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The 60 Best Deep Get to Know You Questions to Know Anyone Instantly

Are you looking for the perfect, deep yet fun, get to know you questions to ask a lover or a friend? Try these, and you’ll know everything in no time!

60 Get to Know You Questions for a New Romance

Relationships of any kind, be it a romantic relationship or a friendship, are all about compatibility. But what’s the best way to get to know if someone is compatible with you, or just gets you? Well, that’s where the best kind of deep yet fun get to know you questions can help you!

In a new relationship, even if there’s a lot of infatuation and sexual tension to start with, all it takes is a few wrong likes and dislikes to fall apart.

Honestly, for a relationship to be successful, the two people involved can have different likes and dislikes, but their principles towards life and their approach towards the future have to be the same.

If one of you likes working hard and loves planning out the future, while the other person lives for the moment and loves spontaneity, it is bound to leave one of you with a few moments of repressed anger.

Getting to know the one you love early into a relationship can help both of you learn more about each other faster.

[Read: How to get to know someone – 18 ways to get anyone to open up to you in a few conversations]

How can these get to know you questions help you?

Sometimes, the right answers can make all the difference between a failed relationship and a happy one.

We’ve compiled the best, and yet, light-hearted questions that you can ask your new mate. It may seem funny at first, but deep inside each of these casual and harmless questions is a subtle answer that tests your compatibility and helps you get to know someone way better.

Both of you don’t have to agree on the same answers. But when your new lover or friend answers these questions for you, take a good look at each answer and ask yourself if their answers make you smile, or cringe just a little!

Some of these answers will reveal their lifestyle and goals, while a few others will reveal the way they approach life.

And a few more will reveal their sexual preferences and expectations from a partner. And when you do get the answers to these questions, you’ll truly know if you’re in a relationship that can stand the test of time.

[Read: New relationship advice to make your romance work]

Get to know you questions

These questions can be a laugh, but they’ll definitely help both of you get to know each other a lot more in no time.

1. Are you an animal lover or would you avoid keeping animals at home?

Animal lovers are givers and make the time and energy to invest in something beyond themselves. They see purpose in sharing their love with a furry friend.

Unless you have animal allergies, a person who chooses not to have a pet around is more invested in themselves or prefers to invest in their own life and future, than on something else like a pet. Neither is wrong, it’s just a personal preference.

2. Do you like summer or winter?

This seems like a silly get to know you question, but can tell you a lot about their personality and date preferences.

Someone who loves summer is more outgoing and extroverted, and someone who loves the winter usually prefers an intimate and personal setting.

3. Would you diet or would you work out to lose weight?

Which is more important to them, or is it both? Everyone assumes dieting is easy, and working out is hard.

As a novice who isn’t aware of how the body works, a lazier person may prefer to diet instead of working out every day. *but anyone who thinks over the long term knows that following a diet is way harder, and way more effective*

By asking this question, you’d understand if they’re short-sighted or think ahead when it comes to their goals. And most importantly, how important is fitness and appearance to them?

4. What do you wear to bed?

Do they prefer sleeping naked? Do they wear an old tee-shirt? Or do they wear the comfiest or sexiest pajamas to bed?

Self-love is important, and feeling sexy is too. This get-to-know-you question will answer all of that for you. [Read: The right way to dress for sex]

5. What’s your favorite clothing brand?

This isn’t just about style but also finances. Are they someone who likes showing off with brand names? Do they live within their means?

6. When was the last time you cried?

Do they cry often, or was the last time they cried over a year ago? Are they comfortable being vulnerable around you? What made them cry? Someone who is comfortable with sharing this detail is emotionally secure. And someone who instantly feels uncomfortable, well, they probably have layers you need to peel back.

7. Which color reflects your personality and why?

This is a unique get to know you question that seems casual and pointless. But every color invokes a certain kind of feeling and creates a lifestyle around it. Do you both like colors that complement each other?

8. In the animal kingdom, which animal would you be?

There are so many animals to choose from. The animal they choose reveals a lot about the kind of personality or life they aspire to have.

9. Do you like tattoos and body piercing?

Do they have any? Are they attracted to them? Tattoos, and the kind of tattoos someone chooses, reveals a lot about someone’s personality and attitude towards life.

