Sometimes we fall into a sex rut and things can become boring. But, if you learn new ways to turn on your boyfriend, your sex life will never become dull!
When it comes to having great sex, it is all about mutual pleasure. But, one thing that we have no control over is how far our partners are willing to go to reciprocate. Of course, seeing your man writhing around in pleasure is a huge turn on. To get to that point, you need to learn how to turn on your boyfriend.
One-sided pleasure is not only pretty bad form in a relationship, but it’s not going to create a long-lasting and exciting sex life for those involved either. Of course, everyone finds different things to be a turn-on.
There is no ‘one size fits all’ answer when it comes to what gets a guy hot under the collar. However, there are some pretty generic things that usually hit the spot! [Read: 18 Physical turn ons for guys that arouse all men within seconds]
How to turn on your boyfriend: 41 ways to do it right
Consider all the things that mean the most to you in a relationship and translate them into “man language.” Even if it makes you uncomfortable, sometimes you need to put yourself into someone else’s shoes to get to know them and figure out what turns them on most.
However, to break it down to its most basic terms, if you want to turn on a guy, you need to become more desirable by him.
It’s a simple fact. If he desires you, he absolutely will get turned on by you. The more he desires you, the more he’ll get turned on by you. These tips will help you achieve your aims and help you know without a doubt how to turn on your boyfriend. [Read: 20 sexy questions to ask a guy and turn him on]
1. Sexting
Sexting is highly underrated. The next time you want to connect with your guy, don’t send him a passive-aggressive text trying to get his attention. Really get his attention.
Sending him a note telling him you are going to wrap your mouth around his member tonight is much more effective than asking, “Why don’t we have sex anymore?”
Guys don’t want questions. They may just push him further away. Send him something naughty and skip the drama to turn him on. [Read: 30 hot, sexting examples to start a naughty text marathon]
2. Send him naked photos
Oops… did you just take a picture up your skirt? You don’t have to get totally naked to turn him on. A simple image with the promise of something more to come will have him wanting to cum before he even steps through the door.
3. Smile
Want to know how to turn on your boyfriend? Odd but true – it is the smile of a woman he loves. A smile is like saying you think he is Superman and Batman rolled into one.
As simple as it may sound, give him a big ol’ one. Just make sure it is genuine. There is nothing hot about a forced or fake smile. [Read: 40 cute texts to make him smile and miss you more]
4. Talk about his junk
If you want to turn on your boyfriend, remember that men love two things, their penis and their lady. If you want to turn him on, talk about his penis.
Go into detail about how big it is, how it feels when it penetrates you, and how it is the most ginormous thing you have ever seen. Sometimes his own sexual organ and talk of it turn him on just as much as your female parts.
5. Be open to new things
If you want to turn a guy on, try to do what they want to do. That may mean watching a naughty movie in bed with him. Hell, even let him choose.
Sometimes we think we know what turns our guys on, negating what is right in front of us. Being open to doing the things you know he likes will be an instant turn-on. But, of course, you should never do anything you feel uncomfortable with. [Read: Get in the mood with these 15 movies with a lot of sex]
6. Be spontaneous
Okay, so it isn’t Friday, but that doesn’t mean you can’t wait for him butt-naked in bed with a trail of flowers beckoning him to the bedroom. When learning how to turn on your boyfriend, spontaneous actions will definitely do it!
Basically, guys love spontaneity, and the anticipation of finding someone lying in bed just waiting to be ravished is about as sexy as it gets. [Read: 20 fun and fantastic ways to surprise your boyfriend]
7. Find toys for him
We all have the standard vibrator, but there are a ton of new toys becoming mainstream. Go online and read some reviews about different toys designed for him.
He may be resistant at first, but if you talk him into it, it will be something to turn him on and create more intimacy for you both.
8. Work on his favorite asset
This isn’t going to be an immediate turn-on. It may take some real effort on your part. But if you know your guy is a butt man, hire a trainer and get on it.
