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39 Secrets to Get Your Crush to Notice You & Stages to Get Their Attention

Have you ever wondered how you can get your crush to notice you without having to confess your feelings? Of course, you have! Use these tips to get your crush to like you

How to Get Your Crush to Notice You Attention

Having a crush can be a lot of fun! Infatuations are a part of life. Of course, it comes with a hint of drama, but that’s what crushes are for. They take you on this rollercoaster of emotions. But if you’re ready to move from a crush to something else, it’s time to learn how to get your crush to notice you and get their attention.

Sometimes, it’s just a little crush that lasts a few minutes after a fleeting glimpse on the street.

And at other times, it’s a bigger crush that stays in your heart for several months, especially if you work or study together.

All said and done, getting a crush or falling for someone is the easy part.

But getting their attention and making them fall for you?

Well, that’s definitely tricky. So, let’s start with the big mistakes that you want to avoid.

[Read: 13 physical attraction tips to look way sexier in front of your crush]

The 5 big mistakes to avoid when you’re around your crush

If you have a crush on someone right now, make sure you remember these 5 mistakes most people do. And avoid it!

1. Don’t tell them you like them

If you’re crushing on someone and you don’t see this person reciprocating just yet, don’t make it too apparent that you’ve fallen for them already. If your crush knows you like them and they don’t even know you, their ego will swell and they’ll take you for granted. And they won’t care about you!

2. Don’t be too easy

Don’t trail your crush or behave like you’re always around to do their bidding. Instead of being readily available all the time, play hard to get. When you play hard to get and still tease your crush by being mysterious, they’d want your attention badly.

3. Don’t stalk your crush

The thought of walking behind your crush or watching their every move every single day could seem enticing. But if you do want to date your crush at some point in time, avoid stalking them. And even if you do stalk your crush, don’t make it obvious to them, as that’ll make you seem like a creep. [Read: A true love story of stalking a crush and the failure it brings]

4. Don’t keep looking at your crush

It’ll only make your crush take you for granted, and you’ll get hurt if they did. Plus, it might make the person feel uncomfortable. You’ll want to get your crush to look at you instead, and make them believe that they’re the ones initiating it and they’re the ones falling for you!

5. Don’t be idle around them

Don’t appear like you have nothing better to do than drool at your crush when they’re around. If you’re pretending to be a lonely vampire who likes being all alone and mysterious, it may work in your favor. But if you’re just being a normal guy or girl, it’s always better to appear like you have a life instead of waiting around for them to notice you.

Ways to make your crush notice you so you can start talking in no time

Just catching a glimpse of your crush could make your day. And glancing at them on a Friday evening can make you float through the entire weekend!

But as high and exciting as getting a crush to notice you can feel, the idea of being neglected by them can feel just as low and painful.

And it’s always better to confess your feelings for them instead of bottling them up. [Read: The difference between a crush and limerence]

Get to know the two stages of getting your crush to notice you

Getting a crush to notice you can seem like a big task. And getting them to fall in love with you? Well, that seems difficult right now, wouldn’t you say?

But the truth is, it’s extremely easy to get a crush to notice you, and even fall hard for you! All you need to learn is the art of playing it cool while building the chemistry at the same time.

Here are two stages you need to keep in mind if you want your crush to like you back. [Read: 10 important dating tips to make dating work in your favor!]

Stage #1 Get their attention

The first thing you need to do is get your crush to know you exist and see you in a positive light. If your crush thinks you’re interesting every time they notice you, you’ve won more than half the battle already.

Stage #2 Build the chemistry and initiate a conversation

Once you’ve caught the fancy of your crush, you need to start working on making them desire you. You don’t need to tell your crush that you like them at any point in time. All you need to do is psychologically convince your crush that they are the one who’s falling for you instead!

If you plan the first two stages right and follow the steps mentioned here to the tee, the last thing you need to do is initiate the conversation. And believe us, that’ll be as simple as snapping your fingers! [Read: How to get a girl’s attention wherever you are]

The best ways to get your crush to notice you – STAGE 1

The thought of approaching your crush and revealing you like them may push your heart up to your mouth. But it’s still something you need to do. After all, it’s the only way out of the misery of one-sided love.

But then again, don’t just walk up to your crush out of the blue and tell them you like them. That may not always work either!

Most people make the big mistake of pouring their heart out to their crush without really planning it right. Love too, just like life, is all about building the right foundation. If you really want your crush to notice you and like you back, you need to plan your way into their heart first! 

