Break ups are tough, but accepting the end and moving on is even harder. Do you want to know how to get over a boyfriend? Here’s every girl’s guide on how to get over an ex boyfriend.
Dealing with heartbreak and knowing how to get over a boyfriend is one of the most difficult phases of life.
A break up can rip us apart and the wound can take a long time to heal, especially if you’ve been truly in love.
The hurt is inevitable.
And fortunately, so is the recovery.
Here’s everything you need to know about how to get over a boyfriend and move on into a happier world, one baby step at a time.
[Read: How to stop feeling jealous of your ex]
How to get over an ex boyfriend
Let’s start with the girl’s guide to getting over a boyfriend.
Remember, these are all the tips you’ll ever need, just as long as you follow every single step here.
#1 End all contact
You may have broken up, but just like the courtship of falling in love, breaking up with a boyfriend too comes with its own share of rituals.
You may have walked away, but you have more to do.
First of all, as difficult as it may seem, you need to end all contact with your boyfriend.
Delete his phone number from your cell phone (you can write it down in a piece of paper and put it away though), delete him from your friends list on facebook, take him off your skype account and chat. [Read: Things you should know about googling an ex]
It’s tough, but it’s something you have to do. Being constantly aware of what’s going on in his life will be very gut-wrenching unless you do this.
#2 Don’t let him know you’re hurting
Now this is important. Humans are sadistic, no matter how nice we all are. If your boyfriend knows you’re hurting, it would only make him emotionally stronger. Keep a straight face no matter how hurt you are. Don’t call him up crying, or tell him how much you miss him. His response will only make you hurt more.
Avoid him, and make him think you’re happy and managing just fine with your life.
#3 Stay away from his friends
After a break up, try to stay away from his good friends. This can be difficult if you share a lot of common friends, but hanging out with your own friends is a better thing to do. Hanging out with his friends or your common friends will only bring back memories, or they may try to talk to you about the break up which can open old wounds of love. And moreover, you’ll end up getting regular updates of what he’s up to. And the worst of it all, he’ll know exactly how hurt you feel inside.
#4 Lock up his love
Over the months or years, both of you may have exchanged a lot of gifts or little memorabilia. Lock them all away and don’t spend hours holding and caressing his love letters or the tickets to the last movie you watched as a couple. It won’t just hurt, it’ll also rekindle a one sided romance. [Read: The right thing to do with old love letters and gifts]
#5 Don’t be lonely
As much as you would love sitting by yourself and staring at a book or scratching a piece a paper with mild fascination, remind yourself about the truth.
You’ve broken up. It’s over! Should you really be sulking in a corner while he may be meeting other girls, or moving on with his life? All of us love to be by ourselves after a break up, but you really have to convince yourself to go out or get busy. Being lonely is actually the biggest hurdle in your road to recovery and getting over your ex boyfriend.
#6 Flirt with other guys
Over the years in your relationship, you would have met quite a few guys that like you. You may have noticed those guys flirting with you, or they may have asked you out when your boyfriend wasn’t around. Every girl’s bound to have gotten some attention from a few other guys during a relationship. [Read: How to meet a guy and make him like you]
You couldn’t do anything about it then, but now you can. Flirt with these guys. Call them up or meet them. Speak to them, and tell them you’ve broken up with you guy. Trust us, these guys would make you feel like the princess you deserve to be. And you’ll actually end up having a great time! [Read: How rebound relationships can help you heal from the breakup]
#7 Meet new people
Catching up with guys who have a crush on you can be a lot of flirty fun. But sometimes, you also need to meet new people. In everyday life, humans intuitively have the need to please others and make a good impression. By meeting friends of your friends, you’d find yourself feeling great and completely normal, just like you’ve always been for years. People only miss their ex when they’re lonely or unoccupied. By meeting new friends who don’t know about your break up status, you’d end up forgetting you’ve just broken up yourself.
[Read: Signs your ex is thinking about you]
Now we’re really not done, we’re only halfway through the steps on how to get over a boyfriend. Click here on how to get over a guy to read the remaining pointers.
