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  • April 22, 2012 | Permalink |

    I would like to know what you think. Is is possible to still be in love with your ex- girlfriend and still date another one. My ex-boyfriend wanted to date me again a few years ago but for some very complicated reasons to explain right now I said no. I still loved him and he loved me so so much He asked for a hug. Well! he dated someone else for 4 years before he passed away. A friend saw hi 3 weeks before his death. She said he only talked about. As if I was the girl of his life. I said, well maybe its because she does not know his girlfriend. I called his girlfriend to wish my condolences. She had never heard of me but found a letter I wrote years back that my ex- kept. Then another friend said that he used to talk about me but that was years ago… Still, I held a special place in my ex heart and he cared deeply about me. Do you think he still loved me but had no choice to date someone else because he wasn’t going to stay single all his life?

    Thanks for your time and answer. Its a mind boggling question. Gen

  • kay
    July 19, 2012 | Permalink |

    he was really inlove with you dear!

  • Jennifer
    September 5, 2012 | Permalink |

    So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for two years now. He’s a great guy and has never cheated on me. 4 months ago we deleted our facebooks due to jealousy BUT a month ago I added mine back and he made a new one. I told him to block his ex girlfriend (that he dated for a year, they were pretty serious and he dated me quickly after) and some other girl that tried to get in between our relationship. He didn’t struggle what so ever. He was completely understanding.

    He has a twitter account thoough (he made me delete mine because of jealousy). Then made his own like 6 months after. I was recently at his place, checked it for the very first time and noticed that he’s been talking to his ex and the other girl that I asked him to block on Facebook.

    What am I supposed to think of this?? And it’s never them starting the convo. It’s him tweeting about their tweet, kinda playfully too. He said he wouldn’t talk to them, yet he’s talking to them where I cant see…

  • Little Tibet
    October 24, 2012 | Permalink |

    Ive been living with my boyfriend for a year now, I feel like he’s still not over his ex, which bothers me a lot!. He’s been with her for 5 years… He has stuff lying around and yes I catch him all zoned out… When I go to his brothers house there’s a few pic of her… Which kills me. Case it doesn’t help someone get over there ex!. Like wtf!!!?!… Don’t get me wrong he treats me great but then again everyone has their flaws.. I had to make a big fuss with the pics on the computer and delete little things she had left on his Fone.. I really didn’t want to be the person to do that, but that isn’t fair to the person you live with. He tells me numerous times he won’t be getting back with her but that’s happened before a little time period. I LOVE HIM sooo much, I’ve made to s of sacrifices to be with him. All these things around the house, he leaves them out in the open when he walks by or w.e… Ugggghhhhh!, how I fucking loathe that!… What am I supposed to do or say?… I know it takes time but if all these things are in your face everyday, I don’t think it helps the person get over their ex… Sighhh*… Should I be worried?

  • Nervous Wreck
    November 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    When I met my boyfriend of 10 months he was single but secretly talking to an ex that is underage. They obviously couldn’t be together because of an age difference and he would end up in jail. We hit it off great and started dating when I found out he was still talking and seeing her, telling her he loved her and wanting to be with her. When I found out right away I ended it and said its either me or her and he did the whole apology thing and said he really did care about me, then basically he tried to hide that he was with me about 2 months into trying it out again, when I found out I was furious! I beyond blew up infront of him and his best friend. I told him I was done went to my best friends house and didn’t talk to him at all. His best friend texted me saying he really cares about me and I said he should have thought about it before he decided to lie to both of us..Eventually I gave him one last chance and we were doing great. It was about nine months that we were together and he finally told me he loved me and the next day we had a wedding to go to when he saw his ex and he just fell apart and basically told me drunkenly that he regretted saying he loved me. And now 10 months dating and he wont say it and I straight up asked him and he said he was sorry that he couldn’t say it and sorry he still cared about his ex..but yet he always talks about the future saying things like when we get married…or things that seem like we are permanent. My gut keeps sending me red flags over this but I feel like I should just wait and see how it goes. Im just afraid that once his ex turns 18 he will just drop me for her, which would be about a year and a half for us being together which makes me think how can he do that after being together for such a long time..I know they still talk because I told him I cant be the bitchy person to say no they cant talk but it’s very seldomly that they do and shes been dating someone for a couple of months now and posts things saying she loves him already…I just don’t know where to go from here..if I should seriously consider walking away or hold on??? Help