If you have a crush on someone, the first thing you need to do is pique their interest. Make them believe you’re a catch, and the rest will follow. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you without even talking to her]

1. Work on your confidence

If you’re not confident in yourself, your crush won’t take notice of you. You need to show yourself as someone with high self-worth and respect. If they see that, they’ll be intrigued. If you can, try to go up to your crush and introduce yourself.

2. The world revolves around you

If you want to get their attention, let them see that the world revolves around you! Appear popular.

Be noisy, laugh out loud, and be the center of attention among your friends when your crush is around. Show your crush that you have a life and you’re living it. [Read: 22 different ways to get a guy’s attention and impress him]

3. Fleeting glances

At this point in time, you need to make a mutual gaze with your crush, and hold the gaze for longer than a second. Stare at your crush for a second or two, and then look away. 

Exchange these fleeting glances with your crush when you’re busy with your own friends. Don’t stare too hard or try too hard to catch their eye. Make it appear like you just noticed them and stare at them only for a fraction of a second at least the first few times.

Do that often as long as your crush is trying to look at you too. If your crush is busy or isn’t reciprocating, don’t try to catch their eye. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work!]

4. Smile to yourself

When you stare discreetly at your crush for less than a second and look away as soon as you catch their eye, just smile to yourself and get busy doing something. Don’t stretch your smile into a big grin, instead smile just a little bit like you had a funny thought.

Smiling too hard makes it seem like you’re really excited to catch their eye, and that’s never good. You just need to build the chemistry, not make it clear that you’re head over heels in love! [Read: The smart and safe way to tell your crush you like them]

5. Use the power of your smile on your crush too

It’s easy for people to fall in love with a smile. How can you not love other people smiling? It’s sexy, it’s sweet, it’s positive. All the things people want in their lives. If you run into your crush, give them a hello smile. You want to look like someone they can approach and talk to.

6. Show off what you’re good at

If you want your crush to notice you and like you, you have to find a way to make them feel awed by you. If you have any qualities that are worth showing off or displaying discreetly, make sure you flaunt them. [Read: 18 physical turn-ons that arouse a guy instantly]

7. Show off your kind side

Don’t be cocky or arrogant while trying to catch their attention. Meanness is a trait both genders dislike to see in a prospective mate. If your crush assumes you’re mean, you’d lose a big chance of dating them. Be helpful to people, be kind to others, and be friendly, especially when your crush is around. More especially, treat your crush nicely.

8. Be a happy person

Be cheerful when they’re around. Popular people love to have fun, are always happy, and they’re the life of every party and get-together. Laugh a lot, have fun with your friends and always have a smile on your face. People generally want to be around someone with a positive outlook in life despite negative things. [Read: The secret to attracting guys in a way they can’t resist!]

9. Smell great

You need to leave your fragrance lingering in the air each time you walk past them. Remember, these little details may not seem like much, but they play a big part in subtly attracting your crush. 

You could even carry a small bottle of perfume in your bag, and discreetly spray it around your shoulders or over your hair if you know you’d be bumping into your crush soon.

10. Look good when your crush is around

Well-dressed people who groom themselves always stick out of the crowd like a happy sore thumb. And that’s a good thing.

Work out, look fit and try to look and feel your attractive best, especially when you know you’d bump into your crush. Every time you get an appreciative glance from your crush, the bigger the odds are that they’ll like you back. [Read: 10 sexy tips to look attractive while trying to get your crush’s attention]

11. Look approachable 

Stressful and awkward situations bring out the worst in us. Do you stiffen up or act aloof when your crush enters the same room, just to pretend like you’re calm and composed? 

This may happen involuntarily, but don’t stiffen up or go quiet in front of your crush. Smile, be fun, and appear approachable. It’ll make your crush want to know a fun and happy person like you.

12. Have a little mystery

When it comes to knowing how to make sure your crush notices you without talking, if you can find a way to show some mystery to your crush, do it. You don’t want to give everything away, let them become curious.

This is how you turn your crush into something more. They need to want to get to know you. [Read: 25 ways to master the art of seduction and ooze sex appeal]

13. Make friends with their friends

This is an old trick, but it can be very effective. You want to get their attention, right? So, if you’re a little nervous, start by befriending their circle of friends.

This way, they’ll slowly start to hear your name and pay more attention to you. You’ll get invited to some mutual events, and by doing this, you slowly bring yourself and your crush closer together.

14. Keep your distance

They’re your crush, obviously, you’re going to want to be around them all of the time, but this isn’t what you need to do. Instead, keep a little distance. 

Everyone knows when someone likes them, and if you’re around too much, it becomes more annoying than anything else. Plus, they see you as someone who likes them. You need to be the one they’re into. [Read: 13 friend zone hacks that’ll make your friend like you and miss you]

15. Have a mini-makeover

Not only will this boost your confidence, but it may grab the attention of your crush. If you want to switch up your hairstyle or try a new lipstick, you should totally do it. Why not? If you feel good and your crush notices you, it’s a win-win.

