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Are blue balls real or is it just a trick used by guys to get into a girl’s pants? Read these blue balls facts to know everything you need to know.

Do blue balls exist?

Well, the guys who experience it say it does.

And the guys who don’t experience it, well, they either fake it or ignore it.

But when you’re a girl, it’s always good to be well informed about the male anatomy and their blue problems.

After all, you may hear the blue balls line someday and you’d have no one to guide you about it.

[Read: Top 50 kinky ideas for a sexy relationship]

What are blue balls?

Simply put, when a guy gets aroused and retains his heightened state of arousal *a huge erection* for a considerable period of time, his testicles could start to hurt.

This painful sensation that a guy experiences when he’s aroused but unable to ejaculate is known as blue balls.

If you’re in bed with your guy and dry humping him or teasing him for a while, he may get blue balls. And he may even convincingly tell you that the only way to make it go away is by having sex. [Read: Dry humping and the virgin’s guide to better orgasms]

Have you ever fallen for that excuse to have sex?

There are no clear and visible signs or symptoms of blue balls, and almost all the time, all the proof you have is his word. But just so you know, he may not always be faking it. [Read: Have you fallen for the just-the-tip sex excuse?]

Why do guys get blue balls?

Let’s get this out of the way first. Not all guys experience blue balls. In fact, a big majority of guys have never experienced it even once in their lifetime.

When a guy gets blue balls after a prolonged state of arousal, his pelvic area or his testicles may start to hurt gradually. It could be a painful throb of agony, or it could feel like a dull pain that lasts for quite a while even after his erection goes limp.

I’ve experienced pain in my scrotum sacs *the bag that holds the balls* once, and I assumed it was blue balls. At first, it hurt but it also excited me because I was going to experience blue balls for the first time in my life. But it wasn’t a case of blue balls. It was just my strained member that was tired after a rather long night surrounded by ladies on the dance floor. [Read: How to grind with a guy sexily and discreetly and give him an erection]

Surprisingly, none of my friends have experienced blue balls either. But there was this one friend who claims to experience it, and each time the guys talked about blue balls, he always argued his case rather passionately and vociferously. After all, just because I didn’t experience it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, right?

How does it happen?

When a guy gets aroused because his girlfriend has been a rather naughty sex kitten, he starts to get hard down there. And you probably know that already. [Read: 16 signs you’re a sex kitten and loving it!]

Now here’s why that happens. In all our bodies, blood flows through arteries and veins, providing oxygen to different vital organs. But when a guy gets aroused, the flow of blood through the artery into his penis increases, while the flow of blood out of his penis decreases because the vein carrying the blood out constricts itself.

Due to this imbalance in inflow and outflow of blood in his penis, it starts to stiffen and get erect. That hard stick shift you feel when your hands slip into his shorts, well, it’s all the work of blood flow alone. No bone!

As more and more blood starts to flow into his private area, and less starts to get out from there because of his heightened state of arousal, the pressure could start to build up within his member and his scrotum sac *which gets enlarged*  because of all the excess blood accumulating inside his privates. [Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]

For some men, as the blood flow increases, they would start to experience pain due to the increasing pressure created by the blood flow. But once he ejaculates, the accumulation of blood flows out through the relaxed vein and his member returns to the flaccid state, which can help in releasing the built up pressure.

So what are the chances of this happening when you’re in bed with your guy? Well, it’s hard to predict but your chances of watching blue balls live are higher if you stimulate him and keep him hard for a prolonged period of time. [Read: 12 foreplay tips that actually work and arouse men a lot]

What do the doctors say about these balls?

Surprisingly, most doctors don’t seem to care too much about blue balls. There are hardly a handful of studies about it. In fact, no one even truly knows the real reason behind why only a few guys experience it while the majority of the male population doesn’t experience it.

Vasocongestion and blue balls

Vasocongestion is the expansion of tissues in the human body due to increased blood flow. Many people confuse this with blue balls, but it isn’t. The male erection is, of course, caused due to vasocongestion where the tissues expand to take in more blood, but the same thing happens with your cheeks when you blush.

Even the cramping you feel when you’re on your period is due to vasocongestion. [Read: The complete guide to having amazing sex on your period]

Priapism and the four hour erection

Has your boyfriend taken any erectile dysfunction pills before having sex? Very rarely, erectile dysfunction pills or even hormonal irregularities could leave your man with an erection that lasts for over four hours. Even an ejaculation may not help him go limp.

