When we agree to an FWB relationship, we think it’s the best of both worlds. But do guys get attached to friend with benefits? And most importantly, what does friends with benefits mean to a guy, really? Is it just sex, are there feelings involved? Is it a grey area where there’s nothing but confusion?
What is friends with benefits really?
Before you wonder what does friends with benefits mean to a guy, you need to ask yourself two things. What does friends with benefits really mean? And what does friends with benefits mean to YOU?
The whole idea of friends with benefits is a no strings attached kind of an arrangement where two people decide to hook up and have sex, and avoid any kind of emotional intimacy. That’s about it, really.
So what does friends with benefits mean to a guy? Pretty much the same thing. And that’s what it should mean to you too. So now you need to ask yourself, what does friends with benefits mean to you? And are you secretly hoping it’s more than just a good shag? Are you catching feelings for the guy, and now you’re wondering if he could be feeling the same too?
[Read: 15 signs to know if both of you have crossed from FWBs and have caught feelings]
The truth is, unless the guy is a total player, is non-exclusive to you, and has several other girls he hooks up with every other night, he would catch feelings for you. To what extent? That depends on a lot of things. But no matter how cool he plays it, or how hard he tries to avoid emotionally investing in you, that’s bound to happen.
What does friends with benefits mean to a guy?
You may be surprised, thinking, well, do guys get attached to friend with benefits? The answer is yes. When you have sex with someone, you share energy and an intimate part of your life. Of course, having sex once or twice with someone doesn’t mean that there’s a deep emotional connection. However, as friends with benefits, you’re having frequent sex which makes things complicated.
Women aren’t the only ones who are emotional beings, men are emotional as well. The only difference is how they show their emotions. [Read: The reasons and signs behind emotional connections]
A guy may try to play it cool, pretend he doesn’t care about anything but sex when he’s with you. It may even start out that way. But eventually, after spending a mere few months hooking up with you, he will end up connecting with you emotionally, even if he doesn’t realize it.
When is casual sex just casual sex for a guy
Every guy dreams of having an FWB relationship where he can have sex whenever he wants it, with absolutely no commitment. But just like any member of the human species, the more time he spends with you, the more the chance that he’s bonding with you.
This is one issue you need to remember here. This would happen only if he’s in an exclusive FWB relationship with you. If he’s sleeping with more than just one FWB partner, he may like you and he may even fall for you. BUT he has another person to distract him. And that will keep him away from truly falling for you, or wanting something serious with you. [Read: 14 signs you’re his side chick when you believe you’re his main girl]
How to make a friends with benefits situation mean more than just sex to a guy
You could use this knowledge either ways. If you want him to feel connected to you and get closer, you just need to continue spending more time with him.
On the other hand, if you have no intention of complicating the FWB relationship, you just need to make sure the two of you spend as little time together as possible. Beyond having sex, that is. [Read: How to not get attached to a guy – 15 ways to cut the feelings ASAP]
Friends with benefits means sex without any attachment or emotional investment. So every minute you two spend with each other beyond the act of sex is an act of emotional intimacy. Use this knowledge to your benefit, whatever the end result you’re looking for. [Read: How to know if a guy is attached to you and sees you as his go-to person]
How to know if friends with benefits is turning into something more for him
Everyone likes the idea of a friends with benefits relationship. You have casual sex, hang out, yet not have the commitments of a relationship.
It starts with sex. And then you hang out. And then you have more sex. Ideally, this is the perfect setup, especially when you have a whole weekend with absolutely no plans. But you can’t ignore this one fact: we’re human beings. And when it comes to people, we’re all emotional, regardless of what you’d like to think.
So if you’re wondering what this friends with benefits situation means to a guy you’re sleeping with, take a look at these signs below. If you find yourself nodding to more than a couple of signs, guess what? There’s a very good chance the friends with benefits arrangement is turning into something a lot more intimate for the guy you’re hooking up with!
#1 He hangs around when not having sex. Friends with benefits isn’t usually leaning on the friend’s side. If anything, it’s a term people use when two people kinda know each other and want to have sex.
