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15 Things Women Look for in a Man Before Falling for Him

15 Things Women Look For In A Man Before Falling For Him

Do you think you have what it takes to impress any woman? So what do women look for in a man more than anything else? Read these 15 tips to know more. By Kirsten Cole

Ever wondered what women look for in a man?

You may think you have it all.

But if you’re still not getting the girl you want, you’re bound to wonder what you’re doing wrong and other lucky men are doing right.

Just like there are a few things about a girl that attracts you, girls too have their own wish list in a guy they meet.

[Poll: What guys find most attractive in a girl]

If you’re single and waiting for the woman of your dreams, here are a few things that can help you attract her effortlessly.

What do women look for in a man?

Men have their own sexual preferences in women.

[Read: 20 things about women that sexually excite a guy]

Likewise, women too have their own preferences when it comes to appearances.

But for everything else, there are just 15 things that separate a great guy from the mere mortals.

Understand these 15 tips and you can become a better man.

You’ll notice the difference as soon as you use these tips on what women look for in a man.

[Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for women]

#1 Good grooming. Dress well and look good no matter where you are. You never know when you’d bump into the woman of your dreams. It’s a simple tip, but something almost all guys never focus on. Groom yourself well with quality man products and complex perfumes that smells great on you.

#2 Be assertive in your behavior. Women love a man who’s not fickle minded. Have an ego and believe in yourself and your decisions. As hard as this may seem, be the man who can put someone else in place when they overstep the line or misbehave with you.

#3 Charming personality. A charming personality is everything, but yet it’s not something most men have. In fact, meeting a man who knows to charm a girl is a hard task for any woman. Improve your body language around women and learn your manners around them. [Read: Tips to charm any girl]

#4 A good physique. Go build those biceps and those deltoids in your shoulders. When you work out, you look healthier and radiant, and clothes look oh-so-sexy on you. If you want to attract a girl at first sight, you have to remember that appearances do matter. A lot.

#5 Have a good sense of humor. It takes less than a minute for a girl to know if a guy has a good sense of humor while having a conversation with him. And that’s all you need to impress a girl.

All girls know that a guy with a great sense of humor can be a lot of fun over dates or phone calls. Have a light hearted and fun approach towards life and try to look at the bright side all the time. You’ll draw women to you like moths to a flame. [Read: How to use your sense of humor to date a girl]

#6 A man who’s not a pushover. A guy who’s a pushover is one of the worst kinds of men in the hierarchy of dating. A pushover is a guy who prefers to accept defeat just to avoid conflict with someone who’s dominating him. Don’t ever be taken for granted by anyone, be it your own friends or a colleague. Have a spine and principles in life. If you feel you’re being wronged, learn to voice your opinion instead of being implosive.

#7 A good job and a nice salary. Well, now we’re getting shallow. But it’s better to face the truth than pretend like money doesn’t matter. Of course it does! You like a sexy woman over an unattractive women. Women like a rich guy over a church mouse. Be rich and drive a great car and you’ll have a huge advantage already. Just a word though, it’s just an advantage, but it’s not enough.

#8 A man who’s respected by others. Women like to be respected by the man they like, but they also like being with a guy who’s respected by others. If someone doesn’t respect you, is it your own fault? If it is, try to get better. If it isn’t your own fault, walk away from them. Or stand up and claim the respect you deserve from them.

It all comes down to this, if you genuinely respect yourself and have an ego, would you ever allow someone to throw you around for no fault of yours? Stand up and be a man. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]

#9 A confident man. Confidence is a great trait to have for any man. It’s an inner strength that’s seen and envied by anyone you meet. A confident man is more attractive to women because he believes in himself and his abilities, and he doesn’t tuck tail and run when he knows he’s right.

#10 A man who looks good. Good looks always make things easier when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. But when it comes to a man, thankfully for average looking men, there’s more than just a face carved by the gods that matters. Look your best, dress well and maintain a good posture. A straight back with an air of confidence can definitely impress the girl you like. Have a happy, cheerful face and a genuinely happy smile and you’ll do wonders.

#11 A good conversationalist. Just like a good sense of humor, knowing how to speak to a woman is a trait that all women look for in a man. Be pleasant, speak smoothly in a low tone and show genuine interest in the woman while speaking to her. Create conversations around her and make her have a nice time with you. [Read: How to talk to a girl and impress her]

#12 Respectful behavior. Be respectful towards others when they deserve your respect. All good natured women like a well mannered and kind man who doesn’t treat others badly just because he can. Don’t be rude to waiters or your subordinates unless you have a reason to. Treat everyone with respect and you’ll be treated with respect.

