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The Most Powerful Ways to Stop Being Horny: No Masturbating or Sex

Do you have a hard time controlling your sexual urges? If you want to know how to stop being horny, we have every single way you can use to fix it ASAP!

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If you’re horny, you have sex. If you have no partner, you masturbate. But what if you don’t want to resort to those two methods? Well, sex and masturbation are great ways to relieve sexual tension and reduce your carnal urges. But there are other ways to stop being horny too!

Feeling horny is a natural body response we all know so well. All people experience it—even those people who claim they are asexual *who may prefer to masturbate over banging someone else*.

We feel these sexual urges because of our biological impulse to proliferate our species. And the far simpler reason, sex is so damn good.

But when you’re feeling so horny that every sturdy table leg or the corner of a table start looking like a perfect specimen of the opposite sex, maybe that’s a good time to wonder what you can do to stop being horny.

Firstly, sex or arousal isn’t a bad thing!

Ah, let’s get this out of the way to begin with. There are many people who feel terrible guilt each time they feel themselves getting aroused.

As much as you’ve heard “someone” tell you that feeling horny is a bad thing, it’s not. All of us experience it often, and it’s just another sign that your body is functioning, and everything down there is in perfect order.

So if you feel bad for getting wet or hard, relax, and just remember that it’s nothing to be ashamed of!

Are you really so horny that you need to stop being horny?

So before we get to the ways to fix your spectacular levels of horniness, let’s just make sure you are in fact, extra-horny! Are you? Or are you just a normal level of horny, but you have no idea because you haven’t talked about it with anyone else?

While there is no set rule or number of orgasms or ejaculations to define an extra horny pervert, there are a few ways to help you with this.

1. Are you able to control your sexual urges when you feel horny?

2. Can you function normally when you don’t masturbate or have sex for a day? Or do you have a hard time focusing on anything, and find yourself easily distracted by anything that looks or feels sexual?

3. You find yourself hard or wet all the time. *this could also be a medical condition, especially if you’re wet all the time, so don’t count that out*

4. You feel horny no matter the circumstances, and not just around one person who sexually excites you.

Now, use these questions to ask yourself if you’re too horny. And then, we’ll get to the ways you can learn how to stop being horny!

[Read: Why do men get random boners? The science behind this untimely bulge]

Why am I always so horny?

So if you find yourself to be one of those people who are extra-horny and want to to know to stop being so horny, let’s get to the why, and try to understand the causes that could lead to the ants in your pants.

There are many reasons why you could be feeling so horny – missing sex, missing your ex, you watched a porn movie, you felt sexually excited around someone, you’re turned on because you’re reading an erotic book or watching a passionate make-out scene, and what not!

In fact, there are so many reasons you could be horny right this moment, that it’s hard to pin all them down.

But in general, here are the main reasons that could lead to you being horny all the time, when you’re not really sure why.

1. Hormones

Yup, pure and simple. Hormones. Sometimes the level of testosterone for men, or the level of estradiol *one of the types of the estrogen hormone* for women can take your horniness to a whole new level.

Sometimes, a girl may experience this during ovulation or during her period. And a guy, well, if you’re wondering how to recognize high testosterone in your body, read this article on the signs of high testosterone to know if it’s because of your hormones.

2. A new sexual interest

Have you started dating someone new? Are you sexually excited by someone you’re interested in? Chances are, your body is preparing you for sex. And lots of it!

This is completely normal, so just enjoy the sexual rush and bang each other like horny bunnies until your horny meter starts to stabilize again.

3. You have a higher sex drive

A blessing? A curse? Some people are just gifted with a larger-than-life sex drive. If you’re one of them, learn to control it and explore it without letting it affect the other parts of your life. And read these 15 scientific reasons why you have a high sex drive and what to do about it.

4. Too much masturbation

Yup, having too much fun all by yourself can make you just as horny as being around someone who sexually excites you.

How often have you been masturbating recently? Are you replacing your vibrator’s batteries faster than you can order the next batch? Are you using more lotion on your palms than the rest of your body? Yup, these are all good signs to know you’re enjoying yourself just a little too much, and a little too often!

[Read: Chronic masturbation and how to stop your hands from lingering in your pants]

How to know if you’re too horny and need to fix it

Being horny and turned on is good if you’re about to get laid. Other than that, it merely serves as a distraction and forces you to become sexually frustrated.

While there isn’t any way to compare yourself with someone else and find out if you need to stop being horny, or if you’re too horny for your own good *because let’s face it, we’re all different!*, there are a few ways to know if you’re too horny, by using these signs.

1. You’re not able to concentrate on anything else.

2. You’re stressed, and can’t relax unless you have sex or masturbate.

3. You’re experiencing relationship problems, because of your unusual demand for sex.

4. You spend more of your time looking for way to release your sexual tension.

5. You’re addicted to porn or masturbation.

If you’re looking for more ways and reasons to understand your sexual frustration, read this article on the 13 ways to understand sexual frustration and calm the ants in your pants.

How to stop being horny and calm your mind

There are ways to stop being horny, and calm yourself. Give these tips a try, and you’ll get to a calmer state of mind soon. Of course, sex and masturbation are easy ways, but there are other ways too.

1. Take a shower

The old wives’ tale goes: when in heat, take a dip. However, the effect of a cold shower against horniness varies for each individual.

Some say it helps calm them down. Some say it’s “meh,” and a few believe that it’s actually counter-productive as standing wet, naked, and caressing yourself all over invites more of those urges in. Still, it’s worth a try.