10. How much PDA is acceptable?

This is a great get-to-know-you question for a new romance because it lets you know what they like and find appropriate. You may think this isn’t important, but display of affection plays a huge part in love. And it’s important that both of you have some commonality here so you both feel loved and happy if you do date over the long term.[Read: What is PDA in a relationship? The full guide to the part it plays in love]

11. How often do you take a shower?

Let’s hope they say once a day, but who knows. They could be preserving water, or maybe they are super clean and bathe three times a day.

12. What’s your go-to place for current news?

Do they actively visit news sites to stay updated on current events? Or do they just use social media to stay current?

How much news they digest daily, and the places they receive their daily dose of news can reveal a lot about their attitude, political orientation, outlook on life, and things that interest them.

13. What are your favorite books?

Do they prefer self-help books? Or novels? Or do they even read at all? It may seem like a simple question, but it’s not. It defines the way they see life, and what inspires them.

14. What’s your favorite movie?

Your favorite movie isn’t just something you enjoyed watching. It’s something that relates to you deep within.

When you ask someone to share their favorite movie, it actually tells you everything about how they view real life, and the core principles they value most in themselves and in others.

15. What’s your favorite music you’re listening to these days?

Do they prefer jazz or soft-rock? Maybe they like punk or EDM. Will you be fighting over the radio dial? And more importantly, can you relate to it? Music is a personality, and someone’s music preference can reveal so much more about them.

16. What’s your favorite alcoholic drink?

Not everyone drinks, but the kind of drink they choose to order can reveal a LOT about their personality. After all, you’d know by now that a cocktail drinker is very different from a beer guzzler. [Read: What your favorite drink actually says about you and your lifestyle]

17. What’s your favorite vacation idea?

Are they a beach person? Or a mountain person? Every decision we take when on a vacation tells us about the kind of lifestyle we’d choose over everything else. After all, a vacation is a new life for a few days – so what would they choose? Backpacking? Luxurious? Laidback? Busy?

The kind of vacation someone prefers to go to is the kind of life they wish they could have.

18. What’s your favorite food?

Are they bolder when it comes to food preferences than you are? Someone who loves to experiment with food is adventurous and needs new experiences to keep them happy. Someone who prefers something simpler and plain prefers routine over everything else.

19. Who’s your favorite actor?

Is it someone sexy, someone talented, or someone who’s funny on social media?

This get-to-know-you question tells you about the quality they seek in others. Do they pay attention to someone’s outward appearance, the work they do, or something else? What’s important to them?

When you like a celebrity, there’s usually a subtle reason behind it. You may think you look like them, you may use them as a role model, or you may like the kind of movies they act in. But there’s always a deeper reason behind it.

20. If you found a briefcase of money on the street, would you keep it?

Do they look for the easy way out? Does this person prefer to work hard themselves instead of relying on a windfall? How deep does their conscience go? Are they empathetic enough to care about some random stranger’s loss? [Read: How to calmly talk about money with your family]

21. Are you religious?

Some people are, and some aren’t. Some are arrogant enough to believe their belief is the only one that’s true, and others are flexible because, hey, humans wrote those books themselves at the end of the day, right? Which one are they? Do they tolerate? Are they flexible? Or are they rigid?

22. Are you a gizmo person?

Someone who is into gizmos wants to stay ahead of the curve. They pride themselves on knowing and indulging in things most others don’t.

23. What kind of sports do you like?

Our favorite sports tell us a lot about our personalities. Are you a boxing or MMA fan *aggression* or a football fan *teamwork, cheer, and fun* or a chess aficionado *strategy and complexity*?

24. Clubbing or candlelight dinner?

What stage of life are they at? Are you at the same point?

25. Earth Hour or Fourth of July fireworks?

What do they prefer? What do you? [Read: 10 reasons to let your holiday fling become serious]

26. Backpacking or a luxury hotel?

Do they like exploring and being adventurous, or do they prefer a life of luxury?

27. Christmas or Halloween?

Which holiday do they prefer and why? Maybe they don’t even celebrate them.

