Do you often wonder what men really like in a woman? Of course, everyone is different but there are some common things men love and find attractive in a woman, from having a sense of humor to not being needy. How many do you have?
Do you want to be the super woman in your man’s life? Or do you want to be the woman that all men desire? In that case, you need to know what men want in a woman first and foremost.
Most women assume that great looks is all that matters to make a guy swoon and fall head over heels in love. But the truth about what men find attractive in a woman is quite far reaching.
So what do men want in a woman they’re in a relationship with if it’s not just the looks? Could there be more to a desirable woman than appearances?
Of course, there is. Find out what men really want in the woman and unpick the male psyche! [Read: Questions you shouldn’t ask your man]
The big and small things that men want in a woman, and the honest things that men find attractive and desirable
Attraction and infatuation at first sight are very different from the deep appreciation that men get once they get to know a woman well.
What men find attractive in a woman and what keeps them there are often slightly different things. However, there are some common points we can explore.
1. A cheerful and positive attitude
The laugh or a flirty giggle of a happy, cheerful woman can melt even the hardest of manly hearts. Have a happy, positive personality and try to look on the brighter side of life all the time.
There’s something about a cheerful woman whose eyes light up with joy that draws all men to her. [Read: How to be more positive – 24 steps to a happy and dramatic life shift]
2. The way she presents herself
It’s always easier to attract attention from men when you make an effort to look good and dress well. A bright red umbrella is always a lot more attention-grabbing on a rainy day amidst all the dull umbrellas, isn’t it?
Dress well and feel good about yourself. You don’t really have to try and stand out with bold, flashy colors all the time. Just dress in well-fitting clothes and appear confident.
And yes, don’t forget that dab of perfume to leave a trail of men swooning over your fragrance as you walk past them! [Read: What men always notice in women]
3. Flirty gestures
Do you wink or raise your eyebrows flirtily when you say goodbye or pass a smart remark? Well, if you do indulge in these types of expressions, or even a million other expressions that make you look cuter-than-cute, then you’re already on your way to making hearts beat a lot faster.
Men can’t get enough of flirty gestures from women. Stand in front of the mirror and try a few flirty moves. It may seem dumb at first, but hey, remember what men like in women and try this tip. It’s guaranteed to show results! [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]
4. Show just a bit of skin
Want that look to turn into a second and third glance? Learn to show a bit of skin. An outright pound of cleavage or a slab of midriff can seem attractive, but it’s also trashy and crude. And it makes you look like you’re trying too hard to please and get attention.
Play subtle. It works a lot better. A shirt or a tee that ends just right around where your jeans start, or a perfectly fitting top with a wider neck is just perfect for men.
They love the nearly-there peeks. Their curiosity will drive them crazy enough to stare. [Read: How to look sexy without trying]
5. A seductive voice
If there’s anything that makes the hair on the back of a man’s neck stand in excitement, it’s a woman’s sweet and sexy voice. Now mastering the art of the seductive husky voice takes time, so don’t give it too much thought just yet.
When you’re speaking with a man, speak in a low tone and avoid the high-pitched glass-shattering squeal. A low, soft voice inadvertently sounds more arousing and attractive. And the best part – it’s easy to speak in a low, softer tone without seeming like you’re trying too hard.
Try your new softer voice the next time you’re on the phone. And don’t blame us if the man on the other end gets flirty! [Read: How to flirt with a guy subtly without really flirting at all]
6. A woman who asks for help
Men absolutely love a woman who asks for help. It makes them feel macho, gives them an excuse to have a conversation with a pretty woman, and reawakens their evolutionary desire to be the provider and the protector.
And when you thank a man with a flirty smile, there’s a good chance that he’d gush with awkward embarrassment and ask for your phone number! [Read: Damsel in distress – Why men find women who ask for help irresistible]
7. A confident woman
We can’t stress this enough, but just understanding this one pointer can change a proverbial ugly duckling into the most beautiful princess overnight. There’s nothing more beautiful in a woman than her confidence. Note this, we said confidence, not cockiness.