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Getting over your ex can be difficult, it’s worse if you listen to sappy songs and reminiscence in lovey-dovey days. Understand that its not the end of the world. Just don’t be hard on yourself, and look around yourself, the world might just become a better place to live in.
What I don’t understand is the stupid excuses men bring up as a reason for breakup. Like my ex just calls me up one night and tells me that he needs some space, like I’ve been suffocating him with my presence all these months. Then the punk goes on to tell me that he’s attracted to some other girl.
I’m tired of all of them, but one thing i figured out the other day is that my ex hates seeing me with his guys or seeing me with a bunch of guys at his baseball games.
Find his weakspot and hit him there, it’s kinda fun actually!
I’m tired of hearing, I’m sorry I hurt you….I think the world of you, but….I’m not a charity case! I’m tired of checking his FB activity, etc…he is permanently cut-off…no peeking anymore, must move on!
Some guys are so STUPID!!! They get you in trouble by sneaking over and they wounder why they can’t see u in two weeks… and they didn’t understand that and just break your heart anyways, and then you don’t say anything when you see them in MacDonalds your just waiting for your food and shaking because you’re scared he’s going to say something and you have your dad right there by your side and your dad doesn’t notice that was him… but your mom does… what should you do if tries to make eye contact??
It might sound stupid, but my dad actually gave me some really great advice about some guys. WOWW!!!!!
My bf justbroke up with me, came to my house with his friends, asked me back out then told them he was single… he only did it to get the $140 ring he got me, then i foundout he is cheating on me….. Bye bye Dude
I broke up with my boyfriend an am really hurting. He always makes me feel like I’m nothing just because his family is wealthier than mine.
my boyfriend split with me and i live with 2 of his best friends. all of our friends are the same. how could i get over him when i have to see him, hear about him, he will always be there?
@dee, start flirting with his best friends, get em to back YOU up rather than him.
Thats seems the best way out. Dnt just quit cx theyre his friends. It will only show him u’re weak =)
@rani
him showing u down shud be reason enuf to hate the guy and get over him. A guy who cant respect a woman more than wealth would have been so good to u later on in life would he? =)
me and my bf just broke up, he seems to choose his friends over me and my daughter ( of a previous relationship) my daughter has adapted to him…. sad thing is im 7 months pregnant with his son…. i cant help but to think about it all the time, and its tearing me apart.. im emotional to begin with.. how do i deal with this?
I was with my bf for 3 years, we broke up a month ago and I can’t do anything but think of him, I’m trying to get on with my life but we did everything as a couple.. He was amazing to me, we laughed together, we watched the same programmes on tv and we liked pretty much the same things.. We didn’t split up because we didn’t love each other, we split up because my parents lived in a different country and i cudnt find a job where he lived to stay with him.. Worse thing of it all is that we are both madly in love with each other but can’t be together.. It hurts so bad :’(
I just broke up with my bf, we stopped talking and he stopped answering on my texts and took off the relationship status on fb when I saw that I asked hi are we over and don’t I deserve an exolaination he replied that “I stopped loving you and I can’t act like I do anymore cause the truth is I don’t” and the next thing is I see that he is in a relationship with another girl which I have no idea who is she. I know everyone he knows but I never heard of her . and it’s killing me that he broke up with me to be with another one It really hurts and it wasn’t this painful before I know he has a new girl
My ex and I broke up last month, and recently I’ve came across a photo of his being taken with his ex a month before we broke up! This hurts me as #$#@$ like knives in my heart!
My ex (of 2 and a half years) dumped me by text on my second day at uni. Two weeks later i come home for the weekend and he begs me to go his, so i spend the night. 2 days later he texts me telling me the night before i stayed there he was sleeping with another girl. he then spends 1 month texting and ringing me begging for forgiveness. I stupidly (recently) fall for this, and miss and fall in love with him again, tell him i will give him a chance and he replies “na lets just be friends”. How can i get over a 2 and a half year relationship, and everything that has happen!
