Curious about how guys choose date venues for your first official date? Here’s our insight into the reasons behind the date venues guys pick.
The date venues guys pick are a deciding factor in how your relationship starts. Romantic settings are always the best choices for people who are serious about their dates. Casual locations suggest a reluctance to commit until your date is sure that you’re as sincere as they are.
A lot of times, however, the place he chooses isn’t what matters. The person you’re with and how they treat you is what’s really important. Still, it won’t hurt to know why your partner chose the location of your first date. The reasons can even be amusing, at times. [Read: 20 ways to make your man realize your worth in the relationship & value you]
The Psychology Behind Choosing a Date Venue
When it comes to the world of dating, the choice of a first date venue might seem like a minor detail, but trust us, it’s far from trivial. It’s like unlocking a secret code to someone’s personality, without them even realizing it.
Every time a guy picks a place for a date, whether he’s conscious of it or not, he’s giving you a little sneak peek into his mind and what he’s all about. It’s not just random; there’s a whole lot of psychology simmering beneath that decision.
Let’s start with the basics: personal preferences and comfort zones. We all have our favorite hangouts, right? The places where we feel most at home. When a guy chooses one of these spots for a date, it’s like he’s inviting you into his world. It’s comfortable, familiar.
But here’s the catch – is he playing it too safe? Sticking to his comfort zone could be a sign he’s not ready to venture out into something new, including a serious relationship.
Now, let’s talk about social and cultural influences. You know how we’re all a bit influenced by what’s trendy or what our friends think is cool? That’s a big factor in date venues guys pick.
If he’s taking you to the latest hot spot, it might mean he cares a lot about keeping up appearances and what others think. But on the flip side, it could also mean he’s trying to impress you, showing that he’s in tune with what’s current and exciting. [Read: How guys flirt: 25 subtle things guys do to impress a girl]
Moving on to the connection between venue choice and personality traits. This is where it gets interesting. Is he the adventurous type choosing an outdoor hike, or the artsy guy opting for a quiet visit to an art gallery? The venue can be a mirror reflecting parts of his personality.
Adventurous spots might mean he’s spontaneous and fun-loving, while a more subdued, intellectual setting could hint at a deeper, more introspective side.
Finally, there’s the bit about intentions and seriousness. Ever thought about what it means when he picks a fancy restaurant compared to just a casual coffee shop? The former might scream ‘I’m serious and I want to impress you’, while the latter could be saying ‘I’m here for a relaxed, real conversation’. [Read: 49 signs he wants a serious, exclusive & committed relationship with you]
Each place holds a clue about what he’s looking for in the relationship, whether it’s something casual or he’s in it for the long haul.
What Does His Chosen First Date Location Say About Him?
When it comes to first dates, the venue can be quite telling. Of course, we’re not here to generalize—everyone is unique in their own way. However, there can be subtle hints about his personality and intentions based on where he decides to take you.
1. Expensive Restaurants
Only two kinds of guys will choose an expensive restaurant for a first date, and only one of them can afford it. He’s either very rich or very whipped.
Taking you to an expensive restaurant shows that they’re willing to shell out this much dough for succeeding dates in your relationship. Whichever of the two it may be, it might still mean you’re dating an overcompensating schmuck.
2. Casual Diner
It’s so ordinary that it could be considered cool. The casual setting allows you to let your guard down, so you can enjoy your night without any pressure. Either that, or you’re just stuck with a good, old-fashioned cheapskate. [Read: What does casual dating mean to a guy: Are you about to be hurt?]
3. A Vegetarian/Vegan Restaurant
A guy might choose a vegetarian or vegan restaurant for your date for a couple of reasons: a) it’s your preference, or b) he’s passionate about healthy living and sustainability. These choices reflect a thoughtful consideration of dietary preferences and a commitment to personal and environmental health.
People who follow vegan or vegetarian diets tend to be conscientious about their choices. Choosing this type of restaurant can show that he’s respectful of your preferences and interested in exploring diverse culinary landscapes.
Plus, embracing a diet centered around vegetables and whole foods can be a great step towards a healthier lifestyle for both of you.
4. Amusement Parks
The guy who will take you to an amusement park has a very obvious playful side. He probably knows that you’ll have more unadulterated fun in an active setting like that. [Read: 80 very unique, fun and exciting things to do with your boyfriend]
5. A Regular Park
The walk-in-the-park guy is probably sensitive and down-to-earth. He is also a romantic who enjoys the simple things in life. A walk in the park seems inexpensive, but there are so many things to do in the big city parks.
