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15 Ways to Tell if Someone Likes You without Asking Them

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Are you dying to find out if they like you? Don’t want to be too forward, and awkward, by asking directly? Find out if they do right here, safely.

More often than not, full-grown adults turn into teenagers when it comes to finding out if someone likes them. They’ll get friends to bring it up, they’ll go out in group settings, or use flirty texts, but in a joking way, just to get away without being obvious.

It’s time for everyone to grow up. The truth is that finding out if someone likes you is pretty straightforward. You don’t have to ask at all, you can just tell. Hiding your attraction for someone is pretty much impossible, because even if you don’t say much of anything, other signs will. The things you do and say around the person will be done in careful consideration of their presence, even subconsciously.

15 signs people give away when they like someone

So how can you tell if someone likes you? Well, you just have to watch out for a few of these signs.

#1 Attraction. Even in a group setting, they’ll gravitate toward you. Think of it this way: when you go out and there’s a mixture of people present, you end up hanging out with people you already know and like, or with new people that you’re starting to befriend. The same goes for attraction. You’re going to want to gravitate toward that person, because you want to spend time with them. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting  between a guy and a girl]

#2 Nervousness. When they talk to you, they may seem shy, or awkward. This is not always the case, but if the person gets shy around you, then it means you make them nervous, in a good way.

They may be trying too hard not to mess anything up, or they may be wondering what to say, to get the conversation going because they want to leave a lasting impression on you.

#3 Cock-blocking. When someone jokes about them *or something embarrassing they do* around you, they’ll try to jokingly derail the friend making the comments. No one wants to be made fun of in front of someone they’re attracted to, even if it is just a joke. If someone doesn’t legitimately get upset, but jokingly tries to stop the conversation from continuing, then they’re clearly trying to stop their friend from putting them in an awkward position in front of you. [Read: Who are cock blocks and why do they do it?]

#4 Stay in touch. They’ll find a reason to text you, whether it be a joke, plans, or even just emojis. When someone likes you, your presence is always welcome. However, if you’re not around, they’ll still try to get a hold of you. It could be a simple joke, a cute smiley face, or a “I’m bored, what are you doing?” text. Even if it isn’t something important, they’ll make up a reason just to talk to you.

#5 A keen interest. Rather than asking simple questions, like anyone else would, they’ll actually try to get to know you more. Questions about your education, goals, accomplishments, interests, musical taste, and hobbies are a dead giveaway. I mean, really, who wants to know so much about you all at once? [Read: Does he like you? 18 signs to decode his body language]

#6 The fake date. They will legitimately invite you out, even if it’s not an actual “date” at first. It could be them inviting you out to a movie with their friends, or out to eat at a casual place *not a date place*. It could even be them meeting you somewhere, like a local bookstore one of you loves. None of this classifies as a date, but this is them genuinely feeling out whether there’s chemistry, and working their way to asking you out. [Read: Is it a date or the two of you just hanging out?]

#7 Goody two shoes. They will always be on their best behavior around you. This means all the usual, obnoxious jokes and commentary they may say on a regular basis will be toned down, if not completely avoided, around you. It isn’t them lying about who they are, it’s just a natural response to someone you’re attracted to. Everyone wants to shine in a good light. The skeletons will come out of the closet eventually, more sooner than later.

#8 Split personality. It will seem like they’re more open around other people, than they are with you. It sounds contradictory, but if they seem more open around other people, then they obviously don’t care what these people think of them, or they already know these other people. Meanwhile, with you, things are a bit different. This person may care what you have to say, because they’re attracted to you, so they’ll be on their best behavior. [Read: 10 clearly noticeable signs of body language attraction]

#9 The little things. They will go out of their way to do nice things for you, even small things. For instance, they’ll offer to buy you a drink if you’re hanging out, or they’ll make you something. Maybe they’ll help you set up for an event, if you’re planning one. Even something as simple as holding a door open can mean so much more coming from someone who’s attracted to you.

#10 The infatuation stage. This is also the most reliable they will ever be, so enjoy it. Not to be negative, but realistically, anyone you date may let you down. No one is perfect, and sometimes, your expectations might be a little too high, setting the stage for disappointment.

It’s a natural thing though, not something to take to heart. That being said, the time before you date, to the first 6 months of dating, will be the time in which you’re both reliable. This person will go out of their way to be there for you, talk to you, spend time with you, help you when you need it, etc. [Read: The 10 stages of dating everyone goes through]

#11 Touchy flirty feely! It may happen right at the beginning, or build up to it, but at some point, there will be a ton of flirting. Some people are great at flirting right from the start, and can pull it off in a non-creepy, non-sleazy way. Others like to get to know you first, and build up a hint or two that you like them back, before they flirt.

Either way, flirting is a dead giveaway that they’ve at least considered your chemistry together, and they’re interested to see where it goes. It could be flirting over text, in person, over the phone, or all the above. [Read: 13 lusty signs of attraction you need to keep an eye on]

#12 The impression game. One way or another, they will try to impress you. This tends to be a masculine thing, at least that’s what society tells us, but the truth is, women want to impress guys too. If someone is telling you about their career path, and what they’ve accomplished toward success, then they’re trying to impress you. They might make a really good drink, or bake a really nice cake, or even show off their intelligence, and general knowledge about a variety of topics.

