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The Top 5 Things Women Do After a Breakup

Ever wondered what most women do after they’ve gotten their heart broken or after they broke someone’s heart? Here are the dirty details.

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Breakups can bring out the worst in people, eliciting erratic behavior and leaving a sadness that the one dumped will try desperately to get over. It’s no surprise then that after decades of dumps, many women have found similar ways of dealing with the post-breakup blues, and it involves more than simply plopping down in front of “The Notebook” with a bucket of ice cream.

Instead, women have dictated breakup etiquette that involves sexing up her looks, having shallow sex, and letting her body sadly take the brunt of her anger. So in what way do women test the waters of post-breakup behavior?

The most common breakup behaviors in women who have been dumped

Have you ever found yourself indulging in any of these things when you were still reeling from a breakup?

#1 She changes her looks. Dyeing your hair can be a liberating experience post-breakup. This is also one of the top things women do after getting out of a relationship. So why the dye? Women want change after a breakup, especially if she was the one who got dumped. This change of going blonde, doing an ombre, or going a fiery red will wake her up and make her feel like she’s still sexy. Dyeing her hair is the easiest thing she can do to spice up her look.

A variation of this is to cut her hair. This is what some might consider a “drastic” change, as women are often attached to their hair, which is what makes this change feel so empowering.

#2 She’ll have a one night stand. Having a one night stand is an awful, yet liberating thing to do post-breakup. Women have one night stands for much the same reasons that men do: they want to feel desired, they want cheap and easy sex, they want to experience someone new, and they want to erase all memories of their ex, only if for a night.

While this may provide that sought after ego-boost after a nasty breakup, you may want to reconsider this option. For example, you may be tempted to use a close male friend to fulfill this desire to be desired, but this may only confuse or muddle your friendship.

As good as it may feel at the time, you just might wake up the next morning feeling cheap and a little easy. Moreover, it isn’t fair to abuse someone emotionally, just so that you can justify your independence or your sexual prowess. [Read: 10 people you shouldn’t have a one night stand with]

#3 She has a rebound relationship. On one hand, rebound relationships can be beneficial for you. Rebound relationships can be an emotional trip, but the importance of them is that they quickly show you that your ex is not the only person in the world for you. Being able to feel something for someone else after a breakup is a shocking and yet intensely satisfying feeling.

The downside? Rebounds rarely last. Since you are in such a state of emotional fragility, you’re not likely to trust your new relationship, nor are you willing to give it the proper time or energy it deserves. In fact, as much as you might like your new beau, you may still be incredibly hung-up on your ex. Most importantly, and much like having post breakup ego-sex, you are using someone else who may really be into you, just so that you can get over your last love. Not exactly fair. [Read: 13 questions to ask before getting into a rebound relationship]

#4 She stops eating. One thing women do after a breakup is stop eating. Sometimes dubbed “the heartbreak diet,” this illness is not usually of the woman’s own decision. This “diet” is likely not self-induced, but rather, an offshoot of depression that comes from the rejection and drastic change involved with losing a relationship.

One study by Forza Supplements found that women lose an average of 5 lbs. within a month of being dumped. The reason? When you become depressed or anxious, you begin to lack the motivation to eat and take care of yourself. While your ex may have offered emotional security and a hell of a romp between the sheets, he’s certainly not worth losing your physical health over. [Read: 8 common post-breakup activities to avoid]

#5 She’ll cyber stalk her ex. As creepy or unhealthy as it may be, it’s only natural in this age where people live their lives like a reality show online that the woman is going to want to stalk her ex-love after their relationship has ended. She’s going to want to know what he’s up to, if he’s talked about the breakup, what his friends are saying, how he’s looking and of course: if there’s a new girl in town.

This is all a form of self-inflicted torture for the woman who’s freshly dumped. While this can trail down an unhealthy road, it can also be incredibly freeing to see that your ex has moved on and it may move you to pursue the same route. [Read: 6 big reasons to stop cyber stalking the ex]

Notable mentions

Some other common, notable mentions that are fairly obvious are…

#1 Cry. It’s comes as no surprise to anyone that one of the most common things women *and men!* tend to do after a breakup is cry. Not only do they cry, they use this as a perfect excuse to bust out their favorite chocolate-themed picnic and binge on sad and sappy movies.

#2 Binge. Aside from binging on movies, some women binge on junk. Opposite of #4 on this list, some women go the opposite direction and have a “sad-binge” on junk food such as chips, carbs, sweets, and soda. The reason? Eating brings us comfort, with some studies even revealing foods that can release dopamine.

#3 Party. Men aren’t the only ones who run to booty-shake at the clubs after losing their lover. Women love to dance, so not only is this a fun release to let loose with the girls, dancing can also release feel-good endorphins that’ll help you battle your breakup blues.

[Read: 11 things one should never do after a breakup]

It may not feel like it in the moment, and as much as you want to slap anyone who tells you this: life goes on, and your breakup will get easier.

While you may not want to admit that your ex-lover may lose their special spot in your heart, odds are they will and you’ll be all the better for it – and you won’t even have to dye your hair!

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Waverly Smith

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