147 Dirty Phrases & Sexy Texts For Him to Turn a Guy On & Leave Him Horny AF
If you want to guarantee a good night, why not send some sexy texts for him that will make him hard? When you meet, he’ll be ready to go!
Want to make his phone vibrate and his brain short-circuit a little? Whether you’re texting your boyfriend, FWB, or someone you just matched with, these dirty, sexy texts for him will make sure he’s thinking about you, hard.
And it’s not just a fun way to flirt, science actually backs up how effective sexting can be in building intimacy. Research shows that sexting between romantic partners is strongly associated with increased relationship satisfaction and sexual intimacy, especially when both partners feel secure and connected.
📚 Source: Silke Van Dijck, et al., 2025, The bright side of sexting
Scroll down for the hottest dirty texts to send a guy (trust us, they work). Then, read on for the science behind why a naughty message can make him obsess over you all day.
If you want your man to be hard with anticipation the second he thinks of you, sending him naughty texts will do the trick for sure.
Read on if you want to understand how to use dirty phrases and sexy texts, but if you want to jump straight to sexting, try these guides:
- How to Start Sexting: 59 Hot Examples & 51 Sexy Ways to Sext Someone
- 23 Hot Ways to Sext a Guy & 48 Naughty Examples to Make Him Hot & Hard
- 74 Sexy & Dirty Things to Say to Your Boyfriend + Art of Dirty Talk Over Text
The Best Dirty Phrases and Sexy Texts To Turn Him On
There’s really no better way to get a man’s attention than to surprise him with a dirty, sexy text message midway through the day. When he doesn’t see it coming, the shock alone is enough to make him hard.
Not to mention all the different things you can say. When it comes to sexy texts for him that will make him hard, stimulating his imagination is by far the best way to do it.
If you’re looking for ways to spice up your love life, look no further. We have everything you need.
[Read: 46 sizzling sex life secrets to spice up your bedroom & leave you horny 24/7]
Use these texts to make him hard the next time you’re feeling naughty, and chances are, he’ll be more than happy to keep the conversation going!
But remember, these texts will start the conversation. But you still need to master how to keep a naughty conversation going. Use this guide to texts that will make him horny and you’ll give him an all-day raging hard-on!
1. I want you. Now.
2. I’m thinking about all the dirty things I want to do to you when you get home.
3. If I let you do anything – and I mean ANYTHING – to me, what would you do?
4. I can’t stop thinking about your lips on my body.
5. All I want is my mouth on you – everywhere. [Read: 49 blowjob techniques, positions & tips to give good head & make him gasp!]
6. Remember what we did in bed last time? I can’t stop thinking about it.
7. Guess what I’m wearing right now.
8. The bed feels so empty without you.
9. Baby, I’m so wet for you. [Read: 24 sex tips for men & secrets that make any woman wet & want more]
10. I had a very naughty dream about you last night. Guess what happened in it 😉
11. Let’s spend a whole day together this weekend. In bed.
12. If you can guess the color of my panties, I’ll give you a blow job you’ll never forget.
13. Tell me your dirtiest fantasy about me.
14. I have a special surprise for you tonight. You better come ready 😉
15. I’ll give you a reward tonight if you can guess where I’m touching myself right now.
16. I can’t stop thinking about what I’m going to do to you tonight.
17. Let’s watch porn together and act out each scene. [Read: How to watch porn with your girlfriend & get her to enjoy it with you]
18. Have you ever wanted to have sex in public? [Read: 59 hottest places to have sex that are naughty, risky & adrenalin racing!]
19. All I want right now is your hands on me. Down there.
20. I just had the naughtiest thought about you. But it’s much too dirty to send in a text.
21. There’s something special I want to try tonight. Get ready 😉
22. I’ve been a very bad girl today. I think I need to be punished.
23. I’ll be wearing heels tonight. ONLY heels.
24. You have three wishes that I’ll grant you in bed tonight. What are they?
25. Guess what I’m thinking about. I’ll give you a hint, it involves my lips wrapped around something.
26. I’m horny and you’re nowhere in sight. Looks like I’ll have to finish the job myself. I’ll be thinking of you 😉
27. Something is missing today. I think it’s you. Between my legs.
28. I can’t concentrate on anything today because I’m distracted by thoughts of our last time in bed together.
29. I just got out of the shower 😉
30. I think it’s about time we tried that new position we’ve been thinking about. [Read: 30 sexy ways to tease your man & make him want to F you right there]
