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Feminine Wiles: 26 Secrets to Unleash Your Inner Vixen & Hook Any Man

There’s nothing wrong with embracing your feminine wiles and using them to get ahead occasionally. After all, it’s your natural charm! 

Feminine Wiles

Some girls have a knack for seducing guys using their feminine wiles while others aren’t even aware they exist. 

Call it magic, call it wizardry, but it’s certainly a power that you need to embrace if you want to get by in life without much stress or effort at all. 

You can be one of those girls that seem to bat their eyelashes and make guys go weak at the knees. You might not think it right now, but you simply need to learn to harness the power of your natural feminine wiles and unleash them on the world! [Read: How to exude cuteness, melt any guy’s heart, and get him to do what you want!]

What are feminine wiles?

Feminine wiles are the inherent sexual energy all women possess. If you think you don’t have them, you are oh-so-wrong. Hidden within every girl is the ability to seduce a guy and make him yours. You just have to know how to harvest your sensuality and make it work for you.

Even the most awkward of girls have feminine wiles, it’s just that you’ve not dug them out yet. 

For sure, you need to believe in yourself before you can start using them. They’re never going to make themselves known if you don’t believe that you’re a beautiful, sexy, and completely amazing woman – because you are! 

The thing is, you can’t actually give real examples of what feminine wiles are. They’re totally invisible in many ways, yet very visible in others. They’re evident to those who see them. 

It’s not like having blue eyes or brown eyes, feminine wiles are tricks you use to get what you want, i.e. a partner, your way, anything you like. You can act like the damsel in distress or you can seduce a guy with your physical assets – these are all ways of using your feminine wiles! [Read: How to be feminine and reveal the softer girly personality in you]

No longer considered the weaker sex

Once upon a time, women were looked down on, considered weak, and second class, and men ruled the roost. While some parts of the world still have cultural differences in this respect, most Western countries have opened their eyes to equality and feminine power.

Good times indeed! [Read: The ultimate guide to being more feminine]

The power of being a woman is endless. You can easily use your womanly wiles to manipulate a situation and get what you want or achieve something, which is for the best of everyone concerned.

Ever heard of acting like a damsel in distress? This is a classic way of using your womanly wiles and getting someone else *usually a man* to do something for you… Normally, something you don’t want to do for yourself.

Call this karma for all those centuries of female repression if you want. Waking up to the power of your own femininity is something every woman should do. [Read: The damsel in distress and why men find them so irresistible]

How to use your feminine wiles without overdoing it

Now you know the power you hold within yourself, it’s time to learn how to use it! Of course, you don’t want to go over the top, so here are some tips on how to use your feminine wiles in the subtlest and most powerful of ways.

1. Be mysterious

One of the biggest ways to use your womanly wiles is to be mysterious. You need to hint at something, but don’t make it obvious. Hold yourself back and make them wonder, create that air of mystery that has everyone wanting more.

If you can do this, whatever it is you’re trying to get, is quite likely to come your way. [Read: 25 tips to smolder and ooze sex appeal all the time]

2. Dress slightly provocatively

We are in no way suggesting that you use your body to get what you want, but as a woman, you can show the tiniest hint of something to get someone wondering! We’re talking about things like a sweater off one shoulder, one button undone on a blouse, that kind of thing.

Don’t go over the top, and never attempt to show skin, but if you’re trying to get someone’s attention especially, this use of womanly wiles is likely to get them transfixed!

3. Flirt in a gentle and feminine way

Flirtation in a feminine way is one of the most powerful methods! A little nudge, a wink, a coy smile, these are all ways to flirt without being obvious. And, if it doesn’t work, everything is so subtle that you can easily pretend you were just being friendly!

One of the best things about using your womanly wiles is that they’re there to protect you from embarrassment too! [Read: Subtle flirting moves to get them closer with little effort]

4. Look up, look down

Most women do this without even realizing it, and it’s certainly one of the most powerful ways of using your feminine wiles! Look down and look back up and make eye contact, accompanying it with a coy smile.

This is certainly one of the best ways to get whatever you want and will have everyone stumbling over themselves to help you out!

