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How to Talk to Your Crush: The Secrets to Make Them Fall for You

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Want to know how to talk to your crush and make them get a bigger crush on you before you ever tell them you like them? Follow these powerful steps!

Learning how to talk to your crush and professing your love to them is actually the easy part. Building the foundation perfectly to ensure that your crush is actually just as crazy about you as you are about them, well, that’s the tricky part.

If you follow these steps, you’ll surely be able to talk to your crush and make them like you back in no time. But for it to be really effective 100% of the time, you need to make sure your crush notices you and gets interested in you first, in all the right ways. Read the first part to know about the subtle secrets to make your crush notice you and like you back before you use these tips on how to talk to your crush.

Talking to your crush is easy if you think about it. But the right foundation to make sure they’re eager to talk to you already, that’s the first step you need to take!

How to talk to your crush and slowly but surely make them fall for you

The thought of striking a conversation with your crush could make you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach.

But if you take things slow, and focus on the three stages mentioned in the introduction, the attention stage, the chemistry stage and finally the conversation stage, you’d realize that even before you start talking to your crush, your crush would already have a crush on you!

STAGE 3 – How to talk to your crush and the easiest ways to initiate a conversation

If you followed the first two stages to the tee, your crush probably likes you already, and they’d assume they’re the one who has a crush on you, and not the other way around. Now all you need to do is initiate a conversation subtly, without making it too obvious that you’re looking for excuses to chat them up.

Use these 8 ways to initiate a conversation with your crush. You can use just one of these tips, or use many of them. As long as you don’t make it obvious that you’re faking a meet-cute, it’s all perfect for you! [Read: How to create a romantic meet cute with your crush]

But just a word of caution to play it safe, don’t stretch the first time you talk to your crush into a long conversation immediately unless there’s a good opportunity to do so. We get it, you’re ecstatic to be talking to them so casually, but it should be brief and quick, and should be just long enough to make both of you feel like acquaintances.

#1 Ask for help. The easiest way to chat up a crush is by asking them for help. If you notice your crush standing nearby, pretend like you’re looking for something, a book or a particular person. Look around dramatically and impatiently, and pretend like you’re almost panicking because you’re already late for something. [Read: 15 easy conversation starters you can use on your crush]

And all of a sudden, lock eyes with your crush, and ask them a question, “hey… did you notice a book lying around here?” or “I’m sorry, but did you see a girl walk past here just now?”

Once your crush answers your question, continue to look around for a few more seconds, and exchange a fleeting glance, nod or smile and walk away like you’re flustered and busy.

Don’t start a conversation here, or it’ll appear like you were just faking it to chat them up. There’s always a next time to talk to your crush for longer. [Read: How to talk to anyone and master the art of a true conversationalist]

#2 Drop something. If you’re walking in front of your crush or walking past them, *accidentally* drop something of little value like a pen or a piece of paper.

As long as your crush sees it fall, they’d definitely use the excuse to strike a conversation with you. And even if your crush doesn’t notice it falling, you have nothing to lose. [Read: 15 subtle but very obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

#3 Use social media. This is so easy it doesn’t make sense why people don’t use this more often! Comment on something your crush comments on. Don’t reply directly to their comment or that just makes it obvious you’re trying to catch their attention.

You don’t need to answer your crush directly, just be seen by them online. As long as you have mutual friends and you’ve caught their eye already, your crush WILL snoop your social media account and try to get to know more about you. [Read: How to slide into your crush’s DM, rouse their interest, and get that reply!]

You need to remember that the secret behind getting a crush to like you is to make them believe they’re the ones who are more curious about you! Do this right, and when you do start talking to your crush, they’d be more than eager to keep the conversation going with you! [Read: 22 ways to have swag and look cool doing anything at all!]

#4 Smile while walking past your crush. When you’re walking past your crush and their friends aren’t around, just smile fleetingly or say hi to your crush. Don’t stop and chat though, just smile happily or say hello warmly and confidently, and just continue walking past them. It’s awkward that very instant, but it works like a charm!

Just remember not to slow down as you walk past them, turn around, or worse, stop and stare. That would just make you look super-eager and you’d probably kill your winning streak instantly.

As long as you’ve built the chemistry up in the earlier stages, your crush would be waiting to talk to you the very next time both of you bump into each other. [Read: Does your crush like you? – 18 signs to decode their body language]

#5 Get friendly with your crush’s friends. Do both of you share any common friends? Try to get to know them better. Don’t tell this friend about your crush. Instead, just try to strike up a conversation with the friend now and then. It’s a great way to get to know your crush without approaching them directly.