31. If I didn’t have to work today, I’d come over and blow your mind.
32. I just bought some new underwear and a bra…I think you’ll like it 😉
33. I want you on top of me now!
34. Let’s make a dirty movie together!
35. I bought something for us to use in bed. [Read: 13 must-have couple’s sex toys for naughty first timers]
36. It’s so hard to concentrate at work today because I’m thinking of you in bed with me
37. Can I stop by for lunch? 😉
38. Tell me a dirty secret.
39. What is it called when you love sucking on things? Oh yeah…
40. What’s the greatest memory of us having sex?
41. I can’t wait to jump your bones!
42. I want to make you moan right now… [Read: Sex sounds: How to moan and look & sound sexy AF while making out]
43. Do you think I should go commando tonight?
44. Name a body part and I’ll send you a photo
45. Let’s place a mirror beside the bed and have sex watching ourselves.
46. You’re so skilled that you should teach a sex class.
47. If you Facetime me right now, I guarantee you’ll like what you see.
48. I want to be a police officer, arrest you, and make you my slave.
49. I can’t believe how well our bodies fit together.
50. Where can we have sex in public?
51. You have a magical tongue. [Read: How to eat a girl out: 81 oral sex tips to eat pussy & tongue her to bliss]
52. I miss having you inside of me.
53. I just masturbated and fantasized about you the whole time. [Read: How to masturbate: 30 solo orgasm & female masturbation secrets for girls]
54. I can’t help but touch myself with I think about you.
55. I want you to cum on me everywhere the next time I see you.
56. I want you to push me up a wall and have your way with me.
57. Want to know my favorite ways to pleasure you?
58. I love when you cum inside me.
59. I’m going to give you a surprise blowjob when you least expect it.
60. You need to spank me because I’ve been bad!
61. Can I practice my lap dance skills on you tonight?
62. No need for you to masturbate tonight… I’ve got that taken care of for you.
63. I had a dream about you last night, you weren’t wearing many clothes.
64. Licking a popsicle and thinking of you… it’s delicious. [Read: Finger blowjob: What makes finger sucking so sexy & how to do it right]
65. You. Me. Naked. Now.
66. Tell me exactly what you are going to do to me later, I want all the details.
67. Getting so wet thinking of you right now.
68. Can’t stop thinking about what we did last night, it’s making me want to do it all over again.
69. Tell me your fantasy, it might just come true later.
70. Lying in bed and wishing you were here…
71. I’ve been very naughty today. How are you going to punish me
72. I feel like something is missing in my life… Oh that’s right, it’s you, naked, on top of me.
73. I just got out of the shower and can’t seem to find my towel, wanna come over?
74. Touching myself and thinking of you.
75. Tell me the dirtiest thought you’ve ever had about me. If you tell me yours, I’ll tell you mine. 😉
76. Just wanted to let you know how hot you are, seriously, I mean, just thinking about you turns me on.
77. Come over for dinner later. Bring whipped cream for dessert.
78. I want you so badly right now.
79. Can’t stop thinking about kissing you… everywhere… [Read: Neck kisses: 22 erogenous ways, dos & don’ts to kiss the neck & melt anyone]
80. The things I would do to you if you were here right now!
81. You know that crazy thing we said we’d do one day, I think tonight might be the night!
82. You’ll never guess what I’m wearing…
83. Can’t do any work because I’m thinking of your naked body on top of my naked body—it’s very distracting.
84. I’m going to do some really filthy things to you when you get home from work. Be ready.
85. All I’ve been thinking about is your mouth.
86. Everything about you turns me on! I can’t help it.
87. Hope you’re rested, ’cause you’re going to need all your energy for tonight.
88. The minute you walk through the door, your clothes better come off!
89. I don’t get why you make me so horny. [Read: How to Make a Guy Horny & Rock Hard Just By Sitting Next to Him]
90. So… how do you feel about sex toys…
91. I learned this new yoga pose, I’m pretty flexible now.
92. I just found out I can text with one hand. Want to know where my other hand is?
93. Oh, just FYI I’m not wearing any underwear right now.
94. The moment I thought of you, my underwear was wet.
95. Do you wanna play a game?
96. Do you want to see my new toy?
97. I have a couple things to check off my to-do list tonight. Want to help?
98. I really want to reenact this porn scene I just watched.
[Read: 24 Sexy Ways to Arouse a Man & Get Him in the Mood If He’s Not Horny]
Longer Sexts & Roleplay Texts to Really Turn Him On
Not every sext has to be a one-liner. Sometimes, you want to tease him just a little longer, paint a vivid picture and build tension he can feel through the screen.
