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How to Be Seductive With 47 Sexy Secrets & Make Anyone Feel Horny Around You

If you want to know how to be seductive, it’s not that difficult. If you follow these tips, you will have anyone falling at your feet and begging for more.

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Wondering how to be seductive without overdoing it or being way too subtle? Well, seduction has been around for far longer than most people realize. 

Way back when, people used seduction without even knowing it as a means to get what they want. And it definitely worked back then, and since we now know what it is and how to harness it, it’s gotten even better.

The art of seduction, for many, seems shrouded in mystery. We all want to be one of those people able to master how to smolder and ooze sex appeal, and who always manage to seduce those people we’ve taken a fancy to.

In reality, mastering the art of seduction is more difficult than it looks. It takes proper effort and practice to get really good at it. There are those out there who seem to be effortless and totally natural when it comes to being sexy and seductive. However, it’s definitely not as easy as it seems.

Many people know what seduction is, but they can’t really use it in a way that actually makes it effective. Basically, their form of seduction is awkward and uncomfortable for both parties – which is fine! That’s why we’re here to help.

What does it mean to be seductive?

The art of seduction is very different from any other form of turning someone on. Sure, you can turn on a guy by sticking your hand down his pants but seducing him takes a lot more skill and ability than just that. [Read: Seductive women – 20 ways they draw you in with charm and sensuality]

Seduction appeals to a person’s most primal instincts. It works in a way that they can be completely oblivious to the fact that you are actually seducing them. It’s sneaky and can give you more power than you think. Seduction works on someone’s subconscious mind, too.

Here’s how to be seductive

Some people are naturally super seductive and have the ability to turn on a group of people without even batting an eyelash. Others need a little extra help in that department. 

Either way, there is hope, because seducing someone can be learned with a bit of practice. The art of seduction is definitely something taught and learned. With practice, if willing to give it a real shot, anyone can learn how to be more seductive. [Read: How to be a seductress – The complete guide to work your magic]

If you just so happen to be one of those folks who can’t even seduce the world’s easiest person, these are all the tips you need. Keep in mind that it’ll take time to learn, and even longer before they become second nature to you.

So, if you want to become a master at the art of seduction, try these tips.

1. Prolonged eye contact

If you want to know how to be seductive, eye contact will be your best friend. However, you don’t want to make it into a staring contest and freak them out. But long, seductive looks and a slight smile make them feel just the right amount of nervous. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

Give long, lingering looks. It needs to be just enough eye contact to force them to look back at you, then you can look away and continue with your conversation or seducing techniques. Always hold their eyes for a few seconds before looking away.

Remember, don’t be afraid to really hold eye contact. [Read: How to do prolonged eye contact in flirting just right]

2. Shift your gaze to their lips

There’s nothing that will get someone thinking about your lips like looking down at theirs. The perfect opportunity to do this in order to seduce someone is right after you’ve made eye contact.

Slowly shift your gaze from their eyes to their lips, and then let it linger there for a moment before looking away.

3. Bite your lips as you look them up and down

Another classic seducing method used mainly by women is to bite your lower lip as you look down from someone’s eyes.

This is to ensure they’re looking at you as you bit your lip. For some reason, this drives people wild and has them only thinking about one thing. You. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious, and overly sexual flirting tips for women]

4. Ladies, show your collarbone

This is something that has less to do with a specific thing you do and more to do with visual cues that turn men on. When a woman shows her neck and collarbone, she’s showing her vulnerability.

In a man’s mind, this is then processed as her being interested in him, which gives him room to make a move. Now, guys don’t consciously realize this is happening. It’s just something they subconsciously notice. So move your hair and show that collarbone.

5. Guys, stand with your legs further apart

Guys who are looking to seduce women, you should stand with your feet apart and pointed toward the girl you want. This, much like a collarbone for a woman, is showing your availability.

It is also a guy’s way of showing a woman what he has to offer. She’ll subconsciously pick up on this vibe. [Read: I want to have sex with you – 15 ways to seduce without words]

6. Get close enough for them to smell you

And no, we don’t mean for them to smell your cologne, but that’s technically how close you should be. We mean they should be able to smell your pheromones.

You know, the smell your body releases that you can’t consciously smell. However, a person’s subconscious picks up on it, and their brain chemically processes it and decides whether or not they like it. Give them a chance to decide.

7. Brush up against them gently

Touching someone is a really great way to subtly seduce them. It can be as much as just brushing past them, a brush of the hand or gently guiding someone as you walk by putting your hand on the small of their back. [Read: 15 really obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

It could even be pressing your thigh next to theirs when you sit side by side—these small moments of physical contact can feel very thrilling. But initiating that contact will be sure to make someone start looking at you over and over again.

8. Ladies, tilt your chin down and look up

If you’re wondering why there are so many girls out there who do this and look really shy when talking to a guy, it’s because they’re seducing them.