It isn’t that he doesn’t love you for who and what you are, but if you put a little effort into his fantasy parts, you will get a great return on your hard work by his hardness. [Read: The average penis – The easy answers that’ll make you a know-it-all]
9. Nibble his erogenous zones
The mistake girls make is to think that there are only two erogenous zones on a guy. They have about as many as women do, we just typically go for the full monty.
If you want to turn him on, hit the key places like the nipples, behind the ears, the inside of the thighs, and don’t ever, ever, neglect the testicles. It is those little sensual touches that turn him on without even having to go for his package. [Read: 29 foreplay moves that work exceptionally well on men]
10. Talk dirty
When we talk dirty out loud, sometimes we feel like we’re standing on stage in our underwear. Talking dirty is an art that you have to develop. As silly as you think you sound, it sounds totally and utterly sexy when it rings in his ears.
Your words may sound strange and out of place when they leave your mouth, but by the time they make it to his brain, he is already revved up and ready to go. [Read: How to dirty talk – All the naughtiest examples that’ll leave you horny]
11. Be aggressive
Sometimes, he doesn’t want to have to be the aggressor. If you want to turn on your boyfriend, it may take a little more than making the first move. Some guys like to be dominated.
That doesn’t mean you tie him to the bed or order a feathered whip – unless he’s into that sort of thing. That just means being a little more forceful and taking control of the situation once in a while. It allows him just to sit back and enjoy without having to try so hard.
12. Praise him
We don’t mean to belittle him. He isn’t a dog or a pet, but giving him some positive reinforcement makes it easier for him to let go and have a good time.
Guys can’t get turned on when they don’t feel good about themselves or don’t feel powerful. If you make him feel those two things, he won’t need Viagra. [Read: 30 special compliments for guys to make them blush and make their day]
13. Use aphrodisiacs
Scents, foods, and different sensations help to enhance his sexual mood and turn him on.
Aphrodisiacs are not just a myth! Foods like oysters and chocolate help to elicit certain hormones to get him turned on. It is all about finding the right combinations to set his heart *and other things* on fire. [Read: Aphrodisiacs and food hell – A lover’s guide to eating well]
14. Try role-play
Role-playing may be something that feels strange at first, but once you get into character, it can be fun for you both. Let’s not kid ourselves by thinking that guys, even if monogamous, sometimes don’t miss variety.
Being playful and playing a different role allows him to live out his fantasies with his fantasy girlfriend – which is you!
15. Don’t talk about everything else!
Sometimes, the best thing you can do to turn on your boyfriend is to be quiet. That is right, stop trying so damn hard and just keep your mouth silent. Instead of overthinking, over-talking, or continually asking questions, just wrap your mouth around every part of his body and go to town.
In a guy’s world, not having to listen to idle chatter is about as sexy as it gets. One note, you never hear women in pornos go on about their long day or what Susie said at work. Guys love porno, right? Think about it. [Read: How to compliment a guy subtly and 23 tips to get him to crush on you]
16. Be independent
Guys don’t like needy women. So, if you have your own life and go out with friends, it will be refreshing for him. Men need alone time to miss you, and if you’re around too much, he will take you for granted.
Even if this sounds counterintuitive, you still need to be independent. It shows you have confidence, and he will be anxious to see you again when you come back to him. [Read: 15 reasons why dating independent women is the right move]
17. Walk around the house naked
If this strategy doesn’t work, then nothing will! Walk around without wearing anything, but pretend like you don’t notice that you’re naked. Just go around your daily routine like vacuuming, washing dishes, and other activities like it’s normal.
When he finally notices, you should just play dumb and say things like, “What? I always look like this?” Or “Do you want to touch?” This will definitely get your boyfriend turned on.
18. Cook him a romantic dinner
As the saying goes, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” If you like cooking, make him a special romantic dinner – something you’ve never cooked before.