In the beginning, it was strictly sex and maybe some cuddling. Now, he calls you to catch a movie or some ice cream. If he’s incorporating you into non-sexual activities where you don’t even have sex at the end of it, he’s getting attached. [Read: 25 FWB rules you should never ignore if you want a steady and uncomplicated FWB relationship]
#2 He meets your friends. Usually, when you’re with a guy and having a friends with benefits relationships, both of you stay away from other people. You keep that on the down low and rarely do people know that you’re sleeping together. I mean, only your closest friends know of him. But now, he’s meeting your friends, hanging out with you guys. He’s showing face. By him showing up, he stakes a claim. [Read: The annoyances of long term FWBs if they don’t progress to love]
#3 You text/phone each other. And not to plan a time to meet up. You both text or talk to each other on the phone just to say hi or talk about your day. This is no longer a friends with benefits relationship, there are some feelings floating around. If he calls and texts you, he’s into you. If he didn’t like you, he’d keep his communication levels to strictly hooking up. [Read: All the subtle signs your fling is turning into a relationship]
#4 You communicate. Not just about sex, you both actually talk about deep things. And he listens. When someone is interested in you, they want to listen to you, to see how your brain functions and what you think about. If not, he would keep the conversation shallow.
#5 You don’t always have sex. What does friends with benefits mean to a guy you’re hooking up with? If you were strictly in a friends with benefits relationship with him, you may hang out, but sex is usually awaiting you at the end. Plus, usually, the hangout itself is sexual. Maybe you’re watching a movie or going for a swim at the beach. But he actually doesn’t expect sex at the end of the hangout, nor does he make a move. Sex isn’t the first thing that’s on his mind when he’s with you. [Read: All the signs he wants you to be his girlfriend]
#6 You’ve met his family and friends. No man, listen carefully, no man would introduce you to his parents and close friends if you were just some girl he was hooking up with. They would not open themselves up to all the questions they’re going to be asked. If he introduces you to his family and close friends, then he’s showing you off and seeking their approval.
#7 Your opinion matters. Maybe you’re talking about future universities or the car he wants to buy, and he asks for your opinion. If he didn’t care about what you thought, he wouldn’t have asked you. Men don’t ask people for their opinions because they’re worried it emasculates them. However, if he’s asking your opinion for something serious like emotional or work issues, he values you. And this friends with benefits is starting to mean a lot more to this guy.
#8 He opens up to you. Men will not open up to people who they are just having sex with. However, if they feel an emotional connection, they’ll open up to you.
They’re taught from a young age to not show emotion, to be strong and to never cry *which is wrong in every way*. If he tells you something personal, though it may be something small, for him it took a lot to say. [Read: 25 signs he actually loves you even if he’s never said it out loud]
#9 He shows PDA. If he’s touching you, holding your hands, rubbing your back, or hugging you, specifically in public, he’s getting attached. This is non-verbal communication and shows you a lot about how he’s feeling about you. If he never touches you in public, he may not be developing feelings. However, if he’s more handsy then he’s becoming attached.
#10 He comes to you for support. Now, if the guy isn’t into you for more than sex, he’s not going to tell you anything about his life. But if he likes you and he’s opening up to you, he feels more comfortable to come to you for support and advice. If this situation of friends with benefits means more to the guy, he may text you with good *or bad* news, he may ask you out to come with him to certain events, and he keeps you in his regular plans.
#11 He surprises you. Usually, you wouldn’t rely on your friends with benefits to do anything for you. But he’s different. He surprises you with little things, maybe comes over when you’re sick or takes you to the movies. A true friend with benefits is more like a “come over and let’s watch Netflix” relationship. But, he’s going out of his way to do things for you. [Read: 15 signs he’s ready for a real relationship with you + few subtle hints he’s clearly not!]
#12 He likes to impress you. Now, this one is tricky as most guys like to do this whether they become attached or not. This is partially their ego talking. However, if he’s emotionally attracted to you, he shows off his intelligence and loyalty.
Check out what does a casual relationship mean to a guy when he first hooks up with you, to know what men think when they hook up with you. And also to take a peek into their mind, and just how they try their best to stay out of any emotional attachments.
So what does friends with benefits mean to a guy really ? Do guys get attached to friends with benefits? Yes! At the end of the day, we’re only human. But everything depends on just how you two actually spend your time together!
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