There are lots of food options, as well as extra-curricular activities for you and your date to try. Although, there’s a slim chance that your date probably lives in said park if he thinks that it’s a good location for a first date.
6 A Different Country
Remember when Monica of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. and one of her boyfriends went on their first date to an Italian restaurant in Rome? If your date takes you on a date like that, you’re probably dating Jon Favreau.
Men like these are part of the very elite 0.1%. They either own a huge company or a company that owns huge companies. A first date in Canada and Mexico don’t count if you live within 100 miles of those countries. [Read: Is it too soon to start traveling together?]
7. International Cuisine
Ah, an adventurer! A guy who takes you to places that serve exotic dishes probably loves experiencing new things. Your travel itinerary will never be boring when you’re dating someone who loves trying foreign food.
If it turns out that he’s not as adventurous as you thought, he probably just really liked the specials and was too shy to ask if you preferred to get takeout instead. [Read: Romantic dinner date ideas for two]
8. Their Parent’s House
He wants you to meet his parents! Awww. This guy knows what he wants and he’s not afraid to make a move as serious as this one. It’s a big step, inviting you into his family circle right from the start.
Ladies, if you’re envisioning a future with someone who’s ready for commitment, keep an eye out for guys who take you to their parents’ house on the first date.
But let’s be honest, while it’s endearing, it can also feel like it’s too much, too soon. It’s important to gauge your comfort level with this kind of eagerness.
9. Bars
It can be a good sign because it shows that a guy is willing to be real with you. He likes going to bars, so he’ll take you to a bar. You can relax, and enjoy talking to each other in an easy setting.
There are lots of food options like onion rings, cheese sticks, and whatnot. And lucky you if the bar serves Pigs in a Blanket! Also, you might be dating an alcoholic, but hey, free shots!
10. Pubs
A European bar. There’s a possibility that your date might be sporting his own Pig in a Blanket.
11. Clubs
Your date loves the party scene, but he also wants to experience it with you. He lives for the night, but he’s not a vampire. You’ll end up spending the night together, but it’s not what you think. [Read: Sleeping over at his place? 25 first time must-knows & tips to do it right]
You’ll leave the club as morning seeps through the sky. Bonus points if he takes you somewhere with a good view of the sunrise. If he only calls you for club meet ups, however, he’s probably a promoter, and your name helps him get his quota.
12. A High School Prom
It’s cute, it’s nostalgic and it’s free – unless there are tickets involved. Your date knows how to surprise you with quirky dates like this, and he knows that proms are the prime place to get free booze. Just make sure that you check their driver’s license, and see if they’re not part of the curriculum.
13. A Palace
He might be a part of the royal entourage or has enough connections to get you into a high-security location like this one. Who cares? Your first date is in a palace!
A guy like this will probably treat you like a princess because he hangs out with the likes of princesses and princes. He can also be either Prince Harry, or he scored you both killer tour group tickets.
14. A Castle
He’s a prince from the past who’s looking for a maiden he can take home to his dying father, the king. That would be so cool, but the best you can hope for is that this guy’s from old money, and he’s not shy about showing you his roots. Either that or like we said before: killer tour group tickets.
15. A Coffee Shop
They’re pretty tame, but it’s a nice place for you to get to know each other because the seats are comfy, and the decor makes you feel like the ten-dollar cup of coffee is worth it.
The guy who takes you to a place like this is probably wary of taking you out somewhere fancy because he doesn’t know if you’re really into him. If that isn’t the case, he’s probably a basic bro who knows the whole coffee menu by heart.
16. A Milk Tea Shop
Hipster basic bro. Period.
17. His Place
Oh, you know how this ends. The guy who suggests going to his place is only in it for the booty. But sometimes they can surprise you. They might not have any nefarious plans and just want you to meet their cat? [Read: Sex on the first date – should you give in to the urge?]
18. Your Place
The guy who takes you to your own place is someone who YOU asked out for the sole reason of showing him your own cat. Either that, or you were just really, really horny.
19. A Stable
This guy’s a billionaire in the making. He has dark hair, and intensely blue eyes and always wears his shirts with the top buttons undone. His hair might be long or short, depending on how you like it.
He will only go out with you if you’re an innocent heiress who spends an inordinate amount of time in the stable he works in.