5. The lip bite

Ah, another tactic that is super effective! The lip bite is a sensual way to use your femininity, but one which isn’t in anyone’s face or over the top. Use it with eye contact and you can exercise power over everything and everyone. [Read: Lip biting and the scientific explanation behind why it’s so sexy]

6. Be a contradiction

As a woman, you own the right to be a total contradiction if you want, and your feminine wiles will allow you to do this with ease. You can be a little naughty, but hide it all with a coy smile or a quick touch.

This walks on the right side of the line and doesn’t take you over into too obvious territory! [Read: 20 signs of insecurity people can’t hide when they feel insecure]

7. Pretend to be the damsel in distress

You might not like the idea of asking someone for help. Sometimes we all need it, and hell, why shouldn’t someone else do a few things for us, when we do enough?!

For instance, say you want a tire changed but you really can’t be bothered to get dirty doing it yourself. “Oh my tire needs changing, I can’t do it, can you help me please?” Accompanied by a coy look, this will work wonders!

Again, it might not be PC, but hey, it works and that’s what feminine wiles are for! [Read: Feminism – what it is, different types, and how they differ from each other]

8. Be confident at all times

Your feminine wiles can’t be unleashed to their full potential if you’re not showing confidence at all times! Own your femininity. Be proud of who you are, walk with your head held high, and show everyone what you stand for!

By doing this, you own who you are, and there is nothing more feminine or powerful than that! [Read: Don’t allow these signs of low self-esteem sabotage]

9. Watch your language

You can swear all you like, but it’s not going to work well with your femininity! Be a little calm and don’t swear like a sailor!

This is the single best way to embrace your womanly wiles and use them to get whatever you want, whether that’s in romance, life, work, friendship, or anything else at all! [Read: How to be graceful and elegant effortlessly]

10. Use your soft touch 

When you seduce a man with your feminine wiles, you touch lightly and sensually. That means brushing up against him, lightly touching his shoulder or knee, or slowly and gently moving in to be close. The more unthreatening you make your movements and touch, the better. 

Of course, you’ll coyly bat your eyelashes at the same time, which is yet another way to use your feminine wiles! [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce any man who isn’t yours and leave him smitten]

11. Be highly empathetic 

To use your feminine wiles, be highly empathetic to his feelings and moods. That not only means feeling for him but expressing unconditional love and acceptance for him in every way. 

Talk to him like you understand his innermost feelings, even if he can’t express them. 

The key is to make him feel like you “get” him. Then, he’ll feel like he has a cheerleader on his side who makes him feel like he can move a mountain every single second of the day. When a guy feels like that, he can’t break himself away from his girl’s side. [Read: How to learn to be empathetic and connect with anyone instantly]

12. Be nurturing 

Inside every man, there is a deep admiration and love for his mother. An innate feeling, part of using your feminine wiles isn’t about “mothering him” but about being the nurturing side his mother showed him when he was young. 

Brushing the hair from his eyes, giving him a back rub, or making soup when he isn’t feeling well, are all ways to use your feminine wiles to lure him in and keep him close. [Read: How to seduce a man and bewitch him with your words]

13. Smell good 

At the heart of femininity is the way a woman smells. Pheromones are real. And they are everything to lust and desire. 

Make sure that you aren’t the girl that comes from the gym, sweaty and smelling like a locker room. Be the woman who smells like seduction to get any guy, at a minimum, to look her way. 

Of course, if you get it right, he’ll do more than just look at you. [Read: What are pheromones? The scent of sex and the role they play in seduction]

14. Walk elegantly 

A woman using her feminine wiles doesn’t walk on the heels of her feet, she gently floats around. To catch a guy, exude femininity, by walking like you float on air. 

Make every movement you make flowing and sensual. How? It’s actually easier than you think. Keep your heel lifted slightly and walk softly. 

You can do this in any shoes but it’s best to avoid wearing chunky boots because they encourage you to clomp around. Practice makes perfect here! [Read: How to be graceful and elegant in easy steps]

15. Be sultry 

How do you show your sultry side? Show your naughty side. That means wearing red, high heels with spikes, and other things that signal to him that you know how to make him feel good in bed. 

A woman who looks like she knows how to be a little naughty piques any guy’s imagination and interest. [Read: 15 secrets to learn how to be seductive]

16. Speak with your eyes

Eye contact is one of the most important parts of using your feminine wiles. When a man speaks to you, never take your gaze from his. 