  • That Ex He dreams about
    November 17, 2012 | Permalink |

    My Ex and I were Friend’s Before Lover’s. We knew each other for 5 year’s before we began to date. We met each other at age 13 But we dated at age 19. Which lasted about 3 year’s. We were extremely young. And both new to true love. But we had an incredible bond. I’m still growing so is he. I broke up with him for about a year and began to focus on my career and school. I chose to be celibate. One day I found out he’s dating someone new. I was completely heart broken. But I understand he’s a man he wouldn’t stay single for long. especially after begging me to be with him again for so long people start to give up. & I acted as though I didn’t care so he could move on I thought that was what I wanted. But it wasn’t. Back to the new girl he dated it hurt. So I told him it’s best if we don’t speak anymore he wouldn’t give up. He called constantly. I ended up changing my number blocked him on any social networks. It was far to emotional I couldn’t live on because he would not let me go.& I couldn’t live with such pain. This year I haven’t called him for any holiday’s or birthday’s like I usually do But I was still broken I refused to let him know. So I gave him a Call . Blocked my number so he couldn’t get in contact with ne and I asked how he was. I kept it simple didn’t want him to have the upper hand at all. We ended up speaking for about 10 hour’s since we were both off work. Before I hung up he insisted I call him anytime. I am the type of woman whom respects any relationship even if my ex has someone new. That’s the type of woman I am. My birthday comes around a few week’s later he email’s me a happy birthday and sends flower’s. His sisters were also emailing me happy birthday. It felt great I’ve missed him so much. One day he emailed me (remember ) he doesn’t have my number to call and he asks About the past. I responded telling him it’s in the past now. He Then wrote an essay explaining how he still DREAMS about the spontaneous sex. How he still has some things I’ve left at his house a while back. Old text. Pictures. Gifts. Bras Undies. And he remembers all of the times we had he reminds me of every moment. and Misses Them. How us drifting apart is Not what he wants. He felt it was the wrong timing the first time around and how he Still IN LOVE’ WITH ME TILL THIS DAY. And how he refuses to live his life without me. He answeres my message’s Right away. And when we talk we have incredible memories and great conversations. He’s a bit afraid I would break up with him again I can see his fear. But I love him with every bit of my heart and he love’s me AS well. His parent’s even plan on us getting married some day. I’m still taking it slow. I do not want a relationship Until I finish college I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. Only thing I’m not sure if he’s still dating the same girl. I’m not sure if she was just Rebound. But I don’t want to ask About it yet Until we are back on good terms. And I don’t want him to think I want him back. We are starting over as bestfriends. He’s extremely Straight forward & if she is still in the picture he will let her Know He will continue to have me in his life rather she likes it or not. But I’m not the type to disrespect any relationship. I have choices some involve him in my future and some don’t. I don’t want him to be “the one that got away” I know I could have him Today. But I’m thinking FUTURE. Until I find out if she’s still in the picture. My questions are unanswered. _

  • Heather
    December 11, 2012 | Permalink |

    hi! I have known the guy I have been dating for about 15 years and have been dating him for almost 2 years. He and one of his ex’s have a child together and for some reason when he leaves he runs right to her house. He tells me he does not like her but it’s a roof over his head. All she does is text me saying that they have slept together. anyways a few weeks ago he went there for like 5 days and she was saying she had him, which I really did not think she did but he also looked me in the face and told me he did not and that he does not like her. Well I looked in his phone and she had sent him a picture of her laying on the couch in her bra and underwear and that was from when he was there and he kept it. Than his excuse is that he like the underwear and bra lol. Why would he keep this on his phone if he loves me and wants to move foward with our relationship? we have a 9 month old son together. Do you guys think he has been with her and if he still has feelings for her? should I be mad at this? I really feel hurt because he always tells me i have nothing to worry about.

