First kisses are a make or break affair. If you want to have a memorable first kiss that’s full of sparks and fiery passion, learn these 15 secrets. By Gerry Sanders
A first kiss isn’t just a kiss.
It’s a step towards intimacy, and yet, it’s a confusing affair that could go either way.
A first kiss could lead to many more perfect kisses.
Or it could be the end of a budding romance.
[Confession: A first kiss gone horribly wrong!]
If you’ve shared a first kiss with a special someone, you’d know the emotions associated with it.
Your heart starts to race, you feel confused and almost dizzy, and on the other extreme, you have no idea how your date would respond.
Would they kiss you back? Or would they stick a tongue in so deep it would make you gag?
Why is the first kiss such a big deal?
A first kiss creates a relationship. It’s like a bond that’s sealed with a kiss. Literally!
You may not know this, but a first kiss can actually predict the chemistry and the sexual excitement of both the kissers. If both of you are excited to kiss each other and are sexually attracted to each other, a first kiss is almost always perfect. [Read: 6 ways to get any guy to kiss you when you want him to]
But if one of you isn’t ready for a kiss, even if there’s a lot of sexual chemistry in the air, the whole kissing experience could end in a fizzle.
First kisses are full of possibilities.
But it’s like taking a plunge into dark waters.
There’s no way you can ever tell what would happen unless you take the plunge.
The plunge may be a mystery, but you can still turn the odds in your favor by making all the right moves before the kiss.
How to make your first kiss more memorable
Even if you’re an experienced kisser, a first kiss is always nervous, especially when you’re about to kiss someone who means a lot to you for the first time.
But don’t worry too much about how it could go bad, instead try to warm your date up to the kiss. As long as you play it safe and take your time, you’ll see the right potential come right through.
15 secrets to make your first kiss perfect
Keep these 15 secrets you need to know about first kisses in mind, and you really should have no trouble perfecting that first kiss.
#1 Plan ahead. A first kiss never pops right out of the blue. Even if it seems like an unplanned heat of the moment thing, the setting you create around each other is what gives you the opportunity.
The best time to kiss a date or a friend is when you’ve spent quite a while with each other, either on a date or while watching a movie at home because that gives both of you enough time to warm up towards each other. And most importantly, you need to find a way to get some alone time with no one around. Plan ahead so both of you can get some alone time at the end of the date, either in the car, a lonely park bench or at your place. [Read: 6 ways to kiss a friend accidentally and get away with it]
#2 Build the sexual tension. Your date must want to kiss you back, or at the least, you must know that your date would reciprocate it before you try kissing. Try to sit close to your date. It’s a great way to pass your sexual vibes to them. And most importantly, speak in a low and soft voice. Speaking softly is a natural turn on. Talk about how wonderful you feel spending time with this person, or talk about how enjoyable the day was. [Read: How to get a girl horny just by sitting next to her]
#3 Avoid distractions. Distractions are the bane of first kisses. You won’t believe the number of first kisses I’ve missed out on because of a cell phone ringing at the wrong time or a bladder full of pee. Isolate yourself in the moment and make sure your date isn’t thinking of anything other than this beautiful moment with you.
#4 Location. The location plays a big part in a first kiss. If you play your cards well, a first kiss could lead to a lot more within minutes. I remember the first time I tried kissing a girl in front of her house. She had her eyes closed and was kissing me passionately and climbing all over me, but I just couldn’t stop craning my neck to see if someone was walking past us.
If people walking past you bothers you, kiss your date in a parking lot or in your place. But make sure you keep the location in mind if you want to go beyond just a first kiss.
#5 Hygiene. Bad breath ruins any chances of a first kiss. If you’re planning to kiss your date after a garlic-infused dinner or a long drive, make sure you pop a breath mint into your mouth. If you want to make your first kiss feel a lot sexier, drink a sip of water a few seconds before trying to kiss your date. It makes your lips feel moist and a lot more kissable.
#6 The right kind of touch. The way you touch your new lover while trying to cozy up with them makes all the difference in a perfect first kiss. Constantly touch your date on their arms or play with their fingers. Let your date feel comfortable with your touch, and even like it.
And once you’re feeling bold enough to go for the kiss, whisper in their ears now and then or play with their hair. Nothing sends the kissing signal out better than that. [Read: 20 things that turn a guy on about a girl]
#7 Help your date read your mind. If you’ve used all the tips so far and your date reciprocates your touches by touching you back or coming closer to you, you’ve done all the right things. So hurrah for you!
