Does He Like You? 14 Ways to Tell if a Shy Guy Likes You

how to tell if a shy guy likes you

Wondering if he likes you can sometimes be hard to interpret, especially with a shy guy. These 14 tried and true ways can help you tell if a shy guy likes you!

Guys can be hard to decode—especially if they don’t talk to you and only stare and hover when you’re around. While they can be pretty hard to figure out, consider this: they’re just shy. So read up on these signs to tell if a shy guy likes you but can’t bring himself to tell you.

As much as women are puzzling for guys, it is also hard for women to understand guys, especially the shy ones. A shy guy act differently from the typical guys you know so well. He might even be so strange that you have no idea if he likes you or hates you. He could even rub you the wrong way, but unless you have figured out the signs that a shy guy likes you, you would just be totally annoyed.

However, if you dig him too, a good approach is to simply confront and ask him if he likes you. In fact, that may just be what exactly he needs. Just make sure that it’s not always you who ends up making the first move, though. It gets old fast.

How to tell if a shy guy likes you

A guy who likes you would not be caught dead having his heart on his sleeve around you. At the very least he wouldn’t have you, of all people, finding out how he feels. He’ll try to hide it from you, while it can be so obvious to other people.

#1 He stares when you’re not looking. He’s too shy to let you know what he feels, so he’ll be utterly content admiring you from afar. Well, at least until he has gathered enough balls to finally let you know how he feels. However, considering that he’s too shy, that’s a tall order.

So, he’ll be staring at you while you talk to your friends, except you’ll be totally oblivious because when you look his way, he’ll break contact and pretend to be busy talking to his friends, or the wall. [Read: Does he have a crush on me? 20 signs he just can’t hide]

#2 He avoids eye contact. When you finally get to talk to him, say, regarding a collaboration at work or at a friend’s party, he’ll be avoiding eye contact. Maybe he’s afraid you’re going to hypnotize him into finally admitting his feelings for you. It’s more likely he’s just afraid you’ll see in his eyes the real truth. That he’s truly, madly, deeply into you.

#3 He’s nervous around you. While any normal guy would be fine talking to you, Mr. Shy Guy isn’t. He’ll be too self-conscious and therefore awkward, which adds to more awkwardness and nervousness. It’s like he’s scared around you, and he’s trying to really talk to you but his shyness gets ahead of himself. So he ends up just being a big bag of jitters in front of you.

#4 He becomes such a klutz. This goes hand-in-hand with the nervousness. Even just having you in the same room as him has him spilling coffee on his shirt or falling on his face. Being too self-conscious and aware of your presence it turns out makes him be all awkward and jumpy. [Read: Does he like me? 18 signs to decode his body language]

#5 He clams up when you’re around. Ever see him talking animatedly with his friends, but as soon as he sees you come into the room, he suddenly clams up? It’s not that he has, coincidentally, finished his story every time you walk in. It’s just he either loses his train of thought or just wouldn’t want to continue with what he thinks is a lame story and have you hear it and think he’s lame too. Put it simply, he just thinks too much when you’re around that he forgets to talk.

#6 He either stutters or utters one-liners. When he keeps talking around you, he either stutters or tries not to talk overmuch. It still boils down to him being too nervous and anxious around you. If you ask him a question, he may answer with short quips that you would think is just rude or arrogant of him, but he’s just actually on edge and tongue-tied.

#7 He got your number from a friend. While he wants to talk to you *but you wouldn’t notice this because he barely has the guts to talk to you*, he could only do so by phone, through chat, or social media. But the thing is, he also didn’t have enough guts to ask for your number so he summoned up just enough that he can muster to ask your friend for your digits. [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read his mind]

#8 He’s only good at texting or messaging. So now that he has your number, he’d be all up on you asking how you are. He’d be so witty and funny as you exchange messages, but when you two finally get together, he clams up again. You ask, “Where’s that smart, charming guy I was chatting with?!?”

#9 He hovers. He just seems to be all over the place. By this we mean, he’s always there. The bar you hang out in on weekends, the coffee shop you pass by to get your caffeine fix in the morning, the copy room, the street you walk towards your house *and he, on the other hand, lives in the opposite direction*.

The thing is, he just wants to be close to you for the chance you may finally notice him. He’s also into you so much that a whiff of your shampoo is enough to make his day.

#10 He’s asking around. While he’s talking to all your friends except you, what you don’t know is he may be asking around about you. What you like, your favorite food, if you’re single, what your favorite band is, where you got those nice eyes, and all that. He wants to know every single detail about you until he finally sums up the courage to ask you out and give you the best date ever. [Read: How to talk to your crush and make them fall for you]

#11 He gets teased when you’re there. So you’re in the room together and your office mates are giving him “the eye” which makes him so much more uneasy. His friends, even with their good intentions for their guy, also tease him around you. Even urging him with cryptic comments that actually mean he should finally ask you out.

#12 He likes the things that you like. And he makes sure you know it. Normally, any guy wouldn’t step outside his comfort zone for anything. However, when it comes to the girl he likes, he’d always be up for doing new things, especially if that thing is something that you like. This is in the hopes you will not only notice him—you two might finally make a date out of pottery-making or henna tattooing. [Read: 30 peculiar signs to look for when a guy likes you]

#13 He talks to other women but you. He has no problem talking with other women, but when it comes to you, he just clams up. He is tongue-tied and would otherwise just—oddly—mime when you talk to him. You see, you have an effect on him that no other woman has, and, duh—he’s just so into you.

#14 He hasn’t asked you out. So in case you’re wondering, while all the signs point to him digging you, he hasn’t asked you out. This shouldn’t be a surprise. Any other guy would have already gotten a reservation at that funky new restaurant he’s going to take you Saturday night. However, Mr. Shy Guy is different.

First, he doesn’t really know how to ask you out *he’s just too nervous just thinking about it*. Second, if you two indeed went out together, he’d be nervous still and worry he’d make a bad impression. It all leads to making him even more nervous.

[Read: How to get a shy guy to like you and ask you out]

So there you have it, a guide to tell if a shy guy likes you, or if a guy likes you but he’s just too shy to tell you. Once you see these signs, fret no more—you’re not repulsive, your next-door neighbor or that guy in your office is just too shy to tell you he likes you A LOT.

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Tiffany Reyes
Tiffany Grace Reyes
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