Women see kind men as good fathers, and it’s a trait that women instinctively like. Have good etiquette and treat women chivalrously, and you’ll notice them warming up to you almost instantly. [Read: How to be chivalrous with a woman]

#13 An alpha male. The best women are always in the arms of the best men. No woman would want to date another guy’s man friday if she’s desired by all men. If your friends don’t respect you, find new friends. You may have noticed this already, but there are always just one or two guys in a big group of guys who date the sexiest women while other guys sit wide eyed and hear their success stories in awe. They’re the alpha male. Be that guy.

#14 Make her feel comfortable in her skin. Women like a man who makes them feel at ease within the first few minutes of a conversation. Be the guy who can take away the air of nervousness in a first conversation while talking to a woman and she’ll like you for it. Indulge in a pleasant conversation and ensure that she feels involved and excited to talk to you. [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her like you]

#15 A compatible personality. Here’s a downer that you have to accept when it comes to understanding what women look for in a man. You may be a great guy, but at times both of you may just be way too incompatible for each other. She may like you, but she may not be willing to date you for her own reasons of compatibility. [Read: How to think like a woman and get the girl]

If you want to avoid this, be pleasant and genuine, and most of all, focus on her interests and learn about her likes and dislikes while talking to her so you know the right things to say at the right time. If she feels compatible with you and your personality, and thinks you’ll get along with her friends and family, she’ll definitely like you.

[Read: 10 things women want in a man to get serious with him]

So what do women look for in a man? There may be many things, but these 15 biggest things women look for are all you need to make a happy impression that’ll make her fall for you in no time.

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33 thoughts on “15 Things Women Look for in a Man Before Falling for Him”

  1. Crayven says:

    Hellooooooo! THAT is all that matters, let’s stop kidding ourselves INDEED.
    It’s all about the cha-ching. The rest is secondary.

    Shallow indeed !

  2. Benny H says:

    I don’t agree. A BS article written by a woman or a gay man. We all know that the only thing you have to do to make a woman fall is to play that bad guy act. The most beautiful girls always falls for the criminals. Especially the men that can use his power to hurt others. They just want the dangerous men.
    The rest of the girls don’t care for the “A good physique”, or the gay products you find in the stores. What they want is really irrelevant as they are not your first choice anyway.

  3. Vig says:

    So women want someone who is a father figure… Most guys are looking for a partner in crime not a daughter. Just like women don’t want to be your mother guys don’t want to be your dad.

  4. rafael smith says:

    wow that’s a long list…this woman is better than my right hand how?

  5. The Real Answer says:


  6. mike bigger says:

    why do women go for a bully? but, yet, look for a good- nature, kind fellow that has a good job and is respected by others. I have none of that and that is probably why I don’t have a girl friend. So many different characteristics that conflict with other behaviors being listed above. Women, I think, don’t know what the fuck they want.

  7. Andrew says:

    “Be an alpha man.”

    Oh, okay, let me just flip the switch back here! That was easy!

  8. Asd says:

    Yeah women dont have to do anything its all on us and then they blame us and want our alimonies..

  9. Sam says:

    Great article. I actually think most of the things listed are true

  10. Cerulean says:

    this is just… wrong. I am a girl, and this is not what I want in a man at all. yes, good looks help. you don’t have to be super tall or muscular or anything, but in general, healthy = attractive. women want a man who is neither a slob nor a fussy narcissist. we want someone who is confident, but not self absorbed. (not the “alpha male” stereotype) we want someone who can talk to us, and occasionally crack a good joke. we want someone who respects us, our friends, themselves, and just about everyone else. we want a calm and polite guy who is strong, but does not have to prove that to anyone. acts of chivalry can be tricky nowadays, since some women love stuff like that and others can’t stand the same things. most of all, we women want men that make us feel feminine.

  11. Wade says:

    I am exactly this guy! everything you depicted. always nice to others no matter who they may be. I’ve had six major relationships in my life and they just move on. tossed out like an old pair of high heels as a new model comes along. This interns are assertive behavior to look down on women trying to be too chatty or trying way to hard to get your attention, especially if they see me getting out of my LP 560-4. thus making us more of a hermit. instead of 15 things women look for, you need to I have 15 things to make a womans day. because really who’s reading this men or women. I guarantee you 90% are women. most men can really care less. I know this because I was raised and grown up by sisters. Too many women are looking for the popularity prize. I wish women would know what they want and just be themselves so there can be A happily ever after. just my 2 cents which means nothing. I did like the article, so I’m sorry for venting. WR,

  12. Insidious_Sid says:

    This article reads very well and most things (if not all) on the list are sensible. So why am I left feeling there is more to it than this? Decent guys are labelled as “nice” (a social death sentence these days)… girls still complaining that they end up with bad boys who break their hearts… Why does even the best list of “what must a man bring” always seem to be missing something… Hmmmm….