#6 Use your friends. If you’re hanging out with your friends and your crush walks past you or sits down somewhere near you, use your friends to get the message across. Let them know you have a crush on this person.

When they tease you or constantly stare at your crush, it would embarrass your crush because they’d start to realize there’s some funny business in the air. [Read: How to use your friends to get your crush to ask you out]

#7 Bumping into each other. If you bump into your crush, accidentally or otherwise, don’t be shy. Instead of walking away or looking the other way, smile, wave or say hello. Both of you have been exchanging glances for far too long to miss out on an opportunity like this! And if you do end up getting into a conversation, keep the conversation short the first time around.

#8 Follow them on social media or send a friend request. If both of you have been exchanging flirty glances on the streets and commenting on the same social media posts, that’s enough of an excuse to get friendly online. After all, texting does take a huge load of pressure off face to face conversations. [Read: Texting your crush – The step-by-step guide to doing it right]

After the first conversation – Don’t overdo it

When both of you start waving hellos and talking to each other, your crush may give you a lot of attention, but don’t get clingy or fawn over your crush.

Play it cool and make it seem like mutual interest rather than a one sided crush. Avoid giving too much attention all at once, and your crush will pursue you just as much as you pursue them.

Avoid falling into the friend zone

This usually happens when you go out of your way to help your crush. Be nice and friendly, but tease your crush and leave them hanging instead of trying to please them all the time. [Read: How to avoid the friend zone and make your crush fall for you instead]

Don’t be jealous. Don’t get jealous or rude when you find your crush talking to someone else. Remember, both of you aren’t dating yet, and you have no right to tell this person who they can or can’t talk to. If you show off your displeasure to your crush, they’d only get more annoyed with your behavior. Just pretend like it doesn’t bother you. [Read: The naughtiest ways to get out of the friend zone]

What to talk about with your crush – How to know the right things to say

It’s hard to figure out what to talk about with your crush when you don’t really know them. You can talk about the weather or current events, but that won’t make them see you as someone they could date.

You need some better material. You need something that’ll tell them you’re interested and also show them you could be a great match. But that’s pretty difficult when you’re nervous about talking to them in the first place.

Remember, first impressions are a big deal

They just are. As much as we wish everyone would give us multiple chances to prove ourselves, that’s just not reality. People are very much set in their ways once they make up their minds, especially when it comes to crushes and dating.

That means you really only have a short period of time to impress someone and get them excited about you. The best way to do this is through some good conversation. But it also has to be the RIGHT kind of conversation, because asking about their previous lovers and other naughty questions doesn’t cut it. [Read: 12 easy ways to avoid a first impression catastrophe]

5 tips to build the romance with alone time

The easiest way to make your crush get attracted to you is by spending time with each other when no one’s around. If you notice your crush and you’re with your friends, excuse yourself and walk up to your crush and start a conversation.

The more alone time both of you get, the faster the attraction would build and the stronger the infatuation. [Read: 20 signs of attraction you can notice in the very first conversation]

#1 Eye contact. Make eye contact while talking to your crush. Look into their eyes while saying something, and hold your gaze. It’ll seem awkward at first, but it’ll send the message that you like this person.

#2 Smile and laugh. Don’t be boring when you’re spending alone time with your crush. Smile, laugh and tease your crush. [Read: How to be funny and make people love your company]

#3 Compliments. Compliments work wonders in a conversation. It’ll bring both of you closer, and it would make your crush start flirting with you even if they don’t realize it themselves. [Read: 25 sweet compliments for guys they’ll never forget!]

#4 Talk about common interests. Try to find common ground in conversations. Find out more about things they like, be it movies, shows or anything else. When both of you find something in common, it’ll give both of you a chance to bond over common interests.

#5 Text and call each other. Exchange phone numbers, or use social media, and text each other. And if you want to get flirty and naughty, text each other later in the evenings or at night.

[Read: The things to text a guy and make him flirt back with you]

[Read: 15 tips to text a girl and make her like you in no time]

The best conversations that work like a charm while talking to your crush

You’re ready to talk to them and you know they’re interested enough to talk back, but you may be clueless as to where to start. Well, we’ve got you covered with this one. Here are some topics to keep in mind for when you want to talk to your crush.

#1 Their biggest interests. People love to talk about themselves and what they love doing. Plus, it’s also great information for you to know and it’ll also show them you’re interested in what they like to do. You can even draw connections to your own hobbies this way.