Confidence is such a turn on in a woman, and men are suckers for it, even if they don’t realize it themselves. Can you handle yourself well no matter where you are? Can you talk to five men at once and still hold the reins of the conversation?
A confident woman is awe-inspiring and, to a certain extent, intimidating. If there’s anything that men want in a woman, this is it. A confident woman can be beautiful, strong, determined and everything else rolled up into one, just as long as she makes up her mind. [Read: How to build self-confidence – 16 ways to realize you’re worth it]
8. The ability to take control
Men love it when they’re the “man” in the relationship. They like wearing the pants, and they want to feel like they have a say in the relationship.
A woman who’s overly dominating could even jeopardize the relationship and make a man shrivel up where it matters. But that really doesn’t mean you should avoid taking control. Men like it when a woman tells her man to sit back while she makes all the decisions.
Believing in each other’s capabilities is important. And when a man truly believes his woman is capable of doing anything he can do *perhaps even better*, he’ll only respect her more. He’ll also love her for the fact that she still wants him to take a lead in their lives together. [Read: How to better a relationship together as a couple]
9. A woman who makes her man look good
Do you make your man look good? Now we don’t mean this in an accessory or arm candy way though. Do you stand up for your man in public no matter what? A knight loves rescuing a damsel in distress, but at times, the knight would be grateful to be rescued too.
Brag about him when you’re out with friends, avoid bitching about him or correcting him in front of other people, and let him do the same for you. [Read: 36 easy, sexy ways to keep a guy interested and eager to be with you]
10. An independent woman
While a relationship is about bonding and spending time together, it’s also a lot more about growing as individuals. Become a better person every single day, and help him along the path too. Spend some time by yourselves or with your own friends, and learn to give space in a relationship.
Men like a woman in need, but they hate needy women. If there’s an issue you can deal with yourself, don’t ring your man and ask him to come over. In fact, he’d respect you more if you’re someone he can come to for help! [Read: How to give space in a relationship]
11. A freak in bed
Psst… this is a quiet one, but we assure you, men love a woman who knows her moves in bed. Don’t be afraid to dominate your man in bed. That’s something men want in a woman.
Have you ever caught your man staring at a hot girl doing something dirty on the screen? Gee, wonder what fascinated him so much.
Most men may not be so vocal about their interests in bed, but they would absolutely love a woman who’s confident in bed. Be this woman, and he won’t be able to keep his hands off you! [Read: 41 minxy secrets to turn on your man and leave him hard and ready]
12. A desirable woman
All men want to be with this woman, and all women want to be this woman. Have you seen her? Well, she’s inside you waiting to come out!
You may not realize this, but the secret to being a desirable woman is less about how you look and more about how you carry yourself and feel inside. Men love it when their woman can walk across a crowded hall, chitchat with a few people, and become the focus of everyone around in an instant.
That’s exactly what men find attractive in a woman. [Read: How to sleep with him in a sexy way]
13. Strength and determination
Do you occasionally take up pet projects and leave them unfinished? Or do you make up your mind to do something in the morning and forget all about it by nightfall? A woman who’s fickle-minded will not inspire anyone, nor will she be taken seriously by the people around her.
On the other hand, if you’re a woman who puts her money where her mouth is, and never backs away from a challenge, your man will be inspired by you.
It’s not easy to be a determined wonder-woman, but if that’s what you are, hey, you’re his new role model. [Read: 23 secrets and real life problems that make a relationship stronger]
14. A woman who makes him a better man
Everyone knows why the other person in a relationship is called the better half of the relationship. It’s not an empty compliment. It’s meant to be true. Do you help your man become a better individual by helping him correct his flaws and shortcomings?
Be a good listener and understand what’s really going on in his life. Help him with his big decisions when he asks you for advice. Spend time with him and help him realize his dreams and aspirations.
