There are some things that just hit the spot when you’re in bed with a guy. Maybe he whispers, “I love your curves,” into your ear or tells you how amazing you feel. There’s something about his words that makes the experience even more sensual and arousing. Whether his words are sweet or naughty, they make everything better. But have you wondered what guys like to hear in bed?
They don’t need to hear a monologue during sex, but little phrases and compliments here and there can not only boost a man’s confidence but make them even more aroused.
[Read: Sexy words – 23 seductive words and dos and don’ts to make dirty talk sound more erotic]
At the end of the day, women and men aren’t that different when it comes to what they like to hear in bed.
We’re all emotional beings who are looking for affection and connection. The things men like to hear in bed aren’t necessarily as raunchy as you may think *though, this doesn’t mean they don’t like dirty talking*.
You expect your man to satisfy you in bed, and he expects the same from you. To sexually satisfy each other, using some of these phrases can help amp up your sex life. And who doesn’t want that?
[Read: 46 sexy secrets to pleasure a man in bed and leave him aroused 24/7]
The human psyche is a fascinating realm, one where words can wield an immense power. Words, particularly affirmations, play an essential role in validating our actions, boosting our self-esteem, and enhancing our intimate experiences.
With that said, let’s explore the science behind why certain compliments and affirmations can have such a profound impact, especially during intimate moments.
Have you ever felt an instant mood boost when someone praised your hairstyle or your outfit? That’s the power of a ‘stroke’ in transactional analysis. Eric Berne, the founder of this psychological concept, proposed that humans have a deep-seated need for recognition, which he termed as ‘strokes’.
In the context of intimacy, verbal affirmations act as these ‘strokes’, reinforcing positive behaviors and boosting one’s ego state.
So, when a guy hears, “You make me feel amazing,” it’s like giving his ego a gentle pat, acknowledging his efforts and making him feel appreciated.
Affectionate touch and intimate words can do wonders in releasing oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone.” Oxytocin plays a pivotal role in bonding, creating a sense of trust, and fostering emotional intimacy. [Read: Chemistry of love – how hormones make you feel love the way you do]
When a guy hears heartfelt words in bed, it can trigger the release of oxytocin, deepening the bond between partners.
Think about it: Saying “I love being close to you” during intimate moments doesn’t just make him feel good, it chemically boosts the connection you both share.
In essence, while actions might speak louder than words, the right words, at the right time, can indeed amplify the entire experience. [Read: How to guys get emotionally attached? 19 signs and ways his mind works]
So, what do guys like to hear in bed? Well, here are phrases to get your imagination running. So, repeat after us:
There are some phrases on this list that are going to hit the spot for your man, and others that he’s not going to be into. That’s just the way it is.
Some guys get turned on when you say their name and others… not so much. So, you’ll need to test these lines out and see which ones hit the spot. [Read: How to dirty talk to a guy and 36 secrets to arouse him with the sexiest words]
Listen, for a moment, forget about what guys like to hear in bed, and think about yourself. If you don’t want to have sex with him, don’t do it. Or if you’re not in the mood, tell him and take a raincheck, because the best sex is when you’re into it.
If not, you won’t be able to give it your all, and that’s what makes sex good. If both people are genuinely excited and aroused, then sex will be amazing.
Some guys love it when you call out their name. Now, if they have a long name or an ‘old man’ name, it may not work out too well. Yelling the name ‘Frank’ or ‘Bob’ out isn’t exactly a panty dropper.
You can sensually whisper his name into his ear, or scream it out when he hits the spot. Either way, he’ll love it.
If you’re not into saying things during sex, that’s okay. You don’t need to say much, but making noises will take you a long way. The only thing you shouldn’t be is silent. When it comes to sex, silence is a sign that things aren’t going well.
If you’re enjoying yourself, don’t be afraid to express it by moaning, gasping, or groaning. [Read: Sex sounds – how to moan and look and sound even more sexy in bed]
If your man goes down on you, let him know how much you appreciate it. Oral sex can be daunting for some men, especially if they’re not experienced.
Of course, you can guide and teach him what makes you get off while he’s eating you out. At the same time, you need to compliment him and boost his confidence. [Read: 25 hot ways to make a guy go down on you and signs to tell if he likes it]
He’s doing all the right moves and hitting all of the right spots. You need to let him know he’s doing a good job.
But you can make a “good job” comment a little naughty and dirty. While he’s inside of you or after sex, tell him how much you love how he fucks you.
Well, every guy wants to hear this in bed. It not only tells him that he’s doing it right, but it reassures him that you’re being satisfied. It’s a double ego boost!
Most men *unless they’re only into themselves* want their partner to orgasm, so let him know he’s on the right track.
Now, there are times when his dick may not smell the best—post-workout, for example. But when it comes to it, every man wants their dick to taste good.