#2 What you like to do for fun. You can’t just make this entire conversation like an interview. You want to throw some tidbits of information about yourself into the mix, too. This is also important for showing them you’re into them. Because why else would you be talking about stuff you find fun? [Read: How to keep a conversation going with no effort at all]

#3 Something embarrassing that happened to you recently. We’ve all been through embarrassing things. If you want to make your date laugh, you should absolutely tell them a funny, embarrassing story of yourself.

This also helps them feel at ease and more comfortable around you. And the more comfortable they feel, the more likely they’ll talk to you about deeper stuff. This helps you bond and get to know each other better.

#4 Stuff that reminds you of them. You can talk about a show or a movie you recently saw that reminds you a lot of them. The point is to make them see that you think about them often. They’ll not only feel touched, but if they like you back, it’ll be a great bonding moment for the two of you. [Read: 15 guaranteed ways to get your crush to like you]

#5 Something you know they like. If you’ve been chatting for a while, then you know a thing or two about stuff they find funny or that they like. So if you see an article about a certain food you think is weird that you know they like, show them.

Talking about stuff like this is perfect because they’ll actually want to talk about it. They’ll be engaged and willing to discuss it versus you trying to talk about things they have no interest in.

#6 Memes you think are funny. You want to share things you think are humorous because ultimately, you need to be with someone who has the same sense of humor as you. This is the perfect way to test just that. Send them funny stuff and see how they respond.

#7 What they do for fun. It’s not just about you. You’ll want to know if you two are in common in the fun department, too. So just ask. More likely than not, people will tell you what they love to do just because people like to discuss things they enjoy. It’s a great topic that can lead to a much bigger discussion. [Read: 15 things you have to do when you realize your crush likes you back]

#8 Some funny fears they have. Everyone is afraid of something. This is a great way to break the ice and get to know them a bit better. You can even tease them a little bit or laugh about the fact that you both hate balloons!

#9 Legitimate fears they have. Take it a step further and a step deeper and discuss some real, deep fears. After talking about little fears, this is a perfect way to get into a more meaningful conversation.

You can easily talk about the stuff that scares you most in life – like death or unfulfilled potential. They’re serious topics but you’ll be able to tell how they feel about you this way.

#10 Plans for the future. We’ve all got certain plans and things we want to do in the future. One way to see if the two of you will be headed in the same direction is to just ask about it. Keep in mind that this doesn’t really mean kids or family.

Talking about that stuff too soon can be a bad thing for your budding relationship. But you can mention your plans for your career and any goals you’re working to achieve. [Read: 12 life questions to help you visualize your future]

#11 What they’d rather be doing with their life. Not everyone is in their happy place. Certain people would rather have a different job or a better relationship with their families. If you find out what theirs is, you’ll learn a lot about them.

It’s also a topic that forces a lot of bonding. It’s sensitive information and if they’re willing to share it with you, that’s super important. They’re showing they trust you and even care about you a little in return.

There’s a certain way you want to go about talking to your crush to let them know you’re interested and to get them to like you back. Use these conversation topics while talking to your crush, and you’ll know exactly what to talk about with your crush when you see them. [Read: How to emotionally connect with someone and feel closer instantly]

Asking your crush out

You can follow all the steps here, but if you make a mistake at this point, everything you’ve built up to this point could come crashing down like a house of cards.

Don’t make the mistake of telling your crush you like them or want to date them too soon into the flirting. Rushing this part can ruin everything if your crush isn’t ready to date you yet. [Read: How to tell someone you like them and win them over]

Instead, invite your crush out to spend time with you. Ask your crush if they’d like to join you for lunch or coffee sometime. Tell them about a new place you’ve been waiting to check out, and that you would love to take them there.

It may take a few “dates” and a bit of hanging out for both of you to feel the romantic connection. But when that does happen, you’ll just know that your crush is ready to answer in the affirmative when you finally ask them if they like you too!

[Read: The best ways to tell your crush you like them and make them go awww!]

It’s really easy to get a crush to like you as long as you use these tips on how to talk to your crush, and play it safe and slow. Don’t rush in too soon, and work on building the flirty connection first. And before you know it, your crush would have fallen for you, just as hard as you’ve fallen for them!

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16 thoughts on “How to Talk to Your Crush: The Secrets to Make Them Fall for You”

  1. Margaret says:

    So how do I get his attention back? I like this guy and had his attention, but seem to have lost it. I think I said the wrong thing and now although I think he is still interested, he has kind of backed of a little.

