You want to be subtle with the way you show your feelings, but at the same time, you also want to start dropping hints at how much you adore your crush. You already have them as your contact in social media, but you’re not quite sure how to approach them online without pushing them to block you for good.
The good news is that social media gives you some semblance of privacy. Thus, if your crush doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, the people around you won’t be the audience to your humiliation. And if the rejection stings like acid to a new wound, you can always choose to erase all your interactions and unfollow your crush. [Read: The socially awkward person’s guide to flirting]
How you can flirt online
Ready to get your crush swooning over your sweet messages and subtle hints? Try out these tips.
#1 Take note of what your crush was wearing or doing, without being obvious about it. When you see your crush, acknowledging their presence with a “hi” or a smile would suffice. But when you get the chance to go online, send them a message and comment on what they were doing when you saw them.
You can go for a compliment like, “Hey, I really like your band shirt. Where’d you get it?” You can also opt for the charmer’s route by saying, “I saw you down your coffee like it was water. Staying up for the exams?” These statements let your crush know that you were paying more attention to them than you initially let on.
#2 Check out what shows, movies and music your crush is into, and keep them updated. A simple Google search can help you find out the latest news about your crush’s interests. For instance, if they’re into a certain band, you can mention that they’ll be playing at a local venue this week. If your crush is in love with a certain celebrity, send your crush a photo that they might have missed on their online stalking binges.
If your crush is into certain TV shows, however, make sure you’re not the jerk who suddenly spouts out a bunch of spoilers. People are very touchy about spoilers, and you can never be too careful! [Read: How to talk to your crush and make them fall for you]
#3 Be careful with the likes. Sure, you can creep your crush out and like everything they’ve posted since they got on Facebook. But the best route when it comes to the likes is picking only a few posts, so as not to flood their notifications feed.
Liking all the photos may make you seem utterly friendly or downright stalker-like, while liking only selective photos will make your crush wonder why there are photos that you like and there are photos that you didn’t like. It will keep your crush on their toes and make it seem like a guessing game.
#4 Don’t be afraid to leave a comment. Do not comment on how good looking your crush is, but instead, comment on what they are doing. Pick up on the finer details of their photos and ask them something like, “Is that at Starbucks?” or “I have the same exact phone case!”
Comment something that will warrant a reply from them and not just a thank you. Interacting more with your crush is better than just simply worshipping them. You can even start a friendly little teasing fest there, as long as you’re aware of whether you’re going overboard.
#5 Leave an air of mystery to get your crush hooked. If your crush messages you, curb the temptation to go on a reply rampage and take a deep, deliberate breath. You can seenzone them for a couple of minutes, and then think of an apt reply to send them. By doing this, you’re preventing yourself from looking too eager.
But don’t rely on the speed of your reply alone. Answer some of their questions vaguely. If they ask what you’re up to tonight, don’t give them detailed instructions to get to the bar you’ll be hanging out in! Instead, tell them that you’ll be out. Then wait for a reply. Then go in for the kill and hint that they’d be welcome to join you. Smooth! [Read: How to get your crush to notice you and like you back]
#6 Tag away at your photos together! Do not be shy to let the whole world know that you have spent time with your crush before. Let his friends and your friends know that you two go way back.
Even if these are new photos, tag them, and let everyone know that you two are spending time with each other. It’s not that you’re outright being possessive, as it’s just a photo. But it’s a subtle reminder to both, your crush and to the rest of the world, that the two of you are having fun together. Let the jealous be jealous!
#7 Make your crush the center of your status update. But for the love of all that is glorious, do not tag them! Instead, make it pretty obvious that you’re referring to something you and your crush talked about or something you did together.
For instance, you can post a quote that you and your crush discussed earlier. Or you can post a link to a site that completely proves that you were right about something you had a debate about. You can even post a YouTube video of a song that was playing when you were hanging out.
#8 Don’t be afraid of having opposite opinions. Opposite opinions is fuel for more interesting conversations with your crush. For example, you might be totally into Game of Thrones, but your crush is pro-Lannister, whereas you are pro-Baratheon.
Point this out, and make a sensible, fact-filled argument as to why Baratheons are better than Lannisters. This is sure to lead to a friendly debate, and in the end, you can be the charmer who lets your crush win… Or you can casually suggest to agree to disagree.
#9 Be everywhere. And by everywhere, it means be in all of your crush’s social media profiles. Keep yourself updated of everything, and make sure that you alternate replying to your crush. If today you sent your crush an e-mail, tomorrow you should ensure that you tweet a reply. And then the next day like their photo on Instagram, and so on.
This keeps you on their mind, and practically embeds you into their subconscious. Just remember to message them sparingly, so as not to flood your crush with declarations of love and admiration.
#10 Be there, but not really. Miss your crush on purpose. Yes, you read that right. When your crush checks into a place, show up at a time when you’re sure that they’ve already left. Then make a post that clearly shows you were at the same exact place your crush was.
This might get your crush to react and say that they missed you by a couple of hours, and you can say something like they should have texted you. If your crush doesn’t react, your common friends just might come to the conclusion that you were there together, and they might start teasing you both. It might just be the perfect push to make your crush think that you might be good for each other.
[Read: 6 subtly flirty questions to ask your crush]
Online flirtation is, by far, a lot easier than flirting in real life. But you have to be careful, as going overboard might just turn your crush off. Keep it simple, subtle and smooth, and you’ll have your crush liking all of your profile pictures in no time!
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