A guy will only give his time and energy to someone he sees a future with. Sometimes, a guy may show mixed signals, leading you to believe that he wants a relationship with you when really, he simply wants something that’s no-strings-attached.
You should try to be honest with yourself if you see red flags early on that indicate that he is not truly interested in going further with you. However, there are ways to tell if things are leading to a relationship, or simply just friends with benefits. [Read: How to know if your guy is boyfriend material or just a fling thing]
How to know if a guy really wants a serious relationship with you
There are many signs that can be a good giveaway that a guy is indeed serious about you, but these 8 signs are foolproof ways to know for sure if he wants to be exclusive with you or not.
#1 He tells you about his goals. A guy who is serious about you will tell you about his goals and his dreams. This is his way of letting you know what he wants to achieve in life, and of seeing if you are both going down a similar life path.
If he does not tell you about his aspirations, then he probably wants to keep things simple and does not see things lasting for a long time. Oftentimes, a guy will give you just enough information about himself to keep you guessing if he does not see a future with you.
Sharing goals may seem like a minor task, but it is his way of opening up and letting you in. One main focus in life for most guys is reaching their highest potential and having a partner that is supportive. Also, guys are very expressive and they are more about taking action than talking about it. This is a sure sign that he takes you seriously and is looking to build a relationship with you. If you ask him about his goals and he keeps the conversation just at surface level, then maybe he is just not that into you. [Read: 14 undeniable signs he wants to spend his life with you]
#2 He introduces you to friends and family. Mentioning you or introducing you to his family and friends is one of the best indicators that he wants to be exclusive with you. When a guy is not serious about someone, he will not take the time to integrate them into his world.
When he introduces you to his friends and family, make sure you pay attention to the way he introduces you to them. Nothing better clarifies whether or not he wants something serious than him telling them about you, and what you mean to him. [Read: Does he really love you? 20 sure signs to read his mind]
#3 He expresses his feelings freely. When a guy sees a future with you, he will let his guard down and express his feelings to you. He will not hold back about the way he feels about you and what he thinks of you. When he gets to know you and his mushy side starts to show, then you are definitely heading down the path of commitment.
It takes a lot for a guy to be emotional, and it is a true sign of trust when he shows you his emotional side. When a guy sees you as just a fling, then he will treat you as just a fling. There are usually no gray areas with guys, and they are up front about what they are looking for when it comes to dating.
Additionally, pay attention to not only his words, but also his actions. The saying remains true that actions speak much louder than words. If he says he likes you, but does not contact you or try to spend time with you, then it is obvious that he is playing games with you. [Read: 10 signs he’s faking love just to sleep with you]
On the other hand, if he says he likes you and shows it, then he is taking the steps to truly build a foundation with you. You should never have to ask someone how he or she feels about you, because they should express it freely.
#4 He includes you in his future. Another great sign that he wants a relationship with you is if he includes you in his future plans. If he begins to say ‘we’ this or ‘we’ that, then he wants to get serious with you. A guy who does not see himself with someone will not visualize himself with the person he is just dating to pass the time. Yes, guys will date women just for fun, and of course, for sex. Say, for instance, he includes you in his travel plans for the upcoming year without you asking, then clearly he wants to make memories with you.
No one knows what his or her future holds, but we all continue to plan for it anyway. Guys are comfortable with going into the world alone, with just their friends and family. If a girl comes along that is unique and intriguing, then he will want to keep her around. As soon as a guy can see a future with someone, he will start to include them in everything. He will include you in his business plans or ideas; he will include you in family gatherings, and so forth. [Read: 25 signs he really loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]
#5 He spends a lot of time with you. Guys like people, places, and things that are easy to be around. If he enjoys your company and digs your vibe, then he will always make time for you. Even if it is just to see your face for a second during a video chat in the middle of the day, that is still making time for you.
You see, a guy will not take time out of his busy schedule for someone he does not care about. Guys are practical, and if spending time with you makes him feel good, then he will jump through hoops to be with you.
Time is an investment in a future with you, and he will get to know more about you the more time he spends with you. Remember, if he is not that into you, then he will ignore you or always make the excuse that he is busy. No one is ever that “busy,” and people only make time for what they want to make time for. Another great indicator is if he always initiates plans for you and him to spend time together. This is his way of showing you that you are important to him and worth his time. [Read: 22 early warning signs or a bad boyfriend]
#6 He does not play games. If a guy is serious about a future with you, then he will not play games. You know, those silly little games like ignoring your calls/texts, leading you on, saying one thing then doing another, and so on.
When a guy is truly digging a girl, he will put all of the childish games aside to show her that he wants something more with her. If you continuously find yourself questioning his intentions and where the two of you stand, then walk away. Again, guys are straightforward and logical, so he will not waste time by playing games with someone he sees himself with. [Read: 16 reasons why your boyfriend could be so mean!]
#7 He stops seeing other people. Really, you should not have to second guess if he is serious about you if he stops seeing other people. He is so enthralled with you that you are enough and he does not need to look for anyone else. He knows that you are the girl who makes him happy, who he loves to spend time with, and who he wants to continuously build a foundation for a life with. It will make sense to him to use all of his efforts and energy to make you happy. If he does not want to be exclusive with you, then he will make it clear that he wants to continue to test the waters with other people. [Read: 6 very obvious signs he will never ever be in a relationship with you]
#8 He tells you that he wants to settle down with you. Finally, there is no surer sign of whether or not he wants to commit to you than him telling you that he wants to be with you. All doubts, questions, and worries will cease as soon as those words leave his mouth.
At that point, you should know for sure that you two will be together. He will not only tell you that he wants to settle down with you, but his actions will begin to reflect boyfriend behavior. If you really like him and your goal was always to be with him, then you can smile, knowing that you finally won his heart. There is no better way to know if someone wants to be in a relationship with you than when their actions and words align to show you. [Read: 16 easy ways to make your boyfriend want you more than ever]
When a guy wants to be exclusive with you, he will make it known. Remember to pay attention to his words and to his actions. If he includes you in his future, loves to spend time with you, stops seeing other people, and tells you he wants to be with you, then you two are on a clear path to commitment.
If you’re unsure about a guy, do not settle for games or always doubting if he wants something more with you, because it will drive you crazy. Just move on and stay hopeful, because someone else was meant to be with you.
[Read: 25 signs and qualities that make a guy a really good boyfriend]
So do you see these 8 big signs he wants a serious relationship in your own love life? Well, if you do, that’s the surest way to know the guy you’re with thinks you’re a catch who’s not worth letting go!
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