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How to Get a Girl to Notice & Get Interested In You Before You Talk to Her

If you want to impress a girl you like, but you don’t know how to, don’t worry. Use these tips for how to get a girl to notice you and you’ll do just that!

how to get a girl to notice you

Do you like someone, but just don’t know how to get a girl to notice you?

If you have the time and the patience, there are some pretty easy ways to get any girl to notice you, get her interested in you, and make a great impression at the same time.

Have you bumped into a girl you find attractive in a place you frequent? It may be at work, in the corridors of college, or even in a café that you frequent.

When you like a girl who frequents the same place as you, it’s not always the best idea to walk up to her and use a pickup line.

After all, both of you are going to bump in often, and if she turns you down, you’ll always feel like a loser when she walks past you the next time around.

But if it’s a one-off opportunity you have to talk to a girl you like, use these tips on how to talk to a girl and impress her to charm her.

How to get a girl to notice you and get interested in you even before you approach her

If you like a girl who bumps into you now and then, it’s always better to get her to notice you first before you walk up to her and charm her pants off.

By doing that, you’d be playing it safer, she’d be more familiar with you and your presence, and with any luck and a few tips here, you could probably make her like you without even saying hello!

Sometimes, the girl you like may never even notice you or realize you exist. Well, it can hurt your ego, but this does happen at times and you just have to get out of that slump.

If you want to get a girl to notice you and like you, you need to look for ways to catch her attention.

Just use these tips for starters, and you’ll definitely get a girl to notice you, get interested and even like you even before you talk to her! [Read: Easy tips to get a girl’s attention wherever you are]

1. Be the center of attention

You walk into her often. But if you want her attention, you need to be the center of everyone’s attention. Be fun and have your friends around you, especially when the girl you like walks by.

Groups of people always get more attention than a single you skulking in a corner.

You may assume that you’d get lost in the group, but even when you’re with your friends, your infectious attitude and fun persona can make you stand apart from the rest. [Read: The best ways to look good while trying to get someone’s attention]

2. Dress well

If you want a girl to notice you and get interested, start by dressing smart. When you dress like a million bucks in clothes that fit you and look great on you while accentuating your assets at the same time, you’re bound to get the attention you want.

Don’t be afraid to look unique or different, just as long as what you wear looks good on you.

But don’t dress up just to get attention. There’s a thin line between looking good and looking for attention. It’s a good start to let the girl you like know that you’re a guy who can groom himself and take care of himself. [Read: What is peacocking? The many types and why guys show off around girls]

3. Make eye contact with her now and then

At first, getting her to notice you may take a while, especially if you’ve been the shy guy who avoids any kind of attention. [Read: Do girls ever like shy guys?]

But whenever you get a window of opportunity, lock eyes with her just for a second. Stare at her for too long and she’ll think you’re creepy. Exchange a brief glance for a second now and then.

It’ll make her wonder if you’ve got something on your mind. But don’t ever overdo it, not at least for the first week or so. [Read: 13 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

4. Be bold

If you want to get a girl to notice you, then you should be bold. The guys who are bold and ready to take chances are the guys who always have a lot of fun and create interesting memories all the time. And girls always love a guy who’s bold enough to do something that many may consider embarrassing or awkward. 

Participate in something when she’s around, be it karaoke or a friendly competition between friends. Get her attention while doing something that catches attention and she’ll definitely be in awe of you.

5. Get to know one of her friends

If you don’t want to risk taking a chance on talking to her directly, it’s always safe to get friendly with one of her friends, be it a guy or a girl.

Sometimes, this approach can be the safest and the best way to make an impression. Read this guide on how to ask a girl out when you’re a shy guy to get a complete walkthrough on using her friend to make her like you.

6. Confidence

Confidence is everything when it comes to looking good and attracting a girl’s attention. It’s a trait that reveals a lot about you even if you’re doing nothing at all.

Be confident no matter where you are. Stand upright, walk with confidence and speak with confidence. Ever thought twice to speak to some guy at your workplace because he looked so cool, confident, and inhibiting? Be that guy.

7. Hang out in the same place

If you occasionally bump into this girl at the same place now and then, be it in the office cafeteria or the parking lot, make sure you spend a while in the same place with your own friends.

The easiest way to make a girl notice you and feel comfortable around you is by being seen in her favorite hangouts.

8. Bump into her outside work

Once you’ve created enough opportunities to bump into her around your workplace, it’s time to talk to her. Use your common friends or her online activities and get to know when she’s going to some new place.