You will have a passionate love affair that ends with your father taking you somewhere halfway around the world. When you return, that guy will be the richest man on earth, and you’ll live happily ever after.
20. Skype
His name is either Nev or Max, and they’re the hosts of a popular TV show on MTV. [Read: 34 best virtual date ideas, must-knows & where most people go wrong online]
21. Bowling
He has no originality or any qualms about using rented shoes that have been worn by hundreds of other people. He will show you a good time and will probably dump you if you bowl a turkey.
Don’t worry. The next date will go better because he’s going to take you to an ice-skating rink!
22. The Beach
He’s either a surfer or someone who grew up in Southern California. He wants you to experience the serene and calming effect that the sea has on him.
He wants you to be one with the waves, and he’s itching to see you in a bikini… But you brought a rash guard instead.
23. A Concert
This guy either really likes you or he really likes the band. He wants to impress you with his musical tastes, but he probably won’t care if your legs give out because “You’re not supposed to sit in a concert!”
If you’re rolling in the VIP section, good for you. If he got you nosebleed seats, urge him to play his iPod on your date instead. [Read: Ways to make dating a music lover more fun]
24. A Karaoke Bar
He’s either from Southeast Asia or he’s got a really, really good voice. This guy wants to impress you and endear you.
He has a song lined up to make you feel awkward and warm and fluffy inside, all at the same time. He also signed you up to sing “Endless Love” with him.
25. The Perfect Location
Even if you’ve experienced lots of first dates in the locations mentioned above, none of it would matter if you spent that time with someone you really liked.
The perfect first date location is anywhere that you feel comfortable with. It’s the only place where you’ll start to feel those initial sparks that will signal the start of a loving relationship. [Read: The dating girl code all girls definitely need to know!]
26. Art Museum or Gallery
Choosing an art museum or gallery shows he’s got a taste for culture and enjoys deep, thoughtful conversations. This kind of setting is perfect for wandering and talking, giving both of you a chance to dive into each other’s perspectives and preferences in art.
It suggests he values creativity and intellect, and is likely looking for a partner who shares these interests. It’s a subtle way of showing he’s interested in more than just a casual hangout, aiming for a connection that’s both intellectually and emotionally stimulating.
27. Cooking Class
Opting for a cooking class indicates he’s into trying new things and values shared experiences. This choice shows he’s not afraid of a little teamwork, and he’s interested in creating something together, which can be a metaphor for building a relationship. [Read: Foodie dates: Trendy dinner ideas for new couples]
It’s an intimate setting that requires cooperation and can lead to playful and memorable moments. A guy who chooses this venue enjoys learning and is open to new experiences, looking for a partner who’s willing to step out of their comfort zone alongside him.
28. Hiking or Nature Trail
Choosing a hike or a walk through a nature trail suggests he’s an outdoor enthusiast and values physical activity and nature. It’s a setting that strips away the urban distractions, allowing both of you to connect more deeply with each other and with nature.
This venue shows he’s health-conscious, down-to-earth, and enjoys the simpler things in life. It also hints at a desire for meaningful conversation, away from the typical hustle and bustle of city life.
29. Bookstore or Library
If he suggests meeting up at a bookstore or library, he’s likely an intellectual type who enjoys reading and learning. It is perfect for calm, introspective conversations and can give insights into each other’s interests and personalities based on book choices.
It’s a low-key, pressure-free environment, suggesting he’s more interested in connecting mentally and finding common intellectual ground. [Read: Dating a bookworm like you’re in a romance novel]
30. Wine Tasting
A wine tasting date indicates a taste for the finer things in life and an interest in sophisticated, sensory experiences. It’s a classy setting that requires a bit of knowledge about wine, suggesting he’s knowledgeable or at least appreciates good wine and good company.
Booking wine tasting for your first date reflects a certain level of maturity and a desire for a date that’s a bit more upscale than casual, but still relaxed in nature.
31. Planetarium or Observatory
If he’s into stargazing at a planetarium or observatory, it shows he has a sense of wonder and possibly a scientific or philosophical streak.
This unique choice indicates he’s thoughtful and enjoys sharing awe-inspiring experiences. It’s a romantic setting that encourages intimate conversation under the stars, suggesting a dreamy and contemplative nature.
Let’s be honest, how many times do you get invited to an observatory date? This rare and intriguing choice definitely sets the stage for a night that’s as memorable as it is unique.
32. Escape Room
An escape room date is a great way to see how well you both work under pressure and solve problems together. It indicates he enjoys challenges and has a playful side.
