Relationships of any kind, be it a romantic relationship or a friendship, are all about compatibility. But what’s the best way to get to know if someone is compatible with you, or just gets you? Well, that’s where the best kind of deep yet fun get to know you questions can help you!
In a new relationship, even if there’s a lot of infatuation and sexual tension to start with, all it takes is a few wrong likes and dislikes to fall apart.
Honestly, for a relationship to be successful, the two people involved can have different likes and dislikes, but their principles towards life and their approach towards the future have to be the same.
If one of you likes working hard and loves planning out the future, while the other person lives for the moment and loves spontaneity, it is bound to leave one of you with a few moments of repressed anger.
Getting to know the one you love early into a relationship can help both of you learn more about each other faster.
[Read: How to get to know someone – 18 ways to get anyone to open up to you in a few conversations]
Sometimes, the right answers can make all the difference between a failed relationship and a happy one.
We’ve compiled the best, and yet, light-hearted questions that you can ask your new mate. It may seem funny at first, but deep inside each of these casual and harmless questions is a subtle answer that tests your compatibility and helps you get to know someone way better.
Both of you don’t have to agree on the same answers. But when your new lover or friend answers these questions for you, take a good look at each answer and ask yourself if their answers make you smile, or cringe just a little!
Some of these answers will reveal their lifestyle and goals, while a few others will reveal the way they approach life.
And a few more will reveal their sexual preferences and expectations from a partner. And when you do get the answers to these questions, you’ll truly know if you’re in a relationship that can stand the test of time.
[Read: New relationship advice to make your romance work]
These questions can be a laugh, but they’ll definitely help both of you get to know each other a lot more in no time.
Animal lovers are givers and make the time and energy to invest in something beyond themselves. They see purpose in sharing their love with a furry friend.
Unless you have animal allergies, a person who chooses not to have a pet around is more invested in themselves or prefers to invest in their own life and future, than on something else like a pet. Neither is wrong, it’s just a personal preference. [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility instantly]
This seems like a silly get to know you question, but can tell you a lot about their personality and date preferences.
Someone who loves summer is more outgoing and extroverted, and someone who loves the winter usually prefers an intimate and personal setting.
Which is more important to them, or is it both? Everyone assumes dieting is easy, and working out is hard.
As a novice who isn’t aware of how the body works, a lazier person may prefer to diet instead of working out every day. *but anyone who plans over the long term knows that following a diet is way harder, and way more effective*
By asking this question, you’d understand if they’re short-sighted or think ahead when it comes to their goals. And most importantly, how important is fitness and appearance to them?
Do they prefer sleeping naked? Do they wear an old tee shirt? Or do they wear the comfiest or sexiest pajamas to bed?
Self-love is important, and feeling sexy is too. This get-to-know-you question will answer all of that for you. [Read: The right way to dress for sex and arouse your partner instantly]
This isn’t just about style but also finances. Are they someone who likes showing off with brand names? Do they live within their means?
Do they cry often, or was the last time they cried over a year ago? Are they comfortable being vulnerable around you? What made them cry?
Someone who is comfortable with sharing this detail is emotionally secure. And someone who instantly feels uncomfortable, well, they probably have layers you need to peel back. [Read: What is masculinity? 19 really manly traits women hope to see in men]
This is a unique get to know you question that seems casual and pointless. But every color invokes a certain kind of feeling and creates a lifestyle around it. Do you both like colors that complement each other?
There are so many animals to choose from. The animal they choose reveals a lot about the kind of personality or life they aspire to have.
Do they have any? Are they attracted to them? Tattoos, and the kind of tattoos someone chooses, reveal a lot about someone’s personality and attitude towards life.
This is a great get-to-know-you question for a new romance because it lets you know what they like and find appropriate when it comes to displaying affection.
You may think this isn’t important, but display of affection plays a huge part in affection. And it’s important that both of you have some commonality here so you both feel loved and happy if you do date over the long term.[Read: What is PDA in a relationship? The full guide to the part it plays in love]
Let’s hope they say once a day, but who knows. They could be preserving water, or maybe they are super clean and bathe three times a day. This may be a funny get to know you question, but it does reveal just how high up on their list is personal hygeine.