  • totallyconfused
    January 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have been dating this man for almost 3 yrs. now. He confessed to me that he has been talking to his ex. Casual conversation as he called it. Talking about helping him to park his Van on their yard to sell it. Well, one day she called him and he didn’t picked up the phone and i asked him who it was and he said it was his ex. I asked why you didn’t picked up, he said,it just don’t sound right to talked to her in front of you, i raised my eyebrows i said, call her back right now..and asked what she wants and why she called you. and he did called her back while i have my hands on my waist. He told her that he can’t park the Van at their Yard and hanged up. I told him, I don’t understand why you keep talking to your ex when you are trying to move on and have a relationship with me. It’s either go back to her or stay with me your choice i don’t play that game. I told him, You are giving her the impression that you are not so over with her and you cannot move on because you are a hard loser. And he tried to defend himself by telling me, why i can’t be friends with my ex. i just answer him, because i don’t. And i asked him, If he wants to call my ex and have a nice conversation with him. He hit the roof. So i said. Your call, i let you know that it bothers me, i will not chase you. You are free to go. After that, I never caught him again yet.

  • InTheSameBoat
    January 23, 2013 | Permalink |

    I’ve been with my guy for a year and a half now. I just found out that he’s been constantly talking to and texting his ex EVERYDAY. They do have a 12year old son together, and I can understand why communication needs to remain open…But everyday seems a bit much. I have expressed my concerns to him. His response is that they’ve known each other since they were 14 y/o (they are 44 y/o now), so they are like best friends. They entered into a relationship once, broke up and then got back together again. He lives with me, sleeps in my bed and said they he didn’t realize that we were in a relationship???? I feel used and concerned that once he gets back on his feet (which i’ve been helping him do), that they will get back together again. Just knowing that she is the first person he talks to in the morning and the last at night makes me uncomfortable, but he claims it’s all innocent and that the reason is basically my fault because I have a job that doesn’t allow me to just sit and talk on the phone all day. He doesn’t work, so he gets lonely during the day and she is a security guard that has to work outside on a loading dock by herself and calls to talk. It’s fishy, but I just don’t want to put him out on his tail. My question is how can i place this out of my mind and move on? I’ve been in this situation already and based on the outcome, it’s not looking good.

  • Arianna
    February 23, 2013 | Permalink |

    My boyfriend is always talking about his ex to me and Ive told him a bunch of times that i dont like her so you can talk to her but dont talk to me about her but he brings her up everytime we are on the phone. When his ex texts him he tells me everything she says and how much he hates her. And im just like wel if you hate her then why will you not stop talking about her1 I just dont know what to do!

  • Lindy
    March 7, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have been dating this guy since 2010 our relationship was a bit complicated like he would only call me when he needed something or says he misses me. I was at a university out of town that time and he used to call and we would stay on the phone for hours. I got pregnant by him and he didnt contact me as often when i told him i was pregnant and he kept quite for over a year that was in 2011 November when he stopped calling. In that long period of us not being in touch he would make fake facebook profiles one of them he sent me a message which was like “Baby how is london my pretty queen, the one next to my side. God loves you more than i do, i cant leave to forget you. And another time last year in July because i accidentally added him on facebook, he wrote me a message which said “hi babz, how re u. been a long time, i ve tryed ma best to gte accross to u buy no means. hope u re gud”. Another one was “Hi hun
    How re u. Its so unfortunate that I can’t get intouch with u. Nd am sorry in anyway if I get u upset. But I tried getin intouch but all my effort was hopeless. Anywayz how re u. Just checking on u”. Later on early 2013 in January he adds me on whatsapp saying ” hi babz, longtime though, happy new year my reply was who was this, and he was like my name is Allen, so i said i dont know anyone by that time and if he could send me a picture to remind me who this is so he sent his picture and to find out it was him and we carried on talking coz he asked where i was and if i was okay. Does this still mean he loves me? I need your help guys. Thanks

  • Lindy
    March 7, 2013 | Permalink |

    Even though he is seeing someone at the moment/or other girls. He is not faithful and even his facebook name “Ex Boo” explains all. But i just want to know if he loves me even though he is seeing someone new at the moment. Based on the fact that he has kept in touch with me whilst dating someone else.

