.”

  3. Jessica says:

    I’m going to start using those tips above and hopefully they can help me overcome my crush. I fall for guys really easy and it’s disappointing when they lose interest in me. When I have a crush I usually spend most of my time day dreaming about what it would be like with them and it takes up most of my time. It’s kind of embarrassing if they knew how much I was thinking about them. Hopefully I can stop my long lasting crushes that I have in guys who aren’t serious about me

  4. Cindy says:

    I have this really big crush on someone since 6th grade. But ever since i noticed that he liked someone else, i’ve tried to forget him. Once i got him out of my mind, i started thinking about him the next day. I’ve been trying to forget him for almost a week, and i still can’t. So today, i was searching ‘how to get over your crush’ and this website gave me some really interesting tips

  5. Lauren says:

    This is not always true. Once I had a crush from 3rd grade until my freshman year of highshool! So although not all crushes are short term these tips still work very well.

  6. Laney says:

    This is terrible, terrible advice. Manipulating other people’s feelings to make yourself feel better about your own hangups is not the way to go. Seriously. Trying not to think about it will make you think about it more. Prolonging contact with your crush will make the crush worse. Making someone else get a crush on you to distract yourself is just mean. Either ask your crush out or avoid them until your feelings peter out.

  7. Kwitshadie says:

    It’s not possible to control your thoughts. Thoughts are automatic electrical impulses flashing around your neurons. It IS possible, however, to stand back and LOOK at your thoughts with the sensible part of your brain, and say to yourself, “There go those crush thoughts again.” This is the whole point of meditation. Learn it.

    Recognize that your fantasy of the perfect person that you’re unlikely to have to deal with in real life is protecting you from doing the hard work of waiting for a real partner to turn up in the messy, unpredictable, and cruel business of the real world. With a nice, safe crush you can simply adore tyour idealized paragon from afar without having to deal with the frustration of crushless waiting or the disappointments of being with a real human being.

    Engage your brain – if you catch yourself sinking into obsessive thoughts, get out that material you meant to master and get started – become knowledgeable about fine wines, or the technical side of dinghy sailing, or whatever. Even for fun things when you’re happy it’s difficult to get up and make that first step – e.g. pick up the book or get your feet out the door. Once you get past the inertia, you’re on your way.

    If you’ve shown your hand and been rejected, then congratulations for reaching out and asking for what you want; for opening your mouth and spitting it out. People who don’t ask for what they want don’t get very much. And it beats mooning for a decade. If you got rejected, even if it hurts or you feel foolish, you are still fundamentally ok. They are feelings and they WILL go away.

    Here comes the fun part – harness the crush for a good cause – recognize the extra inspiration as the gift it is for the determination to lose stubborn excess pounds, get into shape, or step up your game in some other enriching way.

    I love to experience the thrill of being around The (Not) One and giggling with my trusted BFF about it. Just keep it in perspective. Crushes are a nuisance but you have to admit life would be dull without them.

  8. PLO says:

    I have developed a serious crush on the guy who lives right above me! This is horrific.i hear him have crazy sex with his girlfriend/(s?) and i fantasize about having sex with him.I hear him playing music watching tv etc. I don’t know why I am attracted to him as he is not even my type but I have never felt this way before. It is painful.Even though I only see him in passing once a month I hear him every night. I can’t avoid that. I really need some advice! SOS!

  9. Call me John says:

    Getting a new crush isn’t easy as 1-2-3. I’m sticking to a couple of crushes, the oldest of which I developed 12 years ago (high school), even though I haven’t seen those people in years. Their names play an infinite loop in my head and I fantasize about them all the time. Problem is, I haven’t developed any new crushes in the last 5 years and all the old ones are in relationships or married now. Some even have kids. I just found out today that my last lifeline (the one major crush that I thought was still single) is now in a serious relationship. I really want to get over these, and I also really want to develop new crushes (but not real relationships) to replace them, but it just doesn’t seem to happen 🙁

  10. LS says:

    I am having a dillema.i have a feeling in this guy who is in his 20’s and I am in my 30’s! I see him once a week because we are classmates in one subject.My feeling is so strong! and I am scared because he has no idea about it.

  11. Judy says:

    Interesting points. However having someone else develop a crush on you is just cruel.

    Kwitshadie, Great advice. I am saving your post, so I can read it whenever I start obsessing!

  12. Mandy says:

    This was quite interesting. I personally think that going from crush to crush is NOT the solution to getting rid of a crush because it just creates a never ending cycle. I also did want to add my opinion about telling your crush. I don’t always think it’s best to tell them…. it can be a bad thing and you might regret it later in life, I’ve had an awkward moment of telling someone I had a crush and it ended terribly.. anyways just wanted to give a different perspective, I just don’t think you can have too much fun getting over a crush, but hey that’s just me.