It could be a party or somewhere else with her friends. Make sure you get there with your own friends or by yourself, making sure she has no idea that the whole thing was planned ahead. [Read: How to get a girl to like you online so you can meet her in person]

When you see her at the same place and catch her eye, just look at her for a second and appear confused like you don’t know whether to say hi or not.

And then, just smile at her or use a half-smile laced with surprise. If she’s seen you enough times already and is familiar with you, she’ll definitely notice you and smile back at you too!

9. Don’t try too hard

When you want to get a girl interested in you, sometimes guys try a little too hard. When they do, sometimes they make mistakes that are difficult to correct later on.

So, with the girl you like, you need to act like nothing is happening. She will probably notice this and realize that you don’t care much about her, and this, in turn, will make her interested in you.

In short, don’t look like you’re desperate.

10. Genuine compliments

Another good way to get a girl to notice you is to give her genuine compliments. You shouldn’t sound fake or that you’re deliberately trying to flatter her to get her to like you. She might not like that.

So, make sure you know what her great features are and compliment those. As you give her the compliments, don’t make it sound like you’re trying to get her to have sex with you – that will be a turnoff. [Read: How to compliment a girl – 15 must-know tips and 35 of the best lines]

11. Start a conversation

Not every guy knows how to start a conversation with a girl they don’t know very well. So, if you’re wondering how to get started with the one you find attractive, make sure the conversation is about her – not you.

She can be turned off when you talk about yourself too much. Ask her questions about herself and really listen to her. Women love being listened to, so this could score you some points.

12. Create jealousy in her

If the girl seems uninterested, you can begin to talk to her by telling her that you are interested in someone she knows.

When you make her jealous, that gives you more control. If she likes you, making her jealous can motivate her to go out with you.

13. Don’t be too predictable with your words

Women can get bored easily, especially if they keep seeing and hearing the same thing from guys. For example, if you always use the same lines to flirt with her, she can get annoyed by this.

She might even start to avoid you if she finds it that irritating. So, get creative. One of the ways to do this is to get to know her really well. [Read: How to be mysterious and leave everyone smitten and craving for more]

14. Make her feel left out

Another way to get a girl to notice you and get her attention is to start making her feel left out. You can act nice and joke around with everyone else around while intentionally ignoring her.

She will definitely notice that you are talking to other people and that she’s not part of the dynamic. You can use this to approach her later when she doesn’t expect it.

15. Be dominant

Women like men who are assertive and masculine. They don’t like pushovers. So, don’t submit to her when you’re interested in someone.

Don’t be the guy who will do anything for her to get her attention. Instead, let her know that it’s difficult to control you. Tell her that you would rather be single instead of dating someone who tries to control you.

16. Be passionate and ambitious

Women like ambitious and goal-driven men. So, try to have this come out through your mannerisms and in your conversations with her.

If she notices that you are following your dreams and making your life plans come true, then she will admire you and pay a lot more attention to you. [Read: What am I doing with my life? 23 ways to start living without worry]

17. Great sense of humor

Girls love funny guys. Now, you don’t have to be a standup comedian. But you do have to have a great overall sense of humor about life.

If you can make her laugh, then she will love you for it. Injecting humor into any conversation with her can make it a lot easier to get her attention focused on you. [Read: How to be funny – 28 must-know tips to make everyone love your humor]

18. Show interest in her life

Ask her about her likes and dislikes. Show an interest in the activities that she enjoys. Things you can ask her about are her favorite music, her hobbies, or even her work schedule.

When you do this, it shows that you are interested in her life and not just flirting with her.

19. Bring up things she told you in the past

This is a really good strategy to get a girl to notice you and get interested in you. So, if you remind her of something she said in the past, she will be impressed that you remember.

When you do this, you look like a caring person and someone she might consider dating. For example, if she mentioned that she is applying for a new job, then ask her if she got it and how it’s going. [Read: What girls find attractive – 49 traits that make a guy irresistible to women]

20. Show interest in her friends

If you want to get a girl to date you, her friends play a major role in whether or not she will. Friends are very important to girls, and so are their opinions. So, it’s best to start impressing her friends too – not just her.

21. Give her space

You’ve heard of the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” right?” Well, it’s popular because it’s generally true. So, it’s best to give her a little breathing space sometimes. You don’t want her to feel smothered. 

[Read: How to get girls to like you – The simple changes to win them over]

Once you use these surefire tips on how to get a girl to notice you, use these conversation tips on what to say to a girl you like while talking to her to create the perfect impression and make her like you back in no time.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...