  • champix
    March 12, 2013 | Permalink |

    been with my bpyfriend for 18months. Its been up and down with both being ill. But i am concerned that he is still in love with his ex wife. They have two children together so i understand that yhere needs to be communication. The ex wife has made it very clear that she doesnt love him, but he still talks about her often, types her name into google and youtube, drops plans he has made with me to help his ex wife. Mocks me to his ex wife, calling me his taxi. He has uploaded photos of tjeir weddinh onto our shared laptop in the last month. He told someone that for the first 6months aftrr ahe ended their relationship that he was hoping she would take him back, eventhough he had met me. He said this when i was in the room. Does he love her still and settling for 2nd best or am i being silly!

  • Lisa
    March 14, 2013 | Permalink |

    I like a boy that used to date a girl from my school (we were not friends, just acquaintances). I believed he sent me some signals, but I’ve never been good at detecting signals from guys, so whatever. I’m aware he and his ex girlfriend broke up around 7 months ago, but it was because she was moving to another city and they didn’t want to have a distance relationship. He talked about her rarely, but I also brought her some times (since I know who she is and we’ve talked to each other). Once we went out the two of us and he talked about how distance relationships weren’t his thing and stuff like that. Then he said “what he liked about a girl” and he mentioned his ex and said she wasn’t really smart, or pretty, but he thought (past tense) she was interesting. However the very next day, we go out with a group of friends and she was there. We talked (her and I) and everything normal, but I would say (I don’t know if it was only me) they looked like they still had feelings for each other. She actually came back to the city to say goodbye and pack her things because she was not only moving to a different city, but also to a different country. The day she left, she actually wrote in her facebook profile “Because you only know you love her when you let her go” and he liked that status! Appart from that, they haven’t had any other facebook likes or stuff like that, but I’m still worried. I don’t want to interfere where there’s still a relationship.

  • Laila
    March 19, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have asked this boy( I used to date) if we could try again but take it slow .unfortunately he said no so I have left seperate gaps between and dated 9 boys to try n make him go out wiv me but every time my mates ask him out(when I don’t want them 2) he just get annoyed n says NO :’( what shall I do gals any tips ‘ll do!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope u understand what I been through

  • Blanca
    March 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    My boyfriend and I met at church after knowing eachother for two years we stated dating now we have one year together and he says here Wantss to Marry me and have a family but recently I went on his facebook and he was talking to hes ex who lives in Mexico he was telling her tht he want to go visit soon and she said Ohh ethyl you probably will already be married and he said no im not and they stated flirting alittle and he told her she was nice and nobleand a great person and he says he cant wait to see her and im planning on breaking up with him first thing tomoroow even though I kno hes going to beg me to not leave him!! and I already kno hes going to say he loves me because we went trew alot together trying to get or parents to let us go ot since he was 19 and I was 17 when he first started going out.. im so sad and depressed this sucks

  • Jayla
    May 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    Hi. I started likin this guy this year but every since i met him he was with this girl. They were on an off for 2 years. An they loved eachother. Well in the past couple months everytime they would break up, me an him would hold hands an then he would text me for a couple days, then him an his girlfriend would be back together. So yea, i know i was a rebound then. But am i now? We started talkin again last week… Saturday we went to an Amusement park (our parents job got free tickets, so we met up) an while we were there we did nothing but hold hands. Then Sunday he picked me up an we went on a date to the park, started dating that night. But i wanna know if he still wants to be with his ex. He tells me “oh she begs for me back an when i do all she does is try to argue you me an i just cant handle her bs no more an i gotta move on. You have nothing to worry about. Just trust me. What can i do for you to trust me?” An i mean im the one that brings it up sayin “im scared that your gunna get back with her” And i would trust him about it… but all the other times that we talked he said they wernt gettin back together, but a couple days later he would stop talkin to me n would b talkin to his ex again. But the real reason i wanna believe his this time is because he actually took me to the park for a date, an he actually asked me out this time. An he wont say i love you un till he really means it so then i feel even more that i can trust him. I dont know what to do or think. Please help