Efficacy rating: 50%

[Read: 14 ways to recognize the horny girl mode and read the signs of female arousal]

2. Exercise

Someone leaning towards Freudian psychology or even New Age philosophy would tell you that getting strong sexual urges is the effect of pent up sexual energy that needs release.

And of course, the perfect way to release it is by way of a strenuous physical activity none other than sexual intercourse.

But instead of intercourse, divert that energy by doing other forms of exercise. So the next time you feel horny, jump into your tracksuit and do twenty laps, hit the gym, or pour it all out on the punching bag. This helps you release that tension and distract your brain from your other urges. And you’ll be too tired after anyway.

Efficacy rating: 80%

[Read: How to tell if a guy is turned on – 22 signs he’s horny AF]

3. Sexual transmutation

Want to convert all of that sexual energy into something more positive and life-goals oriented? Enter sexual transmutation.

When you have a certain amount of sexual energy building up, it can be difficult to think straight. It can be a hindrance to productivity and make it hard to really anything done without errors.

However, when you harness the power of that sexual energy and pour it into something else, the results might just surprise you. 

The word ‘transmutation’ basically means that you’re taking one type of energy and turning it into something else. You’re taking sexual energy and turning it into creative energy, as one example. Want to know how to give this a try? Check it out here – What is sexual transmutation and how to it to harness your sexual energy.

Efficacy: 40-100%

4. Change your diet

Just how aphrodisiacs supposedly increase your libido, certain foodstuffs do the opposite when you consume them. However, take note that these don’t work like medication that takes effect an hour later. You might need to gradually incorporate these into your diet if you feel you’re oversexed. [Read: Nom-nom, no-nos: 17 foods to avoid before having sex]

*Carbonated drinks – drinks with more sugar than water in its formula make you dehydrated and feeling less pleasant than normal. So if you feel horny, chug a little bit of the unhealthy drink.

*Canned foods – high levels of sodium and potassium to keep these canned foods somewhat fresh not only guarantees to make you lose your sex drive, it also makes a man’s spunk taste horrible.

*Soy and cheese – soybean products are a major source of phytoestrogen while cheese gives off a large amount of xenoestrogen. What do they do? They screw up your hormonal balance which manages your libido. So if you want to stop being horny, gorge on these.

*Fats and oils – good old grease may taste good, but it also floods the body with a lot of free radicals screwing up the body’s hormonal balance. Feeling horny? Treat yourself to a good double bacon cheeseburger.

*Alcohol and coffee – combine both in some sort of a speedball and you instantly get limp. Alcohol is often thought to be a form of aphrodisiac, but it actually does otherwise. It screws up your mental state and sex drive. [Read: True sex talk: Alcohol’s effect on sex and your libido]

Efficacy rating: 80% but use at your own risk.

5. Get it out of the way – Masturbate

Sometimes, you just don’t have a choice. Your mind is foggy, you can’t think straight, your blood’s flowing through your loins and your brain’s losing blood fast.

If you’re having a very hard time concentrating on anything, don’t hate yourself for it. Just walk into a private space, flick your bean or choke your chicken, feel shameful and dirty for giving in, and pull yourself together.

There’s always another day and another opportunity to control your sexual urges.

Efficacy: 100% with a side order of guilt and shame.

6. Kill the mood with anything counter-erotic

People, sometimes you get horny because kinky thoughts run through your mind. Just like bad sex, you can put your urges at bay by doing stuff that usually kill the mood for you when you’re about to go at it.

*Watch, read, or listen to comedy – laughter is good except in the bedroom. Watching your favorite sitcom realigns your focus away from sex.

*Or you can choose something more depressing – we’ve been depressed at some point in our life. And one thing for sure is sex is the last thing you’ll be worried about when you’re feeling blue. Watch a good drama or just be reminded of your bad breakup. The brain parts that function when you’re depressed shuts off the other parts making you horny.

*Even scary stuff – a quick jump scare scene definitely deflates your boner. Try it.

Efficacy rating: 70-80%

7. Physical pain

I’m not saying you should hurt yourself, but we’re just letting you know experiencing physical pain would definitely whisk that horniness away.

Unless you are a masochist, that is. It may feel silly just imagining it but if you don’t mind giving yourself a pinch or a slap *and if you’re desperate enough* give it a try. [Read: 13 surprising unknown benefits of not masturbating]

Efficacy rating: 40%

8. Meditation

Feeling horny is a state of mind as much as it is a bodily function. And as Buddhism teaches, one can control desires and urges by practicing mental discipline through meditation.

You don’t need to practice Buddhism altogether. The basic requirement for meditation is simply a quiet and peaceful space where you empty your mind and let go of your desires.

Efficacy rating: 75%

[Read: Why am I so horny? The big reasons why and how to curb it]

9. Schedule a time for it

If you want to know how to stop being horny, and find that controlling your urges is extremely hard, then maybe you can start by scheduling a time for it each day.

By doing this, you can distract yourself even if the thought pops up because you aren’t stopping yourself from masturbating. You’re just pushing it into it’s own place in your schedule.

Efficacy rating: 0% because you’re not solving anything there, and just prolonging the inevitable. But it’s a start!

As a final thought, keep in mind that being too horny or looking for ways to stop being too horny is not a bad thing. You see a problem in your life, and you’re trying to fix it. And for that, you deserve a pat of your back. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

But before you get too carried away, don’t believe you’re too horny unless you know for sure that you’re too horny! Read this article on how to recognize sexual addiction and the ways to handle it so you’re going about this in the most healthiest way possible for yourself.

Being horny is a good thing, but it should learn to know its place. If you do want to stop being horny, use these ways to convert sexual tension into something more positive and enjoyable for yourself.

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