87 Dirty, Spicy, and Naughty Things to Say During Sex to Blow Their Mind

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Want to sound sexier in bed and turn them on instantly? Here are the hottest, spicy, naughty, and dirty things to say during sex they’ll never forget.

How to talk sexy in bed without cringing

Dirty, Spicy, and Naughty Things to Say in Bed (That’ll Drive Them Wild)

Things NOT to say during sex

The key to sexy talk is confidence

Want to sound sexier in bed and turn them on instantly? Here are the hottest, spicy, naughty, and dirty things to say during sex they’ll never forget.

Stuck in your head during sex? You’re not alone. Whether you’re shy or just out of words, saying sexy, dirty, naughty things in bed can feel…awkward.

But here’s the truth, talking in bed while having sex, or even dirty talk isn’t about being perfect. It’s about confidence, chemistry, and saying what you actually want. Studies show that verbal communication in bed boosts arousal and intimacy for both partners.

📚 Source: Allen B Mallory, 2022, Dimensions of Couples’ Sexual Communication

Want to know how to talk dirty in bed? Try this – How to Dirty Talk: 36 Sexy Tips & 55 Examples to Turn Anyone On with Words

Or want to master sexting like a pro instantly? Use this guide – How to Start Sexting: 59 Hot Examples & 51 Sexy Ways to Sext Someone

How to talk sexy in bed without cringing

Let’s be honest, saying something naughty in bed can feel weird at first. One second you’re both tangled in sheets, with nothing but the sound of your both breathing and panting, the next your brain goes, “Wait, am I supposed to talk now? What if I sound dumb?!”

But when it’s done right? Dirty talk isn’t just a sexy add-on, it’s pure psychological seduction.

And here’s the science: studies show that erotic verbal communication activates the brain’s reward center, spikes dopamine, and deepens emotional and physical arousal.

📚 Source: Elizabeth A. Babin, 2012, Nonverbal and verbal communication of pleasure during sex

So how do you talk sexy without feeling like you’re reading from a bad erotic novel? Here’s how to make dirty talk sound so hot, they’ll be begging you to keep going… in more ways than one.

Want to master dirty talking in bed?

Try these guides if you want to learn more about the subtle but sexy art of sexy talk in bed.

1. Start with breath, not words

Before you say anything, breathe. Let your moans, gasps, and heavy breathing set the tone. Erotic sound is the prelude to erotic language. If you’re panting in their ear, they’re already halfway to losing control. No words needed… yet.

2. Talk like you’re confessing a filthy secret

Lean in. Let your lips graze their ear. Lower your voice like you’re telling them the most dangerous fantasy you’ve been hiding. Because that’s what dirty talk is, a sexy little secret you let them in on. That’s what makes it hot.

3. Tell them what you want… in explicit detail

Don’t overthink it. Just say what’s on your mind, but slower, dirtier, and more deliberate. Instead of “This feels good,” say, “I want your mouth on my thighs until I can’t think.” Be bold. The dirtier, the better. Confidence is a turn-on.

📚 Source: Heather Blunt-Vinti et al., 2019, Verbal and Nonverbal Sexual Communication in Sexual Satisfaction

4. React to what they’re doing in real time

If they’re sliding into you slowly, say, “Just like that… don’t you dare stop.” If their tongue’s teasing you, murmur, “You feel so fucking good. Keep going.” Real-time dirty talk is like a live commentary of your pleasure, it shows them they’re driving you wild.

5. Use power, praise, or play

Dirty talk has flavors, dominant (“I want you on your knees”), submissive (“Please, don’t stop, I’m begging”), praising (“You taste so fucking good”), or playful (“You’re such a tease, you know that?”). Choose your flavor, and play with it.

6. Say their name

This one’s pure psychology: Hearing our name, especially during sex, triggers reward pathways in the brain. It creates emotional intimacy and makes your words land harder. Try a whispered, “God, [their name], you feel so good.” Trust me, it works.

📚 Source: Carmody & Lewis, 2006. Brain Activation When Hearing One’s Own Name

Dirty, Spicy, and Naughty Things to Say in Bed (That’ll Drive Them Wild)

Now that we’ve learned how to talk sexy in bed, you need some key phrases to keep the ball rolling. Knowing the things to say in bed isn’t that hard!

With these, you’ll have a little something extra up your sleeve when they request something a little out of the ordinary. [Read: 25 sexy text messages to start a dirty conversation with anyone in no time]

Here are some of the sexiest things to say in bed during sex. You’ll amp up that desire and lead to the most satisfying night ever.

1. I want you now

2. I’m so ready for you

3. You feel so good

4. Your body feels amazing on mine

5. I want to taste every bit of your body [Read: How to make out – 22 secrets to leave anyone moaning in your arms]

6. When you do _____, it drives me crazy

7. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing

8. I want you to _____ right now

9. I love watching you go to work

10. I want you to lay down and not move a finger. Let me do it all

11. You’re turning me on so much right now [Read: What turns guys on? 34 sexual turn ons that arouse men in seconds]

12. That’s exactly what I like

13. Grab my hair and make me love it

14. I love it when you’re rough with me

15. It’s so hot when you grab me

16. Don’t stop! [Read: 25 dirty talk examples to make anyone explode in bed]

17. Is that all you’ve got?

18. Show me what you can really do

19. I’ve been waiting for this all day

20. Get over here and pleasure me until I say you can stop

21. I want you on me now

22. Your hands make my body ache for you

23. Do you remember how much I screamed last time? Make me do that again [Read: Loud sex – Is your girl really faking the big O?]

