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How to Get Over a Boyfriend You Can’t Forget

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Break ups are tough, but accepting the end and moving on is even harder. Do you want to know how to get over a boyfriend? Here’s every girl’s guide on how to get over an ex boyfriend.

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Dealing with heartbreak and knowing how to get over a boyfriend is one of the most difficult phases of life.

A break up can rip us apart and the wound can take a long time to heal, especially if you’ve been truly in love.

The hurt is inevitable.

And fortunately, so is the recovery.

Here’s everything you need to know about how to get over a boyfriend and move on into a happier world, one baby step at a time.

[Read: How to stop feeling jealous of your ex]

How to get over an ex boyfriend

Let’s start with the girl’s guide to getting over a boyfriend.

Remember, these are all the tips you’ll ever need, just as long as you follow every single step here.

#1 End all contact

You may have broken up, but just like the courtship of falling in love, breaking up with a boyfriend too comes with its own share of rituals.

You may have walked away, but you have more to do.

First of all, as difficult as it may seem, you need to end all contact with your boyfriend.

Delete his phone number from your cell phone (you can write it down in a piece of paper and put it away though), delete him from your friends list on facebook, take him off your skype account and chat. [Read: Things you should know about googling an ex]

It’s tough, but it’s something you have to do. Being constantly aware of what’s going on in his life will be very gut-wrenching unless you do this.

#2 Don’t let him know you’re hurting

Now this is important. Humans are sadistic, no matter how nice we all are. If your boyfriend knows you’re hurting, it would only make him emotionally stronger. Keep a straight face no matter how hurt you are. Don’t call him up crying, or tell him how much you miss him. His response will only make you hurt more.

Avoid him, and make him think you’re happy and managing just fine with your life.

#3 Stay away from his friends

After a break up, try to stay away from his good friends. This can be difficult if you share a lot of common friends, but hanging out with your own friends is a better thing to do. Hanging out with his friends or your common friends will only bring back memories, or they may try to talk to you about the break up which can open old wounds of love. And moreover, you’ll end up getting regular updates of what he’s up to. And the worst of it all, he’ll know exactly how hurt you feel inside.

#4 Lock up his love

Over the months or years, both of you may have exchanged a lot of gifts or little memorabilia. Lock them all away and don’t spend hours holding and caressing his love letters or the tickets to the last movie you watched as a couple. It won’t just hurt, it’ll also rekindle a one sided romance. [Read: The right thing to do with old love letters and gifts]

#5 Don’t be lonely

As much as you would love sitting by yourself and staring at a book or scratching a piece a paper with mild fascination, remind yourself about the truth.

You’ve broken up. It’s over! Should you really be sulking in a corner while he may be meeting other girls, or moving on with his life? All of us love to be by ourselves after a break up, but you really have to convince yourself to go out or get busy. Being lonely is actually the biggest hurdle in your road to recovery and getting over your ex boyfriend.

#6 Flirt with other guys

Over the years in your relationship, you would have met quite a few guys that like you. You may have noticed those guys flirting with you, or they may have asked you out when your boyfriend wasn’t around. Every girl’s bound to have gotten some attention from a few other guys during a relationship. [Read: How to meet a guy and make him like you]

You couldn’t do anything about it then, but now you can. Flirt with these guys. Call them up or meet them. Speak to them, and tell them you’ve broken up with you guy. Trust us, these guys would make you feel like the princess you deserve to be. And you’ll actually end up having a great time! [Read: How rebound relationships can help you heal from the breakup]

#7 Meet new people

Catching up with guys who have a crush on you can be a lot of flirty fun. But sometimes, you also need to meet new people. In everyday life, humans intuitively have the need to please others and make a good impression. By meeting friends of your friends, you’d find yourself feeling great and completely normal, just like you’ve always been for years. People only miss their ex when they’re lonely or unoccupied. By meeting new friends who don’t know about your break up status, you’d end up forgetting you’ve just broken up yourself.

[Read: Signs your ex is thinking about you]

Now we’re really not done, we’re only halfway through the steps on how to get over a boyfriend. Click here on how to get over a guy to read the remaining pointers.

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  • Stephanie
    October 10, 2011 | Permalink |

    helpful website….i know how 2play tha love game now!!!

  • Veronica
    March 27, 2012 | Permalink |

    Getting over your ex can be difficult, it’s worse if you listen to sappy songs and reminiscence in lovey-dovey days. Understand that its not the end of the world. Just don’t be hard on yourself, and look around yourself, the world might just become a better place to live in.

