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Dating Questions: 80 Questions to Ask Before Getting Serious

Dating questions are a fun way to get to know someone in a new relationship. So here are 80 questions to ask your partner before getting serious.

Dating Questions

Dates can be either the most exciting or the most stomach-churning experience a person can have while trying to get to know someone. That’s where good-old dating questions come into play. Nothing fills awkward silences more than flirty, curious questions.

The best part? You come off as the perfect date – attentive and completely interested in what your potential partner has to say. All the while, you’re secretly compiling a mental list and reasons why you should or shouldn’t continue to date this person.

It’s fun and brilliant all at the same time. Without further ado, here are 80 dating questions to ask your partner before you decide whether or not you want to get serious. [Read: 60 get-to-know-you questions for a new romance]

Questions about trust and fundamentals

First up is the fundamentals. These will help you to determine whether you could date this person seriously, or if your ideals are too far apart for your liking.

These questions cover life goals and personal beliefs. Make sure your questions are asked with genuine curiosity – even bordering on flirtation – otherwise the person you’re dating might start to feel like this is more of an interrogation than a fun night out. [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility instantly]

#1 Do you want kids?

#2 *If yes* how many?

#3 Do you think both partners should work?

#4 Where do you see yourself in five years?

#5 Do you believe in shared bank accounts?

#6 Have you ever lived with someone before?

#7 Have you ever been in love?

#8 Do you believe in God? [Read: 20 Questions to ask on a first date for the best conversation]

#9 Do you want to get married?

#10 Are you close to your family?

#11 Do you want any pets?

#12 How important is your job?

#13 What are your biggest life goals?

#14 Do you intend to travel much in life?

#15 What really irritates you?

#16 Are you an angry person?

#17 Are you a text person or a phone call person?

#18 Are you religious? [Read: Dating in your 30s? 13 Changes you’ll have to prepare for]

#19 Is race important to you?

#20 Have you ever been addicted to anything?

#21 Are holidays important to you?

#22 What city do you want to live in? [Read: 15 of the most memorable things to do on a first date]

Questions about love, sex, and past relationships

Next are the biggies about sex and past lovers. Sex is huge in a relationship, and depending on how your partner answers these questions, you’re either going to leave very turned on or very disappointed.

Sneakily slipping in relationship questions also gives you an idea of what your partnet was like before you, and how they treated *or mistreated* their ex-loves.

Sex questions also give you a great idea of what to expect when you guys finally dive between the sheets. If they’re honest with their answers, you’ll be able to see a potential dreamboat *or maybe just a red flag!* alerts. [Read: 50 questions to check if someone’s right for you]

Just remember not to ask all these questions in one sitting or you might start to sound like a desperate daisy!

#23 What’s the best date you’ve ever been on?

#24 What’s the worst date you’ve ever had?

#25 Have you ever cheated on a partner?

#26 Have you ever had a threesome?

#27 What’s been your best relationship?

#28 What’s been your worst breakup?

#29 What’s your biggest sex fantasy? [Read: 30 fun, free, and sexy dating ideas that are totally worth trying]

#30 Do you get bored after you sleep with someone for the first time?

#31 Do you use condoms/are you on birth control?

#32 Have you ever had an STD?

#33 Are you circumcised? [Read: Sex with an uncircumcised man – Myths and all]

#34 Do you have any children?

#35 Have you ever been married?

#36 *If so* how many times?

#37 When’s the last time you were tested?

#38 What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done in the bedroom?

#39 Do you use sex toys?

#40 Are you a jealous person? [Read: Are we dating? Read these 17 signs then ask no more]

#41 Do you believe men and women can be just friends?

#42 What was your longest relationship?

#43 What makes you feel sexiest?

#44 Are you into anal sex?

#45 What’s better… kissing or hugging? [Read: 30 dirty would you rather questions to ask your lover]

#46 Do you ever have sex dreams?

#47 What would qualify as the “best sex ever!”?

#48 When’s the first time you remember being turned on?

#49 Are you a big flirt?

#50 What’s your favorite part of a woman/man? [Read: Drawing a blank? Try these 25 good conversation starters]

Fun get-to-know-you questions

If you’re not up for deep conversations about life and love, these dating questions are for you. They’re fun and silly while still helping you to get to know one another. These dating questions are also fantastic ice breakers regardless of the subject matter. Here are 29 fun dating questions to ask.

#51 What is too serious to joke about?

#52 How often do you like to text/receive texts from your partner?

#53 Are you a glass-half-full or glass-half-empty kind of person? [Read: 30 deep questions to ask someone before you get in too far]

#54 What’s the best present you’ve ever given someone?

#56 What’s the best present you ever received?

#57 Do you laugh in awkward situations?

#58 Do you laugh every day?

#59 What’s harder to do, sacrifice or share?

#60 What is your blood type?

#61 What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received? [Read: 36 random, funny questions for flirty guys and girls]

#62 What is your heritage?

#63 What’s your favorite type of music?

#64 When did you first learn to drive? *Follow up: Did you pass your first in-car exam?*

#65 Have you ever been in an accident?

#66 What are 5 characteristics that make up a positive person?

#67 Overprotective… or live and let live?

#68 Would you eat a plate of maggots for a million dollars?

#69 Do you have a favorite word? [Read: Dating an introvert – adorable quirks that set them apart]

#70 If you had to eat the same meal every day for the rest of your life, what would it be?

#71 What do you want to do when you retire?

#72 What’s your favorite joke?

#73 What’s the worst injury you ever sustained?

#74 What did you want to be when you were a little kid?

#75 Did you ever go to college/university? [Read: 87 fun “this or that” questions about sex, life and food]

#76 If someone disagrees with you, what’s your usual reaction?

#77 Have you ever pulled an all-nighter?

#78 When do you usually like to go to bed?

#79 When do you wake up in the morning?

#80 Are you more logical or more creative?

[Read: 50 cheeky, personal questions to ask someone you like]

Who you decide to crown your official boyfriend or girlfriend is a big deal! We hope these 80 dating questions can help you seal the deal on whether or not the person you’re dating is relationship-worthy.

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Waverly Smith

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