Then, dress up in something sexy, light some candles, and look deep into his eyes over the table. He will definitely get the hint, unless he is just completely clueless! [Read: Romantic dinner date ideas – 17 fun dates you both will never forget]
19. Go commando
If you don’t want to walk around the house naked, you can just go commando – especially if you’re wearing a dress. Of course, you will have to slyly let him know that you are completely naked under there.
Then, when you’re sitting, you might want to flash him so he can get a sneak preview of what you have to offer him when he chooses to come to get it. This will definitely achieve your aim of learning how to turn on your boyfriend.
20. Talk about your fantasies
Everyone has certain sexual fantasies that they want to try. So, ask him what his are and talk about how you can make it happen for him. Also, tell him your fantasies.
Just talking about your sexual fantasies is a big turn-on. Not only does it get you talking about sex, but it also helps you think about it and create plans for making it happen. [Read: Male sexual fantasies – 16 top dirty desires every guy has in mind]
21. Write him a naughty note
This is the old-fashioned way to sext. Hey, people didn’t always have smartphones to send photos and sexy messages to their partners. So, why not try and do it in a low-tech way?
Get some post-it notes and write sexy and naughty things on them. Tell him what you want to do to his body, and be specific. Write a lot of them and leave them all over the house where he can find them.
22. Do a striptease
What guy doesn’t like a striptease? That’s why strip clubs are so popular, right? But there is nothing better than your boyfriend getting his own personal one from his favorite girl.
Practice what you are going to do and what music you are going to play. Get some props and some sexy clothes that you can wear as you take them off one by one. Also, practice your lap dance style. [Read: Seductive tease – 20 tantalizing ways to blow your lover’s mind]
23. Touch yourself
How to turn on your boyfriend? Men love it when a woman pleases herself. It’s just hot and sexy to them. So, if you and your boyfriend are laying on the couch watching a movie, put your hand down your pants and start moaning. Or, start playing with your boobs.
When he notices that you are having fun and feeling good with your own hands, he will want to join in the fun. Why should you be the only one who can please you? Your boyfriend will definitely be turned on. [Read: How to make a guy horny just by sitting next to him]
24. Make your own sex tape
Hey, if you are cool with watching pervy movies, why not take it one step further and make your own? Saying it is OK to film you having sex is probably up there on his bucket list, but make sure you set some ground rules first—i.e. “no showing it to your buddies,” and then off you go! [Try: 6 things you HAVE to know before stripping for your webcam]
25. Incorporate some sexy food
Letting him eat off you can be really sexy. Messy food, like whipped cream and melted chocolate can be great—as long as you don’t mind getting a bit sticky in the process!
26. Be the one firmly in control
Be a dominatrix for the evening and tie your man to the bed. Using his ties or silk scarves, you can gently and slowly tie his hands and legs to the bed, keeping eye contact with him the entire time.
Feeling helpless and overpowered will make him hugely aroused, and once he is lying there, all helpless, what you do next is up to you! [Check out: BDSM tips and tricks for curious first-timers]
27. Have phone sex
Even if you’re not away from each other a lot, trying phone sex, or Skype/FaceTime sex is something everyone should try at least once! Even if you end up giggling more than getting down, why not give it a go? It’s definitely one way to turn on your boyfriend.
28. Head outdoors for some alfresco fun
Just because the bedroom has a bed in it doesn’t mean it is the only place you should be doing it. Get out there into the great outdoors—there are plenty of places where you can jump his bones and he is sure to love your spontaneity.
Just be sure you don’t get caught! [Read: The 20 best and hottest places for outdoor sex – it’s time to go al fresco]
29. Make use of your entire house
Do it in every room. Make this your aim – start now and tell him what you’re planning. He’ll be turned on in no time!
30. Get a bit aggressive
Men are used to being the dominant ones in the relationship, so why not switch things up a bit and get a little aggressive? Push him up against the wall and kiss him hard, or give him a good spanking—you know he deserves it!
31. Tease him
Everyone likes to be teased occasionally, and building up tension, suspense, and sexual desire is going to get him seriously hot under the collar. Start by sending him sexy messages, build it up to pictures, and when he gets home, all hot and bothered, make him wait.
