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What Does Sex Feel Like For a Girl & Reasons Why It Feels So Good

Have you ever wondered what does sex feel like for a girl? Is it the same as for a guy or not? The truth? It varies from woman to woman. 

what does sex feel like for a woman

It’s no secret that sex feels great; it’s why humans have been enjoying it with delight for thousands of years! But have you ever wondered what sex feels like for a girl?

Many couples have taken turns asking each other what sex and orgasms feel like. They’re often curious about how it differs. After all, we experience different orgasms, varying in duration and intensity.

The age-old adage is that, while women have to work a little harder to get their big Os, theirs are often more intense *and longer-lasting* than their male counterparts.

It’s true that no one will experience the exact same length of pleasure or levels of sensation felt while climaxing. But, you’d still be hard-pressed to find anyone who thinks an orgasm isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. So, what does sex feel like for a girl? How different is it compared to a guy? [Read: What women want in bed to feel sexy and loved]

Emotional and mental turn-ons

Let’s leave the physical behind for just a second. Many women find that sex with a partner they love enhances their pleasure. Emotional and mental stimulation are just as important for some as physical attraction and arousal.

Of course, that doesn’t mean that the occasional one-night stand doesn’t happen. Some women don’t need as much of an emotional stimulus as others. It’s also possible that a girl just wants one night of fun, and that’s perfectly fine!

For the most part, however, to reach regular orgasms, a girl tends to need some kind of emotional connection to the person they’re in bed with. That’s one major difference between sex for a guy and a girl. Most men don’t necessarily need their emotions to be stimulated to climax. [Read: Sex in a relationship and what that means to a woman]

Foreplay is vital for good sex

Kissing, caressing, and clitoral stimulation are all part of a glorious little thing called foreplay. All of this arousing behavior tells the brain to increase blood flow to the vagina and causes the lips and clitoris to swell. The brain also sends signals to her nether regions, saying that a little lubrication is in order.

Basically… she gets very wet. But enough with the technical jargon. The state of arousal feels sexy and causes an almost “pulsing” sensation around the clit area. It demands to be satisfied!

You can also use digital penetration during foreplay to add an extra sensation. However, compared to vaginal intercourse or general foreplay, finger insertion isn’t nearly as exciting, especially considering fingers are nowhere near the width *or warmth!* of a snuggly penis. [Read: Magic fingers – How to finger a girl to orgasms]

This is just the start of the story when learning what does sex feel like for a girl. [Read: 18 scary-good sex tips for men to make a girl crave for more]

Most women can’t orgasm through penetration alone, but it still feels good!

The feeling of a penis inside the vagina is like no other. When done correctly, the orgasms involved are beyond explosive! When properly aroused, penis insertion feels warm and smooth.

Many women often have no way to describe vaginal intercourse other than to say they feel “filled up.” It’s like an electrical charge is running through their core.

Rhythmic thrusting of the penis makes the vagina feel tight and wet. The penis rubbing up against the vaginal walls and G-spot almost create a sensation like she has to pee, usually welling up in the lower stomach. Once orgasm is reached, the sensation is a full-bodied release of intense, pleasurable waves that create contracting sensations within the vagina. [Read: 5 foolproof moves to make a girl squirt like she’s peeing]

But, there’s an important point to make here. Many women cannot climax from penetration alone. They often need a little clitoral stimulation alongside it. So, guys, do your girl a favor and help her out!

Women love oral sex too!

Oral sex, when performed correctly, is easily a sex favorite and, for many women, is the only way they will experience orgasm. Unlike vaginal intercourse, oral sex is much more focused, and much more relaxing.

Oral sex is a warm, wet session of teasing that almost always leads to an intense build-up and release. Often, the orgasm involved in oral sex is so exhilarating and so intense, she may actually make you stop the moment she comes.

At that point, the clitoris becomes extremely sensitive. However, it’s an overwhelming and explosive release. If you want to know what does sex feel like for a girl, it’s amazing when oral is involved! [Read: Cunnilingus techniques – Secrets to make her cum with your tongue]

However, any type of clitoral stimulation is one of the most amazing feelings a woman can experience. This form of stimulation is the key ingredient to making your girlfriend cum.

See how versatile the clit is? A clitoral orgasm can vary, depending on the pressure applied and consistent motion used—aka up and down, around in circles, tapping, etc. But most clitoral stimulation leads to an explosive orgasm. [Read: Clitoris stimulation – 10 sexy ways to please the clitoris]

What about anal sex?