  • Emily
    March 27, 2012 | Permalink |

    What I don’t understand is the stupid excuses men bring up as a reason for breakup. Like my ex just calls me up one night and tells me that he needs some space, like I’ve been suffocating him with my presence all these months. Then the punk goes on to tell me that he’s attracted to some other girl.

  • June 24, 2012 | Permalink |

    I’m tired of all of them, but one thing i figured out the other day is that my ex hates seeing me with his guys or seeing me with a bunch of guys at his baseball games.

    Find his weakspot and hit him there, it’s kinda fun actually!

  • Susan
    June 30, 2012 | Permalink |

    I’m tired of hearing, I’m sorry I hurt you….I think the world of you, but….I’m not a charity case! I’m tired of checking his FB activity, etc…he is permanently cut-off…no peeking anymore, must move on!

  • July 6, 2012 | Permalink |

    Some guys are so STUPID!!! They get you in trouble by sneaking over and they wounder why they can’t see u in two weeks… and they didn’t understand that and just break your heart anyways, and then you don’t say anything when you see them in MacDonalds your just waiting for your food and shaking because you’re scared he’s going to say something and you have your dad right there by your side and your dad doesn’t notice that was him… but your mom does… what should you do if tries to make eye contact??

  • Holly
    July 6, 2012 | Permalink |

    It might sound stupid, but my dad actually gave me some really great advice about some guys. WOWW!!!!!

  • Alex Robinson
    July 18, 2012 | Permalink |

    My bf justbroke up with me, came to my house with his friends, asked me back out then told them he was single… he only did it to get the $140 ring he got me, then i foundout he is cheating on me….. Bye bye Dude ;)

  • July 29, 2012 | Permalink |

    I broke up with my boyfriend an am really hurting. He always makes me feel like I’m nothing just because his family is wealthier than mine.

  • dee
    July 29, 2012 | Permalink |

    my boyfriend split with me and i live with 2 of his best friends. all of our friends are the same. how could i get over him when i have to see him, hear about him, he will always be there?

  • anonymous
    August 4, 2012 | Permalink |

    @dee, start flirting with his best friends, get em to back YOU up rather than him.
    Thats seems the best way out. Dnt just quit cx theyre his friends. It will only show him u’re weak =)

  • anonymous 1
    August 4, 2012 | Permalink |

    @rani
    him showing u down shud be reason enuf to hate the guy and get over him. A guy who cant respect a woman more than wealth would have been so good to u later on in life would he? =)

  • crissa
    August 6, 2012 | Permalink |

    me and my bf just broke up, he seems to choose his friends over me and my daughter ( of a previous relationship) my daughter has adapted to him…. sad thing is im 7 months pregnant with his son…. i cant help but to think about it all the time, and its tearing me apart.. im emotional to begin with.. how do i deal with this?

  • Melody
    October 10, 2012 | Permalink |

    I was with my bf for 3 years, we broke up a month ago and I can’t do anything but think of him, I’m trying to get on with my life but we did everything as a couple.. He was amazing to me, we laughed together, we watched the same programmes on tv and we liked pretty much the same things.. We didn’t split up because we didn’t love each other, we split up because my parents lived in a different country and i cudnt find a job where he lived to stay with him.. Worse thing of it all is that we are both madly in love with each other but can’t be together.. It hurts so bad :’(

  • Kay
    October 22, 2012 | Permalink |

    I just broke up with my bf, we stopped talking and he stopped answering on my texts and took off the relationship status on fb when I saw that I asked hi are we over and don’t I deserve an exolaination he replied that “I stopped loving you and I can’t act like I do anymore cause the truth is I don’t” and the next thing is I see that he is in a relationship with another girl which I have no idea who is she. I know everyone he knows but I never heard of her . and it’s killing me that he broke up with me to be with another one It really hurts and it wasn’t this painful before I know he has a new girl

  • Anonymous
    October 30, 2012 | Permalink |

    My ex and I broke up last month, and recently I’ve came across a photo of his being taken with his ex a month before we broke up! This hurts me as #$#@$ like knives in my heart!