Do they actively visit news sites to stay updated on current events? Or do they just use social media to stay current?
How much news they digest daily, and the places they receive their daily dose of news can reveal a lot about their attitude, political orientation, outlook on life, and things that interest them.
Do they prefer self-help books? Or novels? Or do they even read at all? It may seem like a simple question, but it’s not. It defines the way they see life, and what inspires them every day.
Your favorite movie isn’t just something you enjoyed watching. It’s something that relates to you deep within.
When you ask someone to share their favorite movie, it actually tells you everything about how they view real life, and the core principles they value most in themselves and in others.
Do they prefer jazz or soft-rock? Maybe they like punk or EDM. Will you be fighting over the radio dial? And more importantly, can you relate to it? Music is a personality, and someone’s music preference can reveal so much more about them.
Not everyone drinks, but the kind of drink they choose to order can reveal a LOT about their personality. After all, you’d know by now that a cocktail drinker is very different from a beer guzzler. [Read: What your favorite drink actually says about you and your lifestyle]
Are they a beach person? Or a mountain person? Every decision we take when on a vacation tells us about the kind of lifestyle we’d choose over everything else. After all, a vacation is a new life for a few days – so what would they choose? Backpacking? Luxurious? Laidback? Busy?
The kind of vacation someone prefers to go to is the kind of life they wish they could have.
Are they bolder when it comes to food preferences than you are? Someone who loves to experiment with food is adventurous and needs stimulation and new experiences to keep them happy. Someone who prefers something simpler and plain prefers routine over everything else. [Read: 150+ deep relationship questions couples must always ask each other]
Is it someone sexy, someone talented, or someone who’s funny on social media?
This get-to-know-you question tells you about the quality they seek in others. Do they pay attention to someone’s outward appearance, the work they do, or something else? What’s important to them?
When you like a celebrity, there’s usually a subtle reason behind it. You may think you look like them, you may use them as a role model, or you may like the kind of movies they act in. But there’s always a deeper reason behind it.
Do they look for the easy way out? Does this person prefer to work hard themselves instead of relying on a windfall? How deep does their conscience go? Are they empathetic enough to care about some random stranger’s loss? [Read:
Some people are, and some aren’t.
Some are arrogant enough to believe their belief is the only one that’s true, and others are flexible because, hey, humans wrote those books themselves at the end of the day, right? So which one are they? Do they tolerate? Are they flexible? Or are they rigid?
Usually, religion forms a core part of a person’s upbringing, so it’s important that both of you can see eye to eye on this if you ever plan on dating each other.
Someone who is into gizmos wants to stay ahead of the curve. They pride themselves on knowing and indulging in things most others don’t. But not everyone cares! Which one are they, and which one are you?
Our favorite sports tell us a lot about our personalities. Are you a boxing or MMA fan *aggression* or a football fan *teamwork, cheer, and fun* or a chess aficionado *strategy and complexity*?
Both are fun, and yet, different people have different preferences. Someone who loves clubbing focuses on the now, prefers fun with a spritz of a wild side. And a candlelit dinner is intimate, cozy and personal, focusing on just two people. Do they prefer one over the other, or both? And what stage of life are they at? Are you at the same point?
We don’t want you guys to get into a debate here, we hope you know what we mean. So would What do they prefer? Saving the world for the future generations or having a bit of fun while they’re still alive? [Read: 10 reasons to let your holiday fling become serious]
Do they like exploring and being adventurous, or do they prefer a life of luxury? The answer isn’t always easy, because both can be a lot of fun.
Backpacking is spontaneous, no-fuss, and is about flying by the seat of your pants when it comes to making plans. A luxurious stay is more rigid, slightly snooty and high maintenance, but goal-oriented and pleasure-seeking. What would you choose?
Are they into family get-togethers and cozy times? Or do they prefer naughty fun? Which holiday do they prefer and why? Maybe they don’t even celebrate them.
Morning people and night owls are very different from each other. When does their mind function at its best? Can you both accommodate each other if you’re both on two ends of the spectrum?