Choosing this suggests he values teamwork and is interested in seeing how well you both can connect and collaborate in a fun, slightly stressful situation.
An escape room is a great way to ease nerves compared to more traditional dates, like sitting face-to-face in a quiet restaurant. [Read: Easy ways to avoid awkward silences during a date]
The interactive nature of an escape room keeps things engaging and dynamic, allowing both of you to be more relaxed and genuine as you focus on the puzzles rather than on making constant conversation.
33. Live Theater or Opera
Opting for a live theater or opera shows he appreciates performing arts and has a taste for sophisticated, cultural experiences. This suggests he’s willing to invest time and money into a shared experience that’s a bit more upscale and intellectual.
It’s a venue that indicates he enjoys deep stories and emotions, looking for a partner who can appreciate these aspects of culture.
34. Aquarium
A date at an aquarium suggests a love for marine life and a calm, serene environment. It’s a unique setting that allows for leisurely strolls and easy conversation, amidst the beauty of ocean life.
An aquarium date could indicate he enjoys tranquil, visually stimulating environments and is interested in a peaceful yet engaging experience with you.
35. Historical Site or Landmark
Choosing a historical site or landmark indicates an interest in history and learning. It shows he values knowledge and perhaps enjoys discussing historical events or stories.
This setting can provide a backdrop for deep conversations and a shared experience of learning something new together. It suggests he’s intellectual and looks for depth in both experiences and relationships.
Venue Choices and Relationship Predictions
We’re no fortune tellers, but let’s have a little fun speculating, shall we? When it comes to deciphering what date venues guys pick, it’s almost like getting a sneak peek into the crystal ball of your potential relationship.
So, let’s break it down and see what these choices might whisper about the future of your budding romance.
1. High-Energy Venues *Concerts, Festivals*
When a guy chooses a high-energy venue like a concert or a festival, it’s a pretty good sign he’s all about fun and thrives in social settings. This choice points to a personality that’s extroverted, loves to be surrounded by people, and enjoys the buzz of a lively atmosphere.
If you’re into someone who’s the life of the party and can make any outing an adventure, this is your guy. The potential relationship could be filled with spontaneous plans and exciting outings.
However, keep in mind, that if you’re someone who prefers quiet, intimate settings, this might be a signal of differing lifestyle preferences. [Read: Can an introvert date an extrovert? How to balance the two worlds]
2. Intimate Settings *Cooking Class, Picnic*
Opting for an intimate setting like a cooking class or a picnic is a strong indicator that he’s interested in building a personal connection. It shows he values quality time and is likely to be more thoughtful and attentive in a relationship.
These settings create opportunities for deeper conversations and meaningful interactions, away from the distractions of a typical date environment. It suggests that he’s serious about getting to know you and is comfortable with closeness and vulnerability.
If you’re looking for a relationship where emotional intimacy and personal sharing are priorities, this could be a promising sign.
3. Trendy or Unique Spots *Escape Room, Speakeasy Bar*
When he picks a trendy or unique spot, it’s like a billboard saying he loves to keep things interesting and is keen on making a good impression. This reflects a creative spirit and someone who’s not afraid to think outside the box. It’s likely he’s up for trying new things and enjoys experiences that are out of the ordinary.
In a relationship, you can expect this kind of guy to keep surprising you and keep the spark alive with his innovative ideas. However, keep an eye out to see if this creativity is just surface level or if it translates into deeper aspects of his personality and your potential relationship. [Read: Dating an artist: 31 traits of a creative person & must-knows to date them]
4. Home-Cooked Meal
If he invites you over for a home-cooked meal, it’s a heartwarming sign he’s willing to put in the effort and show you a more personal side of himself. It’s all about comfort, intimacy, and a willingness to open up his personal space to you.
It indicates a desire for a genuine connection and shows that he values nurturing and caring for someone he’s interested in.
In terms of a relationship, this choice suggests he might be the type to prioritize cozy nights in and value the simple, heartfelt moments over grand gestures. It’s a sign of someone who’s comfortable with intimacy and is open to letting you into his world.
Focus on the Date
Half the reasons up here were written in jest, but half of them are basically true. Guys have different tastes and passions, so it’s understandable that some of them will take you to surprising first-date locations.
[Read: What to do on a first date to make it special and super-memorable]
The important thing to remember is that you should focus more on your date, rather than the date venues guys pick.