A woman who looks a man in the eyes while he speaks makes him feel vulnerable. Almost like looking into the sun. When you stare into his gaze, it is like your heart speaks to him telepathically. [Read: Prolonged eye contact – what it means and how to do it]

17. Use your pouty lip 

The pouty lip look is key to using your feminine wiles. Pursed, plump lips that flash with a glossy appearance, get any guy dreaming about where those lips will go next. 

The lips are a super-sexy part of the body and simply biting your lip while he’s talking draws his attention to them. He won’t be able to stop thinking about kissing you! [Read: Lip biting and the scientific reasons why it’s so sexy]

18. Speak softly 

Even if you tend to be louder, when using your feminine wiles, tone it down a bit and speak with a softer tone. 

Almost like perpetually whispering in his ear, when you lower your voice and make it breathier, it’s almost like the sounds you make when you are all alone, just the two of you, in bed.

19. Appear pleased 

Men like to feel as if they can impress the women around them. If you want to show a guy your feminine wiles, make sure that you always look pleased when around him. 

There is nothing less feminine wile-ly than the resting bitch face. Even if you aren’t highly entertained all the time, don’t let him know that. It also makes you look super-unapproachable and that’s not what you’re going for! [Read: Charming ways to be way more approachable to a guy]

20. Do it for you

Of course, part of using your feminine wiles is remembering why you’re doing it in the first place. You’re trying to get something, right? In that case, do it for you and nobody else!

Own your charms and you’ll have serious power over anyone you choose to aim it toward.

21. Look at that pussy for self-pleasure

Yes, that’s right, it’s time to get up close and personal with your own pussy. Learn about it, touch it, explore it, and become very best friends with it. Self-pleasure is one of the most important parts of embracing your feminine wiles because pleasing yourself first is vital.

22. Watch some porn or read some erotica

While you might think owning your feminine wiles is about being dainty and cute, it’s actually about embracing your power and your sexuality too. So, explore it!

Watch some porn or read some erotica and enjoy every second. You don’t owe an explanation to anyone! [Read: Porn for women – why do we like it and where can we find it?]

23. Buy some sexy clothes

Why not change up your look a little? Experiment with sexier clothes and see how they make you feel. That doesn’t mean going over the top, but perhaps a change in how you normally dress could give you the confidence you need to go out there and get what you want.

24. Take the initiative

Stop waiting for other people to invite you to do things or to be offered something. Take it if you want it!

Use your feminine wiles to take what you want, how you want, and don’t apologize for it. As long as you’re not deliberately hurting anyone *that’s just plain mean* then there’s nothing to feel bad about. [Read: How to initiate sex and 25 seductive ways to take the lead in bed]

25. Take your time

Don’t expect to suddenly feel brimming with power from the get-go. Embracing your feminine wiles can take time, especially if you’ve never done it before.

Be patient with yourself and try a few things at once – don’t try to overload yourself.

26. Love being a woman

At the end of the day, you have to love being a woman to really show off your feminine wiles to the maximum. Embrace all the positive parts of womanhood and remember your power. [Read: Sex-positive feminism – what it is and why we must embrace the movement]

Show your feminine wiles but don’t change who you are

Feminine wiles are the things that make women, women. We all have them, but that doesn’t mean that we all know how to use them to our advantage. But that also doesn’t mean you should go out of your way to change who you are. 

It’s about polishing the edges, if you will. We all indulge in feminine wiles sometimes without thinking about them sometimes. And understanding feminine wiles, what they are, and how to use them, means you can harness their power. 

It doesn’t mean you’re suddenly Ms. Dainty and Nice, it just means that you know what to do in situations that call for it. [Read: How to be yourself – steps to unfake your life and love being you

A guy is going to fall for who you are underneath at the end of the day, but your feminine wiles can be used to attract his attention and get him firmly looking your way. Then, you can mystify him with your natural charm!

[Read: How to attract men – the irresistible secrets no one ever talks about]

By owning your feminine wiles you can use them to positively manipulate any situation for your own gains and for those around you. These vital powers of persuasion will have everyone tripping over themselves, ready to help.

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...