Are you having an affair with a married man? Married men and affairs are torrid and tricky affairs. And as complicated and tricky as it can seem, it can be a lot worse, says Rebecca Paul as she narrates her own tryst with a married man.
Having an affair with a married man or falling in love with him has got to be every girl’s nightmare.
Surprisingly, a woman never really intends to fall in love, it just happens.
And however hard you try to hold back, the slide in most cases is just too steep to resist.
If you aren’t already involved with a married man, you may actually think this is funny and repulsive.
Now why would any woman want to pick a guy who’s already been taken, when there are a million single guys around?
But, hey, hardly any of us practice what we preach, do we?
Having an affair with a married man
There’s something about a married man, or even a guy who’s got a girlfriend, for that matter.
Maybe it’s the fact that he’s unavailable that makes him so appealing, but whatever the reason may be, they are.
In my life too, I’ve had my own share of commitment issues, married men and affairs.
Not on my part though. It was just that I’ve always found myself liking guys who were in a relationship already.
But trust me, I really didn’t want that kind of relationship in the first place.
Love, lust and affairs with married men
The first time I ever fell in love with a committed man was when I was in high school. I had a great guy friend who was very sweet and charming, and not to mention gorgeous and a great sense of humor. I never ever looked at him as anything more than just a ‘good friend’, and things between us were pretty.
Eventually, this bloke hooked up with a girl and she started hanging out with us all the time, which was all cool. [Read: How to know if a guy likes you]
A couple of years later, during the New Year party, things got weird. All of us were out together, everyone except my friend’s girlfriend, as she had to spend the night with her parents and cousins who had come down for an extended vacation.
We were having lots of fun,we were quite drunk [Read: How to avoid a hangover] and when the clock struck midnight, I felt someone’s lips over mine and I was pressed. A static moment of darkness and confusion later, I see this guy pal of mine kissing me! He just smiled at me, and started hugging me again. And I just didn’t know what to say or do. The worst part, we didn’t speak about it ever again, and just let it go.
Committed boyfriends, married men and affairs
Nothing really happened, but that incident sort of blew up into a catalyst for a few more things to roll. Each time his girl was around, he was quite normal, but when it was just the both of us, he used to side up to me, a lot closer, clasp my palms, stroke my hair, and basically, all the damn works! [Read: Emotional affairs]
I liked the attention. Anyone would!
We wouldn’t talk about it or plan it ahead. It just used to happen, so it didn’t make me feel awkward, just moist inside my chest. I felt bad about what I was doing, but I couldn’t hold myself back from him. I actually began looking out for opportunities when it could just be the both of us. We even started meeting over in my place or his, on the pretext of doing homework, and a few months later, his pelvis was often moving in synchronized motion against mine.
I am having an affair!
I loved it, and the best part was that we weren’t talking about it, which was ‘cool’. We were just friends. But then, you know how the story goes.
I fell in love with him and asked him to break up with his girlfriend. He didn’t. I was pissed off. But we went on with it. One fine day, his girlfriend caught us. Five years later, I had lost two good friends, one guy and a girl, one screw buddy [Read: How to get a fuck buddy] and one devastated girl pal. [Read: Best friends becoming enemies]
Somehow, I never wanted to be there. I knew what I was supposed to do. I was a nice girl who believed in moral issues and karma.
But the lure grasped me in and took me in too far deep. That incident was my first time, but it definitely wasn’t my last. I had two more affairs with married men over the next decade, and all the time, it was the same story of friends, sweet talk, touch, kiss, make hay. I have a great life, don’t I?
Having an affair with a married man is easy. In most cases, married men and affairs just go hand in hand. They’re always looking out to give attention and there are always girls waiting to receive any attention.
But now I’ve made up my mind never to have an affair with a married man, however charming he may be in the first place, or however much he sweet talks me. But then, I had told myself the same thing many times before, even before I hooked up with my first committed man way back in high school.
I have a lot of things to tell you, if you’re having an affair with a married man or want to know about married men and affairs that are just waiting to happen. But this was just my first story in many to come. Click here to read about what falling in love with a married man can do to you.