Now you need to let your date know that you want to kiss them. Go close to your date’s face, and wait for them to move in closer to you. If all goes well, you’ll be kissing your date and making out with them in no time.
But if your date doesn’t come closer to kiss you, it doesn’t matter. You need to create other ways to excite them sexually. Go really close to them and place your palm on their cheek or graze your lips on their cheek, really close to their lips. If your date closes their eyes to take in the sensation, they’re obviously ready for the kiss. But if time is what they need, continue to get touchy feely until they get too weak in the knees to resist you any further.
#8 Take it really slow. Once you start kissing your date for the first time, don’t get carried away and get aggressive instantly. Feel your date’s lips softly touch your own and spend a few seconds trying to understand who takes the upper lip or who takes the lower lip. Trust me, that one thing alone can lead to confusions if you’re already used to a particular type of kissing. Improvise your kissing style as the seconds stretch on. [Read: 10 things girls should never say to guys ever]
#9 Using your tongue. Don’t use your tongue immediately as soon as you start kissing your date for the first time, but don’t keep it hidden either. Slide your tongue in just a tiny bit until you touch your date’s lips with your tongue. If they reciprocate, you’re doing it just right. Beyond the first thirty seconds or so, it’s alright to get bold and explore just a little more, very softly, of course!
#10 Learn to keep your hands busy. Once you’ve got your lips busy, what do you do with your hands? For starters, place your hands on the sides or the back of your kissing mate. If you want to turn the passion on, you can run one hand through your date’s hair or move it along the neck.
If you want to get bolder, place your hands on your partner’s sides and move them along the sides of the body, inches away from any strategic locations. If everything goes well, your hands should get rather busy in a short while! [Read: How to make out with a girl and make her love it!]
#11 How long should a first kiss last? First kisses aren’t measured in seconds. They’re measured in passionate moments. A perfect kiss isn’t just one kiss, it’s a series of well timed first kisses. Kiss your date for a few seconds, and move your head back slowly, but keep it within a few inches from your date’s face. It makes you feel more in control, and you’ll be able to read your date’s expression too.
If your date backs away, you need to wait. If they come closer and start kissing you again, they like what you’re doing.
But what I’d suggest is to move your face back just a little bit after several seconds, and come in for another kiss within a second or two. It shows that you want to kiss, so it won’t leave your date wondering if you’re not interested in the kiss. By taking occasional breaks and coming in for a kiss again, you’ll be able to increase the passion and make your date want your kisses even more. [Read: 25 friends with benefits rules to remember if you’re kissing a friend]
#12 Vary the kisses. Start with a really soft kiss, and follow it up with another soft kiss. But once the kisses start to get frequent, vary the pace and the pressure of the kisses. Push your date aggressively once, and immediately after that, kiss your date softly again. That’ll leave your date confused in a passionate frenzy of kisses, and they’ll start to get wilder and more aggressive too!
#13 Don’t stop at the lips. A kiss may start at the lips but could end anywhere else. After a few minutes of intense kissing, don’t stagnate the game by restricting your kisses only to the lips. Every now and then, kiss your date’s cheek, the chin or their neck in between all the kisses on the lips. It gives you access to more places and makes the whole experience sizzle a lot more.
#14 Don’t push it. Don’t try too hard to reach out to too many places too soon. If the first kiss goes well, you know there will definitely be many more dates with many more kisses too. So unless you’re certain your date likes where your hands are going, don’t try to reach out to too many places. Perfect the first kiss and create a memorable experience first. Letting your hands wander into your date’s pants comes later. [Read: How a guy’s size down there actually matters to girls]
#15 Watch the signs. Learn when to back off. If your date stiffens up, pulls away quickly or seems distracted while kissing, move your head back just a few inches. [Read: 30 super sexy ways to keep a guy interested in you]
Don’t kill the mood by asking your date why they’re distracted. Just stay close to their face and focus on their neck or their ears. If you date has something to say, they’ll say it. If they don’t say anything, get back to the lips and pucker your lips for another long series of sexy first kisses.
These 15 secrets on how to make your first kiss perfect are all you need to enjoy a great first kiss with a special someone. Keep these tips in mind, and use them at the opportune moment. You’ll realize how easy kissing for the first time can be once you master these secrets.
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