  13. The Last Jaguar Warrior says:

    Cerulean, I’m guessing either you’re one of or a combination ofthe following to suggest such a rediculous thing.
    Retarded, fat, ugly, weird, desperite, gay
    Tha rich, bully alpha is always the only one to be chosen be women. It’s just scientifically proven, and can’t be helped.

  14. Anna says:

    This is ridiculous. I’m a girl, and this is not at all what I find attractive in a man. In fact, I even think being “the alpha male” is kind of unattractive. I can’t stand guys who are full of themselves. The things in a man I find most attractive and important are a good sense of humor, intelligence and a man who is loving and affectionate. Good looks of course count as a bonus. But this theory that women want the “alpha male, rich, big muscles guy” is bullshit.

  15. Rockycruz says:

    I didn’t have 99% to have any of these to attract a woman. I even didn’t dress that great either. I have confidence, humour, and bit bold in my approach with women; and that is it.

    I think what most guys do is compensate their lack of confidence, lack of social life, lack of purpose in their life and try to fill in those gaps with all these on the list.

    What you get is “NICE GUY” who is predictable and he can dress really well, got great job, money but just can’t build rapport with women, he bores them to death.

    I also didn’t make woman feel comfortable in her skin. I made he feel the Roller Coaster effect. There is certainty but there is unpredictability, there is safe but there is mystery, there is value but their is also curiosity. I don’t tell her anything about job, money, and all the stuff most do.

    So guys, find a purpose in your life, build a great amazing world, so you got value that she sees before her own eyes. Be confident in your approach and nto creepy. Have 100% clear intent why you approach a woman and say it too. Most women like a man who knows what he wants, goes for what he wants and can bring her into a world that is of higher value than her.

    This doesn’t mean money, this doesn’t mean wealth, it doesn’t mean six packs or good looks. It means, you have certainty….but excitement too….she can feel safe…and she can feel secure that you are who you say you are.

    No, don’t be yourself. Be BETTER. Be awesome!

    Oh Anna….I like your style -:)

  16. Lucy says:

    Its all about being kind.. funny helps but no need to stress because what people really need is a kind person to love them right. If the man and the woman have their HEART in the right place and focus on the love (real love)… than everything else in time falls into place. Women , just like men, will fall for someone who carries love in their heart because that person will be patient, understanding, caring and eventually both will become better people and learn from eachother and how to be with eachother. We all have flaws no ones perfect so there will be downs… but the ups will be so worth it. Keep a good heart and see how love conquers all 🙂

  17. Loroxxx says:

    Oh, come on! What a joke of an article! So you just have to be good looking, smart, rich, confident, dress great and have a sense of humor to attract girls??? Wow….I would have never guessed any of these matter! Kirsten Cole just revealed well kept secrets to us. Yeah right! Can’t think of any guy who has these traits (or even just a couple of them) who’d be wasting his time reading this crap. How about telling us something we don’t know Kirsten????

  18. Brenna says:

    I always look for a gentleman who opens doors for me and stuff

  19. Brenna says:

    I also look for the guys that are kind and caring not muscle and money that is bull shit

  20. Junior says:

    Cant believe any guy is having trouble these days getting a girl. Its very easy without all the crap mentioned in the article above. If you want sex, you can have that easy with the different dating and fling sites online. If you want relationship, you can get that too!!

    ** It is true a lot of girls fall for confident and Alpha males and usually these are mostly the bad boy types. Girls like the adventure! Its just the way it is. But if you want a real girl who dont care about that shit and wants a relationship over everything else– You gotta meet that girl where she hangs out … church, social events, library, etc instead of the clubs and bar scene.

  21. VerySerious says:

    Women that go for bad boys are such Losers to begin with.