#13 Let the bond begin. You will bond over common ground. It could be music, books, movies, video games, or your love of spaghetti and meatballs. Literally, your common ground can be anything, as long as you’re both passionate about it. If this person is excited over your mutual love for whatever common ground you have, then there’s a chance they’re attracted to you. [Read: 50 easy questions to test your compatibility instantly]

#14 A keen eye. Say they’re the quiet type, they will still laugh at your antics, and sit somewhere close to you at social events. There are some super shy people out there: introverts, people with low self-esteem, or even just people who like to observe others more than they like to get involved. If the person is attracted to you, but they’re really quiet, chances are, they’ll make up for it by sitting somewhere near you, if not right next to you, and observe your answers to the dynamic at the event.

#15 Listen to the nosey people. Usually, someone will point this person’s behavior out to you, wanting to know what your stance is on the whole situation *they’re being nosey, aren’t they?*.

But then again, sometimes the best way to know if someone likes you or not is to just wait for someone else to point it out. It always happens – people noticing when there’s a special dynamic forming on the horizon. If they point it out, and they claim you’re an object of someone’s affection, then listen to them!

Asking directly may lead to some awkwardness, but there are other ways to find out if someone likes you. Something as simple as gravitating toward you, talking to you, and going out of their way to do nice things for you, are dead giveaways. If they actively try to impress you, find common ground, and be on their best behavior, then you should already know.

After all, when someone likes you, they can’t hide it – they’re programmed to do something about it, even if they are tiny hints. [Read: 20 unmistakable signs your friend is crushing on you]

So the next time you’re wondering if someone likes you, look out for the signs! If you like them back, don’t question or ask, just go with the flow of things, and watch your story develop naturally.

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7 thoughts on “15 Ways to Tell if Someone Likes You without Asking Them”

  1. Irina says:

    I think that in my experience little things like going out of their way to do nice things or special gentlemanly gestures are a dead give away. I am also very good at picking up on things as I think I have a keen eye for body language, and a bit of a flirty nature. The special attention for me included carrying things that I had been and could carry and offering to walk me to my car. Also a few times there was a third party involved who would ask some questions and kind of phish around to see where I was at and I figured out they needed to report back to him.

  2. Alex says:

    This split personality thing is really interesting. I was completely fooled once by somebody’s behavior towards me. I actually thought he couldn’t stand me. It took him a few years to open up and explain he was having a crush on me. I had to ask if that was a joke and he was kind of angry at me for not taking him serious. And I am no better myself. When I really like somebody I start behaving awkwardly towards that person. I become my own worst enemy and end up regretting saying or doing something to somebody important to me.

  3. Madison says:

    I don’t quite get those who act like they don’t like you and they’re rude to you and then they tell you that is how they flirt. If you like someone, you should be nice to them. These ignore me then pay attention to me thing does not work for me. You either like me and you’re nice to me or you don’t. I don’t give anyone the time of day if they act like they don’t like me. That’s just not my style.

  4. on and off says:

    I can tell if someone likes me just by the way they stare at me. The person who likes you will always have second glances on you. She will try to hide the fact that she looked at you. The way a person that likes you looks at you is not the same type of look you get with a regular person. It’s the type that has hidden desire. It’s the type that just keeps on burning. It’s that deep burning but hidden desire that they have for you that you will see in their eyes. You will always have that person stare at you when you first enter the room. They would be the first to call you even how subtle your entrance was, they could feel you from a mile away. They know your scent. They can track you like bloodhounds. Be careful when dealing with a person that likes you, you don’t really know if she’s a serial killer or something. Always be on the look out if you have lots of girls fawning for you. Some girls are just complete psychos and you want to avoid that as much as possible, I swear. It’s just not worth the hassle to be in.

  5. Enthusi says:

    Okay so I like this guy, and he was actually the only one who go me to dance willingly at homecoming and I really don’t know if he likes me. I really don’t want to have to ask him outright, as that might turn a conversation to a really awkward standstill. But, in this one class we have together, I sit next to him, and he had it where our knees and feet were touching, and he didn’t pull away. He also looks right at me when he talks to me, and at the end of class he was just kinda standing there watching me pack up my stuff. Also when every thing fell out of my binder, (it happens a lot) he offered to help me get it. He also was accused of “playing footsies” in that class yesterday, and hasn’t done that since. Also he was the only one to wave at me from his bus when my friend and I were waving at all the buses today. He was actually really enthusiastic about it, like he stood up and turned around and had a really big grin on his face! I really think he likes me and I just want him to make first move so that I can be with him already!

  6. Adam Johnson says:

    Ah, the fake date. This is where you need to take the reigns guys because she’s definitely into you at that point if you’re getting yourselves into these sorts of situations. However, be real careful around her friends: they’re scoping you out and they’re not going to be all that free in their judgements of you. That’s not to say you need to be on your absolute best behaviour in front of them, but don’t ignore them altogether. Get to know them a bit. If you’re going to go the distance with a certain girl, then it’s best to open those lines of communication, too.

  7. DJ Anderson says:

    EGB, I do love you. Take a chance!

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