  13. mija says:

    i have managed to ruin my life jus coz of crazy crushes!!!!!!!!!..
    and sadly im attracted to the perfect looking men as in pretty men!! … n they dont end up falling in love with me!!.. no im not ugly !!.. just may be i might be looking for the right person n havent still found him!! ..
    n yeah most of my crushes have been devastating on me!!… one’s rejection even sent me to 4 yrs of depression which i didnt know i was coz i was in denial all the time that this guy actually liked me n is just pertending to be with someone else!! 😛 😛
    yeah i know it sounds crazy!!… n it took me some time n sane mind to realise wat actually had happened!!

    so anways just saying that crushes for me are he hardest things!!.. i can just get obsessed with a person !!… like i am now with a pop artist !! i kinda fell for him accidently when i thought he was the person i was dating online when i actually discovered that he was some euro asian pop artist !!.. gosh it was a holoucaust for me coz i actually fell for this guy!!… n now am in love with the artist!!.. coz he is actually good!!.. (since im a misic freak !!) n just is sometimes confusing when i see him coz i feel like i actually spoke to him!!.. when its not!!! ,.. so help me!!! …

  14. Ben says:

    Best way away from a crush is not ot have one in the first place. Get the shields up. The opposite sex will try to drag you in with signals just to feed their own egos, shield this and get the real truth out by being completely platonic with them but smiley and friendly…but never expect anything. If you like them, then ask them out at the earliest opportunity so that when they say no, you will know the truth and can move on. Your mind will be good at moving on once truth is known. If you struggle and try to deduce from behaviour andeveryday communication your crush wil guess worse while it bounds around in the unknown. Keep the shields up, do not be naive.

  15. Diana says:

    I’m having a crush on someone who is younger than me at school. Exams is nearer but I keep fantasize about him every single time. We bumped up with each other so many times and it feels awkward whenever I walked beside him and I started to act strangely even I tried to act normally. I think he realised that I’m having a crush over him because he talked to my friends but not to me and that worries me the most! Tbh, I hate this feeling and I hope it will go away really fast so then I can live happily without thinking on how to act or where to look whenever he is around 🙂

  16. Chrissy S says:

    Ughh I want to get over crushes so badly… It usually happens when that guy gets out of my life!! I had a crush at age 5 I think he waste neighbor. Next was at age 10 I had a crush on guy.. I forgot anything that has to do with him beside his face and name! Now I wanna get rid of my new crush..my friend who I seem to spend a lot of time and suddenly he stopped and I started thinking about him before that I noticed little details on the change of fashion of his. That’s because he has a crush on someone…who is not me,sadly. Now he doesn’t talk to me anymore and neither do I.. I miss our usual fun times *sigh

  17. Marsha T says:

    I had a crush on someone since I was 11 and now I am 22. Back when I wanted to be a writer I wrote a story that I let him know that I liked him before I moved to another and found out the feeling was mutual. Story ended with me coming to visit after college to pick up where we left off to only find out he was married with kids. Thus the end of my crush/fantasy.

    He’s so high on a pedestal I couldn’t really see myself with anyone else that my ex had soccer, 1988, attitude, etc in common! My crush is 11 years strong and it seems my story is developing; he has gf of 3 years and they just moved in together!
    So I’ve decided this is silly I want a real relationship and he’s hindering me. I contacted him anonymously and let him know Ive had a crush on him and wanted to know if he felt the same in the PAST. He kindly answered after i revealed my identity and said he Never felt that way. Bummer, but it felt good to finally know the truth. Now i truly feel i can move on!

  18. Bruce V says:

    how do you get over some one you have loved forever. I have always liked my mates younger sister. Not sure when it happened, but it happened yrs ago. I thought she was beautiful. She was funny, nice. I loved being near her. No one make me laugh like she does, we laugh so much I get sore cheeks. I have seen her dry over the years a few times, and when I do it breaks my heart. She has been married, separated and now in another relationship, same with me. I am single again. I have relationships, but they don’t last. Felt like this for 35yrs. Saw her last weekend. All those feelings toward her are still there. Probably one of the few that I want to be with, more than I want to have sex with her. I would do anything for her. When we parted, we hugged and she hugged me as hard as I hugged her. She is another relationship, and I cant tell her how I feel, I could never break up a relationship. just wrong… I use to think its just a silly crush… you will get over it.. When ever I see her, I am high for days… if I don’t get over this I am going to be stuck like this forever…. I think that she also has feelings for me… but I am so close to her family. Her brother is still one of my best mates, I go to all of the major birthdays and weddings etc. The parents have always treated me like a 2nd son. They came to my first wedding. At the wedding she told me that she always thought it would us getting married. I did not say anything at the time..what could I say… I had just got married. I know I cant have another relationship while I feel this way…its not fair on the other person.