It’s no surprise that many guys love anal sex, but what about women? What does sex feel like for a girl when it’s done anally?

Some women find anal sex intensely painful. However, when performed with plenty of lubrication, lots of clit rubbing, and a gentle, slow partner, the uncomfortable “pain” sensation can make for a full-bodied, fabulously strong orgasm.

Anal sex should NEVER be done without simultaneously rubbing your girlfriend’s clit with your hand or using a vibrator. A woman is not likely to experience any pleasure from anal sex alone.

To make it even better, spoon while trying anal sex. The spooning position is best for low-discomfort anal. And of course, PLENTY of lube at all times. The anus isn’t self-lubricating like the vagina – you need to help it out. [Read: Anal sex tips – The first time guide for the curious]

After orgasm, she may be VERY sensitive

While women are plenty capable of having multiple orgasms during a sex session, many women find the thought of this far too intense, due to the sensitivity of the clitoris following orgasm.

This means that when your girlfriend comes after oral or digital stimulation and instructs you to stop, STOP! Continuing right after her state of sensitivity isn’t arousing – it’s painful.

Take the opportunity to cuddle for a while and after a short amount of time has passed, maybe she’ll be ready to go again! [Read: How to push the right buttons and experience multiple orgasms]

Let’s break it down – why does sex feel good?

We’ve talked about what does sex feel like for a girl, but in truth, sex feels great in general. Of course, the situation around you has to be comfortable – if you’re not in the mood, you’re just not in the mood. But, when all parts of the jigsaw come together, sex is downright mind-blowing.

Sex is a bonding experience. It makes you feel closer to your partner, and it gives you spine-tingling O’s. Not to mention all of the chemicals whirling around your body telling you everything in life is fantastic.

But, to really pinpoint why sex feels downright amazing, let’s explore a few reasons. [Read: Spontaneous sex – 15 reasons you need it and how to do it right]

1. It’s naughty

Sex is naughty by nature and helps you feel bolder than ever before. It’s called sexual tension for a reason. This slow build of sexual tension rises until you feel like you’re going to explode.

This makes it feel even sweeter when you finally have an orgasmic release. [Read: 18 naughty ways to make time for sex in a busy schedule]

2. It’s intimate

Getting to share yourself with a partner you care about is a mind-blowing experience, especially when orgasms are involved. Feeling someone’s passion for you as they touch your body and endeavor to make you feel good is a natural high that can be addictive.

3. An explosive orgasm is like nothing else in life

Obviously one of the biggest reasons why sex feels good is because orgasms are basically the best thing ever. Whether your orgasm is short, long, explosive, or comes in multiples, it’s going to be good.

Orgasms feel physically amazing, all while lowering depression, boosting feelings of closeness, and rocking your vagina, uterus, and anus in some blissful contractions. [Read: The art of edging: 6 sizzling ways to control your orgasms]

4. It relieves stress

Who isn’t happier once experiencing an orgasm? Sex and orgasm combats anxiety, improves your mood, and reduces stress in the brain.

One study revealed participants who engaged in penetrative sex were able to handle stressful situations better than those who did not participate in any hanky-panky. Sex releases helpful endorphins and hormones that temporarily block pain and stress and leave you writhing in bliss. [Read: 14 really quick stress busters to recharge your mind]

5. The magic of bonding

Science shows that two minutes before climaxing the reward center in a woman’s brain becomes activated. Oxytocin also plays a major part in pleasure and bonding. During orgasm, a woman’s nervous system numbs so that the only sensation she feels is an explosion of lust and satisfaction.

This is also why sex is said to ease pains from period cramps!

Famously, oxytocin makes women fall in love. The release of this hormone triggers feelings of trust, empathy, and bonds women to their partners. Women produce more of this hormone than their male counterparts, which is why women often become emotionally attached after sex than men.

Regardless, this bonding experience can be addictive and make the sexual experience feel more pleasurable than it actually is. [Read: Why oxytocin can be toxic to flawed relationships]

6. Dopamine is dope

Dopamine is another part of your brain’s pleasure/reward system. It’s a “feel-good” hormone released during highly pleasurable situations like having sex, reaching orgasm, and even while you’re chowing down some tacos.