If he’s experiencing a case of painful blue balls due to the little blue pills, rush to the emergency room. It isn’t blue balls anymore. It’s a case of Priapism which could damage the tissues in his penis and prevent him from ever having a hard erection again. [Read: The reason behind why losing an erection bother guys so much]

Some guys just get confused

If your guy complains of blue balls after a prolonged period of arousal, it’s not always certain that he’s suffering from blue balls. Most guys just bear the pain or even brag about it, in the hope of getting more sex. But there could be reasons other than blue balls for his discomfort down there.

Here are 6 reasons why a guy could confuse the pain with blue balls.

#1 He’s extremely aroused. If your man is extremely aroused, the flow of blood could increase the pressure in his groin. This could cause an uncomfortable pain each time he flexes the muscles in his groin to lift his member up, because more blood is pushed into his penis than required.

#2 The ball banger. If your guy experiences blue balls while having sex, it could probably be his ball sacs hurting after it constantly hits against your body while having rough sex. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever!]

#3 Broken penis. Did you apply a lot of pressure on his member while blowing him or while riding him? At times, aggressive sex could damage your guy’s tissues down there and both of you may not notice it until after the deed.

#4 Limp and up. Constant states of getting erect and going limp because of prolonged foreplay could leave his member feeling sore, weak and painful.

#5 Urinary tract infection. At times, the blue balls may turn out to be a case of urinary tract infection, especially if he has difficulty peeing or if he feels a burning sensation down there.

#6 Testicular torsion. This is a something that can turn out to be quite dangerous, and the guy may even lose one or both of his testicles if left unchecked. At times, the spermatic cord at the back of his balls may get twisted intentionally or accidentally resulting in sharp pain around his testicles or in the abdomen area which could be confused with blue balls. But in reality, the pain is experienced because the oxygen supply is getting cut off to the testicles.

If your boyfriend complains of blue balls and the pain doesn’t go away within a couple of hours, take him to the hospital. At times, the constant pain he experiences when he gets an erection could also be a symptom of partial testicular torsion which gets twisted due to the pressure buildup during an erection. [Read: How to last longer during sex without any difficulty]

It’s been said that women can experience blue balls too

When a girl experiences a constant state of arousal that stretches over a few hours, the blood flow into her pelvic region could increase the pressure, and induce cramping-like symptoms just like the ones you feel during your period. And if it isn’t cramping, you may also feel heavy down there, which could lead to you experiencing a painful sensation.

And there’s a word for this too. It’s called pink ovaries or blue ovaries, or whatever slang you choose to use. [Read: How make a guy go down on you without a push]

A few facts about your guy and his blue balls

Here are a few more things you need to know about blue balls that could help you deal with your man’s blue balls without feeling guilty about it.

#1 Does it go blue? A guy’s balls don’t really turn blue. It may seem slightly swollen if you look closely. But if it looks bluish, rush to the emergency room. It’s probably testicular torsion.

#2 How can you get it down? A guy can help himself out and ejaculate to ease the pain. Ask him to finish himself off before heading out. But at times, it may take a while for the pain to go away once it gets there.

#3 A massage. Massaging his testes and around his pelvis without arousing him could help in the recirculation of blood, which could dilate the veins stopping the blood from flowing out of his penis. [Read: How to give a sensual massage and work your magic]

#4 Wait it out. Just stare at the clock and keep count. If your man experiences blue balls, stay calm and wait for the pain to ease itself out. It will, it’s only a matter of time.

#5 Very few guys ever experience it. If you’ve got a guy who complains of blue balls, well, lucky you, you’ve just seen a medical miracle! Remember, most men don’t experience blue balls even once in their lifetime.

If your boyfriend gets blue balls often, or if he says the pain is intense, go to a doctor. It’s probably something that’s more serious and needs looking into.

Remember, science hasn’t been able to conclusively prove that blue balls even exist, although several guys complain about painful blue balls all the time. Most doctors believe the pain one experiences down there could be a symptom of a much bigger issue if the pain lasts a while. [Confession: Sex with an uncircumcised man, myths and all!]

As a guy, I have to say that I have never experienced it yet. Perhaps I’m just lucky. But if your guy experiences this often, don’t laugh at him. Wait it out or head to a doctor. Even if the doc says blue balls don’t exist, he may be able to ease the pain or find the reason behind the pain.

