Find yourself falling for a cute guy, but just don’t know how to ask him out without sounding desperate? Read this guide on how to ask a guy out the classy girl way!
It’s easy to ask a guy out, but you should avoid doing that. Find out why.
[Read: Can a girl ask a guy out?]
If you like someone and want to ask a guy out, just drop a few hints.
And if he’s interested in you, he’s definitely going to ask you out before you ask him out.
But at times, life can be a tad more complicated than we want it to be. And at times like these, a girl has no choice but to make the first move.
You may have just broken up with this guy’s best friend, both of you could be old buddies [Read: Falling for a friend], or there may be some other complicated reason.
During times like these, you could drop a few hints, but even if he thinks you like him, he may be apprehensive to ask you out.
If you ever find yourself in such a situation, well, you may want to know how to ask a guy out and let him know that you really like him.
Use these pointers on how to ask a guy out without really saying ‘I like you’.
Invite him to go out with your friends
Do you know the guy well already? If you do, you can skip right to the next pointer, where we’ve got some bigger ways to warm him up. But if you’re still only exchanging smiles and not really friends, then you need to become friendly first.
The next time you bump into him or are having a monosyllabic conversation, just ask him if he’d be interested to go bowling with your friends this weekend or something like that. Tell him you’re one player short and it would be great if he could join you guys. It’s friendly, nice and doesn’t really make you look desperate. Once both of you are better friends, you could use the next few pointers and really understand how to ask a guy out without really asking him out! [Read: How to get a guy to like you]
Let him know you’re interested
You don’t have to tell him outright that you have a crush on him, but drop a few signs. When you’re nearing the end of a conversation with him, brush his hair or arm and say something like “you are such a sweet guy, stay this way and I might just fall for you!”
Don’t say things like “you are such a sweet guy, the girl you go out with will be so lucky.” It makes you look like a lost cause. It’s like you can never have him, and only dream of him.
Be confident and don’t be afraid to push the flirty ball into his court now and then. You may put him in a spot, but don’t worry about it. You can always say that line, and say you’ve got to go and walk away like that statement meant nothing to you. It’ll make him smile and wonder if you really like him.
Have touchy feely conversations
Touch him when you’re talking to him, but don’t come on too strong. A girl who touches a guy a lot is either too comfortable with him, or extremely desperate. You’re neither. You’re a classy girl who knows when to touch and when to stand afar.
And don’t flirt too much too. It’s trashy and can bore any guy. After all, an extremely flirty girl can get pretty boring and annoying. Instead, make him want more. Save your flirting for only a few lines in the entire conversation. Never make it too obvious that you’re falling for him. [Read: How to flirt by touching]
When you’re talking to him, avoid touching him. And all of a sudden, when there’s no one around, lean forward and whisper something in his ear. It could be gossip or a little flirty comment like ‘I like your shirt’. As you do that, clasp his hands, and loosely lock your fingers with his. When you keep your distance from him throughout the conversation and suddenly come close once in a few conversations, you’re blowing hot and cold and that would confuse him. It would make him blush, leave him confused and want you closer. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him want you]
And you should do this when it’s just the both of you because you don’t want some friends to tell him you’ve got the hots for him and stroke his ego.
Watch a movie together
This is easy-peasy and so simple, it’s ridiculous. The next time you’re with this guy you like, pretend to be a bit miffed and tell him about how badly you wanted to watch this particular movie with your friends, but they’re all too busy to go out this weekend. Tell him you’re annoyed and really pissed off. And stop talking.
Yes, unless he’s a dumb mule or already has a girlfriend, he’s probably going to say, “hey, why don’t we go together? I could take you there…”
Is there anything easier than that? Smile and laugh and blush, and continue talking about something else. Don’t thank him though, remember you’re still playing hard to get! He’s not doing you a favor. You’re doing him a favor, you gorgeous thing! [Read: How to play hard to get]
After the movie, if he doesn’t really say anything nice, you could always say, ‘I had such a nice time… we should do this again.’ And if he says ‘how about next week?’ tell him you’re busy!
Plan something a few days later, and always remember to never appear too easy to get. [Read: How to make him want you]
How to ask a guy out
Ever been in a situation where you’ve done everything to let a guy know you like him, and you’re on the verge of holding him by the collar and screaming that you like him and want him to do something about it? [Read: Is he in love with you?]
Now if you’re not dating the guy already, you’re probably in this scenario.
This is dangerous ground and may work in your favor, or perhaps, it won’t. So firstly, remember this. If you’ve used the earlier pointers on him, that’s all you really need to send the message across and make him ask you out. But even if you’ve made it so vaguely clear and he still doesn’t reciprocate or make a move, sorry dearie, he may not be looking at you as anything more than a friend. You could give up and have a happy friendship. Or you could try the last resort, and ask him out. [Read: 9 sneaky ways to get a guy to ask you out first]
Don’t come on too strong. Sit down with him when it’s just the both of you, and tell him that you’ve started to grow very fond of him over the last few weeks. Mention that both of you have been spending so much time together and you’ve started to see what a wonderful and sweet guy he is. Tell him that you think you like him, and would want to see if a relationship can grow out of this friendship.
The ball’s in his court now. It’s no more flirty games. You’ve asked the guy out. Whatever may be the answer, you’ve tried your best without losing your dignity. You’re still a classy girl, in a relationship or otherwise.
The next time you like a guy, use this guide on how to ask a guy out without really asking him out. There’s no classier and easier way to ask a guy out than this, and you’re having a great time all the way!
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