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How to Seduce a Man with Words: 15 Ways to Bewitch with Your Lips

Find it hard to seduce a man? Think again. All you need is to know how to seduce a man with words, and you can have the pick of the litter.

how to seduce a man with words

Women always think that in order to seduce a man, you need big boobs and a super tight ass. I mean, if you have those things, good for you, but if you don’t, you still can seduce a man. You simply need to know how to seduce a man with words.

Listen, I have no tits. Really, it’s like someone threw pepperoni slices on my chest and called it a day. But I still get a lot of attention from men, so if you think you need boobs and butt, you’re wrong. If you have them though, I’m not going to lie, it helps.

How to seduce a man with words

What you do need is the ability to talk to men. If you can do that, then all you need to know is the technique for how to seduce a man with words. Then, the world is a beautiful place. But, don’t be one of those girls that learns how to seduce men and then becomes a man eater. Just because people use people, doesn’t mean you should join ranks with them.

If you see a guy you like, you can certainly seduce him, but don’t make him feel like a used mop at the end of the day. With this power, you must be responsible. It’s time to get talking.

#1 You’re going to need confidence. Seduction isn’t so much about them as it is about you. You need to own yourself when you walk into a room. Men are highly attracted to confident women. If you exude confidence, it’ll be a lot easier to seduce a man. [Read: How to be a real seductress without trying at all]

#2 You can’t let him see he’s being seduced. No one actually wants to know they’re being seduced, especially men. Remember, a guy likes to think he’s in charge, even when he’s not. So, though you’re seducing him, you cannot let him think you control the game. This will take a while for you to learn, so, you need to practice.

#3 Start with flirting. You don’t want to come across as overly aggressive. No one, man or women, likes someone up their face. It usually makes people run the other way. So, approach a guy, don’t attack him. Start with flirting. It’s harmless, builds sexual tension, and makes him relaxed. [Read: How to approach a guy you like and remain totally calm]

#4 Give him a compliment. Now don’t overdo it with the flattery. Compliment him, but if you overdo it, it looks like too much. You don’t need to tell him he’s amazing. Just give him a simple compliment about what he’s wearing, that he’s funny *if he actually is*, or his hair. Keep the compliments light, don’t get too deep for the first encounter.

#5 Look interested in what he has to say. Well, don’t pretend to be interested if you’re not. Don’t waste your time just because he has a pretty face. I mean, there are other guys who you’ll find to be interesting and attractive. If you’re genuinely interested in what he has to say, he’ll feel cared for.

Many people think seduction is purely sexual, but really, most of seduction is based on your level of interest in someone. [Read: How to attract men in a way they can’t resist]

#6 You have to be yourself. So many people try to be someone else when they seduce. You don’t have to act mysterious if you’re usually loud and giggling. Be you.

Trust me, if you try to be someone else, they notice and the power position switches to their advantage. You’re not yourself which means you hide an insecurity. So, screw that, embrace your faults. [Read: 15 ways to discover self-love and happiness]

#7 Don’t be afraid to try some reverse psychology. You don’t need to have a degree in psychology to figure out how people think. Sometimes, men like being teased. It turns them on. So, instead of complimenting him, do the opposite. He’ll find it challenging that you don’t fall for him when most women do.

#8 Tell him what you want from him. Okay, don’t start talking about kids and marriage, this won’t seduce him. Maybe it will but only very few men will be entertained by this thought.

You can take this down a highly sexual road or you can keep it light and flirty. But, why not tell him what you want from him? If you want him to kiss your lips and neck—tell him. No women tells a man who they meet for the first time what they want from him. Ease yourself into this topic after some flirting.

#9 Or, be reserved. There’s not an actual formula on how to seduce someone. It really depends on how you are as a person. Some women use their shyness as a way to seduce a man, and it works. So, go with what suits you.

Being shy isn’t always a bad thing. It adds the soft, sexual atmosphere with a touch of mystery that men love. They want to try to find more information about you. Thus, they put the work in rather than you. [Read: How to make a man chase you – 15 ways to get him to fall hard]

#10 Don’t give him what he expects. He may expect you to tell him how much you like him or how you would love to be with him. Don’t give him any of that, especially if he’s a little egotistical. You can tell when a guy knows he’s hot.

So, the best thing to do is avoid the traps he sets in front of you. He may make a comment about his hair or clothes where he’ll expect you to confirm—don’t.

#11 Start the conversation, let him carry it. You don’t have to do all the work, you know. You can basically set the foundation and then let him build it. You can text him first or approach him, but then let him do the rest of the talking. To seduce someone, you shouldn’t chat his ears off. You can just give him a line and then back off.

#12 Don’t knock him down. There’s a difference between teasing and knocking him down. Remember, you’re not supposed to make him feel like shit by the end of the conversation.

You’re trying to make him feel good around you, not the opposite. So, tease him, flirt with him, even make fun of him, but you have to do it in a way that’s not threatening and degrading. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and overly sexual flirting tips for women]

#13 Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. You want to engage him in conversation and the best way to have a conversation is to ask a question about him.

People love talking about themselves. He’ll love the fact that you want to know more about him. Don’t make it an interview though. Ask him a couple questions here and there, let him ask you questions—you know, an actual conversation.

#14 Know what your end goal is. Are you talking to him just for practice? Do you want to sleep with him? Are you wanting something more with him?

You don’t have to know exactly what you want since things are always subject to change, but knowing the direction where you want this to go, you’ll be able to shape the conversation in that direction. So, if you want to sleep with him, use more body language, touch him, you could even kiss him. [Read: How to make a guy incredibly horny just by sitting next to him]

#15 Don’t lie. You don’t have to tell them all your personal information, but don’t lie to him. It’s easier for you to approach each conversation with an open mind and heart. Now, does this mean you have to give your heart to him? Absolutely not. But by being honest, you actually have a great conversation with him and seduce him by being yourself.

[Read: How to totally seduce a man who’s not yours and leave him smitten]

Now that you know how to seduce a man with words, you’re going to need a lot of practice. So, what are you waiting for?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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