  • Chelsea
    June 27, 2013 | Permalink |

    I need help! There’s this guy I’ve been seeing now for about 3 months. About 6 months ago he broke up with his girlfriend/fiancé of 4 years because she was putting him on an emotional roller coaster ride (one day she loved him and the next she hated him etc). I’ve known him for 5 years and we’ve always flirted and teased each other and helped each other out with relationship problems. When him and me first started dating, his ex called me and begged me not to see him. They still talk everyday yet whenever I’m over at his house, he always says “I don’t know what I ever saw in her” or there’s a situation of where she won’t give him her stuff back. He still wears the engagement ring his ex gave him and she still wears hers. Am I being played? I’m scared. Help?!

  • Stephanie
    July 7, 2013 | Permalink |

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for going on 2 years. Things were picture perfect with us in the beginning. Like something you see in a love movie. Well around the first of this year he left his cellphone in the bathroom on accident. When I went to the bathroom I of course noticed his phone sitting there. I had been having this gut feeling that he was keeping something from me so I convinced myself to check his text messages in his phone. That was one of the best and worst decisions I could have made. I definitely found texts between my boyfriend and other women. Talking about them hanging out and having those women do “favors” for him. Some for money. I was irate when I read those texts. My heart sank in my chest and it was hard to keep my composure. The one thing that my guy does in his phone is to not put names with his phone numbers in his phone so only he knows who he is talking to.. That has always been the sign that he is unfaithful. A few months after the first incident I noticed he had “liked” other girls pictures on Facebook. He has many girls as friends on his Facebook and some are his ex girlfriends. When I ask him to delete his Ex’s he gets defensive and says he will never delete any girls who are just friends for a girlfriend because that shows there is not trust in the relationship.. Well earlier this week I finally had the chance and now know why he won’t delete them off of Facebook. I was at his house and he forgot to log out of his Facebook account. So once again I convince myself to snoop. I know it’s wrong but my instinct tells me to. Because I know he is unfaithful. So as I’m reading through messages I come across many messages to other women once again asking for favors.. But the conversation which worries me the most is one between him and his ex. She was his first love and they were together for 2 years. During the conversation his ex asks him if he had already settled down with me because we are in the process of getting our own place. His response is “I mean I’m with someone, but that doesn’t mean that much (as in wanting to settle down) especially when it comes to first loves.” Obviously by that statement I am just a girl he’s with so he is not lonely. He doesn’t plan on being with me for the long run and I feel he is using me to get out into his own place. I can tell he wants back with his ex. I need to bring this up to him but I cannot find it in me to do so. :( I need help

  • Yvonne Latham
    July 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    So I started dating my bf in july 2011 i was 18 at the time and he was 27. When we started going out I moved in one month after and the left side of his bed was broken and I asked him what happened and he tld me his ex had jumped on him and it broke. I didnt like that at all but i tried to ignore it. Then he would always tell me his sex stories about them and how they met and how he fell in love with her and I reallly didnt like that. I found a song he wrote about her about how he would take her back. Now he went out with her back in 2006 and they only went out for like 5 months and they broke up cause she cheated on him. And he still had pics of her on myspace and stuff. About a couple months after we were going out he wanted a bby so we got pregnant.And we need to move into a two bedroom apt for more room so we dis that when i was 6 months prego. As we were moving i remember he found her prom pic and her date was in the pic with her and he was telling me how much he hated the guy and i was thinking just shut up!!! And i had gone in the bedroom and i poked my head out and i noticed he was gazing atthe pic for a while like he missed her and he ripped it as soon as i walked out. A couple of months after we moved in our new apt I was 8 months prego and so uncomfortable. And my bf wantrd to have sex and I said no cause i was uncomfortable and wasnt sure if it was safe, and he said “Angelica let me put it in when i wanted to” Angelica was his ex and that hurt me alot and i regret not saying anything about it. Months after We had our daughter we got a laptop and while my husband was working I looked at his flash drives and i found sooo many pics of his gf and videos and my heart just sank:( I tried to keep my mouth shut about it but he eventually found out and was calling me a piece of sh** and nosy and so many things and i kinda understood cause i knew he didnt want me to see it and his excuse of why he couldnt delete then was cause he didnt have a computer. But after that i had found pics of them in his photos and he could have thrown those out but it was my fault again. Its been a year since all that happened and we’re married now and i know he loves me but it has also been a year since we’ve done it and every day he turns me down and it makes me feel like crap. His excuse is he doesnt wanna risk getting pregnant again but i always tell him we can use protection but he says no. And i gained some weight during my pregnancy but i lost over 30 pounds and im pretty much back to normal but im still trying to lose more. Every day he asks me to weigh myself and i have curly hair and he always asks me to straighten it but sometimes i dont want to cause i dont want split ends but he doesnt understand. And i just feel so ugly and sometimes I feel like hes not physically attracted to me and im not trying to sound conceited or anything but alot of guys liked me in h.s but hes just different. His gf had really curly hair in all the pics that they were together and it was obvious he didnt make her do her hair. So thats my story, can anyone help me out im starting to feel ugly and depressed and i cant even cry in front of him cause he gets mad now:( so pls anyone!!!