My ex (I lived with for 8yrs) didn’t even attempt to breakup with me. He just told me we were being evicted for some reason and. conned me into moving in with my family. He told me nothing would change but all the sudden I couldn’t get a hold of him much anymore and he would say he loved me like he use to. That’s when I found out he has been cheating on me beginning on my birthday with a little girl 20yrs younger then him. I believe what he did was beyond cruel all he had to do was tell me to leave and I would have.
Okay ladies. So I’ve kinda been seeing this super cute guy for a little bit, but I’m still in love with my ex. I really miss him.
I’m not sure what to do because my ex (who’s best friends with my roommate) and I are still emotionally connected. I love him. He knows I’ve been with this other guy and is pissed because my phone must’ve accidentally dialed him when dude and I were hanging out. I’m not sure what he heard but I feel God awful because I still love him so much. I just want him to feel the same, step up, be a man and claim me if he wants me back. If he wanted me, wouldn’t he have done this already??? We’ve been broken up since July and I’m still in agony. Any suggestions or advice?
Me and my bf broke up today and it hurts so much, I keep thinking how will he be, what’s he going to do etc but after 1 year I can say I love him so much, he never understood our relationship and never appreciated me, due to his cannabis addiction and aggression how can we be together it was impossible, I tried and tried in the end I lost what I had and have nothing now, I will have to build my life again with time but I don’t know why he is in my head, why am I crying to sleep tonight and all I can see is him, I will always love him as he was my first love but he will never understand my love, he will never change, and what we had and we could of had a really good future, time is a healer ladies I wish u all good luck and hope u all be happy but as far as it goes for me I will just follow where life takes me, I will live with memories and try to build my life up again as I lost a lot with him such as my job, car etc helping him to change his life messed mine up
Like I said what my ex did to me was very cruel and that why I can’t understand why I cannot seem to f**king get over him!!! I know it only been a few months since he tricked me into moving out so he can be with a younger women but how long is it going to take to stop hurting. I have done everything the website said but I still think of him everyday! I know I need to consider the we were together for 8yrs and time heals all wounds. I just wish there was a way I could somehow hurry time along and GET OVER HIM!!!
A couple weeks ago me and my bf broke up. His excuse was I was interfering with his mate and mates gf and I was winging.
I broke it off fully the other day so no getting back together.
I couldn’t wait any longer for him to make up his mind. I couldn’t stand him flirting with other girls when there was a chance for us to get back together. I was sick of him talking to me only at night when he wasn’t with his mates.
So I broke it off.
Been having so many beak downs since. Haven’t been able to get out to do much. And now I read this, this surely will make him hurt because I have moved on. Thanks for this article. I’m so glad I have found it. Xx
Its now a year and half since i broke up with my boyfriend. He cheated on me 4 different times and i took him back everytime. The last one was just one too many, we were together for 7 yrs and he was my only boyfriend but im still absolutely heart broken after all this time. It seems to be getting harder for me instead of easier… Hes now living abroad with his new girlfriend and it breaks my heart to think about it. I just wish i could move on like he has, i still cry myself to sleep at night and dont know what to do anymore
I was in relationship wit a guy for 10 years since I was 16….had very single dream i had with him….on a drunken state I made out with my colleague ….he came to know of this and we broke off always making me feeling guilty bout it…recently i got to know he already had a girlfren since before we broke off….though i cant believe it…always believed watever he said…..but no matter how hard i try I cant move on….now this colleague have falllen in love wit me and no mattere how hard he tries to make me happy and feel good…I cant forget him n d worst part I cant fall in love either even wanting to……
My boyfriend and I were dating for two and a half years and we were madly in love with each other, we broke up about six months ago because I was moving to Australia, it turns out that at the end of our relationship he had been texting a girl and right after we broke up they started dating. I tried so hard to play it cool, but I was having a very tough time. I tried finding a boy to keep me as happy as he made me, I have found a guy he is perfect for me. The only thing is I still catch myself thinking about him a lot. Am I not happy with my new boyfriend, or am I just still not over my ex?