[Read: 13 untold sex secrets you really need to know!]

So is your guy just lying about his painful blue balls, or is it a severe case of something that’s far more serious? Well, these blue ball facts will definitely help you deal with the situation in the right way!

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22 thoughts on “Big Blue Balls Facts Every Girl’s Gotta Know!”

  1. Bill says:

    Blue balls DOES exist – I’m a sufferer!
    Personally I refer to it as ‘lover’s nuts’, but my god, can it hurt.
    The first time I experienced it was out of the blue, when following around with a new girl during the college lunch break / free period. It was an early foray into getting to know each others’ bodies. After more than an hour of intense foreplay but no sex, we had to return to college for afternoon lectures. And that’s when I felt it – like I’d been kicked hard in the nuts. I could hardly walk from the intense ache and pain. I felt sick to my stomach. I checked my balls out and they appeared to look ok, but they were the most sensitive and painful I’ve ever known. The ache subsided over time, but I was still suffering quite badly the following day. Releasing the tension through sex or masturbation wasn’t an option – I would have killed anybody that went near my privates during this episode. I’ve experienced blue balls on a few lesser occasions since then, but that first time was one of the worst pains I could describe. Absolute agony…
    Yeah, it’s real. And extremely painful!

  2. Greg says:

    I’m posting here as I was searching for information on the topic and I can attest that I am a ” blue balls” sufferer. Now 49 yrs old and have experienced this condition since mid teens when I first started petting with girlfriends over extended periods of time without ejaculation. I still experience this with my wife of many years if I get horny with no ejacualation outcomes. I will always take matters into my own hands… To get rid of the pain, which is similar to a dull pain in the testicles. I also feel like there is a slight swelling of my Vas Deference which is felt above the pelvic bone.This bruised feeling wil normally go away within 4 hours, but will persist into the 2nd day if not relieved. Really surprised very few men get this, I presumed it was part of all of our ” rites to passage”.

  3. John smith says:

    I think every guy I know has experienced it. This article is clearly written by a woman. Believe us, it does hurt. It takes up to a day till it goes away unless you masturbate or have sex.

  4. Jesse says:

    The article was written by a man just so you know. I actually found this while looking for a reason for pain I feel after sex if I haven’t reached orgasm. I have only met two guys that have had this. One said it was only a dull aching and that sometimes he would finish the job himself and sometime wait until it went away depending on if he was able to find somewhere private to deal with it. The other said it was so painful that he wouldn’t even ask someone to finish the job for him because for about an hour it felt like he’d been kicked in the nuts and didn’t wan anyone touching him there at all. However he said he’d only had it twice an he was 24. As a woman I believe it probably does exist in varying degrees for different men but not all. If I have sex and don’t get to reach orgasm I tend to feel cramping pains for a couple of hours that start pretty bad and gradually ease off.

  5. Bibiana says:

    I know another way to help blue balls-a nice slow handjob! I admit that I love giving a man relief in this way.

  6. Bling says:

    It exists. I’m in my 60s and still (very occasionally!) experience it, though it doesn’t hurt as much as it did in my teens. It’s a really severe ache, walking is painful. Neither masturbation nor sex relieves it — you’re stuck with it for a few hours –enjoy!!!

  7. andrew says:

    ive had blueballs a couple times an it does hurt like a SOB but I do ejaculate alot more so thats kind of a good bad situation because it feels great but I shot straight through a condom once and thats a feeling I wouldnt wish on anybody

  8. bryan says:

    Blue Balls does exist……Everytime I dry Up with my qirlfriend my balls hurt so much……and mOst of my friends xperience that aswell….

  9. Doug says:

    I can personally attest that Blue Balls DOES exist, and (except for times of regular sexual release) has been present all of my adult life. For me, it’s dull ache in the scrotum that lasts a few hours, if not all day. Sometimes, it’s just a discomfort… but it’s often a significant ache that is very distracting and can even affect my walk.

    It starts up if I haven’t ejaculated for the better part of a week when I was younger… typically 6 to 10 days now that I’m in my 50’s. The amount of time it takes is shortened if I’ve been thinking a lot about sex or especially if I’ve been teased without follow through.

  10. Adrian says:

    I think I might have had this already during a very rough blowjob once. I also thought it would go away if I ejaculate, but I couldn’t orgasm, it was impossible. Thinking back, the girl did suck on my member pretty hard and I think she may have overstimulated me.