All of us have core principles in life that guide us. This get to know you question can help you understand their purpose and what they demand from themself in this lifetime.
Is their philosophy in life to live happily and die because we’ll all be dust eventually? Is it to leave a mark and do something people would remember them for, even if it means sacrificing their happiness for it? [Read: What is my purpose in life? How to find meaning when you feel lost]
Lying sucks, but it can be helpful in specific situations. Use this get to know you question to subtly find out if they lie to protect others or themselves.
Depending on the gravity of the lie and how funny they think it is, you can judge their moral compass and if they could lie to you as well.
Is it regret or affection *what!*? Do they hope their ex is doing well and living life, or do they hate their ex? Why?
Maybe you don’t even think about your ex at all, but knowing how they feel can tell you if they are over their ex or if they hold grudges. [Read: 13 secret signs your boyfriend is not over his ex]
If you are opposites, this could complicate things. When one of you wants to head home, the other is just getting the party started! [Read: Can an introvert date an extrovert? How to balance the two worlds]
Is it the classic flowers and candy or something different? There’s a romantic in all of us, but our love languages and the way we express romance may be completely different.
If you do date over the long term, it’s always best to know each other’s definition of expressing affection.
Sure, you may not be moving in together for a hell of a while, but it is still great to talk about this early on. There’s a very big difference in lifestyle between these two ways of life, and if given the chance, it’s always best to clear this up.
This is a get to know you question that’s personal and gives a peek into their younger self. And of course, they’re almost always exciting stories to exchange. [Read: How I lost my virginity – 15 reader stories that aren’t all that sexy]
Aren’t you curious to know what they think is sexy in a person? Is it something you see in yourself? This can get naughty really fast, so only ask this question if you’re ready to get intimate with each other soon!
How kinky or naughty is this person? Instead of asking someone directly *which would leave them feeling embarrassed*, it’s always best to slip your curiosity into a question. Just how wild do they get? Are you naughty enough, or do you have a way to go before you get to their level of kinky? [Read: Top 50 sexual kinky ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]
This is so important. Although we all hate talking about money, it is an important part of life.
So does this person think money is kind of important, but there are many other aspects of life that are way more important? Or do they believe money is up there on the top, along with something else?
How do they see the world? How would they fix it if they could? This is a get to know you question that sounds simple, but it truly explains how they see the world. Do you see it the same way?
This is so important. If you don’t ask this get to know you question, you won’t know what they care about and what they may commit a lot or part of their time to. And if you are against their cause, it could cause many issues for you as a couple.
The weekend is everyone’s me-time. It’s that part of the week where you can do anything at all, so where do they choose to devote their hours when they’re not working? Do they prefer watching movies or shows, or cleaning, or working on a hobby?
This is something you’d ask if you see them as a clear dating potential. And it’s a very important get to know you question as well.
After all, most of us are close to someone of the opposite sex. Would they be okay with that? Are they jealous? Do they have trust issues? [Read: Why guy best friends are usually nothing but trouble for a girl]
The tween years? Maybe the early twenties? What if it is right now? And how did they cope with it, and what are the lessons they learned from it? Sometimes, the worst phases of our life teach us the most important and most memorable lessons if we choose to learn from them. Did they learn from it, or do you see them repeating the same mistakes again?
This is such a beautiful thing, and while we may all be happy on most days, there are some very, very specific moments in everyone’s life that just stand out. What is their moment? And what is it associated with – love, money, family, or something else?
What you associate with your most happy moment is usually something you value a lot in life.
This can be literal and about books, or it can be metaphorical. Do they judge everything by its appearance? Most of us do, and that’s why we have stereotypes *it’s our mind’s way of categorizing things at first sight*. But how does this person’s mind work? Are they judgmental or do they wait before forming an opinion?
This was never as important as it is now, and as much as we hate to say it, but this is a massive deal-breaker for many in today’s day and age.
Do they think porn is a healthy outlet? Or do they find it degrading? All of us have an opinion on porn, but some of us are more rigid with this, and it’s best to know their views before you get in too deep. [Read: Is watching porn cheating? How it can make or break your sex life]
Karma is the belief that the sum of a person’s good or bad actions today defines how good or bad their future would turn out. It’s interesting, because not everyone believes in this, and some have their own interpretations as well. But be prepared to offer your response to this as well.