24. If you really want to turn me on, just touch me here. *Guide them in the right direction*

25. You have a magical way with your tongue

26. Do you like that?

27. Tell me what you want

28. I’m the boss tonight

29. You really know what you’re doing

30. I want you to come for me [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas for a sexy relationship]

31. Does that feel good?

32. I want your dick/pussy in my mouth

33. I’ve been thinking about your cock/pussy all day [Read: How to talk dirty over text and turn your crush on in no time]

34. I love the way your dick/pussy tastes

35. What do you want me to do to you?

36. I want you to watch me touch myself

37. I want you to make me cum

38. Spank me harder!

39. Lick every inch of my body

40. I’ve been thinking about eating you out all day

41. Fuck my pussy [Read: 50 sexy, dirty things to say to your boyfriend to warm him up for sex]

42. Oh yes, right there

43. I love the way you smell

44. You’re a very dirty boy/girl

45. Are you ready for round two?

46. You have a beautiful cock/pussy

47. Don’t cum, don’t cum, don’t cum! [Read: Sexy words – How to pick the right words to arouse your partner]

48. Pull my hair harder!

49. I want to devour your dick

50. You make me want to do dirty, dirty things [Read: 23 dirty talking tips that’ll make you a much naughtier dirty talker]

51. I want you to cum all over me

52. Go deeper inside me!

53. I beg you to fuck me. Please, please, please

54. I want you inside of me

55. I want you to be rough/gentle [Read: 15 ways to go from ordinary sex to romantic sex]

56. I have a surprise for you

57. If you want to make me hornier, then _____

58. Eat me/suck me

59. Your pussy is so tight

60. I want more! [Read: Dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]

61. What are you going to do to me?

62. I’ve always wanted someone to _____ me

63. I’ve been imagining you ____ [Read: Underrated kinds of foreplay to add serious sizzle to the bedroom]

64. Don’t hold back. I want all of you.

65. I want to wreck you and worship you at the same time.

66. Say my name while I’m inside you.

67. The way you look at me makes me want to misbehave.

68. Touch me like you’ve been waiting for this your whole life.

69. I want to hear exactly how I make you feel.

70. You’re mine tonight. Every inch of you.

71. I want to feel you shaking under me.

Things NOT to say during sex

Just as important as what to say in bed during sex, here is the list of things NOT to say during sex. If you want to keep the mood hot and heavy, you really don’t want to cause any self-consciousness or anxiety.

1. You’re doing it wrong

Jeez… a little sensitivity, please. Instead of pointing the finger at someone, try saying something instead like, “Mmmmmm, that’s nice… now let’s try doing it this way.”

At least then you’ll get what you want instead of instant desertion and an early night! [Read: 40 worst things to say to a man before getting it on]

2. Are you in yet?

Oooof. How to ruin a guy’s confidence in one easy step! Ladies, implying he is so small you can’t feel him enter you is nothing short of brutal. You’re unlikely to get anything else from him ever again. [Read: 15 things you do that turn him off while having sex]

3. Can we get on with it?

You’re basically saying you’re bored, not looking forward to the ensuing act, and you want to get it over with. Hardly the perfect recipe to make someone feel wanted and/or at ease.

4. You’re not very good at this

If they really are that bad, then help them learn rather than criticize them.

5. You need to cut down on the takeout!

If they’re overweight, or have any other physical particularities you’re not that keen on, now is definitely not the time to mention it. [Read: How to build self-confidence – 16 ways to realize you’re worth it]

6. You’re not very big/you’re not very tight

It’s like dropping a wand in a wizard’s sleeve. Like shoving a needle where a crowbar’s been. When it comes to things to say in bed, avoid this like the plague.

If your partner has a particularly small penis or a not particularly tight vagina, you need to find alternative ways of achieving mutual satisfaction and avoid destroying them with a comment haunting them for the rest of their lives. [Read: Geisha ball – How to use them for more pleasure and a stronger pussy]

7. That reminds me of …

Whatever you do, NEVER compare what’s happening in bed now with what a former sexual partner did. A surefire way to bring it all to a swift and bitter end.

8. Have you finished yet?

Boredom is not an attractive quality in a sexual partner. There are many things to say in bed, but this isn’t one of them. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy]

9. How much longer will you take to orgasm?

Asking someone this question is only going to stress them out or make them fake an orgasm. More annoying than offensive! [Read: How to talk dirty to a girl without turning her off]

10. Nothing

Rolling over after the event and saying nothing, going to sleep, or even getting dressed and making a swift exit are all really offensive things to do. Implying you were just there to get your rocks off and your sexual partner may as well have been a sex toy.

The key to sexy talk is confidence

You can use all of these things to say during sex but they’re not going to have the right effect if you don’t use them with confidence.

Practice in front of the mirror, use words that you’re comfortable with, and remember to own your sexuality. There is nothing to be embarrassed about here and everything to feel sexy and hot about!

Now go on, use these super-hot things to say in bed during sex, and see how your partner responds. We guarantee it will be a night to remember.

[Read: Sex buzzkill – 23 remarks that will kill the mood for sex]

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So next time you’re between the sheets, don’t just move, speak. These sexy things to say during sex aren’t just words, they’re invitations to go deeper, get dirtier, and leave your partner trembling. Own your voice. Own your desire. And make them remember every word.