  11. yuri says:

    it did happen to me but only when i got stimulated almost to the point of orgasm but didn’t ejaculate in the end.

  12. Ken says:

    It is very real and does exist. I’ve suffered from it many times over many years. I’m easily aroused. If I don’t get release after extended time frame, however that occurs, it’s a pain that cannot be described to those that do not experience it. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone and happy to hear that apparently most men don’t suffer from it. If it goes long enough, the release isn’t even pleasureable, rather a necessity just to get the pain to subside. Not everyone has mental illness, but it does exist. Discounting the fact that you or your friends to suffer from a condition, isn’t a dismisal of it’s existence.

  13. Steven says:

    I’ve experienced it a number of times… alone and with women. For me it feels like an excess of fluid or semen in the urethra down near my balls. First happened after a senior prom picnic where my date and i were teasing each other all day and on the long accompanied ride back from the picnic. Began as a dull ache at the base of my cock and felt like pressure pushing back into my semen duct. Ached til I was able to cum later.
    Other time it can happen is after prolonged edging during masturbation, that doesn’t end in orgasm. (Like being interrupted). Then if I try to cum too soon, when I get a moment, it can feel like the fluids don’t fully release… some ejaculation, but a lingering pressure.
    But I’ve NEVER spoken of it to a gf or used it as a bargaining chip. 😉

  14. Tom says:

    its real alright. i’ve experienced it a few times. usually when i’m with a girl and she keeps turning me on (usually without realising it) it can be really very painful. the first time i had it was when i stayed the night at my first girlfriends house (i didn’t get past what americans would call second base) and i first thought it was just the way we’d slept, my balls ached all the next day. that was about 14 years ago.
    The last time i had it was a few nights ago, i had a girl over and she kept stroking my inner thigh, i was up and down like a yo-yo (i’d been a while) i got so sore it hurt to sit down.fortunately we had sex, the pain seamed to subside before i actually orgasmed.
    i’ve had it a couple of other times aswell but i can’t remember them as well. i can’t believe not every man gets it.

  15. Lolk says:

    Of course it’s real. So much of what is written here is more opinion than anything. Saying the majority of men won’t ever experience it and that it’s a “medical miracle” is just downright not true.

  16. kev says:

    Yes it does exist it can be a dull aching to pain so bad a breeze blowing across them would hurt really bad. things that come into play both mental and physical.
    If you are frustrated stressed at the time its worse. So if you are then calm down get your mind right. do not focus on your condition but rather focus on relaxing.
    Getting your rocks off is good way to fix it, warm wash cloth helps or comfortable heat applied. having your partner help is of course best the reason is obvious but explain to them be gentle.
    it seems the size of your testicles is related to amount of pain felt. and doing something stupid like making a bet with a friend first one to lose there load lost and recruiting female friends to tease trying to make each other lose. After thirty eight hours we called it a draw.
    My fist and worst case of it I was 20yrs. have had a mild case of it two or three times since.

    The information on applying warmth to them and about size of them came from a doctor even after relief they still hurt for a long time I was worried I may have done damage. they were still tender for a day or two after.

  17. Palletje says:

    It does exist and it hurts as hell, it hurts a lot longer than hitting your elbow, but it is the same kind of pain I feel, my balls ache the most, my pelvis ache like your are getting sick and i also feel it in my stomache, a little like you have been throwing up for a long time and there is really nothing left in your stomache anymore…. I personally really need to ejaculate and I always try to do this cautiously, only grabbing the shaft and never let my hands it the balls, which is not the easiest way to get there and it can even get frustrating, but not doing it will really make me almost unable to walk from the pain. I’d litterally walk like there is a skippyball between my legs.
    The reason why men, that truly have this, ask the girl/woman in question to finish it off is not to get more sex, definately not. But finishing it off myself always takes a lot longer than for a woman to do it, that for me is the main reason i ask her and ofcourse it is a lot more pleasurable with her doing it, but, at least for me, it is no way near a blackmail reason. For me, ejaculating makes it bearable with about half an hour (ofcourse depending on how much pain you have it can take up to 1 or two hours), whereas not ejaculating will take nearly the entire day. Even after the intense pain is gone, a small pain will stay, but as I said that is bearable, same as hitting your kneecap, after the intense pain is gone, you’ll feel it, but it’s alright… therefore i cannot agree with the writer that it is only the bloodflow that makes it ache soo much, otherwise only letting it come back in a hanging state would suffice, which is definately not the case. I will however not force my girlfriend to finish it, if she doesn’t want to finish it I’ll do it myself, but either way I NEED to ejaculate.

