When my husband and I first started dating I had known him since we were in second grade, but we met back up after college. Knowing that he had some problems with monogamy, I didn’t feel the need to trust him upfront and wasn’t entirely sure that I wanted to go out with him at all. One night, long before we became a couple he said to me “all the girls that I have ever met have been crazy.”
After thinking about his statement a while and taking into account the boyfriend I knew him to be, my reply to him was “were they crazy when you met them, Colin?”. Almost like a lightbulb went off in his brain, he had to examine the potential that it could have been something that he was doing to drive women crazy.
Men think that women are very unpredictable, I would disagree, they are, in fact, some of the most predictable creatures on earth. If you do certain things in communication with them, you are all but guaranteed certain results.
Crazy girlfriend – Things you do that are forcing your girl to turn into one
Every girl, yes that is right, men, every girl has the potential to become crazy. Like something possessed has taken over their hot body, you can literally make any girl behave crazy and do some really outside-their-mind things.
If you want to make sure that you don’t bring out the crazy in your girlfriend, do and most certainly DO NOT do, the following 25 things.
#1 If you say you are going to be home at a certain time, be home.
Most women are guided by schedules. Almost always beholden to either a million things on their plate or their mind, when you say that you are going to be home, and you don’t show up, they have planned something.
Whether it is dinner, or just to have you next to them, which they may have been waiting for all day, when you don’t follow through with your word it feels like a betrayal. Once, obviously sometimes can’t be helped, but if you are a perpetual non-shower, it tells her that you don’t think she is significant or a priority. That is bound to make those crazy eyes come out. [Read: 15 traits that’ll make you the perfect boyfriend material]
#2 If you are going to be late… call.
It doesn’t take much to make a phone call or just shoot a text saying “I am going to be late.” You wouldn’t blow your mom off, or show up late to an important playoff game with a friend. Give your girlfriend the same courtesy and you will avoid the rage that is likely to greet you at the door.
#3 Don’t say “I don’t care” all the time.
If she asks you what you want to do this weekend, or where you want to go for dinner, just answer her. There are going to be times when you really don’t care, but if you consistently tell her you don’t care it sounds as if spending time with her really has no effect on you either way.
Voice your opinion, or at a minimum tell her what you are in the mood for once in a while. The worst thing you can do is to say “I don’t care” and then when she does make plans, you complain the entire time about what you are doing… does that sound familiar? [Read: 14 small ways to make your girlfriend feel special and loved]
#4 Don’t ever, and I mean ever, call her crazy.
Want to see your girlfriend act crazy? Call her crazy. There is something about calling a woman crazy that will make her so. A magical word, if used, you will transform her into someone else. No matter how irrational you believe she is being, refrain from ever saying things like “crazy” or “psycho.”
#5 Avoid saying things like “calm down” and “chill out.”
If your girlfriend is upset, let her be upset and vent. Sometimes, you need to have thick shoulders and listen to why she is so enraged. If you say “calm down” or “chill out” that comes across in two ways “I am not going to acknowledge that you have a valid point” and “I don’t care what you have to say.” Not only will it make her even madder, but it will also embarrass her, which is about the biggest crazy-ouster there is. [Read: 21 things a man should never say to his girlfriend]
#6 Answer her call or text even when you don’t want to.
When you tell a girl “my phone isn’t attached to me day and night,” guess what? We know you are lying. Guys are creatures of habit, and we know that you never are without that appendage, no matter where you go or what you are doing. If you don’t answer her call or text, especially if you are in the heat of an argument, or it is something she thinks is important, you are setting up a whole mess of trouble between the two of you.
Just answer her call or text, whatever she has to say is going to be much less incensed at the get-go than a day after she has been waiting for an answer, I can guarantee that!
#7 Answer her question, even if you aren’t sure what the answer is, say “I don’t know.”
Want to make her really crazy? Don’t answer her questions. Either when face-to-face or through a text, if you decide not to reply to her question, it is going to make her ruminate about it all day. Idle minds are the devil’s playground for a woman. If she asks you something, even if you think it is ridiculous or that you shouldn’t have to answer, you should probably weigh the consequence for not answering against the simplicity of just replying to her.
#8 Don’t talk badly about her behind her back.
Even if she is being a bitch, did something ridiculous, or even made a horrible meal the other night, what goes on in your relationship should stay in your relationship. One of the biggest nails in any relationship coffin is when you go outside of the partnership to talk negatively about one another.
If she hears you talking bad or it gets back to her, it feels similar to cheating and will make her insane response come down with a vengeance. Refrain from wanting others to see her in a negative light. When you are with her, and you have bashed her to friends and family, it only ends up making you look stupid. [Read: 20 things happy couples never do in a perfect relationship]
#9 Don’t talk to your mom about her unless you intend not to have her around anymore.