  22. Beverley says:

    i am a mature woman. Simply, a woman wants a man whom knows what he wants and to be loved to the exclusion of all others. It makes him very desirable. A man whom keeps all his promises too. A man whom is always clean and presentable the same expectation that men have of women. Compatability, good sense of humour a bit of charm sees you through rough patches and of course good communication skills are paramount. A very average looking man if he has the above is so attractive and easy to love. Of course there has to be attraction but it’s not always obvious until you engage in conversation. I’m not sure why it is assumed women like bad boys as they are very hard work. They can only be short term relationships but women when it comes to marriage want a good guy they are proud of. Both sexes should refrain from manipulation. It’s negative and serves no purpose. Each should ‘power’ the other one up in a healthy loving way. The men that like to assume the alpha male are wasting their time. I find actually they are quite weak men whom are in fear of failing. It is beyond me that a man can have several broken relationships and dumped and he has never thought to ask why. I would guess communication must be very poor indeed. It amazes me how different relationships are these days as in the past I’ve never had to question if my relationships were exclusive!!! Never gone on a dating site either!! Keep them mean keep them keen is another misnomer. Women respond to kindness and love and to know where they are in a relationship and if it’s a short or long term thing as when they are in love and you approach things right they will respond likewise. A man whom has a purpose in life and does things with a passion therefore having some zest in life is important. A man whom is not afraid of hard work and does a job he enjoys whatever that may be. Both sexes need respect for each other as once that starts to go the relationship is on a slippery slope. For eg if a partner starts abusing the other whether male or female it’s a good indication that any respect has gone and just finish the relationship as once this happens it’s very difficult to love someone that abuses you. That’s why every relationship should have some boundaries that are not overstepped. Both sexes need to learn to say sorry if it’s required. Talk is cheap it’s always the behaviour and actions that are far more important and accurate too. From my observations too many couples focus on the negative which is fruitless. It must be appreciated that life too in all areas is a balance. The same way you accept happiness and sadness good and not so good. Makes life a whole lot easier. We should all try to be the best we can on a regular basis. Focus too on what is going right in your life not always where it may be going wrong. It’s like the trashy magazines always focusing on broken relationships never the healthy ones! Each person has the capability of turning their lives around and it’s a choice too. I’m not talking about persons that are clinically depressed rather the type that thinks nothing good ever happens in there life. They become a victim of themselves. So every day I say to those people think where your life is good. Start with the basics. Got a roof over your head, food, etc etc family friends and you then realise actually how ‘rich’ you really are. Re relationship get to know yourself and what you actually do desire. As I said before a man whom knows what he wants is extremely desireable.

  23. Beverley says:

    A clear indicator from women whom are unable to express how they are feeling when things are not too good are when they ‘have a headache’ and then you realise she’s always tired and has a permanent headache ! This is when you need to find out what is making her unhappy. Again anything I’ve said goes for the other sex too. We all need to learn to just be ourselves not what we think the partner wants otherwise we are not honouring ourselves. I went out with a man whom pulled the chair out for me and opened the car door. It did not last long and I just knew it would not. I had to laugh. Men assume women want roses and chocolates but sometimes a simple loving note is wonderful to receive.

  24. Jimmy says:

    That was the may shallow list of things I’ve ever read on my life,maybe that means that women are shallow?

  25. james says:

    I don’t totally agree with you there, I have seen many women go for the so called Alpha male or those who are well financially grounded. for example I have a degree covering most parts of the computing industry. My ex gf was always complaining about myself not working in an IT role and accused me of not even bothering to look. When in fact am forever looking for work. To cut the story short she dumped me over something so stupid and pathetic, last thing she told me was she wished she never met me, she’s got no feelings for me whatsoever and am just a bad memory for her. Besides this I have seen the sort of guys a lot of women go for, and if your a type of guy who is easy going laid back etc. more like a gentleman helpful etc. those many women will use you and try to walk over you. So no its not ridiculous at all, as not all women are what you have described in fact id dare say most aren’t. Do you really see a real nice looking lass with a man who is either temporary unemployed or works in a shitty job while she has a good job? I personally don’t see many at all to be honest with you.

  26. Shannon says:

    that doesnt explain why fat ugly big head dickhead guys have found the love of their life
    im stocky, good looking, got my shit together and i just get cheated on all the time lol, wtf

  27. Shannon says:

    your soo slack

  28. Insidious Sid says:

    So with you having all this wisdom, how’s your perfect relationship going?

  29. Insidious Sid says:

    Yep, and if you meet the requirements of this list you’re basically Brad Pitt and too good for 99.9% of women out there. I have a better idea. Be yourself, act the way you want, and treat women with that perfect combination of minimal interest and just the right amount of indifference. The worst thing you can do for a relationship with a woman is let her know you’re after her. Telling her how great she is all the time is also a recipe for failure. If you keep telling her she is “all that”, she will eventually believe you and go out and get the man she REALLY deserves! Nice guys do finish last. It’s true.

  30. Zen says:

    For Guys,
    all you need is a “Pretty” face and body quality.

    Wow, what a mere option we have.

  31. Seth Kreiger says:

    Dumb article with a lot of negative attitudes towards guys.

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