    The writer also mentions that you may find reasons in not believing it exists because no one speaks passionate about it…. ofcourse not…. it hurts like hell…..I have never seen anyone getting a broken arm and speak passionate about it, no it freaking hurts. I know there are probably people that would say, if that is true why would you even want sex then.. To them i say 2 things; First I think, but i cannot prove it ofcourse, they are the ones enjoying it more than those without blueballs. (no offense meant to anyone). And second if women really feel soo much pain (which i personally DO believe) while pushing a baby out why would women even want to give birth… or if you have experienced pregnancy why would you ever do it again if it hurts that bad…

    I think the writer did good on writing this item, I am however very surprised at his assumption that some or a lot of men might fake this. I think most men have it but choose not to talk about it and yes there might be men taking advantage of it, but stating that it might not exist because of that, feels to me like saying women can’t be raped because they either ask for it or they lie about it. To me that statement is just as horrific

  18. Thomas says:

    I’ve had it a number of times it hurts real bad. Once it lasted for two days after my experience. It sucks.

  19. Michael Harrington says:

    Ladies… if your guy suffers from blue balls, it is because it takes him too long to climax. An easy solution is the use of a penis health creme that contains acetyl L carnitine. Acetyl L is a natural, safe supplement that has been proven to enhance penile sensitivity. If his penis is more sensitive, then he will achieve orgasm and avoid blue balls. There are many other benefits to using one of these cremes (smooth skin, increased blood flow etc.) as well, so he should start using one today.

  20. jason larose says:

    Im here because my wife decided to tease me for the past 5 hours and my freaking nuts hurt soo damn bad..She was getting me areoused for 30mins and then I’ll go soft for 10 mins then back aroused then back soft etccccccc for the past 5 hours..my nuts hurt so bad

  21. John says:

    I just got through my first real “date” that lasted all day. This girl is really cute and we get along really well. Anyway, by the end of the date, my testicals were really tender and hurt really bad! But the thing is that we never got sexual at all. I didn’t even kiss her, hold her hand or anything. I could tell that I was sexually aroused quite a bit throughout the date though. I noticed that I was getting a bunch of semi erections, but never a full erection. I’m not around a lot of girls, especially ones this cute that are into me. So maybe that is the reason that I was getting at aroused without any sexual behavior. The pain is real though! They hurt REALLY bad! It was hard to even move around without a lot of pain. It felt like inflammation pain, like when you have a migraine headache and it hurts when you bend over. Or when you roll your ankle or sprain your ankle and there is a swelling pain that persists even if you aren’t moving your ankle, but if you do move it, it hurts even more! I was still getting slightly aroused just thinking about her after my date and I could tell that the pain was getting worse still because of my arousel, so I decided to masturbate to see if that would help ease the pain. Immediately after, I could tell that the pain was still very much there, but I noticed that it wasn’t getting any worse. It took around 15 minutes for the pain to subside and I haven’t felt it since. I am going on another day long date with her, and I know that things are going to get a bit more personal so I wanted to take some precautions to avoid getting these “blue balls” again, because they hurt! And yes, they are most definitely real. Stop being so damn sexy, ladies!!

  22. Jeff is (Nottheone) says:

    So, you just sat down and started typing right? Because there is no way you actually did any research on this. The new england journal of medicine not only disagrees with you that this is rare, but says it is something nearly every man experiences at least once in their lives, and explains the cause that seems to have eluded you as well.
    As a man becomes sexually aroused, the arteries carrying blood to his genitals enlarge, while the veins carrying blood away constrict. This traps the blood in the genitals, helping him maintain an erection. It also swells the testes to 25 to 50 percent larger than their normal size. Soon, the man will reach orgasm and everything in the genitals will return to their normal state. Unfortunately, in this case, he doesn’t. Blood pressure continues to build in the genitals through a process called vasocongestion, which makes it feel like someone is squeezing the testes.Though the testes certainly feel bruised and blue at this point, the term comes from the bluish hue that develops on the testicles, according to the University of California, Santa Barbara. Oxygen-rich blood passing through the body is red. But when it loses oxygen — from being trapped in the testicles — it begins to turn blue. Hence, blue balls.

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