  2. wenzel says:

    Hi,iurgently need advice,there’s this girl on facebook,that i really,really like,i don’t know how to approach over fb cos i don’t want to seem all creepy and stuff. She hasliked a few of my things like random pics i posted and i too have returned the favour. Also we did have a bit of aconversation the one time. But i really want to get to know her better.

  3. Angela says:

    Hi there. I’m a teacher at a school and I have a crush on a grade
    6 teacher at the same school. I don’t see him too often because my room is
    Downstairs and his is upstairs, but whenever we see each other in the hallways we smile and say hi. I really want to talk to and get to know him but don’t know how to. Could you please help me


  4. maria says:

    I have this crush in school but i dont know how to start a conversation with him because he is too shy and he does not have a phone

  5. Danielle says:

    So I started a convo with my crush by texting him and everything was going well until I said sow thing really stupid and then sent like 4 other texts along with it.. He hasn’t answered since so I get te feeling that he either thinks I’m really too desperate or just really doesn’t know how to answer to any of it. I need so much help I’ve resorted to looking sites that will help me cause obviously my friends aren’t helping. Help! What to do next?!

  6. Kenya says:

    I have a crush and we talk ALL the time and he is ALWAYS smiling when I’m around and today he foot touched mines and we were totally laughing and I wanted to know if this routine work because I REALLY REALLY like him bad I think about every second

  7. Duckster says:

    :/ with my crush i asked him about homework but i actually dont know how to talk to him . I am kind of shy…Xx

  8. Arun says:

    This is what exactly I needed.I searched many sites but didn’t get much needed help.Thanks a lot.Hopefully,I will succeed after applying this! wish me luck.Thank you.

  9. Joy says:

    Hey there ! i have crush for a boy in my school for almost 3 years . i really wanna to get know him better . but the problem is we are different races and both of us are shy haha . and now we finished our school but i still have feeling for him . i have his numb but i dont know how to text him and start a conversation . i get so nervous everytime when i think bout him and i scared of getting hurt if he wont reply my text . even our friend didn’t help much . how do i encounter this problem ?

  10. STYLO says:

    wow, these tips always work as planned… cool

  11. Hannah says:

    so I like this guy and we are rely good friends but I like him as a crush and he said he just wants to b friends

  12. Jojo says:

    What if he might like you, stares at you at times, we cross paths often, he seems to play with hair and fix it when im around, but hes a really shy guy, doesnt have too many friends, never talks in class, were in school band so he knows who I am but uhh he never accepted my friend request on fb.-. But hes been on it. Apparently he does this to other people, takes long to reply to friend requests , oh&apparently he hates like half the school, i dont blame him though, i feel the same way, i just wish I knew if he likes me but gah i dont know if i should attempt to talk to him.. in person then? ;-;

  13. janine says:

    I would love to talk about any of those with a guy whose company I enjoy. We may not work out the same way or play the same games or hold the same political views, but the point of the conversation is to get to know each other better and to see how we treat each other and what our general views of and approaches to life and people are. When I mention a person whose company I enjoy, I mean that if the person is mean to me or acts like he knows everything or like the lifting he does would be better for me than the yoga and running I do, I would then not enjoy talking about fitness and other things with him.

  14. Hash says:

    well I dated my ultimate crush for 2 months last year and then I broke it off (like a fuc*ing moron, still my biggest regret ever). 6 months later, when i missed her like crazy, she texted me saying she needed help and that her boyfriend had just broken up with her. So I talked to her and helped her feel better and then we became great friends again. Talked every day, she got me a job with her dad and family friend. So one night I texted her how I felt about her (everything since we broke up) and how I missed her a ton. She took that very well, she told me she threw her phone because she couldn’t believe it and was almost crying. The next day after school, I asked her if she wanted to hang out. So we went on a date at the local nature trail and I held her hand and hugged her. The next day we went to the lake and hung out on a dock and I kissed her. We went on a few more dates, then I accompanied her to a party at her friend’s house and she got drunk and wanted to fu*k me, but I wasn’t putting myself in that situation so I declined her offer and we just cuddled. Then the next day when she was sober we actually did have sex…And then I told my friend and he asked if we were a couple so I texted her, I’m like “Hey we’re a couple right??” (because it hadn’t been discussed) and she goes “Umm after that… YESSSS!” 12 days until our 1 year 🙂

  15. nari says:

    wow, my crush is the same sex. can you please keep in mind that there are a lot of gays, bis, and lesbians out there?

  16. Dari Nead says:

    it work … XD

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