How to Reject a Guy and Turn Him Down Nicely Without Hurting Him
Knowing how to reject a guy is never easy. There is no perfect way to turn down a guy, as each guy is different. But here’s a list of ways that would definitely help you get the point across, the nice way and the harsh way.
Do you know the right way to reject a guy nicely? Turning down a guy is easy if you’re feeling heartless on a particular day. But on every other day, for a good girl, rejecting a guy and turning down his advances is just as awkward as it is for the guy doing the asking out.
But by knowing how to navigate through the steps, you’ll always be able to speak your mind and let a guy down easily, without breaking his heart. At the end of the day, you do realize that it would have taken a lot of courage for the average guy to confess his affections for you.
So wanna know how to reject a guy and turn him down nicely? We have all the ways you can use right here.
How to reject a guy
You may have just broken up with a guy, you may just be friendly with another guy, or you may have met a new guy through a common friend.
It doesn’t matter what the circumstances are, but there’s a good chance that you may have come across a guy that fancies you and wants to go out with you.
If you like the guy, it’s all fun and dandy. But if you don’t, and he’s being persistent, then you’ve got a bit of an issue on your hands. [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read his mind]
How to turn down a guy
Rejecting a guy can be a sensitive matter. And it completely depends on the guy and how he’s pursuing you. Some guys may be understanding enough to back away when you tell them you aren’t interested. But some guys may need a firmer response to get the message across.
If you want to know how to reject a guy, here’s a list of things you can do to get the message across. Start with the first one, and work your way down the list. Somewhere along the line, you’ll surely find a way to get the message across that can harden his heart and make him move on. Whew!
Where rejections get hard
Let’s face it, rejecting a guy you don’t know is easy. Tinder, just swipe left. Dating sites, just say no. A guy approaches you on the street, easy to just say walk away.
But where it gets hard for most girls is when a guy sneaks out of the friend zone and tries to hook up with you or wants to go on a date with you. It’s weird, but he’s your friend. You don’t want to be rude, because you two are friends. At the same time, you can’t just be nice and flirty back in return, because he’ll assume you’re kind of interested!
It’s tricky circumstances like these that make turning down a guy difficult. But we’ve got that covered here.
How to reject a guy nicely
Now all guys aren’t bad. You have to understand that a guy may be persistent only because he likes you a lot. In some cases, the guy may be genuinely nice and may only want you to get to know him better.
And in some other cases, he may assume you’re playing hard to get and may pursue you with renewed vigor. [Read: The real reason behind why guys chase girls]
But whatever may be the case, if you want to turn down a guy, use any of these reasons as you see fit.
#1 Tell him the truth. This is plain and simple. If a guy that you’re not particularly interested in asks you out, tell him straight out that you aren’t interested in him.
You don’t really have to be rude at first unless he’s persistent. You really don’t owe every guy who falls in love with you an explanation about why you’re uninterested in him, or why you want to reject him. [Read: How to stop a guy from flirting and hitting on you]
#2 Tell him you’d rather be friends instead. If you want to reject a guy, but are not sure you want to lose him because he’s been a great friend, tell him you don’t want to go out with him, but would love to be friends instead.
This is a wee bit selfish, and best used when you’re not sure yourself. Take a bit of time to figure it out, and depending upon how things go, you can always change your mind! You are stringing him along though, so you need to be careful not to lead him on accidentally. [Read: 15 ways girls lead guys on and make the guy eventually hate them]
#3 Make it clear. If the guy you rejected asks you to go out with him again, it’s time to be firm. You’ve already been gentle before. So this time, tell him clearly and firmly that there’s no way you could ever like him back. And also tell him that you’re starting to get annoyed with his behavior.
Many guys have an annoying habit of wanting to know the logical reason behind why you’re rejecting them. They want you to explain it, and even if you do, they try justifying it and want more explanations.