Make him a better man, and he’ll love you, respect you, and desperately want you all his life. [Read: Self concept – How we create and develop it to control our happiness]
15. Zero mind games
Men hate mind games and do not appreciate being manipulated. Whether it is playing your man into moving in together or pressuring him to tie the knot even though you know he is not ready, men are truly not as dumb as you think.
They know when you are manipulating them, and the reason they allow it to happen is because they are simply on the same page as you are.
Do not chalk it up as you being successful in convincing him to give you a key to his place. [Read: The subtle signs you’re being manipulated by your lover!]
16. A loyal woman
If there is one thing that we can all agree on, it is that loyalty is very important to everyone. Although women always say that men are the cheaters, remember that women cheat too. The same way you will not tolerate your man toying with someone else, he will not accept you cheating on him.
Fidelity is very important to men, and they need to know that you are not going to hurt them. If you are loyal, you can be sure that it is definitely one of the many qualities that he wants and needs in a partner. [Read: Why do men cheat? – 43 reasons, excuses and ways to prevent it!]
17. Great at stroking his ego
Men have huge egos, and this is something that you should know by now. As humble and modest as your man may be, you can rest assured that there is still some egoism in him. Stroke his ego as often as you can and let him know that he is wonderful.
Men need a partner who can give them assurance that what they’re doing is the right thing, or at the very least, worthwhile.
For example, if your man is worried about a huge work-related presentation, stroke his ego by saying something like, “You know who you are and what you can do. I have seen it for myself. You are great and are going to ace this.” [Read: 15 ways to convince a guy that you want and need him]
18. A kind heart
No man wants to be saddled with a bitch for the rest of his life. No matter how great you are in bed, if you are a complete she-devil, he is going to pick the kind girl over you any day.
Having a kind heart is important to men, especially when they are ready to settle down with a life partner.
Whether it is the joy you find in volunteering at the local animal shelter or always buying a loaf of bread for the homeless man who lives on the corner of your block, men notice and remember these little acts of kindness and are very attracted to them. [Read: 35 not-so-obvious things about you that your guy really, really loves!]
19. No gold diggers
Unless you have the sheer luck of dating someone who is rolling in cash and has more than enough to share his fortune with the world, no man wants to be with a woman who is with him solely for his money.
If you are a gold digger or have cruel intentions to spend whatever you can get your hands on, you can be sure that you are going to get the boot soon.
Men want a partner who can appreciate the value of money, and love him for who he is, not the money he has. [Read: Manipulative people – How to spot them and stop playing the victim]
20. A healthy mind and body
Proving that you can look after yourself is a very sexy trait indeed. Men love it when you not only look good but feel good as well. A healthy woman has curves that can make a man moan just thinking of them.
When you put effort into exercising, eating right, and staying healthy, your man will appreciate it more. The same way you would love to have a healthy man in your life, he wants the same from you.
21. An intelligent mind
Men do not want or need a pretty face who cannot partake in intelligent conversation. As gorgeous as you may be, if you are a dud, he will not want to be with you over the long run.
Men know that one day your looks will go and all he is going to be left with is a woman who has long since lived out her glory years. Your looks may be what captivate him, but your intelligence is what will make him stay. As hard as it may be for you to believe, men like a woman with brains. [Read: Attracted to intelligence?]
22. Partner in crime
Men want and need a partner in crime. They want someone whom they can have fun with. Whether it is spending a weekend by the ocean basking in the sun and scuba diving, or just giving him input on his latest manuscript.
You have to think of your relationship as a team. If one person does not carry their weight, then the team will lose.
23. Acceptance of his flaws
Never try to change a man because you will fail. Have you never heard the saying, “People change but they don’t change much?” Well, keep that in mind the next time you try to mold your man into the ideal creature.
Like women, men have flaws and hate being reminded that they are not living up to your expectations. Accept and embrace his flaws, and you will find that he will unconsciously make an effort to please you. [Read: 14 signs you’re being too critical with your man!]
24. Clear communication
Clear communication is something that men want and need. Men the world over are confused as to who put the notion into women’s heads that they do not like to communicate.