This is another thing that reaches a guy’s mind on a subconscious level. Men are programmed to think that girls who look young and child-like are attractive because it technically means they’ll be able to bear more children. This works by making your eyes appear larger and your face look more childish. [Read: How to seduce a man who’s not yet yours]

9. Let them chase you

In other words, let your attention wander from them to someone else. This will kick their competitive nature into overdrive, and they’ll want to get your attention back. So really, you’re seducing them in a way that makes them come to you, not the other way around.

10. Smile slowly with eye contact

When you finally make eye contact with someone, hold it and slowly let a smile spread across your face. This is showing someone immediately that you’re friendly, approachable, and kind of like you have a secret they’ll be dying to find out. It’s a great tip for how to be seductive.

11. Use their name – but lower your voice when you do

Using someone’s name is drawing their attention to you and you alone. Haven’t you ever noticed how much you like when someone says your name to you?

In order to make this even more effective, lower your voice when you speak their name. That way it’ll be like a secret. [Read: How to attract men in a way they just can’t resist]

12. Keep your tone low

Your voice should be very low and very slow. Being sultry is key to knowing how to be seductive. However, don’t make it sound like you’re purposely trying to talk in a lower voice, because that will be sure to steer people away.

13. Subtle compliments

Flattery gets you everywhere when it comes to seduction. So, you should pay them lots of compliments so that they know just how very attractive you find them. 

However, the best way this works is by not making those compliments too obvious. Things like, “Your eyes are so sexy,” just don’t work the same.

You should compliment really small things that they won’t even realize are compliments at first. Something like, “You’re really interesting,” is all it takes. [Read: 11 moves to seduce a woman and get her in bed with you]

14. Imitate body language

Another thing you can do to be seductive is to use your body language effectively. 

For example, something that people subconsciously do when they like someone is imitating body language. This also helps another person like you more. So, it’s perfect if you’re trying to learn how to be seductive. Just make sure it’s subtle so you don’t look like a creep who is copying someone’s every move.

Use your body language to exude confidence and attractiveness. It makes you appear more attractive and complements your seduction routine well.

15. Have confidence

Confidence is key to making ANY form of seduction work. You have to act like you know what you’re doing and you are worth a million bucks. Walking into a room with that attitude alone will be sure to seduce even a few people without any other effort. [Read: 25 ways to make anyone like you]

Being powerfully seductive is all about having the confidence to do so. Make sure you aren’t nervous or stuttery. Believe in yourself and your powers of seduction and that is half the battle won already!

16. Be mysterious

Being mysterious is seriously seductive. Whether you come across as the strong, silent type, or just a lady with a secretive air. It makes the object of your desire desperate to know all your hidden secrets. [Read: 33 subtle ways to seduce anyone]

17. Always leave them wanting more

Be the first one to walk away or end the conversation or date. Leaving them wanting more is always a good way to ensure they keep on coming back!

18. Always look your best

A great seductress always looks the part. You won’t feel or come across as seductive in old jogging bottoms and a stained t-shirt now will you?!

19. Ask questions

If you want to be seductive you have to be charming and interested. So make sure you pay them attention and flatter their ego by asking them lots of questions about themselves—and be fascinated by their answers, of course. [Read: The 20 best questions to ask on a first date]

20. Make them laugh

Humor plays an incredibly important part in the art of seduction so make sure you’ve got a few jokes up your sleeve and sharpen your wit.

21. Be intense

Making them feel a little uncomfortable by not looking away or allowing there to be silence in your conversation actually heightens sexual tension between you. You don’t want it to be awkward or creepy—just the right amount so it gets those butterflies going.

22. Make them feel special

If you want to seduce someone make them feel as though they are the only person in the room. Give them the attention they crave! [Read: Fractionation seduction – How men seduce women by playing their emotions]

23. Whisper in their ear

Whispering involves getting close, and the feeling of your lips brushing against their ear and your breath on their neck sends shivers down their spine.

24. Go somewhere romantic

The art of seduction involves creating the perfect ambiance, so make sure you take them somewhere romantic. Somewhere cozy, quiet, with dim lighting and flickering candles ought to do the trick. 

Or head out for a moonlit stroll along a beach under the stars. The world is your oyster, but remember, you’ll make it harder on yourself if you pick somewhere crowded, bright, and noisy. [Read: 13 very romantic dinner date ideas]

25. Be playful

The art of seduction isn’t all about being serious and mysterious, however! Be playful and flirtatious too.

26. Be unavailable

People always want what they can’t have. Unfortunately, this does seem to be almost a law of nature! You don’t have to be completely standoffish, but not offering yourself up on a plate, instead making them work for it makes you come across as all the more desirable.

