A great girlfriend can make your life feel like a walk in the clouds. On the other hand, a bad girlfriend will surely make your life feel like hell! Bad partners don’t just create problems in a relationship, they give love a bad name. There are many types of bad girlfriends who will make you wonder whether love is really worth the hassle.
Every time someone has a bad relationship, they blame love for it, or they mentally convince themselves that they’ll never fall in love again. But the truth is, love doesn’t ever feel terrible. It never leaves us unhappy. It is bad experiences, and most importantly, the people involved that leave us upset or broken.
Choosing the right person is hard. How can you be sure what they’re really like when everyone is still on their best behavior? That’s why love is such a gamble. However, when it works out, it’s the very best gamble of them all. When it doesn’t work, it’s a literal type of hell. [Read: The 20 kinds of lovers in the world and your compatibility with them]
If you ever find yourself stuck in a relationship where it’s just not working out, it’s easier to end it and just move on. However, that’s only easy if it’s still the early stages. When things progress and you start to get really attached, it’s extremely easy to overlook bad behavior or make excuses for it.
After all, we’re all different and even if we’re perfect by ourselves, we may not feel so perfect in the arms of someone who isn’t right for us. Compatibility matters a lot for successful love. [Read: 50 questions for new couples to test your compatibility]
However, if you’ve had a bad experience, it’s hard to let it go. You’ll allow it to fester in your mind and it will affect your relationships ten-fold. Before you know it, you’re blaming a new partner for what a former partner did. Taking baggage from an old relationship into a new one is extremely easy. It’s also one of the main reasons why relationships fail at the beginning.
When you’ve had a bad girlfriend, you’ll probably find yourself put off love for a while. However, don’t let one bad experience stop you from finding someone who will treat you much better.
You may have read all the articles and relationship tips on LovePanky about how to be a great boyfriend, and you may even think you’ve got what it takes to be the ideal mate. But no matter how nice, understanding and perfect you are, he person you’re dating could ruin the whole experience of love for you. [Read: 23 foolproof relationship tips for men to be the best lover you can be]
It’s not their fault really. Sometimes, a few girls you date may not realize they’re doing something wrong. Or, worse, they may assume they’re right and you’re completely wrong!
The easiest way to know if a girl you’re on a date with has bad girlfriend potential is by trusting your instincts. It doesn’t take more than a couple of dates to know if you’re compatible.
The first date is a great litmus test. However, it’s possible that the girl you’re dating may be troubled by a bad state of mind on the very first date. That could cause you to write off her potential before you’ve really got to know her. Of course, you could always use the second date to see if both of you can hit it off. [Read: 15 easy but effective first date tips to charm the girl in no time]
So, in short, there’s no solid way to know if she’s good or bad girlfriend material that early on. All you can do is trust your gut and know a few signs to be aware of.
If you’re on a date with a girl or have started dating a girl recently, keep an eye on these 15 types of girlfriends who’ll make your life a living hell. Then, you can decide whether you want to get the hell out of there or not!
When a girl is addicted to you or loves you a lot, it’s obvious that she’ll want to spend a lot of time with you. But has your girlfriend crossed the line separating ‘want to be with you’ and ‘can’t do anything without you’?
When a girlfriend gets too clingy, she may not realize it herself, but she’d start to suffocate you. And most importantly, she’ll stop growing as an individual. She’ll end up a boring extension of you. That’ll leave you annoyed, and leave her more confused than ever about why you’re distancing yourself. [Read: 13 really clingy girlfriend signs and ways to avoid it]
Your girlfriend’s possessiveness could seem flattering at first. Yet, if she hates it when you do anything without her, or go out anywhere with your friends, you may start to hit trouble. A possessive girlfriend will always feel insecure each time you meet another girl, even if it’s just a friend. Before you know it, both of you will be fighting every time you go out or meet anyone.
There are a few girls who see you as a great guy, able to introduce her to a better world. You may be the guy who’s got a lot of connections, or the guy who’s cooler than everyone else. She may believe that being seen around you could open a lot of doors for her.
The relationship may start out perfectly. Yet, within a few dates, you may find that she’s more eager to go out with your friends and have a nice time than cozy up with you on a romantic date. As time goes by, once she’s used you as a stepping stone and doesn’t need you anymore, she may even start to ignore you or pick flaws constantly. [Read: 10 signs your girlfriend’s using you to get something out of you]
Are you dating a girl who just can’t apologize or admit her mistake? She may apologize in jest for trivial things but not the things that matter. In that case, she would prefer to give you the silent treatment than accept fault.
Out of all of the types of bad girlfriends, this is a scary one. She may seem like a sweet girl who’s a lot of fun. But in reality, she may be extremely egoistical and will break you rather than accept defeat. She believes she can never make mistakes, and she’s too proud to ever admit it. Remember, giving in to each other now and then is a big and important part of a happy relationship. You’ll just be walking into a trap where you’re the only one hurt and feeding her ego regularly. [Read: Why you should never make this girl your priority when you’re only an option to her]
This kind of a bad girlfriend always whines. She complains and never has anything positive to add to the conversation. She talks about how bad her work is, how sad her life is, and how depressed she always is. If your girlfriend can’t ever just see the bright or happy side of anything, she’s probably too negative. Her negativity will rub off on you and you’d feel drained and tired each time you meet her.