28. Are you a morning person?

Even if you are early on in a relationship, this is a great question to know the answer to. Should you make them breakfast in bed? Should you let them sleep in?

29. What’s your philosophy in life?

Do they believe in karma? Maybe they think there is no purpose in life.

30. When was the last time you were happy you lied?

Lying sucks, but it can be helpful in specific situations. Use this get to know you question to see if they lie to protect others or themselves.

31. What comes to your mind when you think of your exes?

Do you hope they are doing okay, or do you hate them? Maybe you don’t even think about them at all, but knowing how they feel can tell you if they are over them or if they hold grudges. [Read: 13 secret signs your boyfriend is not over his ex]

32. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

If you are opposites, this could complicate things. When one of you wants to head home, the other is just getting the party started.

33. What’s your idea of romance?

Is it the classic flowers and candy or something different?

34. Would you like to live in the countryside or in a metropolitan area?

Sure, you may not be moving in together for a hell of a while, but it is still great to talk about this early on.

35. When did you lose your virginity?

If they have, it is always an exciting story. [Read: Losing your virginity and having sex for the first time]

36. What’s your favorite body part of the opposite sex?

This can get sexy fast, so only ask this if you’re ready for that.

37. What’s the wildest thing you’ve done sexually?

This can also get a little hot and heavy so ask this in private if you can. [Read: Top 50 sexual kinky ideas for a sexy relationship]

38. Do you think money can buy happiness?

This is so important. Although we all hate talking about money, it is a part of reality.

39. The world would be a better place if…?

There are so many possible answers here.

40. Do you have any social causes that are close to your heart?

This is so important. If you don’t ask this get to know you question, you won’t know what they care about and what they may commit a lot of their time to. And if you are against their cause, it could make many issues for you as a couple.

41. What do you do over the weekends?

Sleep? Watch TV? Clean?

42. Would you mind if I had a best friend of the opposite sex?

Are they jealous? Do they have trust issues? [Read: Why guy best friends are nothing but trouble]

43. Which was the worst phase in your life?

The tween years? Maybe the early twenties? What if it is right now?

44. What was the happiest moment in your life?

This will show their passion and joy. It will be nice to see this.

45. Do you judge a book by its cover?

This can be literal and about books, or it can be metaphorical. Do they judge everything by its appearance? [Read: 30 signs you’re shallow]

46. What’s your political stance?

I hate to say it, but this is a massive deal-breaker for many in today’s day and age.

47. Do you watch porn and what’s your view on it?

Do they think porn is a healthy outlet? Or do they find it degrading?

48. Do you believe in karma?

This is interesting. But be prepared to offer your response to this as well.

49. Do you plan your life or live for the moment?

If you’re a planner and they aren’t, will you balance out or drive each other crazy?

50. Do you think life is fair?

Ask this get to know you question to find out how they see the world.

51. If you were marooned on an island, what are the five things you would take with you?

I’m sure one answer will be their phone, but the rest will be interesting. [Read: 25 sweet romantic gestures for everyday life]

52. Would you sulk or would you confront?

Do they hold their feelings inside or come straight out with them? And how about you?

53. Are you addicted to anything?

Drugs? Alcohol? A TV show? Caffeine?

54. Any current news that’s caught your attention?

This can be an iffy subject to enter into, but it can also be super telling.

55. What are your favorite apps that you use often?

Do they love social media, or do they prefer games? [Read: The reason dating apps might not be working for you]

56. Are you an optimist or a pessimist?

This can be so helpful. You may be able to balance each other out with this.

57. What do you have for breakfast?

Do they not eat breakfast? Do they just have coffee? Maybe they eat the same thing every day.

58. How often do you make your bed?

Everyday? Only when they ash their sheets? Never?

59. If you knew you were right, would you take a stand even if you know you would make a scene in public or would you let it go?

This is so interesting. Does it depend on the topic or the situation or who you’re arguing with?

60. What’s an absolute no-no in a relationship?

This is essentially a get to know you question about dealbreakers, and it is best to ask this now rather than later.

[Read: When should you say “I love you” for the first time in a relationship?]

Just ask your new lover these 60 get to know you questions, and by the time you’re down to the sixtieth question, you’d definitely see a lot more about each other and your compatibility.

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