  • Eva L.
    August 13, 2013 | Permalink |

    If he goes on her blog maximum twice per month and he only kept 1 text message, should I worry? Please tell me what you think!

  • JaneParker
    October 18, 2013 | Permalink |

    Just writing to say that this whole text is spot on! All these sings are real red flags and any woman who sees them should take them seriously. My ex left me for his ex after being with me for 2 years. I saw the signs, but as time went on I convinced myself I was just being paranoid. After all, he couldn’t have been with me for that long if he didn’t really love me, right…? Wrong! When he left me for her I was heartbroken, but mostly I was angry with myself because deep down I knew it all along. Didn’t help that when I finally got over him I fell for a guy who ALSO left me for his ex (tho that one’s on me, I definately should’ve known better by then!). I must have some kind of curse, really. But anyway, just trying to warn my fellow sisters. If you feel that there’s something fishy, you’re probably right. Don’t ever allow yourself to be in the position I was. It’s heartbreaking AND humilliating. And don’t ever make the mistake of thinking that if he talks smack about her, that’s a good thing. If he didn’t care, he wouldn’t even talk about her, period. Or, if asked, you wouldn’t feel anger in his voice.
    Hope this little rant helps someone see things as they are. Good luck and don’t settle for being the rebound girl (who is usually so much cooler than the “main girl” but they’re too blind to see it)

  • Tasha
    October 28, 2013 | Permalink |

    The guy I was in a relationship with didn’t leave me for his ex but I felt he would have. He claimed they are just friends which I didn’t have a problem with because everyone needs friends. They texted every day which kind of got on my nerves. I expressed that to him but he would just say they are friends. The big problem I had with her is that she tried to break us up on several occasions. That let me know she still had feelings for him. I also felt he still had feelings for her because out of all the times she’s tried to break us up, he would still be her friend. Why be friends with someone who can’t respect the relationship and purposely try to end it? She even claimed she got back with her ex and was living with him (he never did move out after their 1st break up). So if she was over my ex and got back with her ex then why try to ruin what we had? Also, I found out that she sent him a picture of her private area and he sent one back in return. He claimed he did it because he was bored. I didn’t talk to him for a while after I found out but, of course, I stopped being mad. I eventually broke up with him because once again she tried to break us up and he didn’t do anything about it. Plus there were other females who he claimed were just friends who tried to break us up. He say it’s jealousy. I say something else was going on but I didn’t want to keep guessing so I ended it. To this day he still sends messages every now and then and the friend is in a relationship with someone new. I still feel eventually they will be together.

  • Kiyara
    November 16, 2013 | Permalink |

    hi, I am having an affair with a guy who is working with me. now it is more than one year to our love. but previously we had this affair from 2010 few times and any time this did not work. I am his second love. he replaced his 1st love for me in 2010. Now I found last month his Ex is still in his face book. I asked it and then he said he will discontinue his profile. then I said no need. Now yesterday again I found she has posted some exam tips on his page. It made me really worries. I did not ask this yet. because previously when I asked he said they are only good friends. I do not know what to do.