  • R
    November 10, 2012 | Permalink |

    My ex (of 2 and a half years) dumped me by text on my second day at uni. Two weeks later i come home for the weekend and he begs me to go his, so i spend the night. 2 days later he texts me telling me the night before i stayed there he was sleeping with another girl. he then spends 1 month texting and ringing me begging for forgiveness. I stupidly (recently) fall for this, and miss and fall in love with him again, tell him i will give him a chance and he replies “na lets just be friends”. How can i get over a 2 and a half year relationship, and everything that has happen!

  • Nichole
    November 16, 2012 | Permalink |

    My ex (I lived with for 8yrs) didn’t even attempt to breakup with me. He just told me we were being evicted for some reason and. conned me into moving in with my family. He told me nothing would change but all the sudden I couldn’t get a hold of him much anymore and he would say he loved me like he use to. That’s when I found out he has been cheating on me beginning on my birthday with a little girl 20yrs younger then him. I believe what he did was beyond cruel all he had to do was tell me to leave and I would have.

  • Callaway
    November 19, 2012 | Permalink |

    Okay ladies. So I’ve kinda been seeing this super cute guy for a little bit, but I’m still in love with my ex. I really miss him.

  • Callaway
    November 19, 2012 | Permalink |

    I’m not sure what to do because my ex (who’s best friends with my roommate) and I are still emotionally connected. I love him. He knows I’ve been with this other guy and is pissed because my phone must’ve accidentally dialed him when dude and I were hanging out. I’m not sure what he heard but I feel God awful because I still love him so much. I just want him to feel the same, step up, be a man and claim me if he wants me back. If he wanted me, wouldn’t he have done this already??? We’ve been broken up since July and I’m still in agony. Any suggestions or advice?

  • Sarah
    November 20, 2012 | Permalink |

    Me and my bf broke up today and it hurts so much, I keep thinking how will he be, what’s he going to do etc but after 1 year I can say I love him so much, he never understood our relationship and never appreciated me, due to his cannabis addiction and aggression how can we be together it was impossible, I tried and tried in the end I lost what I had and have nothing now, I will have to build my life again with time but I don’t know why he is in my head, why am I crying to sleep tonight and all I can see is him, I will always love him as he was my first love but he will never understand my love, he will never change, and what we had and we could of had a really good future, time is a healer ladies I wish u all good luck and hope u all be happy but as far as it goes for me I will just follow where life takes me, I will live with memories and try to build my life up again as I lost a lot with him such as my job, car etc helping him to change his life messed mine up

  • Nichole
    November 21, 2012 | Permalink |

    Like I said what my ex did to me was very cruel and that why I can’t understand why I cannot seem to f**king get over him!!! I know it only been a few months since he tricked me into moving out so he can be with a younger women but how long is it going to take to stop hurting. I have done everything the website said but I still think of him everyday! I know I need to consider the we were together for 8yrs and time heals all wounds. I just wish there was a way I could somehow hurry time along and GET OVER HIM!!!

  • Kelly
    November 27, 2012 | Permalink |

    A couple weeks ago me and my bf broke up. His excuse was I was interfering with his mate and mates gf and I was winging.
    I broke it off fully the other day so no getting back together.
    I couldn’t wait any longer for him to make up his mind. I couldn’t stand him flirting with other girls when there was a chance for us to get back together. I was sick of him talking to me only at night when he wasn’t with his mates.

    So I broke it off.

    Been having so many beak downs since. Haven’t been able to get out to do much. And now I read this, this surely will make him hurt because I have moved on. Thanks for this article. I’m so glad I have found it. Xx

  • Shelly
    December 29, 2012 | Permalink |

    Its now a year and half since i broke up with my boyfriend. He cheated on me 4 different times and i took him back everytime. The last one was just one too many, we were together for 7 yrs and he was my only boyfriend but im still absolutely heart broken after all this time. It seems to be getting harder for me instead of easier… Hes now living abroad with his new girlfriend and it breaks my heart to think about it. I just wish i could move on like he has, i still cry myself to sleep at night and dont know what to do anymore :(

  • tim tim
    January 6, 2013 | Permalink |

    I was in relationship wit a guy for 10 years since I was 16….had very single dream i had with him….on a drunken state I made out with my colleague ….he came to know of this and we broke off always making me feeling guilty bout it…recently i got to know he already had a girlfren since before we broke off….though i cant believe it…always believed watever he said…..but no matter how hard i try I cant move on….now this colleague have falllen in love wit me and no mattere how hard he tries to make me happy and feel good…I cant forget him n d worst part I cant fall in love either even wanting to……

  • Emily
    February 5, 2013 | Permalink |

    My boyfriend and I were dating for two and a half years and we were madly in love with each other, we broke up about six months ago because I was moving to Australia, it turns out that at the end of our relationship he had been texting a girl and right after we broke up they started dating. I tried so hard to play it cool, but I was having a very tough time. I tried finding a boy to keep me as happy as he made me, I have found a guy he is perfect for me. The only thing is I still catch myself thinking about him a lot. Am I not happy with my new boyfriend, or am I just still not over my ex?