27. Be suggestive

To be seductive, you need to be okay with taking things onto a more suggestive and sexual level. Don’t be afraid to do so, but just remember not to push anything or make anyone feel uncomfortable. [Read: 15 ways to seduce without words]

28. Be patient

Above all, remember patience! If you get pushy you immediately switch from being seductive to needy or overbearing—and that’s a complete turnoff.

29. Stimulate their other senses

Most people rely on their sight and hearing and consider them the most important of the five senses. But what about smell, taste, and touch?

Try to do things to incorporate those senses into your seduction routine. You can use perfume/cologne, flowers, food, and feathers to get you started. Or anything else you can think of.

30. Be “innocent”

Everyone is familiar with the “school girl” fantasy, right? Do you know the one where a woman acts all innocent like a little girl?

Well, this can be a fun routine to seduce someone too. You can act like you’re not trying to seduce them when, in fact, you both know that you are. [Read: Seductive selfie – 34 best sexy selfie poses and tips to show yourself off]

31. Don’t seek too much attention

Attention-seekers aren’t very sexy. Part of being seductive is being self-confident and mysterious. So, do the opposite of seeking attention. You want to make them seek you out, not the other way around.

32. Make a better connection with them

Part of being seductive is getting to know someone better. A lot of people think emotional intimacy is sexy and turns them on. Everyone likes it when another person takes an interest in them and their lives. So, just try to build a stronger connection.

33. Make them want you more

There are a lot of ways to make someone want you more. From playing hard to get to dressing provocatively, you can use any strategy that you think will work on the other person. The goal is to make yourself irresistible to them. [Read: 28 Sensual, romantic secrets to kiss someone passionately and deeply]

34. Use lipstick wisely

If you’re a woman, you can make yourself look even sexier if you use lipstick wisely. Choose a color that compliments your skin tone, and make sure you accentuate those lips so much that he can’t wait to kiss you.

How to be more seductive to your partner

Now that you know how to be seductive in general, how can you be that way with your partner specifically? Here are some things you can try.

35. Surprise them when they get in the door

And by “surprise,” we don’t mean just greeting them at the door in your regular old jeans and t-shirt. We mean dress sexy – or wear nothing at all.

Or you can get creative and wrap yourself up in plastic wrap or something else that is equally odd but intriguing. [Read: How to dress sexy – 29 subtle and classy ways to make them lust for you]

36. Wear lingerie

For the ladies, you know that almost all men love lingerie, right? Of course, the point of it is to seduce your man. But the ultimate goal is to have the lingerie come off as soon as he can’t help himself anymore, right? 

37. Pretend to be strangers

This is always a fun role-playing scenario. Go to a bar with your partner and sit at opposite ends. Then, you should go up to them and pretend like you don’t know each other. Flirt and try to “pick them up and take them home.” Be as naughty and seductive as you can with your words and actions.

38. Tease them

Everyone likes a little teasing. There are many different ways you can tease someone. You can verbally tease them, or you can physically tease them with things such as feathers or even handcuffs. [Read: 30 Sexy ways to tease your man and make him want to F you right there]

39. Provide them with acts of service

Now, the term “act of service” can mean a lot of different things to a lot of people. It can mean anything from a sensual massage to a blowjob. Or, it could just be simply cleaning the kitchen! Try to figure out what you think would turn on your partner the most.

40. Let them take control

Sometimes people like to be dominant and in control. So, maybe it’s time to be a little submissive and let your partner have their way with you. You can throw in a little light BDSM if you are both a little sexually adventurous.

What NOT to do in seduction

Of course, when learning the art of seduction there are as many things to remember not to do as things to remember to do. If you want to be seductive never:

41. Be needy

No one likes someone clinging to them or vying for their attention. [Read: 11 easy ways to deal with the needy people in your life]

42. Be pushy

Don’t ever push too hard. Learn how to take no for an answer. Even the master seducers get rejected sometimes!

43. Be aggressive

Don’t get aggressive or angry if someone isn’t falling for your charms.

44. Sulk

Again throwing a hissy fit or sulking because things aren’t working out the way you’d hoped is extremely unattractive and makes you look immature and a little pathetic too! Accept that you can’t win ‘em all and move on to the next. [Read: Fractionation seduction and how men seduce women using emotions]

45. Get too comfortable

If you want to keep the art of seduction alive, never get too comfortable and just keep practicing.

46. Take someone for granted

If you begin to take someone for granted you lose all your incentive to seduce them. So, remember why you were attracted to them in the first place and keep making an effort.

47. Give away too much too soon

Remember it’s a good idea to always keep a little something back. It is mystery and intrigue that strongly attracts us to other people, so make sure you don’t just blurt out your entire life story on the very first date!

[Read: How to be mysterious without being too distant]

All of these dos and don’ts help you know how to be seductive. If you really focus and learn how to change your behavior, and really make an effort to practice, you’ll definitely get better at coming across as confident and sexy. 

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