Physical touch with someone you care about, listening to music, exercising, minty scents, and even looking at contrasting colors all release dopamine in your brain!

Dopamine plays an important role in sexual behavior. Your brain on sex usually follows this pattern: arousal, motivation, and reward.

Because dopamine makes you feel good, it makes you want more of it. This is also why when we lose a source of dopamine *like a boyfriend* we tend to replace it with another source of dopamine *like an entire pan of brownies*. [Read: What is dopamine? The dopiest pleasure pill inside of you]

7. Throw in some serotonin

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that tells your brain when you’re happy, satisfied–and not to mention hot and horny! Serotonin is responsible for many other social behaviors and moods such as hunger, pain, and depression.

Men generally have lower serotonin levels, which raises the sex drive and accounts for men’s tendency towards raw sex. Women have higher amounts of serotonin, which increase oxytocin levels.

Whatever way you look at it, serotonin is a great buffer for sexy-time activities. [Read: How your body’s chemistry affects love]

8. Prolactin makes you ultra-relaxed

Prolactin is a hormone released in the body right after your climax. This hormone sends powerful feelings of satisfaction throughout the body.

Basically, sex felt so good you worked yourself into an orgasm-induced mini coma!

What if sex doesn’t feel good?

Sex isn’t always mind-blowing. Sometimes there are underlying reasons that stop a woman from enjoying a romp between the sheets. Let’s explore some of the most common reasons so you can understand the lady in your life a little better. [Read: Why does sex hurt? 15 quick signs something’s not right]

1. A fear of getting pregnant

Even if she’s on the pill, the moment he starts to grunt out “I’m close,” her mind wanders to how she was 30 minutes late taking her pill last night.

Even if she’s on the edge of an orgasm, writhing in unison sometimes loses its touch when you worry about getting pregnant. [Read: 9 awkward signs you’re having bad sex with your lover]

2. Fear of STIs

Hooking up with a hot guy last week seemed like a good idea when she drunk texted him. But when she sobered up she started to wonder if she should have been more thorough in her screening process. What if this guy has an STI?

Instead of enjoying the feelings of sex, she suddenly wonders if that bump on his shaft was normal or if it’s her cue to call her gyno in the morning. Fear of getting an STI ruins otherwise perfectly pleasant hookups. [Read: STDs 101 – The most common types and their symptoms]

3. It doesn’t last long enough

If the man only lasts 10 minutes or less in the sack, odds are she won’t be anywhere close to finishing unless he’s done some impressive foreplay.

4. She’s just not into it

When she’s turned on, she knows it. She feels her skin flush, her underwear starts to soak, and she has a tingling sensation everywhere. That being said, if she’s not turned on, sex is probably going to be akin to doing squats for 20 minutes: Boring and painful.

While the vagina expands up to 200% when aroused, the average vagina is only about three inches long. If she’s not turned on not only will sex be a letdown, it might also hurt quite a bit. [Read: 15 painfully embarrassing things that happen during sex]

5. It’s painful

When having rough sex or engaging in sex with a well-endowed man, a woman may have to take some extra precautions before getting down and dirty. For example, plenty of foreplay if the man is well hung. [Read: The best lubricants for sex: 15 winners from the kitchen cupboard]

6. She has an infection

A yeast infection brings all sorts of debilitating issues to the table, especially when it comes to sex. Just another perk of womanhood.

This infection occurs when an overgrowth of yeast forms in the vagina. Symptoms of a yeast infection include itching, irritation in the vagina and vulva, redness and swelling, a rash on the vagina, pain and soreness, and a thick white discharge.

Having a penis or vibrator inside the vagina irritates these symptoms. [Read: 14 incredible benefits of sex that’ll make you want more]

Find out what works for your girl!

When it comes to sexual preference in the bedroom, every woman is different, just like every woman experiences different types of orgasms. If you’re looking to better understand your lover in the bedroom, this guide is a great place to start.

Your next step? Ask your girlfriend! Hearing your lady love tell you exactly what she likes and how tantalizing your touch feels on her is foreplay in itself!

[Read: 15 things women wish men knew about the female body]

In the end, unless you’ve experienced it for yourself, it’s hard to truly understand the depth of a clitoral or vaginal orgasm, and exactly what it feels like to have a penis inside you. Ultimately, what does sex feel like for a girl? Pretty amazing when done correctly!

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