These longer, roleplay-style sexy texts are perfect for when you’ve got a little more time… or just want to leave him speechless.
1. I’ve been lying in bed thinking about your hands on my skin… and what you’d do if you were here. Spoiler: I’m not wearing much.
2. Let’s play a game. I describe exactly what I’m wearing… and you tell me what to take off first.
3. Just imagine this: I’m waiting for you at the door in heels and nothing else. You walk in. What happens next?
4. I can’t stop thinking about that thing you did last time… You know, when you pinned me down and whispered in my ear. Want to recreate it tonight?
5. I had a dream last night, you tied me up and took your sweet time with me. I didn’t want to wake up. Maybe we make it real?
6. You: lying back. Me: slowly climbing on top. You can’t touch me until I say so. Can you handle that?
7. I’m in bed, legs tangled in the sheets, thinking about the last time you whispered in my ear. You have no idea what I want you to do to me right now.
[Read: 22 Horny Signs to Tell If a Guy Is Turned On & Is Aroused AF Because of You!]
8. I wish you were here to press me up against the wall, kiss me like you mean it, and make me forget what I was even wearing.
9. I’ve been such a tease all day. I think it’s only fair you get to punish me when you get home.
10. Picture this: You come home. I’m on the couch. No pants. Just waiting for your hands on me.
11. I just took a bubble bath… My skin’s still warm and soft. Want to come feel for yourself?
12. I’m not wearing anything under this dress. Every time I move, I think of you… and it’s driving me crazy.
13. Tell me what you’d do if you walked in and saw me lying on the bed, hand between my legs, moaning your name.
14. Tonight, I want you to tie me up, take your time, and make me beg. Think you can handle that kind of power?
15. I have a secret. I’m imagining you taking control – no questions, no hesitation. Just you, me, and a whole lot of tension.
16. I love the way your voice sounds when you’re turned on. Call me and say something filthy.
17. I left a surprise for you under the sheets. All you have to do is come find it.
18. Want to know what I’ve been replaying in my head all day? You. Pushing me up against the kitchen counter last weekend.
[Read: 41 Sultry Ways to Turn a Guy On Fast & Make Him Lust & Fantasize About You]
19. Let’s play a game where you give me orders and I follow them exactly, no questions asked.
20. I want to do that thing you love again… you know the one. But slower. Much, much slower.
21. Close your eyes and imagine this: me, straddling you, telling you exactly how I want it… while not letting you touch me. Yet.
How to Know If Your Sexts Are Turning Him On
Sexting can sometimes feel like a shot in the dark. Is he into it? Is he reading between the lines? Here’s how to tell if your sexy texts are doing exactly what they’re supposed to.
1. He replies fast, or with voice notes.
If he suddenly forgets about the group chat and responds in under 10 seconds? Yeah, your text hit hard.
2. His replies get dirtier.
A good sext sparks creativity. If his texts go from “hey” to “I’m thinking about bending you over the couch,” you’ve got him locked in. [Read: How to Make a Guy Hard: 25 Casual & Subtle Moves No Man Can Resist!]
3. He sends selfies or photos.
Some guys are visual. If he starts sending pics (even clothed ones), it’s a sign he’s imagining things, with you in the starring role.
4. He mentions your sext later.
Whether in person or in another text, if he brings it up again, that means it stuck in his head.
5. He makes plans to see you, ASAP.
When a guy suddenly needs to “see you tonight” after you drop a naughty line? That’s the power of your sext in action.
[Read: Foreplay Ideas for Him: 29 Moves to Get a Guy Mad-Horny With Ease]
What Guys Secretly Love Receiving in Sexts
Want to know the secret sauce to really turning him on? These are the things guys don’t always say out loud, but love more than anything when it pops up in a text from you.
1. Specific compliments.
Tell him he’s sexy, but take it a step further. “The way your arms wrap around me…” or “Your voice in my ear drives me wild.” Guys crave praise too.
2. Confidence.
A text that says “I want you so bad right now” shows you’re owning your desire. That turns him on more than you’d think.
3. Him in control… or you taking charge.
Most guys love one or the other, or both. Saying “I want you to take me however you want” or “Tonight, I’m in charge” can flip his switch either way.