  • Hailey
    February 9, 2013 | Permalink |

    My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me about a month ago because “he couldn’t balance handling he’s books and being in a relationship. On he’s birthday he made me call him and he told me never 2 call him again. I still can’t get over him. :(

  • dont worry about me
    February 16, 2013 | Permalink |

    You all make me depressed with all these stories my boyfriend broke up with me of
    2 years he was my “first true love”. even tho i lived with my parents i lived with him all the time.He was good to me like alot of relationship we fought and made up. i know he still loves me and i still love him . i hurt him but i never cheated on him i was always faithful.
    He means so much to me i dont know what to do i begged him to forgive me and give me a chance he was not having it i bought him a phone for his b-day and brought him a cake we talked and he gave me hope. the next day i tried to txt him he said dont call me since months i knew that i didnt want to be with you nomore i just didnt want hurt your feelings…. i was like this :0 .im heartbroken i feel empty. Im still tempted to call him but i dont want to be burden in his life i sit and wish i can go back in time and make everything right not happing. Girls always make it seem that we messed up we were wrong make you feel bad for him BS! he know what he was doing he said the things he said because he didn’t want to be with me nomore he took my love and threw it away like nothing ever happend. At the end of the day i sit and cry think think think think more thinking. i feel like a fool crying over him while who know what he does cant not help it i still sit here at home and hope he will come by i sit and wait.

    hope god gives me strenght to move on
    i still feel anger towards him but im trying
    to not be like that. Forgive and forget.
    i want him to be happy
    i dont wish bad things to happend to him
    ill pray for him
    I need god in my life more than anything now
    i hope you girls stay strong
    pray for me im praying for you
    god bless you all
    your not the only one
    many girls and guys are going
    thru this emptyness.

  • March 5, 2013 | Permalink |

    well my ex he told me that I should tell him about my problems and be open to him so I do and the next thing he does is complain about how I tell him everything and then he dumps me ! We were together 4 10 months, He dumped me on our 10 month anniversary, We did so much, he was my first kiss, I was his first kiss, we did so much, so much that I cant explain, ive been crying non stop, hes so cruel now, I feel like I dont know him anymore, his mum told me that she wished he could pull himself together and I admit I miss him so much but now I feel like its time to move on and find someone else. Thanks for the tips its helping me so much x

  • Nat
    March 6, 2013 | Permalink |

    My fiancé dumped me 3 weeks ago, we had one bad month (although we known each other 6 years and been together 3) he treat me like a princess, every one thought we were made for each other. Both are families were delighted when we got engaged. But a one bad month and he threw it all away like it meant nothing. All he keeps saying is he messed up in the head and doesn’t know what he wants any more.. I’ve tried to be the adult and talk things out but he doesn’t seem to want to figure things out. He just wants to be a lads lad and go out all the time.

    Im heartbroken as it all came as massive shock to me, I have the all memories and the finger with no ring on it. my stupid head cant seem to compute that it over and ive not heard of him in 10 days and before that it was just me trying to fix it.

    How do I move on when I was going to marry my best friend ?

  • Mari
    April 2, 2013 | Permalink |

    I was in a relationship for 3 years living wit him everything was beautiful until he did the worst thing I think u can do cheat with family it was so sad its been a year now and I’ve recoverd from that wound its just that I still love him and I don’t understand why??? I can’t sleep I think bout him all the time and now it kills me to no he has a new girl in his life I just I just want to get over him and I no it’s going to take for ever bt after every hurricane there’s a rainbow

  • Cat
    April 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    I broke up with my BF 3 days ago after I looked at his email account and found him on a singles site which was really dirty. He swears it was just to look at for porn but he bothered to put a photo up of himself with the caption “looking for like minded girls I can watch get off”. I was disgusted and broke it off immediately, now I cannot get him off my mind. The annoying thing is I had been single for 6 years prior to him and was completely happy and successfully independent, it was just me and my little girl and thats all i needed and now I’m a complete mess, its sad cos we were only together 3 months but I

  • May 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years he rrecently broke up with me for telling his bestfriend i found him attractive. Last night he came over my house so that i could apologize we had sex. Then today he says he would rather be single because i tried to “f**k his bro” i can’t help but blame myself.

