After being with the same person for a while, the sex starts to get standard. You start kissing, then missionary, then doggy style, and then it ends. Not saying that that’s a bad time, but, sometimes you want some umpff added to it. You know what I mean by ‘umpff.’ Oh, yes you do. I know you’re going down memory lane right now, and if you’re getting all hot and bothered just thinking about the intense sex you used to have, well, good!
How to have more intense sex
But, maybe you don’t know how to get that ‘umpff’ back into your sex life. I get it, you may be working, going to school, have kids… these things don’t exactly make your panties wet. But, I have some ideas. So, let’s not waste any more time… it’s time to wrinkle those sheets and have some intense sex.
#1 Relax. The best sex is when you don’t care. Sex is supposed to be messy and fun. If you want intense sex, you’ll have to completely release yourself of any judgment and be in tune with your feelings and emotions.
Go with what feels right – that’s how you’ll have jaw dropping sex. Who cares about staining the sheets or if your fat jiggles. [Read: How to spice up your sex life – 30 Sexy ways to do it right]
#2 Go hard with the foreplay. Lose yourself in that shit. Just go wild with foreplay. If you don’t, you’ll just go straight to sex and honestly, penetration isn’t that exciting, nor is it intense.
What’s intense is devouring your partner’s body and eating every inch of them with your lips. Did you just get a little wet or hard? Good. That’s what should happen. [Read: How to foreplay – The key for the best sex of your life]
#3 Experiment with kink. Listen, people are self-conscious about their deepest sexual desires, however, it’s your job to release them and help your partner express theirs as well.
You have to explore the kinky side to yourself and your partner. That will bring out the intensity when it comes to sex. Go to a sex shop and look at the things that turn you and your partner on.
#4 Mutually masturbate. I don’t care what you say, mutual masturbation is hot as hell. It’s incredibly intimate and sensual. I mean, you’re staring at each other while touching yourself. You may think it’s impersonal, but, trust me, it’s anything but that. It’ll make you so horny, you’ll just want to pounce on your partner. [Read: Mutual masturbation – 14 intimate ways to connect without touching]
#5 Be aggressive. Everyone likes it rough. I mean, when you think of intense sex, you’re thinking about being pushed up against a wall and kissed like you’re being eaten.
Test out spanking, choking, hair pulling – don’t be shy. See how much your partner likes it and how far they go in terms of aggressiveness. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]
#6 Remove distractions. If you want intense sex, you’ll need to remove any distractions. Turn off the TV, put your phones away – it’s just about you and your partner. If you have kids, send them to your parents, because this is your time. So, whatever is a distraction in your life, do what you can to eliminate just while you’re… you know… busy.
#7 Don’t just focus on the penis/vagina. Shockingly, there are so many other areas of your body which are full of sensitive nerve endings and that need attention.
I mean, of course, the penis and vagina will be stimulated by touch, but some people really get off by having their ears licked or their nipples rubbed. Don’t forget the other erogenous zones because those areas can be the ones which really get someone off.
#8 Try something new. If you’re used to missionary and doggy style positions, both which are great, why not switch it up a bit and throw in another position. It may work out, or it may be a flop. But the point is that you’re trying something new. It’ll show your partner that you’re adventurous, and that’ll probably make them horny on its own. [Read: 20 new things to try at least once with your lover]
#9 Feel good by pleasuring your partner. If you’re fully in the moment and feeling good while pleasuring your partner, you’re going to have great sex. However, if both of you are getting off by pleasuring each other, that’s when it turns into intense sex. If your partner isn’t giving you their 100%, then it won’t be as good as it could be.
#10 Do it because you want to. Don’t force yourself into something that you’re not really into. If you’re content with the sex, well, then leave it.
If your partner wants more, you can compromise, but you should really consider if you and your partner are truly compatible. Because if you’re forcing yourself to enjoy it, well, it obviously won’t turn out to be intense sex like you planned.
#11 Tease them. You want to get your partner worked up. So, tease them. Don’t let them touch you, or let them touch you… but only to a certain point. That’ll increase the sexual tension between you two and increase in intensity. [Read: 10 sexy conversation starters to get you both really horny]
#12 Get out of your head. If you’re busy thinking about work or the fight you had with your brother, well, the intense sex you’re wanting to have won’t happen. You’re not in the moment, you’re off in your own world. And if you’re off in your own world, how can you truly pleasure your partner?
#13 Focus on your breathing. You want to be synced with your breathing while having intense sex. You can actually control the speed of sex by your breath. If you think about it, you usually start with an easy breath, and then over time, it becomes faster and deeper. So, focus in on your breathing and sync it into your thrusting.
#14 Ladies, do Kegels. You’ve probably heard of Kegels, however, have yet to test them out. Well, it’s now time to give it a try. Kegels help in strengthening a female’s vaginal orgasm. You basically tighten your pelvic muscles and hold them for five seconds. Do it throughout the day and you’ll notice a major difference. [Read: Kegel exercises – Why both men and women should do it]
#15 Fellas, boost your testosterone. You don’t need to start bodybuilding and taking steroids, but you can do some small things to help increase your testosterone.
When there’s more testosterone in the male body, you’re more likely to experience a stronger orgasm. So, if you go for a simple run before seeing a girl, that’ll help you out big time.
#16 Don’t be so quick to get naked. I know you want to get naked. We all want to get naked when we’re horny. But, you don’t actually have to, I mean, at least not yet. Build up the intensity by rubbing and dry humping each other with clothes on. You’re going to want to rip them off ASAP, however, if you keep them on as long as possible, the tension will be off the charts. [Read: How to have the best sex ever – 15 ways to do it right every single time]
#17 Quality over quantity. Intense sex doesn’t mean long-lasting sex. It’s about the quality, people. So, if it’s ten minutes or forty minutes, it doesn’t matter. What happens in that time period is what’s important. I’ve had amazing 10-minute sex and yawn-worthy please-end-this-45-minute sex. It’s all about priorities.
[Read: Top 50 really kinky ideas for a sexy relationship]
Now that you know how to have intense sex, it’s time you got practicing. So, light the candles, bring out the sex toys, and get going!
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