4. Subtle teasing.
Sexts that hint but don’t give away everything build anticipation. Think: “I just bought something new… and I’m wearing it right now.” [Read: 41 Minxy Secrets to Turn On Your Boyfriend & Get Your Man Hard & Horny]
5. A little bit of emotional intimacy.
Believe it or not, sexts that hint at closeness, like “I miss your smell” or “I love how safe I feel with you… and how dirty I can be too” really hit deep.
Why Anticipation is the Secret to Great Sex
We all know the build-up to sex can greatly improve the act itself. When you are thinking about someone else’s hands all over you throughout the day, the release you feel when it actually happens is greater than you can even imagine.
And the best way to get that anticipation pumping at full speed is by sending the right kind of text messages to make him hard.
Once you fill a man with anticipation, they only have one thing on their mind: you. And there’s science behind all that. [Read: 20 secrets to play it cool with a guy and not be clingy or too distant at the same time]
A study found that frequent, mutual sexting is linked to stronger emotional bonds, sexual satisfaction, and communication in couples.
📚 Source: Drouin, M., et al., 2017, Is sexting good for your relationship?
1. Attachment Theory
Imagine you’re on a business trip, and you get a text from your partner saying, “Can’t wait to feel your hands all over me.” Awww, right? This is where attachment theory swings into action.
Sending such intimate messages can help cultivate a sense of ‘secure attachment‘ (📚 source) even if you’re miles apart. Research shows that secure attachment can lead to more satisfying relationships.
Now, the key is to balance autonomy with emotional connection, turning your phone into an extension of your mutual affection.
[Read: Attachment styles theory: 4 types and 19 signs & ways you attach to others]
2. Dopamine Hit
Your phone buzzes, and as you read that spicy text from him, you can’t help but smile. Maybe it says something like, “You looked delicious last night. Can’t get you out of my mind.”
That tiny rush of happiness and excitement? Say hello to dopamine, your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitter. This “dopamine hit” keeps the relationship fresh and exciting.
It’s the biochemical reason why sexy texts for him can make a long-term relationship feel like you’re still in the honeymoon phase.
3. Priming
Let’s say you’re at work, daydreaming during a dull meeting. Your phone lights up, and you see a sexy text saying, “Get ready for an unforgettable night 😉.”
Now, you’re not just physically preparing for an intimate evening, you’re also mentally primed for it.
Psychological priming happens when exposure to one stimulus influences the response to a subsequent stimulus, in this case, turning the idea of an intimate evening into a near certainty.
Two simple words here: sexual tension.
Sexual tension is something that everyone feels, but it’s difficult to define. It’s an electric feeling that comes between two people who can’t wait to have sex with each other, but they can’t act on it at the moment.
So, when you’re actually together, both of you are already tuned into the same sexy frequency.
Must-know Tips For Making The Most of Your Sexy Texts for Him
You may be thinking that one simple text is enough to drive him wild, and while that may be true in some cases, there are certain things you can do to make your sext even more effective.
1. Appeal to What He Likes
Don’t just choose one of these sexy texts for him when you know he isn’t into something that’s mentioned. The best way to really turn him on with texts that will make him hard is to tailor it to what you already know he likes.
Doing this not only shows how well you know him, a turn-on in itself, it’ll also trigger his horniness right away. If you know he has a certain fetish, focus on that first before you dive into other naughty messages. [Read: What men like in bed – 53 things they want, desire and absolutely lust for]
Psychologists note that tailored intimacy, where you reflect your partner’s preferences and fantasies, enhances arousal and deepens attachment, especially when communication is responsive and reciprocal.
📚 Source: Mallory, Allen B., 2022, Dimensions of couples’ sexual communication and relationship satisfaction
2. Don’t Make Promises You Aren’t Willing to Keep
Many women make the mistake of “talking a big game.” They send messages that they know will turn their men on, but then they don’t actually do the things they mentioned.
It might be tempting to talk about some crazy sexual things the two of you have never tried. But if you are not that adventurous, then you don’t want to suggest them.
For instance, if you tell your boyfriend that you want to try S&M or have a threesome, but you don’t, then that is just being dishonest.
If you really want to make him hard, follow through with what you say, and the next time you sext him, it’ll be even more effective because he’ll know you mean it. When you send texts that will make him horny, make sure you’re happy with what you’re suggesting.
3. Bait Him
In order to make things even steamier, send a text that will force him to respond. Getting him to interact with your naughty sexts will increase your chances of turning him on immensely.
Leave your texts open-ended so he can reply and join in on the fun.
Get him to reply back with some naughty texts of his own. Ask him to send you pictures or tell him what he is doing to get hard right now besides thinking of you.
