What Do Girls Find Attractive? 15 Things All Girls Find Appealing

Attraction can be subjective. But if you’ve been wondering what do girls find attractive, there are some things that they find universally appealing.

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Asking what do girls find attractive is tricky, because attraction is such a subjective thing. Who among us hasn’t seen the hottest girl in the world with a mate we consider mediocre and wonder what he had to offer?

The truth is that even the most world renowned scientists haven’t entirely figured out the reason sexes unite.

There are some generally agreed upon things that girls find attractive, however. And, some things that we definitely don’t. Unfortunately, most guys are completely clueless about the difference.

So what do girls find attractive?

Believe it or not, attraction is most likely not all about the six pack abs *although we do like that*, or the huge bank account *although that is nice too*, but rather, it is about the whole package. Here are the answers to what do girls find attractive.

#1 Sense of humor. I know it sounds so completely cliché, but having a good sense of humor is one of the most attractive traits that a guy can have.

If you are someone who can’t find the funny in the most unfunny time, then you aren’t attractive when we really need you to be. A smile and a good joke can make any girl swoon. [Read: What girls find attractive – 25 traits that make you irresistible]

#2 Ambition. It isn’t that we want a guy who is going to take over the world. But, a girl wants to know that the guy she is dating has a plan.

If you are working a minimum wage job with no expectations but to pay rent and buy some mayonnaise for your refrigerator, that isn’t very attractive. Ambition is sort of like passion; it gives a spark that ignites a girl’s attraction meter.

#3 Good dresser. I say that very liberally. It isn’t really that you are a trendy guy or that you have the latest clothes. Being a good dresser is about knowing what your style is and owning it. If you are a ripped jeans and t-shirt kind of guy, then stay that way.

You aren’t going to impress her by picking up a fashion magazine and wearing something that isn’t “you.” Being comfortable with yourself includes being comfortable with your own sense of style. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you and like you without even talking to her]

#4 Know etiquette. In the same fashion, knowing what is appropriate behavior is highly attractive. You can be the jean type of guy, but what girls find attractive is a guy who can go from bar wear to a suit and tie to fit any occasion. That involves being self-aware and it exudes maturity. Those are two very attractive traits.

#5 Kindness. Girls want a guy who can exhibit kindness. We aren’t looking for the tough guy all the time. We want someone who can be tough, but also empathetic. If you see someone struggling, it is very attractive to step in and help.

We like the rough and tumble combined with the Boy Scout who helps the old lady across the street. Kindness is a quality that allows us to see your tender side. This will help them see you as a good candidate for a husband and father. [Read: 12 Prince Charming traits that make all girls swoon]

#6 Chivalry. Every girl wants her Prince Charming. That doesn’t mean that you have to sweep her off her feet at every date or conduct yourself impeccably, but it is very attractive when you show respect for a woman by pulling out her chair or opening the door.

Not just at the restaurant, but also her car door and ordering for her if the occasion is appropriate. Women find someone who will take care of them and consider them admirable, very attractive.

#7 An easy-going attitude. When you are a couple, there are bound to be times of great stress and peaks and valleys. What a girl finds attractive is a guy who can roll with it. So what if the restaurant loses your reservation?

The key is to be able to change directions and save the day. If you sulk, throw a fit, or just lose your shit every time something doesn’t go the way that you planned, or you want, that is definitely not attractive in the least. If you want to turn her on, be the guy that can take lemons and make a great lemonade cocktail. [Read: How to be a man the way he really should be]

#8 Pick up the tab. Even if you aren’t a millionaire, a guy who will pick up the tab is very attractive. If you are out with a group, you don’t have to pick up the table tab, but make sure that if you like a girl or are on a date with her, you pay for her at least at the beginning.

If you let her pay her own way, it tells her that you are stingy and that you don’t think she is worth it. Those are two things that aren’t attractive in the least.

#9 Be fit. Not everyone is into the body-building meathead body type. But, in general, women likes a guy who takes care of himself. You don’t have to work out 24/7 or be full of muscles, but we like to see that you are going to live past the age of 50 without having a heart attack.

As much as guys think that women like to nag, we don’t. By nature, we feel like it is our responsibility to take care of the people we love. There is nothing attractive about looking at a guy who doesn’t take care of himself. That is just another project we don’t want to take on. [Read: How to be the “hot guy” all girls love – 20 rules to instant hotness]

#10 Don’t smoke or get sloppy drunk. If you want a woman to find you attractive, don’t pull out a cigarette when picking her up for a date or get sloppy drunk when you are out. It isn’t that we don’t want a guy who parties, but there is nothing attractive about an obnoxious drunk.

It just tells us that you have very little self-control. When you are trying to get to know a girl, take the time to get to know each other before you pull all the skeletons out of the closet and show the worst qualities you have. It isn’t tough or cool to be a loud-mouth smoking drunk; it is just ugly.

#11 Smell good. There is nothing that is more attractive to a woman than a guy who smells good. That is easier said than done. We want to get a whiff of your manly scent, but we also don’t want to be overpowered by your cologne.

Somewhere in between is perfect. If you are going out for the night apply some cologne, but just enough to leave her with a little hint, not a bad taste in her mouth because it is so heavy she can taste it. [Read: 50 cute and sexy things guys do that girls love]

#12 Don’t be an octopus. No girl wants a guy who is all over them on the first, second, or third date. A girl finds a guy who can control his urges – but still lets her know he is interested – most attractive. Sound confusing?

If you want to be attractive to a woman, then it is the soft and sensual touch that we like – not the groping, sexual innuendos that are inappropriate, or shoving your tongue down her throat.

If you want to be attractive, touch her back to escort her lightly, brush up against her thigh, or even take her hand in yours. Romantic is not dead, and if you want to be attractive enough to make it to her bed, then start slowly, show respect, and don’t be overly pressuring. [Read: How to touch a girl on a date and make her desire you]

#13 Listen. A girl finds a guy who listens very attractive. If you are getting to know her and can’t be bothered with the small talk, look around the room, or find the game on the television more interesting than what she has to say, that isn’t attractive at all.

If you want her to find you hot, then actively listen to what she says by asking questions, maintaining eye contact, and showing interest even if you aren’t exactly interested. Being active doesn’t mean dominating the conversation, but taking turns.

Try to save the “college” stories for a later time, she doesn’t need to know what you and your frat boys did to the pledges in your house. That is NOT attractive at all. [Read: How to sweet-talk a girl and make her melt]

#14 Talk favorably. Girls don’t like guys who talk about their exes, their friends, or their family in a negative manner. If you are going to talk about characters in your life, try to be positive about them.

Trashing your ex isn’t going to sound attractive, but spiteful… and that is something no girl wants to deal with. Positivity is one of the most attractive traits a guy can possess, so put negatives away. [Read: How to make a girl really want you and think of you sexually]

#15 Do what she likes to do. One of the most attractive things a guy can do is to find out what a girl likes to do and make a date to do it. Consideration mixed with spontaneity are two highly attractive characteristics to a girl. It shows them that you aren’t shallow or self-absorbed, and that you care about what she wants and likes.

[Read: How to win a girl’s heart and impress her effortlessly]

If you are wondering what do girls find attractive, it depends a little on the girl, your age, and finding out what makes her tick. In general, if you follow the 15 rules above, and just be you, if you have the right chemistry, you will win her heart.

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Julie Keating

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