  • Gena
    November 28, 2013 | Permalink |

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and a few months now. When we first got together, he had just broken up with his ex a month before. Ever since the first like year or so, i noticed he still talked to the ex he broke up with before he got with me. And more recently, recently, we broke up and got back together. He mentioned to me that he was talking to her while we were broken up and wanted to get back with her, but then told me i wasn’t his second choice. Since we’ve been back together, we agreed that to keep our relationship strong and not have confusion, we wouldn’t contact our ex’s or have them as friends on Facebook. He deleted her, and wasn’t talking to her at first. Then i found out that when I’m not around, he constantly looks her up, sends her messages, and continues to talk to her. If i bring it up, he’ll only get angry with me so i keep it in. I know he’s still hung up on her, but she doesn’t want him i don’t think. I just don’t know what to do, it’s been constant problem and hurts me, a lot. Why did he get back with me if he wants her? If he didn’t, it wouldn’t be an issue for them to stop talking…

  • Janet
    December 3, 2013 | Permalink |

    Uh oh, what if I already married the man and has kids, and now I’m reading this and seeing a lot of the signs that he’s not over his ex-girlfriends (plural!)? Yep, that’s my situation. My husband never got over his old girlfriends, and after I got duped into marrying this jerk and having his kids, I now find out he’s been keeping in touch with the exes, looking at their steamy photos and videos, and a lot of other clues! I wish I could turn back time. Ladies, beware! Read these tips and take heed! Do not marry a man with these signs!!!

  • Sasha
    January 5, 2014 | Permalink |

    What if he left his wife for you and is, believe it or not, on great terms with his ex, who has made it clear that she wants him back and forgives him? (Not me, I’m asking for someone else.)

  • peggy
    January 13, 2014 | Permalink |

    i was in a relationship for 10 years we were friends for 4 years things were bad for 3 years fighting and other things he would always say he was leaving but never did because he has a camp site and he only wanted a 6 month lease somewhere that took dogs he had no luck i did treat him badly at times but he did the same he has a lawncare service he would work from sun up to sundown did want to go on vaca because of his job i finally gave up but became distance no intimacy be cause of women problems which he said did not bother him he still loved me . in Oct of 2013 he told me it was over i thought he was just talking like all the other times a week later he said he was going to florida with his friend he has know for 30 yrs did i mention it is a girl when he returned he told me that they were now a couple i lost it needless to say i have been a emotional wreck for 3 month over this whole thing. he said if he only knew that i truly loved him that this never would of happened he truly thought it was over and that either of them were looking for this to happen it just did i can not get over this i have literally have cried everyday since i found out how can someone who tells me now that i was his forever and if this girl and myself where in the same room he would pick me and she will never replace me. he has also said that she drinks and smokes both of which he does not like he is a recovering alcoholic. he also said if she would only screw up it would be easier he does not want to be the bad guy it not fair to me im so confused what should i do

  • Brandy
    May 5, 2014 | Permalink |

    Ouch. This article hits at least 10 sensitive points for me. I’m trying so hard to not be the over-bearing, controlling girlfriend, you know? He told me when we met that he and his ex had been split for 2 years and while they’re still good friends, that he’d never cheat on me or get back with her. And you know what, I still dont think he has cheated, nor do I believe she even wants him back. All I know is, is that he still has everything of hers around his apartment, they hang out at least twice a week. Just this past weekend when I visited he was complaining about being broke, I filled his fridge with groceries. Soon as I left to go to work, he takes his ex out to eat. She’s also started hanging out with his sister. She will NOT look me in the eyes AT ALL. I need to just accept that I’m a 3rd wheel and move on.