16. Wear something red

This can be a red shirt or red makeup. The point is, it’s red. If you’re wondering why you need to wear red, that’s because red automatically draws the eye to you, and it will make you appear more confident. Plus, it’s also a sexually arousing color. Say whaaaat?

17. Play a secret game

You want your crush to fall hard for you, but your intention isn’t to make them realize your feeling towards that person, and that you like them like crazy already. Avoid staring at your crush in front of their friends. [Read: How to get a guy to notice you and fall hard for you]

By staring at your crush when everyone’s watching, you’d be making it clear to the world that you want to catch their eye. And once their friends see you gazing at your crush, you’ll make the staring game seem one-sided.

Always be discreet and don’t go overboard when you have to make eye contact. It has to feel like a secret thing going on between you and your crush, and no one should realize it other than your crush.

18. Spread the word just a little

Talk to a common friend about your crush. Casually tell this friend that you find this guy or girl rather interesting.

If this common friend of yours tries to prod you or dig further, tell your friend you notice this person *your crush* stares at you often, and you think they like you! [Read: The dating girl code all girls need to know]

Your friend would definitely tease your crush about it and tell your crush that you were interested in knowing more about them.

And by doing this, you’re just turning the whole game around. You can actually make your crush feel and believe that they’re the one who’s falling for you and not the other way around. And before you know it, you can turn a one-sided crush into an infatuation from both sides!

How to get your crush to notice you – STAGE 2

If you’ve used the tips to get their attention, your crush would definitely have taken notice of you. And in a good way too! [Read: How to talk to your crush and slowly make them fall for you]

Now you need to focus on building the chemistry and having a conversation. You need to psychologically convince them to believe that they’re the one who’s actually getting a crush on you!

19. Go outside of your comfort zone

Everyone knows that it’s scary to put yourself out there and talk to your crush. You are probably afraid of rejection and you might not know what to say. But you really need to step outside of your comfort zone if you want to know your crush better. Be brave and have some courage. That’s the only way you can get what you want.

20. Brush your crush up

Walk past your crush when both of you meet paths, and *accidentally* brush your shoulder gently while walking past them. Just make sure you’re not being obvious or you’ll come off as a very creepy person. [Read: 30 not-so-obvious and sexy flirty ways to get your crush to fall for you]

21. Initiate small talk with them

Whether you try to talk about something when you brush up against them or in another situation, you need to start with small talk. If they’re drinking a coffee, ask what flavor it is. Or ask them something about what’s happening in the news. It doesn’t matter what it is, you just need to get your crush talking to you.

22. Don’t push for conversation

It’s easy to become that one person who’s obviously trying to get their crush’s attention. But you don’t want to force a conversation. It needs to unfold naturally. 

Let’s say you’ve been talking to them for a while now and texting them. If they text you, don’t try to prolong the conversation for hours and hours. Let it naturally fade. Relationships don’t start with one person obsessing over the other.

23. Look at them when you talk

When you are having a conversation with your crush, make sure you maintain eye contact. It’s harmless, and it can be super flirty. If they’re into you, it’s a hint that you’re into them too. 

Now, you don’t need to stare them down but look at them in the eyes when they talk to make sure he knows you’re listening. You might be nervous and want to look down or to the side, but make sure you hold their gaze. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work

24. Use your personality

All of us have personalities that are different from one another. Now, you may be thinking that this is bad, but that’s silly. This is your biggest advantage.

Your personality is rich with humor, thoughts, and opinions. Use this to get closer to them and turn them on. This is one of the best techniques to get them to notice you. Who knows, maybe your crush will fall in love with that personality of yours.

25. Don’t pretend to be someone else

You might not be the kind of person who is very self-confident, but putting on an act is something you clearly should not do. Maybe you think that you should be more like a popular person you know, but don’t try to be someone you’re not. You should be proud of who you are, so be your best self when you are talking to your crush.

26. Be yourself

If you want your crush to be into you for the right reasons, be yourself. Sure, you can cut your hair, and buy new clothes, totally fine. But, never ever change yourself or fake your hobbies and interests for your crush.

If you’re not into smoking, for example, don’t start smoking because your crush smokes. Be you. If they don’t like it, find a new crush. [Read: How to flirt with your friend without it becoming weird]

27. Make subtle gestures

Body language can convey a lot of messages without even using any words. So, you can use touch to let your crush know that you are interested in them.

For example, if they say something funny, laugh really hard and touch their arm or shoulder. Touch can really let someone know you’re interested.