On the contrary, men love communicating freely and clearly. Do not speak to your man in riddles. Do not expect them to read between the lines. Just talk and let it all out.
When you tell your man what you want and need, he will deliver. [Read: How to effectively communicate with your partner]
25. A woman who can be herself
First and foremost, if a guy finds you attractive, it’s because of you. Sure, what you wear may help, but what comes out of your mouth is even more important.
You want him to like you – and not only just your face and body. Because at the end of the day, that’s all gonna fade – yes, it sounds scary.
26. Easy on the melodrama
We all like watching reality TV, however, very few of us want to live it. Let’s take it easy on the melodrama.
It’s okay to be dramatic, however, if some girl pushes you when you’re walking down the street, grabbing her head and slamming it into a wall is a little much. Men don’t want unnecessary drama. [Read: Drama queen alert – 12 steps to calmly deal with the diva]
27. Can hang with the boys
All guys want a girl who will be able to chill with their friends and feel like she’s just one of the boys. There’s nothing worse than hanging with a girl who’s judging what he and his friends are doing.
The ability to spend time with his friends is what men find attractive in a woman. [Read: How to keep a guy interested – 30 easy and super sexy ways]
28. A woman who is always honest
Men find women who are honest to be the most attractive, specifically when it comes to finding a partner. One-night stands are a different story… you don’t even have to know the person’s name.
However, if a guy’s looking to be with someone, they want someone who’s going to be truthful and trustworthy.
28. The feminine side
People always assume that showing your feminine side indicates that you’re fragile and weak – which is completely wrong. Everyone has a feminine side *including men*, and honestly, people appreciate those who are able to confidently show it without shame.
If you want to wear heels, wear them. If you want to wear a sundress, wear it. If you want to wear bright pink lipstick, smack it on those lips. [Read: 20 hot tips – The ultimate guide to being more feminine]
30. Hip to waist ratio
This is science talking, not us. Apparently, men prefer a smaller waist and larger hips. This is because it’s connected to childbearing, thus, he’s more attracted to the hip-to-waist ratio.
Now, this isn’t conscious, but it’s there in the back of their minds.
31. Sexual expression
When you’re sexually involved with a guy, they love it when you’re into it. No one wants to be with someone who’s dead silent, just laying there like a pillow princess. They want you to interact, to be sexually expressive, and free. [Read: How to seduce a man who’s not yet yours]
31. Her vulnerable side
Men love to be the heroes, and love to feel like they came and rescued the day.
When a woman opens up and talks about her troubles, it makes men feel like they can help solve the problem and be the knight in shining armor she was always looking for as a young girl.
32. A sense of adventure
This is what men find attractive in a woman. Try some rock climbing, or perhaps sky-diving, anything adventurous is definitely a big turn-on for most men.
33. Trusting and doesn’t get jealous easily
Just as women hate controlling men when dealing with their love lives, the same applies to men. Any woman asking for his Facebook password, or going through his texts when he’s in the shower will be shown the door. [Read: How to get over trust issues in your relationship]
34. Ability to compromise
Nothing sours a relationship faster than constant arguing and bickering. We get it, girls may not see everything as guys do, but there has to be a level of compromise.
But if the relationship becomes less about you as a couple and more about who is right or wrong in every single instance, the relationship probably won’t progress beyond the short-term level.
For that reason, the ability to compromise is what men find attractive in a woman. [Read: 35 not-so-obvious things your guy really loves about you]
Now you know what men find attractive in a woman
In the end, all that can be said about what men like a woman is this, while you may know men are looking for these attributes in women, the best thing you can do is simply be yourself. By doing so, you can find a man who loves you for who you truly are, not someone who loves who you are pretending to be.
Of course, you can change the traits you truly believe need changing. But, if you have traits that give you confidence and make you feel good about yourself, don’t ever change that just to impress a guy!
[Read: Tired of chasing? How to make any guy want you instead]
Now that you know what men like and find attractive in a woman, use these tips and you’ll see how easy it can be to win the attention of men around you. And the best part – it’ll never appear like you’re trying to make an impression!