  19. Mango says:

    Most of these are good advice, except for #9, which makes no sense to me. First of all, I agree with other comments that it’s cruel. Secondly, if you could actually make someone develop a crush on you, couldn’t you just make your crush like you back?

    That being said, I’m dealing with a strong crush right now, and I know he doesn’t feel the same way about me. It makes me very sad to think that, so I’m trying to get over him. Good luck to all of you!

  20. Jake says:

    Really good article and great comments. Crushes definitely aren’t just for teenagers. I am 50 years old and I have a really strong crush on a woman that I work with. It’s been consuming my life for the past year. I asked her out a couple months ago, she declined and I now I just have to accept it and move on. It’s hard at any age but it’s comforting to know that I’m not alone.

  21. Ben says:

    Why is this information only available and relevant for women? Guys have crushes on women too, in fact I’d say more than women crush on men. I never find information online for guys who need to overcome a crush… However I still very much enjoyed this article thank you.

  22. Laxmi says:

    very informative article. Was going mad for some reason and this came as a solution

  23. borjy says:

    I’m not sure if I can apply all of these. But anyway this can really help me a lot.
    I just wanted to get over from him but until now I can’t. He has been my crush for a couple of years maybe 6 or 7. I don’t have the courage to tell him that I like him. But I really tried my best to tell him how I really feel it’s just I don’t know how to start a convoy about it. Can anyone help me?

  24. nivii says:

    Crushes crush you…

    In my new school ,i assumed this cute guy had crush on me.He would always talk sweetly and smile at me.I daydreamed about him for 4 months..,and started crushing on him.He has a girlfriend that did not stop me from falling for him.Finally my air castles burst when he came to the formals with his girlfriend.They looked so in love.I am heartbroken..

  25. Foti says:

    A girl was flirting with me, so I asked her out and she said no which was confusing because everytime we talked she was either giggling or flriting

  26. Andrea says:

    It seems that since I reached my 20s, I have been getting crushes so easily. I think it may be because of hormones that make people want to have babies. 99% of the guys aren’t even my type, but if I see them around enough – they can be. I hate not having control over who I like. I get akward/shy with my crushes (it’s can’t super obvious and help it). I wish I could just turn off my crushing!!!

  27. Jennifer Lawrence says:

    My crush is a difficult one because it’s the first time I’ve ever had a crush for a member of the same-sex.

    I’m in my 30’s and have been married for nearly a decade. And then this woman comes into my life and messes it all up. Oddly enough, it isn’t even a sexual crush.
    I don’t think about anything romantic with her.

    It’s like I want a platonic marriage with her with sex w/men on the side and it’s left me a mess. I’m also a tad angry that we’ve met one another and she’s going on with her life and yet here I am, feeling broken.

  28. XtremeXover says:

    Personally, I feel that the best way to move on is to let it go natural… Go on with your life… Don’t even try to think about moving on…. I tried to force myself to move on before personally, but all I ended up was thinking about my crush more….. For me personally I like don’t really care already, can move on move on…. If cannot then cannot…. Life goes on….

  29. marishka says:

    send him a love letter

  30. Anomolous says:

    I think you should either stop seeing her and get over her eventually or calm down and just be freinds. It depends on how you feel. Although I may not be the best resource as an almost-fifteen yearold, I can say from personal experience that a crush won’t go away or stop effecting your life unless you actively pursue it. Staying friends is easier but emotionally tougher in the longrun and breaking up can be harder but is the fastest and more surefire solution. I can’t say for sure which is better for you now but hopefully I helped.

    Please do tell if I was helpful, it would be good to know if my own advice feels valid for others too.

  31. Anomolous says:

    Ahmen, if I coupd control crushes my life would be far simpler, though less fun 😉

  32. Anomolous says:

    I’m sorry to hear that, but hopefully this article will help

  33. Anomolous says:

    Uuuuh, I’m a guy and I thought this was a pretty gender neutral article

  34. Anomolous says:

    Hard to say why, best solution may just he to ask her IMO

  35. Anomolous says:

    That’s realy rough, but I doubt it’s a crush after so long. I think you should wait until the moment is right, but don’t wait too pong, then tell her how you feel and have always felt. Worst case senario she says no and the torture you’ve clearly been experiencing will slow down and stop

  36. Anonomous says:

    I’ve had a crush for almost a year now on a girl in my grade, and I’ve been droling over her since. Since then we’ve become close friends abd (thankfully) she revealed that she felt uncomfortable in her given gender a few days before I was going to admit my feelings. We are good friends now but I havn’t gotten over her. For now though, I wait for my next crush to come along and hope for things to go smoothly and for an opurtunity to get over the current crush.

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