  • Otilia89
    June 7, 2013 | Permalink |

    Wow guys, I just read all of your stories and I realize mine is nothing in comparison. You are all an inspiration and a force of nature to be going through what you are all going through. My story is a bit different and I feel less important as I think focuses on one aspect: sex. I met this guy at a party and I decided to lose my virginity with him since I was the only one in my group who still had it. The experience was better than pictured, but I knew it wasn’t going to be more than a one night stand. Days later he contacted me and before I knew it he moved in with me. He was broke, still in school at 35, no plans except wanting to start a family. The sex, however was mind blowing. He kept pressuring me to get pregnant so I broke up with me. It took him 2 weeks to find someone. Six months later and I can’t stop thinking about him. Is this a bad boy situation or I am just a magnet for douchebags?

  • June 27, 2013 | Permalink |

    I just broke up with my bf just because he wasn’t the right guy although i loved him a lot! Before our break up he used to say how high his love for me,which is really sucks anyway! also i used to love him a lot…we broke up 2 month ago and the most shocking moment was that when i came to know and he already moved on and has a gf….when actually the breaker was me!! Anyway you know what girls it’s actually hard to understand boys!!

  • efanuj_somalap
    July 19, 2013 | Permalink |

    i like this tips ….
    it was very helpful to me :)
    thank you a lot :)

  • Ella
    August 4, 2013 | Permalink |

    I just broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. But I can’t forget him no matter what I do. There will always be things (usually simple things) that helps me remember the things we used to do.

  • Sara
    November 12, 2013 | Permalink |

    I was engaged for 3 years, i loved him sooo much and we were meant to get married January 2014. He moved to america and slowly stopped calling/texting me and acting really weird, i was so confused and decised to stalk his fb one night and found out he has a new gf and has been loving life! Im glad i found out because he wouldnt have told me and i would have been blaming myself till today! Its been about 6 months now and im still not over him, i miss him so much and still cry when i think of him. We planned our lifes together and now my life has been shattered into pieces. What hurts the most if thinking how happy he is now while im still hurt and trying to get over him. I dont talk to my friends or family about it anymore because i feel that they dont want to hear it anymore so i keep it bottled inside.

  • Daconceicao Isaac
    November 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    I just broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago,and he already got samebody else but I’m still in love with him.I still love him and I want him back I’m willing to beg and fight for him . Please help me

  • Maddi
    December 25, 2013 | Permalink |

    @Sarah The same thing happened to me a few days ago and I’m still having a difficult time getting over my ex. Pretty much anytime I picture him in my head the night of the breakup, I get a huge lump in my throat.

  • Nancy
    January 15, 2014 | Permalink |

    me and my bf was in relation for 6 yrs, but they parent didn’t accept our relation as im from other caste. Now he is going to get married with other girl. My bf tell me that after he got married i shouldn’t call nor message him anymore. Now, im totally blank from last one month, i didn’t talk with my friend properly nor with my parent. I remember him every nite and cry. I cant sleep properly so i wake up at midnight and keep thinking for him. All my happiness is gone with him and im left alone again myself. I don’t accept anything in future as i wouldn’t able to fall in love again. Im done with my life.

  • lanicia
    February 9, 2014 | Permalink |

    I broke up with mzy boy friend at the end of the year of school I didn’t know if i loved him yet but he loved me because the next day he asked me out he still had feeings for me but I said no then he still asked me out for three more days then he stop.When it came two summer I found out that I had feelings for now! Ihave to sit right next to him now in school I don’t know how I can do this!!:-!

  • Nina
    March 5, 2014 | Permalink |

    I love him to death. I can do anything for him. Lately we don’t have sexual relation ship at all. Over 3month ?? I try to break up with him. I just can’t move on! Every time when I ask him to get together he give excuses or ignored me! And when I move on he back and begging me, tells me can’t imagine life with out me …bla bla .., this site help me to move on! I’m so done! I will follow all the steps God will help me. We are not allowed sex out side marriage or relation ship, but we can’t do it with our partners I’m confused !

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    April 16, 2014 | Permalink |

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