This is the type of girlfriend who just doesn’t know what she wants. She’s always confused between choices and is almost always unsure about any decision she takes.
She even flirts with other guys constantly and probably sees you as the standby boyfriend who she calls when she’s not getting attention from anyone else. And the worst part is that she may even ditch you for another guy if she finds someone better than you. Dating this kind of a girl will leave you weak and shattered. It’ll be a big blow to your self confidence because no matter how good you are, she’d always want something more. [Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere!]
She’s the kind of girl who full of expectations and demands all the time. It’s true that she’s a control freak and always wants things done her way. Plus, she’s bossy and expects you to do as she says all the time. You may be a nice guy who cares for his girl, but for this kind of a girlfriend, that’s not enough. She loves being bossy and wants to control your life and everything in it. [Read: 20 glaring signs of a control freak]
Opinions are good, and opposing opinions can be healthy at times. But this type of girlfriend takes it too far. She’s got her own opinions and she’s too rigid to change them no matter what you say, or even if she’s wrong. She changes her mind only when she wants to, or if her friends convince her. No matter how hard you try, she just doesn’t trust your opinions or suggestions.
She snoops on you all the time, the very second she gets an opportunity to do so. You may be loyal and truthful, but she still sees a reason to doubt your intentions all the time. She spies on you, looks through your cell phone, and calls and interrogates your friends even if you say you were late because you had to meet a friend. She won’t trust you because she probably has trust issues. Unless you’re okay with her constant doubts and interrogations, avoid dating a girl who never trusts you. [Read: 10 reasons your partner has trust issues and 10 ways to fix it for them]
She seems like a great girl. She doesn’t complain or oppose you in any way. But she’s just way too accommodating, no matter what you say or do. She just has no opinions for herself, and no matter how many times you ask her, she just doesn’t have anything to suggest.
You may think she’s coy and too timid, but this kind of a girlfriend is just like like a ticking time bomb. You may assume she’s okay with anything you do or anyplace you take her, but she may only be holding her opinions and thoughts back for some reason. Once she snaps out of it, she may even start cold shouldering you or giving you the silent treatment when you upset her, instead of communicating with you. [Read: 12 real reasons why couples end up drifting in a relationship]
This girl is scary when she gets angry. Her face reddens with rage and she quivers like she’s going to explode. She may even punch you or make a scene when she gets angry because she’s too hot tempered. All she sees is red when she gets angry.
If you can tread around her hot temper, that’s good for you. But if you just want to be yourself and not cower in fear each time she gets angry, stay away from this girl.
This kind of a girlfriend may be a nice girl, but she’s too flirty and too friendly for her own good. She gets really friendly with other guys. She might even go on dates with other guys even though she’s dating you exclusively. Even when you point out that a guy she was talking to was trying to hit on her, she pretends to be oblivious! [Read: 25 truthful reasons why girls cheat so easily on their guy]
Dating a girl like this will leave you tired and insecure. She won’t change for you. And somehow, every guy she talks too will believe she’s still available!
This kind of girlfriend resorts to emotional blackmail and manipulation to get things done her way. She may be very helpful and sweet, and may even go out of her way to be nice to you. But, when she wants something, she uses emotional blackmail to twist your arm and get back at you. She may constantly use lines like “I do so much for you…”, “after all I’ve done for you, can’t you do this little thing for me…?”
The type of girlfriend will drive you crazy and have you tying yourself up in knots. Manipulation in a relationship is never okay, and that’s exactly what she’s doing to you. [Read: 16 reasons why people find it so easy to take you for granted!]
This girl is very close to her parents, be it her mom or her dad. No matter what you say or how much you try to convince her of something, she can never decide anything without talking to her parents about it.
She talks about everything you say with her mom or dad, and after hanging up the phone, turns around and tells you her opinion *which is almost always the opinions of her parents*. If a girl does this, it may mean she’s really close to her parents and trusts their judgment more than yours. Or worse, she may believe you’re not man enough to make decent decisions yourself! [Read: 10 signs to recognize a selfish person and 5 ways to stop them from hurting you]
She constantly compares your lives with others, especially when they’re doing something fun. She logs onto Facebook, sees all her friends who are vacationing, and whines about how unhappy she is, or just how underpaid you are. No matter what you do or where you take her, her happiness is always momentary only.
She may be happy for a few hours, but as soon as she sees a friend and her boyfriend doing something, she starts comparing her own relationship all over again. You can try your best, but this type of a girlfriend will always believe that other couples are always happier than the both of you!
[Read: 15 reasons why nice guys get taken for granted and finish last all the time]
If you’re dating a girl and see any of these 15 types of girlfriends in her, talk to her about it. And if that conversation doesn’t fix it, perhaps it’s best for you to walk away before she makes you feel miserable and broken on the inside!
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