Remember, sending texts for him that will make him horny doesn’t have to be a one-way deal! [Read: 33 secrets to seduce a guy who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]
4. Avoid Unappealing Phrases and Words
There are certain things we ladies think sound dirty and naughty that are actually not appealing in the least. Turn-off phrases and words include things like juices, squirt, sludge, throbbing, and even excessive swearing. There is no need for those.
Say what you mean and be creative with adjectives, not with nouns.
[Read: Sexy words: 23 seductive words, dos & don’ts to make dirty talk sound erotic]
5. Get Yourself in the Mood First
What better way to turn your man on than to tell him how horny you are, and actually mean it? This way, you’ll be more descriptive and real with what you say.
You can even describe to him what you’re doing to turn yourself on. That alone will be better than any other texts that will make him hard.
6. Do It at an Appropriate Time
When you’re sending texts that will make him horny, is it an appropriate time? If you know that he has a big presentation for his boss that day, then it’s not an appropriate time to send him these naughty texts.
Work is important, and so you don’t want to distract him or put him in an awkward position by accidentally opening up a naked picture of you in front of his colleagues.
So, it’s best to try to make sure that he is in a “safe” place where he won’t be embarrassed. Also, you want to make sure he can respond and engage with you. Timing is everything. [Read: 45 sexting tips to initiate sexting and 50 examples to sext all the right things]
7. Start Off Slow
There is no need to rush in with the dirtiest thing you have ever thought of right away. If you aren’t 100% sure how he’ll respond, then take it slow.
Start off with something cute and flirty, a compliment, or tell him you are thinking about him. When you send texts that will make him horny, the idea is to build up slowly.
You have all the time in the world to build up to the more sexual stuff, so better to do it this way than go in too deep and scare him off!
8. Paint a Picture
Get creative and use your imagination to paint a picture of how you feel and all the things you want to do with him.
Describe sensations, what you’re wearing, how hot it’s going to be later. Appeal to his senses to get him seriously turned on when sending texts that will make him horny. [Read: 23 hot ways to sext a guy and 48 sexy examples to make him horny]
9. Build It Up
As the text messages go back and forth build up the tension, get sexier, and more explicit with each text message you send.
This way you build up the sexual tension until he finds it almost unbearable and wants to come over right away! [Read: How to create sexual tension with a guy in person and over text]
10. Learn What His Responses Mean
Judge the mood. If he’s taking a while to reply, or he’s not really acknowledging what you say then it might be he’s just not in the right frame of mind, and that’s okay.
He might be busy or stressed about something. Don’t take it as a rejection and don’t push it. Just let him be and try again another time. Sending texts that will make him horny doesn’t always work the first time.
11. Make Him Beg For It
Really tease him with your text messages. Get him totally horny and make him beg you to tell him what you’re wearing, or what you are doing to yourself. The intensity makes him wild with desire!
12. Add Some Visuals
In this day and age, you don’t just have to use your words when it comes to getting sexy over the phone. If you’re comfortable with it, why not add in a few sexy pictures here and there to really get him going?
13. Double-Check the Recipient: Avoid Epic Fails
Here’s a quick laugh, ever heard of someone sending a hot text to their boss by mistake? Hilarious for us, mortifying for them.
Double or even triple-check the recipient to make sure your steamy message is landing in the right inbox.[Read: What to do when you’ve sent a sexy text to someone else]
14. Keep Some Mystery: Leave Room for Imagination
While it’s tempting to spill all the details, leaving a bit to the imagination can be incredibly sexy. A message like “Can’t wait for tonight, I’ve got something special planned 😏” can be more intriguing than a full itinerary of the evening’s activities.
15. Balance: Mix Up Types of Texts
If every text is a sext, the novelty might wear off. Make sure to balance out those sexy texts for him with other kinds of messages.
This keeps the relationship multi-dimensional and ensures that sexting remains a special form of communication, not the default mode. [Read: 76 sexy texts to send a guy and tricks to get him hard imagining you]
Be Brave and Get Texting!
Not everyone finds it easy to initiate sex but a few carefully worded texts can be all it takes to get the ball rolling!
Make sure you pick the right time and use words that you feel comfortable with. That way, he will feel your excitement through your words and be hot and raring to go when you meet!
[Read: How to talk dirty – 36 sexy tips and 55 examples to turn anyone on with words]
Some say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. We say it’s through sexy texts for him that will make him hard. Let your man be the judge by giving these naughty sexts a try!
