Rebound relationships are completely misunderstood.
And for all the wrong reasons.
Most people assume that a rebound relationship is actually a bad way to cope with a break up.
And many others think it’ll never really help you heal completely because you haven’t had time to get over your ex.
But the truth is, unless you let some more love and happiness into your life, you’re never really going to get over your ex in the first place.
As a matter of fact, rebound relationships are one of the perfect ways to get over a broken heart.
But if the only reason you’re getting into a relationship is to forget your ex, and not really to fall in love with someone new, then perhaps it would be better to let your new date know what you have in mind rather than hurt them later.
What is a rebound relationship?
Many of us fall into a rebound relationship without really realizing it.
It happens all the time with consoling friends of the opposite sex who are attracted to each other, on chance meetings at a party and even when old crushes get in touch immediately after a break up for a feel-good call. [Read: How to kiss a friend and get away with it]
Every time you have a break up and feel good talking to an old crush or feel a tingle of excitement when you’re cuddling up with a crush or a friend that’s consoling you, it’s nothing but the first flicker of a rebound relationship. You may not realize it or want to take it further, but it’s all the first few stages of a rebound relationship.
When you break up, the only logical thing to do is to get over it or try to get over it by having a great time doing something that keeps you preoccupied.
So what if you have to flirt with someone or fall in love with someone else to feel happy and nice all over again? [Read: How to get over a broken heart]
Does your new date trust you?
Entering into a new relationship soon after a break up can be a cause for concern. You may feel happy and romantic, and your new date may wonder if you’re even serious about the whole thing. After all, this could just be a little fling to feel happy and get over the breakup.
One of the best things to do in these circumstances is to take things slowly. You could talk to your new date and let them know that you’ve just broken up and need a bit of time before you’re ready to get serious. But make it clear that you would love to spend more time together with your new date and are excited to go out with them.
By making it clear that you’re genuinely interested in your new date and want to take things slow, it’ll help this new person in your life understand that you are looking for something serious and not just a rebound fling, which is one of the biggest concerns of dating immediately after a break up.
Whatever you’re looking for, be it a quick fling or a serious romance, let your new date know what you have in mind, at least by your actions if not by your words.
How can a rebound relationship help you heal?
When you break up with a partner, you’re left with an empty space that just needs to be filled. And the only reason you pine over your ex, try to get back in touch with them, or even call them repeatedly is because of the lack of happiness and love in your own life. [Read: Signs your ex is thinking about you]
You could spend time with friends or indulge in a few activities that make you happy. Or you could date someone and fill that emptiness of lost love with more love and flirty excitement.
Once you experience happy love, it’s hard to stay away from it even if you’ve broken up. Love is too wonderful a feeling to lose out on, especially if you’ve had a great relationship until circumstances split both of you apart.
Some of us are meant to love and stay in love. So if you have a hard time moving on, stop trying to look for ways to keep yourself occupied, instead look for ways to fall in love again. It’s easier, happier and with a bit of luck, you may meet someone who’s perfect for you. [Read: How to find love]
Why are rebound relationships a good thing?
A rebound relationship is a great way to move on, but there’s more to it too. It can help you find true love too.
# You may have been in a relationship for a long time, but when you finally step back into the dating scene, you may meet a lot of charming, cute and lovable dating potentials who are looking for someone just like you. If you do want to meet someone and fill that void in your heart, meeting someone who makes your heart skip a beat is a great start to love and happiness.
# A rebound relationship is primarily used to get over your ex quickly, and it does its job well. A good bit of rebound love can bring you back on your feet and bring the excitement back into your life.
# One of the surprising benefits of ending a relationship is the hope of something better and truer. A friend of yours or a hottie you’ve always appreciated may have been in love with you for a long time, unable to reveal their true feelings for you because you’re already seeing someone else. While this may seem like a rebound relationship to you, to your new sweetie this could be the moment they’ve been waiting for their whole life. [Read: How to date a friend]
# The best part of a rebound relationship is the hope of finding true love. You’ve been in a relationship long enough to read the signs of a bad lover or even a bad relationship. By using your experiences in love, you may be able to find someone you actually end up falling in love with. [Read: Why you can’t find love]
All said and done, rebound relationships are a great way to get over an ex and a perfect way to uncover a true love potential out of the blue. But even if you don’t really meet the love of your life immediately, heck, you’ll still be able to get over your breakup in no time.
[Read: An ex’s revenge story of rumors]
The next time love comes knocking on your door in the form of an exciting rebound relationship, don’t slam the door on it. Welcome it and experience the happiness and the new hope of true love that it brings with it.
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