My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me about a month ago because “he couldn’t balance handling he’s books and being in a relationship. On he’s birthday he made me call him and he told me never 2 call him again. I still can’t get over him.
You all make me depressed with all these stories my boyfriend broke up with me of
2 years he was my “first true love”. even tho i lived with my parents i lived with him all the time.He was good to me like alot of relationship we fought and made up. i know he still loves me and i still love him . i hurt him but i never cheated on him i was always faithful.
He means so much to me i dont know what to do i begged him to forgive me and give me a chance he was not having it i bought him a phone for his b-day and brought him a cake we talked and he gave me hope. the next day i tried to txt him he said dont call me since months i knew that i didnt want to be with you nomore i just didnt want hurt your feelings…. i was like this :0 .im heartbroken i feel empty. Im still tempted to call him but i dont want to be burden in his life i sit and wish i can go back in time and make everything right not happing. Girls always make it seem that we messed up we were wrong make you feel bad for him BS! he know what he was doing he said the things he said because he didn’t want to be with me nomore he took my love and threw it away like nothing ever happend. At the end of the day i sit and cry think think think think more thinking. i feel like a fool crying over him while who know what he does cant not help it i still sit here at home and hope he will come by i sit and wait.
hope god gives me strenght to move on
i still feel anger towards him but im trying
to not be like that. Forgive and forget.
i want him to be happy
i dont wish bad things to happend to him
ill pray for him
I need god in my life more than anything now
i hope you girls stay strong
pray for me im praying for you
god bless you all
your not the only one
many girls and guys are going
thru this emptyness.
well my ex he told me that I should tell him about my problems and be open to him so I do and the next thing he does is complain about how I tell him everything and then he dumps me ! We were together 4 10 months, He dumped me on our 10 month anniversary, We did so much, he was my first kiss, I was his first kiss, we did so much, so much that I cant explain, ive been crying non stop, hes so cruel now, I feel like I dont know him anymore, his mum told me that she wished he could pull himself together and I admit I miss him so much but now I feel like its time to move on and find someone else. Thanks for the tips its helping me so much x
My fiancé dumped me 3 weeks ago, we had one bad month (although we known each other 6 years and been together 3) he treat me like a princess, every one thought we were made for each other. Both are families were delighted when we got engaged. But a one bad month and he threw it all away like it meant nothing. All he keeps saying is he messed up in the head and doesn’t know what he wants any more.. I’ve tried to be the adult and talk things out but he doesn’t seem to want to figure things out. He just wants to be a lads lad and go out all the time.
Im heartbroken as it all came as massive shock to me, I have the all memories and the finger with no ring on it. my stupid head cant seem to compute that it over and ive not heard of him in 10 days and before that it was just me trying to fix it.
How do I move on when I was going to marry my best friend ?
I was in a relationship for 3 years living wit him everything was beautiful until he did the worst thing I think u can do cheat with family it was so sad its been a year now and I’ve recoverd from that wound its just that I still love him and I don’t understand why??? I can’t sleep I think bout him all the time and now it kills me to no he has a new girl in his life I just I just want to get over him and I no it’s going to take for ever bt after every hurricane there’s a rainbow
I broke up with my BF 3 days ago after I looked at his email account and found him on a singles site which was really dirty. He swears it was just to look at for porn but he bothered to put a photo up of himself with the caption “looking for like minded girls I can watch get off”. I was disgusted and broke it off immediately, now I cannot get him off my mind. The annoying thing is I had been single for 6 years prior to him and was completely happy and successfully independent, it was just me and my little girl and thats all i needed and now I’m a complete mess, its sad cos we were only together 3 months but I
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years he rrecently broke up with me for telling his bestfriend i found him attractive. Last night he came over my house so that i could apologize we had sex. Then today he says he would rather be single because i tried to “f**k his bro” i can’t help but blame myself.
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