If you’re a planner and they aren’t, will you balance out or drive each other crazy? All of us make plans, some make it for the day ahead and some plan their life’s goals with a five-year plan.
While both have their advantages and disadvantages, it’s important to think along the same lines, especially with big life decisions. [Read: The 25 best relationship topics to talk about if you want to be happy]
This is a great get to know you question that’ll help you understand how they view the world. And what do they do when they’re given the short end of the stick sometimes?
This is one of the easiest, and yet best, get to know you questions to understand the things a person holds of most value when they feel isolated. Are they pragmatic? Do they think long-term or do they seek instant gratification?
Would they take a phone, a book, or something else to pass the time? Or something more helpful *but boring* like a knife, or a first aid kit? [Read: How to get a life – 20 things you MUST do to feel alive again]
Do they hold their feelings inside or come straight out with them? And how about you? Everyone knows sulking or using the silent treatment is a childish way to deal with a problem. But yet, it’s something many of us do.
By using this question, you can understand if they work for the benefit of a relationship, or their own vindictiveness.
Drugs? Alcohol? A TV show? Caffeine? We all have our guilty pleasures, but just how addictive or harmful is it? It’s always great to find out, because we all have a few things we just can’t tolerate in someone we date. [Read: 18 relationship turn offs that will instantly ruin your romance]
This can be an iffy subject to enter into, but it can also be super telling. With all the information we’re bombarded with these days, what is their mind usually drawn towards – celeb gossip, world affairs, or something else?
Every single one of us has at least five favorite apps that we open each time we pick up our phones because we don’t know what else to do! So what do they love most – social media apps, games, news, or something entirely different?
Take a look at your phone screen yourself too, perhaps you’ll learn a lot more about yourself with this get to know you question! [Read: How to find out instantly if someone is on Tinder and dating you on the side]
We know being an optimist is way better for your overall health and wellbeing. But not all of us can see the silver lining in every situation. Are they optimistic or pessimistic? And is this something you can accept?
If you’re an eternal optimist full of positivity and sunshine, and you plan on dating a pessimistic person, you should know that your life will be just a little less enthusiastic with them around. Can you deal with that?
How do they start the day? This isn’t really a deal-breaker, but it’s a good get to know you question in case both of you wake up in bed together and you want to bring them breakfast in bed. Do they not eat breakfast? Do they just have coffee?
Everyday? Only when they wash their sheets? Never? This get to know you question can help you understand just how detail-oriented they are, and just how much of a neat-freak as well.
As you mature, you generally become more organized with your belongings and your living space. And as simple as this question may be, it will clearly reveal their emotional maturity without really asking them directly! [Read: What age does a man emotionally mature? 19 signs he’s grown a real pair]
This is so interesting. What’s more important to them? Winning an argument, or keeping the peace? While there’s nothing wrong with either personality, contradicting personalities can end up becoming an issue.
If you hate unnecessary confrontation and your partner always wants to be right, you both could end up in a fight even if it was never about you two in the first place.
This is essentially a get to know you question about dealbreakers, and it is best to ask this now rather than later. We all have one *or more* things that you just can’t tolerate in a relationship. What can’t they accept – cheating, flakiness, lies, jealousy, lack of integrity, clinginess, or is it something else?
If you use these get to know you questions, you’ll definitely be able to read anyone like a book. And if you’re looking for more, all you need to do is ask a question. But… instead of asking something sensitive directly, use an example or a hypothetical situation. It takes the pressure off, and gives them a chance to answer in a playful way instead of feeling like they’re in the middle of a job interview.
So give these get to know you questions a try, for starters, and you will be surprised just how much information you can learn about anyone just by asking the right kind of questions!
[Read: How to really get to know someone – 18 steps you MUST cross to truly open up and build a real connection]
Just ask your new friend or lover these get to know you questions, and by the time you’re down to the sixtieth question, you’d definitely see a lot more about each other and your compatibility!
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