So instead of getting yourself in a bind, just make your rejection clear and don’t go into elaborate details. He’ll never be happy with your answers, no matter what you say. [Read: 14 lines you can use to turn down any type of guy]
#4 Tell him you’ll need to avoid him for a while. If he’s a friend, this is a veiled threat that scares them into accepting your decision. When he persistently hints about dating or hooking up, tell him you’re starting to get annoyed with his behavior.
Tell him that you’ve started disliking him, and may have to avoid him, and the more he asks you out, you’ll only end up wanting to ghost him. [Read: How to friendzone a guy without leading him on]
#5 Pretend to be saddened by his proposal. If a guy’s rather persistent, but yet, quite kind and nice, have a talk with him. Tell him that you’re getting upset and saddened by his persistence. Tell him you’re having a difficult time getting through the day because of his incessant proposals.
When you show your sensitive side to a nice guy, there’s a good chance he’ll back away even if he still wants to ask you out repeatedly. [Read: Signs a guy is really into you]
How to turn down a guy harshly
If none of the earlier ways on how to reject a guy fail to work, here are a few harsh ways that could definitely get the point across. In a harsh way, of course!
#6 Avoid the guy. Now some guys may be nice, but their persistence can be really annoying. Avoid the guy, and make it obvious that you’re avoiding him. If he asks you about it, you can tell him that you tried everything else, but he’s just not getting the point.
#7 Don’t speak to him alone. Guys like it when the girl they like has a conversation with them alone. It shows preferential treatment over other guys. So avoid giving away any signs that could be taken positively.
Avoid the guy, and even if he tells you that he wants to speak with you alone, don’t give him a chance. Tell him you’ll speak with him alone only when you’re convinced he’s not hitting on you. [Read: Do guys like shy girls and find them attractive?]
#8 Be rude. If being firm doesn’t help, be rude. But play hot and cold. You don’t want to upset psycho boy! Hang up on him or ignore his texts. Tell him you’re done talking to him, and don’t want him to text you anymore.
You can soften the blow later if you’re feeling upset about the whole thing. text him “I just wish you’d understand. I really don’t want to end our friendship this way, but you’re leaving me helpless. Why don’t you get it, I don’t like you and I never will…”
Being overly rude to a guy can at times make him vengeful and bitter. You wouldn’t want that, so showing him your softer side in the middle of all the cold shouldering and hate texts will actually make him feel guilty instead!
#9 Cut him off from your social circle. Text him and let him know that you can’t stand his behavior anymore. Tell him that you’d want to be friends and nothing more than that.
Tell him that you’re going to take him off your friends’ lists in social networking sites. Tell him you’re going to avoid him if you meet him. And tell him you won’t answer his calls anymore.
And finally, tell him that you’re willing to be friends only if he can look at you as a friend and behave as one. Explain to him that he can call you again the day he can look at you as a friend and nothing more. If he can do that, tell him, only then can you both be friends again. [Read: How to manipulate men]
#10 Ignore him
The final frontier that will always work. If you’ve tried all of the above points, then this should be your last resort. After you’ve cut him off from your life, ignore him completely. Walk past him, and don’t wave or even look at him. If he confronts you, be nice and warm though. Don’t be rude.
Being completely rude when he tries to talk to you will only make him pursue you more. Speak to him like he’s a five year old. Explain to him nicely that you’ve already told him what he has to do. Both of you can be friends only if he promises to look at you as a friend. And then tell him you’re sorry, but you really can’t talk anymore and walk away.
Think about this, no guy who really does like you would want to be a friend and forget all his intentions. So asking him to be a friend is probably going to be one of the hardest things he can do. [Read: Are you more than friends?]
And on the other hand, if you tell him you never want to see him or talk to him, it would only make him want to pursue you more, as he really has nothing to lose. Use these tips on how to reject a guy, and use the line that seems appropriate. But always remember, guys can’t take rejection, so reject a guy in a manner that makes him feel like he’s at fault and he’ll back away even before you know it!
And there you have it, girls, ten of the world’s best ways on how to reject a guy. Use it and see how simple and effective turning down a guy can really be!