Undress him slowly, don’t let him touch you, and skim your hands all over his body until he can’t take it anymore. [Try: 30 naughty ways to tease your man and make him want to F you right there]
32. The old faithful – Give him oral
Oral never fails to get a man going! So, make sure you dedicate enough time to putting your money where your mouth is. He’ll really appreciate it!
33. Work out those Kegels
Squeezing your Kegel muscles each day will build up the muscle and make you feel tighter. You can do them just about anywhere, and he should notice a difference after a few weeks.
Give your downstairs a workout and you’ll improve the quality of sex—for both of you! [Read: 1 minute Kegel exercises you can do right now]
Don’t look away from him when you are getting down and dirty. Maintaining eye contact is important, so don’t be shy, and look him in the eye!
35. Compliment him
Think compliments are just for girls? Think again. Guys love receiving compliments as much as women do, and they want to know that they are hot, turning us on, amazing in bed, etc.
Make sure you don’t neglect your man, and give his ego a little boost from time to time. Earlier, we mentioned talking about his junk, but you can go further than that to make him feel good.
36. Don’t be scared to unleash your wild side
Every guy likes a sweet and cute girlfriend who can have a great time with his family. But to become more desirable, you need to reveal your wild side to him. There’s nothing that can turn on a guy more than knowing that his girlfriend is a little minx on the wild side when she’s not trying to make a goody impression.
Drink bottoms up and wolf whistle, laugh out like you don’t care, smile mischievously as you do something shocking. Welcome him home in your sexy lingerie, or record yourself on your cell phone and show him the clip *though we suggest you delete it after showing it to him*.
Let him know that you have a mysterious wild side, and he won’t be able to take his hands off you! [Read: The unexpected qualities kinky women will surprise you with]
37. Flirt up a storm
Flirt with him and let him know that the love is still young and wild. It’s easy to let the flirting go once you’ve been together for a while, but when you’re a flirty kitten around your guy, he won’t be able to wait to get you home.
38. Flirt with other guys *with caution*
Now, this might come as a surprise, but in some cases, it does work. However, move cautiously!
The more other guys fancy you, the more your guy will desire you.
Flirt like there’s no tomorrow, but also remember to selectively play hard to get with them. Flirt with other men, but never cross that invisible barrier. Stick to the main rule – you can see, but you can’t touch.
And when your man walks into the room while you’re flirting with other men, wrap your arms around him and give him your undivided attention and ignore every other guy’s flirty moves. You won’t believe how alpha he’d feel and just how much it will turn your guy on. [Read: Jealousy vs envy – 22 signs to tell them apart when they feel the same]
39. Show a little skin
Every guy wants his girlfriend to look gorgeous when they’re out on a date. It’s shallow, yes, but completely true. But every now and then, wear something rather revealing when you go out.
One of the biggest turn on for guys is a bit of skin.
40. Surprise him with a new sex position
Take the lead in bed and show him your moves. Missionary is cozy and loving, but having other positions and tricks up your sleeve will only turn him on more and desire you more.
And hey, he’s going to learn a few moves to please you too. So it’s win-win in any case. [Read: The best kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]
41. Play coy and shy
If you’re going to take control at times, you also have to go to the other extreme. Play coy and shy when you’re trying to turn on a guy. Tease him and push him away, but make him come back.
Seduce him with blindfolds and feathers, and gently tease him like a shy, cute anime girl. He’ll love you for it.
What are you waiting for? Turn on your man tonight!
Let’s be honest, he already finds you irresistible and downright lovable, but you want to take things to another level. All you need is a little confidence to try something different and a few suggestions to get started.
You have the suggestions, now it’s time to find that confidence and be the flirty, sexy kitten you know you are!
[Read: How to make him miss you and want you]
If you want to turn on your boyfriend, think like a man, not like a woman trying to please a man. Go back to basics and try things that go outside of your comfort zone. You won’t regret it, and neither will he!