28. Gather and use your information

It’s always exciting and fun to dig information about a crush, so go and do just that. Ask a common friend about your crush without making it obvious that you’ve got something on your mind.

Get the little details that matter, like what your crush likes and dislikes, what they do over the weekend or their hobby or whether they like or dislike smokers. Maybe try to find things in common between the two of you. It always helps when you know what works and doesn’t work while impressing someone. [Read: How to stalk on social media and find just what you’re looking for]

29. Use your P’s and Q’s

The best way to arouse someone’s curiosity and make them fall for you is by making yourself seem easy to get on, and yet walking away before they can do anything about it.

If you’re walking past your crush, squeeze through near them and say “excuse me” and walk past them. And as you cross your crush, look straight into their eyes and smile just a little bit.

 And after walking past, turn around, say “thank you” and walk away. You’ll drive your crush crazy, and make them want to trail you and talk to you! [Read: 5 different types of flirting and how to pick the one that works for you]

30. Be a comedian!

The best way to create a bond is through laughter. That’s right. If you have a good sense of humor, use it! You’d be a fool not to. You can crack small jokes here and make them laugh. By doing this, they’ll want to be around you more.

31. Be direct with your crush

When you have a crush, it isn’t easy to speak your mind. We usually just stutter and blush whenever they’re around. You don’t need to declare your love for them, but you should, at least with your body, show your interest.

Sit near your crush, and touch their arm when they say something funny. These small things work wonders.

32. Practice

You’re going to have to practice getting their attention. You may not nail the first conversation with them.

Maybe you were nervous, but eventually, it’ll be easier to talk to your crush. What’s important is that you don’t let that get in your way. Just keep on practicing. [Read: How to stop being shy around your crush and get their attention]

33. Express sincere concern and interest in them

If you don’t know what to say or how to make small talk, then just ask your crush questions about him/herself. When you do this, it shows that you are genuinely interested in getting to know them as a person. 

Everyone likes talking about themselves, so this is a good strategy. Plus, if you’re nervous about talking to them, then this takes the pressure off you. They are doing most of the talking – not you.

34. Don’t use your phone too much in front of them

Your crush is not going to notice you if you spend the whole time on your phone, something that a lot of people do these days. It’s just habit. [Read: Phubbing – what it is, 18 reasons why we phub, and ways to stop it ASAP]

But when you’re with someone, it’s not a very respectful thing to do. Instead, you should pay attention to them. Sure, it can be tempting to look at your phone when you are feeling awkward once you start talking to them. But it doesn’t show that you’re interested.

35. Don’t bring up old crushes

After you have been talking to them a while, don’t talk about other people that you have had crushes on in an attempt to make them jealous. In fact, don’t talk about any of your exes or anyone else in your past love life. If you do, then they might get the wrong idea that you are still thinking about that person. Whether you are truly still hung up on all these other people you are talking about or not doesn’t matter, just don’t do it.

36. Tell them what you appreciate about them

We live in a world full of negativity where people take others for granted. So, it’s nice to tell other people what you like about them and how much you appreciate them.

Your crush will love getting compliments from you. It will definitely make them feel good. [Read: How to show your appreciation to someone and express your gratitude]

37. Show how independent you can be

You don’t want to come across as needy or clingy. That is a huge turn-off for most people. So, you want to let them know that you have a life of your own.

Your world doesn’t revolve around them. This makes you look more attractive than just waiting around to talk to them 24/7. It adds some more mystery to you too.

38. Develop a friendship with them

After you have been having conversations with them, then try to see how far you can take it. Try to become friends.

Do things and talk about things that friends would do. After all, the best way to get to know someone is to befriend them, right? That will make your crush more comfortable with you, and then they might start to think about you in a romantic way. The next thing you know, you guys are out on your first date.

39. But watch out for the friend zone

Ah yes, the friend zone. A lot of people have been in that zone from both sides. Now, it’s entirely possible to be friends and then lovers, but you don’t want to be spending too much time in the friend zone.

It’s important you find a balance and eventually make your intentions known. [Read: These actions will help you escape the friend-zone]

Final thoughts on getting the attention of your crush

What’s important is that you don’t change who you are in the process. You are you, always remember that.

You can change the superficial things, but don’t try to change who you are to please your crush because it won’t last even if you do get their attention. So, use these tips to learn how to catch the attention of your crush, but not at your own expense. 

[Read: How to look fabulous when trying to get someone’s attention]

Not everyone is going to come to you. Sometimes, you have to put in some effort. Some elbow grease is part of what it takes when learning how to make your crush notice you. Use these tips and even before you realize it, your crush would have fallen hard for you!

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...