  • Zoey
    May 6, 2014 | Permalink |

    My bf told me he still loved his ex but in a friend way. Yet when i read the texts between the two they told eachother when they both were single they would try? What should i do? Whats this mean

  • ineedadvice
    June 2, 2014 | Permalink |

    Help! I’ve been seeing this guy for about 6 months now. I was starting to trust him until one day I decided to use his laptop to check my online classes. Well after I checked my online classes I decided to go through his pictures to see if he had any of me (sadly he doesn’t) but I came across a album containing thousands pictures of some chick. I was completely devastated! The pictures where too much. He doesn’t know that I looked through his laptop & I feel bad about not speakingup on it. I just don’t know how to approach this situation when he doesn’t like talking about his past relationship. I only know so little & when I do try talking about it he gets defensive & guard. It’s way too much to this story & I really need someones advice & opinion. Please help me…

  • golden girl
    June 8, 2014 | Permalink |

    I knew he still loved her. Talks about her all the time and showed me pictures of her…. : (

  • Justbeamanaboutit
    June 21, 2014 | Permalink |

    I have been with mines for almost 20 yrs. we had our bumpy road me i did my share of dirt he knows he would never admit to his anyway I did one major disaster and I never wanted to leave home I’ve begged and pleaded and I’m here funny thing is he never once asked me to come home or said ok but I’m here anyway I have been extremely good best behavior inlove him more than life could hold possible I always say I love you and I’m in love with you through everything my feelings never once shifted he told me one he can’t can not say he love me no more he still in his Ex’s life Facebook gifts being recieved out of blue but he claims just friends I know he talks a hell of a lot to her he can joke about my Ex’s I can not joke about his it sets a tone with for awhile she has Facebook say bout what’s wearing if picture is posted on his page But he won’t admit his feelings or hes still on love with her they have a LDR Sextexting relationship ( they ended because she had gotten a new man now she’s single they back together as I see it ) I stand by my words “what ever makes him happy I will give that’s all I want for him to be happy onlove or just love someone even ifs its not me )
    Can someone help me thanks need advice or input

  • Christy
    July 21, 2014 | Permalink |

    What if it’s been over 20 years and he still talks about her and he gets photos of her off Facebook? Need help!!

  • Marie
    August 12, 2014 | Permalink |

    Well, now I know that my boyfriend is still in love with his ex. :/ another thing my boyfriend did was cry and got sad when he heard about his ex expecting a baby. Made me think that he wanted it to be him she was having his baby with. Now a year later, I’m pregnant with his son, and i don’t see the same emotions he had when he found out about his ex being pregnant. I guess he seems to be happy but I can tell it’s not really genuine. I don’t want to say anything because I don’t want to ruin our relationship. I guess I just got to suck it up for myself and the baby. :(

  • Teresa Lighton
    August 19, 2014 | Permalink |

    My ex and I have a daughter together, he recently made contact after 14 months of not talking to each other. He changed his mobile # and moved somewhere without letting me know. Now he calls me crying on the phone apologising for what he has done. He is saying he can see things from a different perspective now and that he misses his best friend (me)and our friendship and that he misses his daughter like crazy. This man left me for another woman so I don’t know what happened to their relationship, i did not ask it’s none of my business. What do you think people

  • unice
    September 11, 2014 | Permalink |

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  • Thurgah
    September 11, 2014 | Permalink |

    Hi…here something wanna share bout my boy..tats main prob im suspected on him is waiting col…y he wan tok bck wit her..im tryng both of col goin waiting col..hmm..whn im askd bout tiz to my boy no im toking wit reltn,fren lie wth me..one dy im msgng to his ex n askd sme ques..tat y u stll toking wit my boy wat u want now ol..she tld tat if my boy hates her means y he shld want to cme to her..tok to her..hmm..im silent d..thn she tld tat coz of me my boy nt happy..thn im the one who is thnkng tat my boy live a hapi relatn to me..she tld lyke tat to me..bt gt onething..when im lyke nt answrd my boy col,fightng times means his col il goin waiting on tat time..another onethng whn im with him he wont gve his hp to me..dnt noe y..bt i noe clearly he gt keepping her msgs n ol..if he nvr gve his hp to me means..on tat time i il suspect rte..am i rite??if i ask anythng bot her ex he fghtng bck to me…owh..nw u suspct me..like tat..hmm..frustrtd lar..i wan noe y he is stll cntct to her?when bfre he cpld wit me he tld wat noe..im hate my ex fully..im throw d frm my life..i do wnt her anymore..like tiz..wat the hell he want tok bck wit her nw????in mind hvng a big questn mark…

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