There’s no reason why you shouldn’t let him know how good he tastes *if he does taste good*. Sometimes saying the most obvious things can be the biggest turn-on. [Read: What does cum taste like? The true taste of semen from women and science]
He’s doing everything right, and you want more. Well, don’t just lay there in silence! Tell him what you want!
Do you want it harder? Then tell him! If you’re going to demand he thrusts harder, then you better say it loudly. [Read: 19 foreplay sex games for couples to get naughty and horny in minutes]
In the middle of foreplay or sex, a nice and unexpected surprise can be to perform oral sex on him.
While he’s doing down on you or kissing you, stop him and tell him to get on his back. You can whisper this in his ear, and you’ll see his entire body perk up with excitement.
Well, what do guys like hearing in bed the most? This line! We know it’s such a simple phrase, yet, it tells a man everything he needs to know.
If you start praying to god, well, then obviously he’s blowing your mind. This is a great confidence booster for him if you start praying to the lord.
If he’s doing most of the work right now, let him know you appreciate it.
While he’s thrusting away, let him know that you’re loving the visual he’s giving you. By saying, ‘I love watching you fuck me,’ well, he’ll certainly want to fuck you more.
You’re loving what he’s doing, and you don’t want it to be over just yet. We don’t blame you. By telling him this, two things will happen.
Firstly, it shows him you’re enjoying the sex. Secondly, it’ll make him want to cum. So, the sex will probably become more intense, but it’ll end relatively soon. [Read: Tease and denial games – what they are, types, and how to play with your lover]
Some guys like accents, what can we say? If you can speak a second language, even better. Don’t be scared to talk dirty to him in another language. In fact, he’ll probably find it super hot.
If you throw in some of these phrases during sex, there’s no reason why he wouldn’t want to have sex again. Asking him this question lets him know you loved the sex, and you want more.
Navigating intimate moments can be like dancing: thrilling, passionate, but every once in a while, someone can make one misstep.
Verbal communication during these times can enhance the experience, but there’s also the potential to hit the wrong note. So let’s discuss what might not be music to a guy’s ears during sex.
Being enthusiastic is great, but it’s crucial to ensure that the words match the moment. If every action elicits a superlative like “That’s the most incredible thing ever,” it may start to sound disingenuous. It’s essential to strike a balance when considering what guys like to hear in bed.
Sincerity heightens intimacy, overacting can diminish it. [Read: 33 sexy secrets to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]
While open dialogue about likes and dislikes is essential in a relationship, the heat of the moment might not be the best time for constructive criticism.
Telling a guy, “My ex did it differently” or “Can you try to be more like [insert name]?” is likely not what guys want to hear during sex.
Instead, consider discussing preferences and experiences outside of the bedroom to ensure both partners feel valued and heard.
Jokes can be fantastic tension-relievers, but in the throes of passion, cracking a tech joke or making a pun might not land as intended.
Saying something like, “Is that your USB stick or are you just excited to see me?” might get a laugh during a flirty text exchange, but during sex, it might not hit the mark.
Remember, humor has its place, but timing is crucial!
While deepening a relationship is beautiful, the midst of intimacy might not be the best time to discuss long-term plans.
Popping questions about future kids, marriage, or where you’ll be in 10 years can be jarring and might not align with what guys like to hear in bed.
Save those profound future-forward discussions for a quiet, intimate chat over coffee or a romantic dinner. [Read: 57 simple life questions to get to know yourself and truths to visualize your future]
While communication is the bedrock of any strong relationship, intimate moments might not be the ideal time to discuss who forgot to take out the trash or the pending electricity bill. These everyday concerns can act as a mood dampener when considering what guys like to hear in bed.
While guidance can enhance the experience, giving an extensive play-by-play or treating the encounter like a choreographed routine can make things mechanical.
Sex is as much about exploration and spontaneity as it is about pleasure. Find a balance between guiding and going with the flow.
It’s not uncommon to feel self-conscious about our bodies or our skills in the bedroom. However, continually putting oneself down or fishing for compliments can divert attention from the intimate connection. Confidence is sexy, so own it!
Et voila! You’re now armed and ready with all the tricks and tips you need to know about what guys like to hear in the sack.
But before you go and sweet-talk the heck out of your man, there’s just one thing you need to keep in mind above all else: No one knows your partner as intimately as you do.
We’ve given you all the tools in order to tackle this dirty-talking task, but only a few tools will work on this specific job. It’s up to you to take what you know about your man and say the right things to really get his gears going.
[Read: What turns a guy on? 51 subtle sexual turn-ons that arouse men in seconds]
Now that you know what guys like to hear in bed, what are you waiting for? The next time you have sex with your man, try out some of these lines.
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