15 Best Questions to Ask a Girl You Really Want to Get to Know

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Getting to know someone takes time. But… if you want to cut a few corners, these best questions to ask a girl will save you some time.

If you want to find out what really makes a girl tick, you need to ask the right questions and really get to know her. The problem? All of that takes time and you might be impatient! You can cut a few corners by knowing what the best questions to ask a girl are. They really get her to dig deep and show a little more of her personality, a little faster.

Remember to not cross any boundaries and ask deeply personal questions of someone you don’t really know that well yet.

[Read: How to get to know a girl better and win her over]

Best questions to ask a girl you want to know better

To help you out *making sure you don’t cross any red lines*, check out these 15 best questions to ask a girl. You’ll understand her better in no time!

#1 If you could go back in time and change one thing in your life, what would it be? Understanding someone’s regrets and the things they simply wish could have worked out differently helps you to understand their inner workings a lot better.

Sure, she might not tell you her deepest, darkest regrets, but that’s her prerogative. Her answer will give you a lot more information and insight into who she really is and what is important to her. [Read: How to tell if there is no chemistry and you should stop trying]

#2 What was your biggest dream when you were younger? Did she want to save the world? Or did she want to be able to fly? Did she want to travel all over the place? Just as learning about someone’s regrets is interesting, learning about their dreams is too.

#3 Are you a cat or dog person? This tells you more than you might think! Dogs are loyal and loving, cats are more free-spirited and adventurous. Sure, that might not extend to their owner. But, it might tell you which side of the line she sits on, and give you a head’s up on what to expect! It might be lighthearted, but it’s one of the best questions to ask a girl if you want to make her smile and get to know her better. [Read: 10 ways to feel more connected with someone new]

#4 Dealbreaker number one in a relationship, what is it? Everyone has boundaries that they will and won’t cross in relationships. And this tells you what she will put up with and what she most definitely won’t. This isn’t because you want to push those boundaries and know how far you can go,  you want to know more about her morals and what is important to her in a relationship.

#5 Ketchup or mayonnaise? Not all questions need to be heavy! This is a fun question to ask. It breaks the ice and gets her smiling. After that, you can move on to the heavier, more probing questions.

#6 If you could travel to one destination right now, where you would you choose? Will she opt for a city break? Perhaps a tropical beach? Maybe she’ll choose a snow destination. It’s interesting to think of places that people want to visit. The number one place that comes to mind tells you a lot. It’s one of the best questions to ask a girl if you want to know more about what she enjoys and finds interesting.

#7 What is your favorite time of year? Is she a summer girl or a winter girl? Does she love the fall and the spooky fun of Halloween, or is she more of a spring kind of girl? Again, it’s an interesting question to ask and tells you about her core values and the situations in which she feels most comfortable. [Read: Toxic girlfriend potential? How to tell if the girl you like could be toxic]

#8 Do you want to be in the same job in five years’ time? Ah, an interesting one! This is one of the best questions to ask a girl because it tells you a lot about her aspirations. Maybe she will tell you that she loves her job, or maybe she will tell you she is disillusioned and wants to make a change. Either way, you’ll learn a lot.

#9 What would you do today if you knew the world would explode tomorrow? A little ‘out there,’ but it’s an interesting one again! Think about what you would do and then tell her. Asking her to respond. It’s one of the best questions to ask a girl to make her think creatively. The answer will tell you a lot about what she finds enjoyable and what she is passionate about.

#10 What is your number one favorite thing about yourself? You’ll probably be greeted with an embarrassed shrug or a random answer here, but it’s a probing and fun question to ask. We’re very quick to tell people what we don’t like about ourselves. Ask her the opposite and then tell her what you like about her, even though you’re still getting to know her.

#11 What would be your perfect date? This could give you some ideas if you have plans to date this girl! It’s one of the best questions to ask a girl to get to know what she enjoys doing in her spare time and what she’s comfortable with. Again, you can use this answer if you have any future plans.

#12 Do you have any weird or wonderful hidden talents? We can all do something weird or wonderful, such as roll our tongue or play the tambourine really well *not that playing the tambourine is weird, simply not that mainstream*. So, ask her about her hidden talents and you’ll also learn more about her hidden depths.

#13 If you could sit and have a conversation with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be and why? This one might turn emotional, but it’s certainly one of the best questions to ask a girl you want to get to know quickly. It will tell you about who is important in her life, what is important, and also what she’s interested in or passionate about.

#14 What is the single best piece of advice you’ve ever been given? Again, this will tell you about what she thinks is important and the guidelines to which she lives her life. It might be a fun piece of advice or something a little deeper. Ask and see what her answer is! [Read: How to be more playful and flirty and open up with someone you like]

#15 What is your idea of a perfect weekend? Some people love to party, others like to stay home and watch Netflix under a blanket. Some people want to go on an adventure, while others want to spend time with family. This question tells you a lot about a person, but it’s also a good one for thinking of things you can do together in the future. For that reason, it’s one of the best questions to ask a girl!

Of course, knowing a few of the best questions to ask a girl to get to know her better doesn’t mean you should fire them at her like she’s in an interview! Space them out throughout the conversation and over a period of time; by doing that, you’ll learn far more.

[Read: Fun and flirty questions to ask a girl you like and reveal more about her]

These are 15 of the best questions to ask a girl to get to know her a little better, a little quicker. Consider your own answers and make it a real conversation, helping her to get to know you better too.

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...

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