Unless it is a lesbian relationship, there can only be one woman in the partnership. If you choose to talk to your mother about your girlfriend you are not only setting up a scenario to put a ridge in your union; you are ensuring that your mother and she will never get along.
There is rarely a case when your mother isn’t going to take your side, and when you are talking badly about your girlfriend, she is forming an opinion about her that will last long past whatever your disagreement was about. If your girlfriend finds out that you have been talking to your mother about her, she will never trust that you won’t do it again, and that will make her crazy every time that you get on the phone with mommy. [Read: Mama’s boys and 15 other types of guys girls just don’t want to date]
#10 Unless you have to, don’t lie.
Lying drives women crazy. If you can lie about one thing, you can lie about anything. Since women are constantly anticipating the next thing, they will likely wonder what you will be dishonest about next. Don’t lie, unless she asks if she looks fat in something *an occasional white lie won’t hurt*.
#11 Don’t play one girl against another.
Necessarily you are going to have more than just one woman in your life. If you have friends that she doesn’t know, or even that she does and is friends with, don’t pit one against another. That means don’t blow up another girl’s phone, repeat what that girl has to say about your girlfriend, or put another girl’s needs ahead, ever. That is bounds for crazy-town.
#12 If she is upset, don’t ignore her.
Sure, it is much easier just to ignore her when she is moaning and complaining, but have you noticed that when you do she gets louder? The more you ignore her, the louder and more angry she will become, and before you know it, a crazy woman will be standing in front of you. [Read: Relationship arguments – 23 dos and don’ts you HAVE to remember]
#13 Don’t shatter her faith by always walking out the door and being the “runner.”
Nothing makes a woman crazier than when you run from her, and she has to chase you. The run/chase way of communicating is one of the most harmful and worst types of relationships that you can have. Any woman that has to chase a guy to get him to listen to her is going to become crazy. Imagine you trying to tell someone something that is really important and they run from you. You aren’t in grammar school anymore, grow up!
#14 In the middle of an argument, don’t just turn her off.
Don’t make her feel insignificant, or like she doesn’t matter. If you make her feel stupid or unwanted, she is going to react louder, more angry and crazy. [Read: 15 courteous ways to be a gentleman and keep her happy]
#15 If you make plans with her, follow through.
Again, women are planners. If you say that you are going to do something, she will have her heart set on it. If you don’t follow through, that says she isn’t a priority to you, and that will send her on a path of crazy eyes.
#16 Don’t call her names.
When a woman feels disrespected, it hits at the heart of her being. There is a difference between fighting fair and just being mean. If you display meanness, you are likely to get crazy back. Be respectful, even if you are on the way out. It only makes you look immature to resort to calling her names. [Read: The right steps to tell your partner you’re unhappy in the relationship]
#17 Remember her cycles to avoid pissing her off.
PMS is real; it is not just something women use as an excuse. If you want to avoid the crazy, treading lightly for just a week before, and a couple of days during, will keep your relationship smooth sailing and it will also keep the insanity in the closet.
#18 Don’t forget her birthday, your anniversary or other important dates.
They may not feel important to you, but women are very sentimental. Acknowledge how important she is to you. [Read: 8 relationship dates men should never, ever forget]
#19 If something is going on, don’t just retreat into yourself.
If she asks you what is wrong, don’t say “nothing.” Even if there is nothing wrong, say “nothing, why?” so that she can explain to you why she feels things are amiss. If she has done something wrong, be honest and open. Secrets drive a woman crazy and so does feeling as if you are hiding something from her. [Read: 13 relationship mistakes new couples make all the time]
#20 Don’t cheat on her.
#21 Don’t lead a double life.
Don’t be nice one day, shitty the next. That always leaves her guessing which guy she is going to be dealing with. If you have had a bad day, just say so. If you want to be alone, just say so. Saying nothing and making her guess will make her behave in an outrageous manner. [Read: 23 foolproof relationship tips and advice all men need to follow]
Every girl, and I mean every girl, can become crazy if you do certain things to drive her there. If you sit back and rationally think about the way she is acting, it may not be just her; it may be the way that you communicate with her. Obviously, if you have tried everything and you just can’t seem to get her to put the crazy back in the closet, cut her loose.
[Read: 15 types of bad girlfriends who will make your life a living hell]
But if the crazy only comes out to play once in a while, take a long hard look at what you are doing before it is set in motion. If you want to save the relationship, try to stop the cues that drive her straight into crazy town. You will be amazed at how quickly things will turn around.
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