Mind-blowing sex, whether with a partner or with a hot one-night stand, can always be great. Whether you’ve known someone for ten years or ten minutes, if you decide to get hot and heavy under the sheets, there are some seriously sexy tips that are guaranteed to make it a night to remember.
12 moves for guaranteed mind-blowing sex
So why settle for mediocre sex when you can make sure it’ll hit the spot *and your partner’s spot* each and every time? Here are 12 tips to make sure you have a brilliant, sexy, satisfying time, every time.
#1 Kiss. Sometimes, it’s good to start with the basics, and kissing cannot be underestimated. Kissing is intimate, sexy, and can get you tingling in all the right places. Think back to the best kiss of your life—it was pretty good, right?
Kissing builds up tension. Start off slow, and get more passionate and urgent. When you can’t help but tear each other’s clothes off, then you know the time is right. [Read: 12 foolproof kissing tips for a perfectly sexy smooch]
#2 Explore. Mind-blowing sex is all about trying new things and seeing what works for you and what doesn’t. There are so many things you can do in the sack, so why not try everything that you feel comfortable with?
Go to places you’ve never been before. If you’re with someone who respects you and is a willing adventurer, too, there are untold pleasures the two of you can find together.
#3 Change it up. You might have a favorite position or be a little too timid to try new things, but if you don’t change things up every once in a while, you’ll never know how good sex can be.
The best sex sessions involve mixing up positions, rolling around, and getting down and dirty! Changing position is also a great way to last longer and have an incredibly awesome sex session. If you just get in there and start thrusting away, chances are, it’ll be over in no time. So go slow, try new positions, and build up slowly until you just can’t help yourself. [Read: 30-day sex challenge: 30 positions for 30 days]
#4 Shower together. Showers are hot, slippery, and wet and they make you hot, slippery, and wet, too!
It’s no wonder that so many memorable sex scenes in movies are filmed in the shower. With the water cascading over both of you, the steam rising, your wet bodies pressing together, how could it not be hot, hot, hot? And what better way to start a mind-blowing sex session? [Read: Slippery when wet: Make shower sex sizzle with these tips]
#5 Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. All right, so you might have heard this before, but making foreplay last is a great way to build up to the big event. Foreplay includes everything from kissing, stroking, and touching to oral sex. Again, it’s all about taking your time with it.
Start with kissing and touching through clothes until you’re both so horny that it feels almost unbearable. Only then should you undress and start again. Waiting until you feel crazed with desire will only make it all the more satisfying when you actually do start having sex. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay tips you can ever use in bed]
#6 Do it often. Perfecting sex is all about practice. Think of it as any other skill—if you stop doing it for a while, the next time you try, you’re going to be out of practice. The more often you have sex, the more you’ll get to know what you like and, if with a partner, what they like, too.
#7 Communicate. Sometimes, it really is just as simple as spelling out what you want for someone. If you like what they’re doing, tell them. If you want them to move a fraction to the right, speak up. If it’s all gotten to be a bit much and you need them to slow down, let them know.
No one, however good they are at sex, is a mind reader, and as we said before, everyone is different. What your previous lover may have considered as mind-blowing sex may not be floating the boat for your new one. If you talk about what you like openly and honestly, you can save yourself years of mediocre sex, and your partner will be grateful you did! [Read: 14 tips to get your partner to open up about sex]
#8 Play out your fantasies. If you’ve got a fantasy, why not make it a reality? Don’t go through your life wishing you had the courage to try something or to tell your partner, “Hey, I’d really like it if you tied me up/dressed up as a nurse/pretended you didn’t know me, etc.” [Read: 12 arousing fantasies to try in real life]
#9 Don’t have sex. What? Did we misspeak? Actually, no, you heard us right. Sometimes, focusing on another aspect of sex rather than penetration can give you new, intense orgasms that you never knew you could have.
Don’t just go through the motions of foreplay to get to the good stuff. Hand jobs, blow jobs, cunnilingus, and a million other fun, playful sex acts are all up for grabs. If you fancy something different, why not just concentrate on one of them and see where it goes?
#10 Do it somewhere naughty. So often, it can be easy to fall into a sex routine. You might know your partner well and be having perfectly satisfying sex, but if you want to really have your mind blown, you need to keep things interesting.
While your bed and missionary position may sound fine after a hard day in the office, why not try having sex somewhere new? That “I need to have you now” feeling is seriously hot and can lead to having great sex in all kinds of awesome places—just try not to get caught! [Read: The 20 best and hottest places for outdoor sex]
#11 Relax. Mind-blowing sex is all about relaxing and having confidence. Sometimes it’s messy, sometimes things don’t work out the way they’re supposed to, and sometimes your body makes strange, uncontrollable noises that make you want to crawl under the bed and die.
If you can be confident about your body and your technique, and can laugh any awkward moments off and try again when things don’t quite go as planned, you are far more likely to have great sex instead of being stressed out by the whole thing.
#12 Get intimate. The truth is, the best sex often happens when you have an emotional connection with someone. If you can find someone to share your life with and be truly intimate with, chances are, you’re doing all of the above, anyway, and might even already be having truly spectacular, mind-blowing sex. [Read: 12 easy ways to keep intimacy alive in a relationship]
Mind-blowing sex can happen for everyone. You just have to believe in it and in yourself. Whatever your relationship status, you should never settle for sex that is dull or unenjoyable, so get confident, get sexy, and enjoy fantastic sex for the rest of your life!
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