I’ve heard it a thousand times from my friends, “Yeah, but with a one-night stand you can’t be intimate.” That’s a lie. You can make love to anyone you have a connection with. I’ve had more intimate moments with men I just met in a bar than in my long-term relationship.
Now, of course there are people you’ve slept with where the experience hasn’t been good. However, when you connect with someone on an emotional level, you will have an amazing time. If you want to experience this, but don’t know how *which is completely normal*, then here are some tips to help you make your sexual experiences ones to remember.
How to have beautiful sex
You saw the movie Ghost, and if Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore can act that sculpting scene, then you can certainly live it. Here are some tips for beautiful sex.
#1 Look within. What’s stopping you from being intimate with someone? After all, if you want to have beautiful sex, that comes from opening yourself up to the other person. Sure, specific sex moves can make it sensual, but at the end of the day, everything comes from within. So, you need to see what’s preventing you from being vulnerable.
#2 Be honest with yourself and them. If you want to have really amazing sex, you need to connect with the other person. I know, it sounds mushy, but it’s not. If you literally picked someone out of the bar, just grabbed their hand and left, you can’t be certain you’re going to have an amazing experience.
But if you talk to them to see if you two connect on some level, that’s even better. If you’re unsure, you need to be honest with yourself and admit that this might not be someone you want to share a mind-blowing experience with. Rather, it’s someone just to have sex with. [Read: Get down and off – How to pull off the perfect one night stand]
#3 Be in the mood. If you’re not in the mood to have intimate and beautiful sex, then don’t force it. Actually, it’s better not to have sex if you feel like that. You don’t have to have it. So, just take a break. You won’t die from not having sex one night.
#4 It’s all about the foreplay. Many people just skip right to the sex part. I get why, but they’re missing out on foreplay. It’s the most important part if you want intimate, beautiful sex. It also takes women much more time to “heat up,” so foreplay is a great way to get the juices flowing.
Massage, kiss, rub, touch – this is the time where you can explore each other’s bodies openly and build up the intensity. [Read: How to foreplay – The key to the best sex of your life]
#5 Oral Sex. In the porn videos, oral sex is always used aggressively. However, oral sex can very intimate and sensual. You both should perform oral sex on each other and experiment with various techniques.
#6 Don’t forget to kiss. It’s all about the kiss. Some people cut the kissing once they’re having sex, however, it should always be included. Kissing is what makes sex passionate and raw. It can slow it down and build the intensity at the same time. [Read: 15 sexy ways to tongue kiss and arouse your date in seconds]
#7 Express yourself. Do you like what they’re doing to do? Let them know, tell them how you feel during sex, what you’re feeling, what you like – be verbal with your emotions and reactions. This can help build the connection and intensify the experience.
#8 Missionary position. Believe it or not, missionary position is extremely romantic and intimate. You’re face-to-face, kissing, sweating, feeling each other’s bodies. What’s not to love about this intimate and beautiful sex position. [Read: Why it matters if you’re having sex or truly making love]
#9 Create atmosphere. Okay, you don’t need to have your room filled with rose petals and candles lit everywhere. But you can actually create a warm and sensual atmosphere by just picking up your underwear off the floor or making your bed. Yes, people, it’s that easy.
#10 Start slowly. You want to treat sex like a song or movie. They start slowly in the beginning and then build up momentum, hitting the climax. Sex is no different. No one wants to have sex with a jackrabbit.
So take it slow in the beginning and build up a sensual pace. Keep doing this until either of you can’t handle it anymore. Someone will break, and when they do, it’ll be wild. [Read: Slow sex: 13 steamy reasons why it’s the best sex ever]
#11 Be aware of your partner. It’s not all about you, sorry to break it to you. If your partner isn’t having a good time, well, how can this be an enjoyable experience. So pay attention to your partner and listen to their body language. If it appears that what was once consensual sex is now something they don’t want to do anymore, stop.
#12 Remove distractions. There’s nothing worse than when a phone rings during sex, and then they look up and momentarily debate whether or not they should answer it. No, you idiot! Now is not the time! So, to avoid those moments. Just put all your pieces of technology away and on silent. It’s your time. Not your mother’s time.
#13 Have sex with the lights on. That’s right. You read it right. Leave the lights on. I know this is making people cringe right now, but why not give it a try. The only reason you want them off is because you’re self conscious, but you shouldn’t be.
That person wants to have sex with you, so who cares if you have some extra lovin’ on ya. Leaving the lights on is even more sensual because you really get to see your partner enjoying themselves. [Read: Lights on or off? The real score on perfect bedroom lighting]
#14 Play with the ear. That sounded weird, but you get what I mean. The ears are actually very sensitive areas, and you want to focus on areas that pick up every sensation. You can suck on their earlobe, lick their ear, or breathe into it. Because of all nerve endings located there, they’ll become highly aroused.
#15 Laugh. Not a creepy, “I’ll never leave you” laugh. The fun-loving ones. You need to have humor in bed or else it gets too serious. Someone will fart or accidentally stick something in the wrong hole, but you just have to laugh it off. Sex is supposed to be fun. [Read: How to sound sexy in bed and arouse your partner]
#16 Use all five senses. Hearing, smell, touch, taste, and sight. Incorporate all of the five senses during sex so that you fully stimulate your partner.
Scent is a great way to actually boost orgasm-inducing factors in women – there’s something new for you, fellas. For women, use oil and give him a back rub – he’ll love it.
#17 Keep it wet. If everything is drying up, well, then your sexual experience will start hurting and that should never happen. So, make sure that you have lube with you or use good ol’ fashion spit. Either works and will keep everything wet and sliding.
[Read: Passionate lovemaking – All the sexy secrets you need to know]
Having beautiful sex isn’t hard. But the most important thing you should do is allow yourself to open up. Once you do that, use these tips and you’ll be well on your way to ecstasy.
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